Who else is done having kids after this one?

MarleneG88

We're about 95% sure we're done after this one. It will be our second, our older is almost 3 year old dd. Before this pregnancy I was up in the air with how many, but thought in my mind 3 max. But it has been so difficult being pregnant with a toddler, trying to manage her and take care of her and maintain my great relationship with dh, while working full time. Plus financially it'll be easier with only two, and my anxiety and worry will be hopefully less than if I had more (seeing as it's through the roof now I can't imagine it going higher).

So how many of you think you're done, and how many kids will you have? If appropriate, what is your reasoning behind being done?

babybluu

I don't think I want more than 2, and this will be our first baby. I think it will depend on the birth and the rest of this pregnancy. So far it has not been fun! Lol but I do enjoy knowing my little bub is growing! That's the fun part for me.

I think I may consider being one and done just because i like the cute small family idea. I'm just concerned about my kid being lonely without a sibling. Anyone an only child that can attest to that?

daninikicoli

I really hope this is the last time I'll be pregnant. I've been so miserable and just don't want to do it again. I have a 2 year old son who will be 3 in February. Once these 2 are older (8 and up) I want to foster children and adopt 2 of them if I'm lucky...maybe more who knows.

mommaSimpkin

I have a 3year old son. This is my second pregnancy. Before we talked about having two more. For three total.
DH has always said just the two. He didn't want three.
Now that I'm actually pregnant I'm saying this is the last one, and DH is saying he wants one more after this.

I had complications with my first, so I'm nervous with this labor. If this labor goes well, I might want one more. But as of right now, I'm done after this one. DH is not. Lol.
It should be a fun talk in about two years.

steffi-rae

This will most likely be our last one. This is our third. I've always seen myself as having an odd number of children (either 3 or 5). Right now I wouldn't feel it would be responsible for us to have more. (It really just depends on where we find ourselves in the next couple years) We may even adopt later.

sck601

This will be our last one. It will make 3 all together, including my stepdaughter. I would love to have one more, but DH is done.

SullyN

We're still unsure if we're done after this one. DS will be 5 right before this LO is due. My pregnancy with DS was a breeze minus the 3 times I fainted. This pregnancy hasn't been as easy but I know others have it way worse! We've always talked about me potentially being an egg donor or a surrogate but wanted to be done having children first.

We always said we wanted 4, after DS we said 2 maybe 3. It's definitely different once you have a child sometimes! We're waiting until this one is here and then we'll discuss again! I'm telling myself this is NY last pregnancy just in case!

@babybluu I was an only child. I always wanted a sibling but as an adult looking back I LOVED being an only child. Being an only child allowed me to be able to figure skate, if I had a sibling the money and time commitment wouldn't have worked. Just because you have two kids doesn't mean they'll be close and doesn't mean both will be there to help you when you get older. I feel like as a kid if you have a sibling you'll at some point wish to be an only child and if an only child you'll wish for a sibling.

laxdixdar

I have a 7 year old son. I definitely want atleast one more after this. For a total of 3.

mrussello

I used to want 3. Dh wants a soccer team. Our DD will be 3 next month. After a horrible delivery and trauma, I was very adamant that we were 1 and done. It took 10 months to conceive our daughter and a thought to conceive this one. I feel like I'm done but I've said it before.

steph_pegasus

We're open to one more after this one, for 3 total (unless twins somehow happens). If we have a boy this time we may be finished, but if we have another DD we may decide to have a third and try for a boy. Depends on how everything goes, you know?

adcc43

This is number 3 and the last for us. DH and I both work full time and I don't know if we would have the time for 4 children. Every reason in the book is stopping is from having any more. One of the big reasons is we are both in 30s and would want to wait at least 2 years before even trying to conceive another which would make DH close to 40.

jennaonthego

This is #4 for us and we're done. We only had planned to have 2. We have 2 girls and a boy aged 6, 5 and 3.
Finanically, we can't afford the new baby but we'll have to manage. We definitely will looking into a permanent form of birth control.

EmberMoon

This is #3 for us and we thought we were already done. Whoops! So this is definitely our last.

crystalmnsn

✋✋✋✋✋✋✋ me!! We're way done!! This is our second and talked about getting my tubes tied at the first appointment!!

JoJoMama730

ME! We have a 4 yr old and will be done after this one.

amargaret24

I'm almost positive we are one and done with baby. Our lives consist of a lot of world travel for our careers plus this is my "rainabow" baby and the emotional roller coaster is supremely taxing on me. I also like the idea of forever being able to sit at a booth in a restaurant and not have to buy a way bigger car (LOL). My fiance said he would get "fixed" after this BUT I suggested we wait just 2 years to make sure.

blessed2bemommy

Me me me! Lol. We always talked about 2 but after having ds 3 years ago I toyed with the idea of 3, but this pregnancy has been rough (last pregnancy was a breeze). So dh and I have both agreed that after this one we are done lol I feel so bad not having the energy to keep up with ds and interact with him how I used to, and I'm slacking on keeping things romantic with dh because I'm so exhausted, and trying to keep up with the house....ha! Lol. I feel at ease with the idea of just 2 know lol

MarleneG88

blessed2bemommy said:

Me me me! Lol. We always talked about 2 but after having ds 3 years ago I toyed with the idea of 3, but this pregnancy has been rough (last pregnancy was a breeze). So dh and I have both agreed that after this one we are done lol I feel so bad not having the energy to keep up with ds and interact with him how I used to, and I'm slacking on keeping things romantic with dh because I'm so exhausted, and trying to keep up with the house....ha! Lol. I feel at ease with the idea of just 2 know lol

