Me and LO are struggling with what seems to be the 4 month sleep regression. Before 4 months, I'd put her down for naps and at night drowsy but awake to help her learn to fall asleep on her own and shush her with my hand on her chest if she woke early to help her learn to get back to sleep by herself if she woke up in the middle of the night or early from a nap. She used to sleep 2 hours mid-morning on mist days (sometimes I'd have to wake her up to feed her or she'd sleep through the next feeding), 30 mins to an hour late morning and early afternoon, plus sometimes a catnap early evening. She was also sleeping through the night, bedtime around 7-8 pm and wake at 6-6:30 am. Around 4.5 months, that 2 hour nap became a 45 min nap, then 30 min. And the late morning and early afternoon nap became 30 mins, then 15 and I'd fight her for half an hour just to get her to sleep another 15 mins. Then just before 5 months, her night sleep started slipping. First she'd wake once a night, then twice, then three times. One night I was up EVERY HOUR! It's also now completely impossible to get her to fall asleep on her own. She has to be held and rocked and shushed with her pacifier until she's asleep and then GENTLY laid down in her crib or she'll startle awake and either start crying immediately or lay their with her eyes wide open, as if to say "Aren't you going to pick me up?" And she grabs onto your hand and arm with both hands and holds you there and pets you until she drifts off and you can GENTLY lift your hands away without waking her. Everything I've read seems to suggest that she's learned to associate being held, rocked and shushed to sleep, even though I did everything I knew to do to not let this happen, and that she's getting through her first sleep cycle and fully waking up rather than being able to fall back asleep without recreating the conditions she fell asleep in. I've been following the Moms On Call schedule that nurses 5 times a day (about every 3 waking hours) with a wake time of 7 am and a bedtime of 8:30 pm at the latest. I recently spoke with a lactation who consultant says I'm not feeding her enough, that I should still be breastfeeding on demand 8-12 times a day (are you freaking kidding me?!) and she should be taking in between 4.4 - 5.5 oz at each nursing. I have noticed that my supply has taken a nose dive (a month ago I was pumping between 6-10 oz but now I can't pump more than 4 oz) and I'm trying to get that back up again by nursing every two waking hours if at all possible and pumping at night before I go to bed. The lactation consultant also wants me to nurse whenever LO wakes up, fusses, hands in mouth AND wants me to pump 6 times a day (again, are you freaking kidding me?!) Lately, I've been giving LO a bottle with 5 oz in it at bedtime instead of nursing to ensure she has a full tummy for the night, and then I go pump after she's in bed (if she stay's down!). LO is now 5 1/2 months. PLEASE tell me this is just a phase that will be over soon (preferably VERY soon!), that I'm not starving my baby which is causing her to not sleep well day or night, and that my LO will one day soon be able to nap longer than 30 minutes and sleep at least 6 hours in a row! I'm slowly loosing my mind, would love a decent nights sleep and to be able to take a shower or eat a meal without being interrupted by LO waking early from a nap!
Re: When does the 4 month sleep regression end!?!?