I could have written this except that I have a dd

adryt86

Done after this one. This is our second and it will be 5 1/2 years younger than our DD. I'm having a repeat c-section, so we already discussed and planned having my tubes tied after the baby is out. I'm an only child and never missed having a sibling growing up but now I wish I had one. So originally I wanted three, then we thought maybe just one, then on a whim, went for a second. Two is just right for us since we love traveling.
ETA: I've even had a nightmare already where they forgot to tie my tubes lol

catnipskma

This is our last. I have 2 children from a previous marriage, and thought I was done. Fast forward a bit, married one of my best friends from college 2 yrs ago and now I have a 12y, 8y, 1y, and one on the way... My husband would ideally love another but is happy with 4. I AM DONE! I am very happy I did not make the decision to permanently do something earlier when I was 25, after my 2nd child. As I couldn't imagine not being able to provide babies for my husband now, but being 36 presently, I am very comfortable with a permanent option. You never know what life is going to bring. Glad I waited personally.

leap_frog

This is #4. I was done after 3 I will be getting my tubes tied.

daisy62103

We plan on this baby being it. He/she will be #4 for us.

HimandMeplus3

We are definitely done after this one. My body does not handle pregnancy well at all, and my complications are a bit harder already with baby #2 than they were with #1. I don't think I would physically make it through another child. Plus I'll be 33 just after baby is born, and I just want to enjoy our family after this.

mkatefin303

Undecided. I always said 2 and this is #2.... But going to see how it goes with 2, definitely take a long break (mine will be 17 months apart) and make a decision then. If it turns out more kids aren't in the cards after a long break (I'll be 32 when this one arrives) we are both a-ok with that.

inameenabeena

Probably done after this one. I used to always say I wanted 3, this will be my second, but pregnancy just wrecks my mental state with severe prenatal depression. Pregnancy after one loss already is surprisingly stressful, I am not sure I want to go through the anxiety again.

We also live in the most expensive area of the US, and though we could probably afford an upgrade of our current house, it would make us house poor.

Lots of reasons to stop at this one.

abbiemae98

After we had #2 we had thought we would have #3 a couple of years later. Well the years just kept flying bye and when DS turned 5 we decided we wouldn't have anymore. I guess God had other plans for us...we have DD who is 12 and our DS is now 8!! We are very excited though for this wonderful unexpected blessing! And this time my tubes will be tied!

Jenbug116

We are done after this. After the twins are born we will have 5 and I will have had 4 csections. We are stopping because another pregnancy after this one, wouldn't be healthy for me and because 5 kids is just what we need, no more

Paige6410

This will be our last. I'm getting my tubes tied after my c/s.

jlancaster2009

We both always wanted 3, but this is our second and will probably be our last.  Having gone through 3 losses and the stress of a pregnancy after a loss, I just don't think I could emotionally or mentally handle it again.  This has also been a much tougher pregnancy than my last successful one.  I have been struggling with m/s, no energy, etc. and this time around I have a toddler to keep up with.  I can't imagine going through this again with two little ones at home.  It makes me a little sad that we will only  have two, especially considering both DH and I are 3rd children, but I think it's the best thing for our family.

trea0025

Just going to throw it out there, pregnancy is probably not the best time to make a permanent decision about this. If you made the decision before the pregnancy that's one thing, but deciding not to have more children because pregnancy sucks is a short-sighted decision with long-term consequences.

This is my second pregnancy. We always said we wanted 3. With my first pregnancy I was so sick the whole nine months that I said I would never do it again. Then I met my beautiful little boy, and I knew I would do it all again in a heartbeat for him. So here I am again, in agony and hating every minute of pregnancy. Can't imagine going through this a third time. But I'm not going to make any permanent decisions until well after this pregnancy (hell) is over.

Just my two cents! Congrats to everyone.

reishia

We are one and done!! As of now we love the idea of a small family. DH has a younger sibling and I have 6 siblings. We love to travel and just get up and go I can't imagine doing it with more than one child. But we will give it a few years after baby is born to see if we change our mind

thismplsgirl

This will be our third in 4.5 years and we will be done. I always ideally wanted 3 kids and for them to be fairly close together so this is our final puzzle piece.

Karenin

Haha bad question to ask when many are not out of first trimester symptoms yet!

I think this is our last- it's our third. I'm one of three and always wanted 3 or 4, DH is one of 2, but he has a big age gap so it was almost like being an only. He used to want two, but then wanted three. I think we are done for three reasons:

1. I am kind of sick of having to lose baby weight every few years- it's HARD and it sucks when I know I'm just going to have to do it all over again. I think I'm ready to have my body back after this one.

2. I definitely have found the last few years harder in terms of focusing on my career as much (even though I've worked full time). DH has to travel a lot and I have preferred to put his career first since I've debated going part time or staying home at various point, and so I've had to be more available for the kids which means turning down conferences etc.  I think getting out of the newborn/toddler stages will give me a bit more freedom with that.

3. Private school tuition and college.

ChipMonster

This is our 2nd and I would like to have 3-4 but DH isn't convinced yet. I would love to have a bigger family but we'll see what's in the cards for us. I'll be almost 33 when this one is born and I don't know if I'll have a lot of time to have 4 if I don't have them back to back (which I can't really afford because I need to go back to work to have mat leave). I don't think DH would go for 4 but I may be able to convince him for a 3rd. We had talked about it beforehand but after DS, he said that maybe 2 was enough.

danasphillips

This will be our second and DS is 3.5 years now. I still think I might want a third, but MH would be content with two. So we will definitely wait a couple years and reevaluate then. Though I am excited for when MH finally gets the snip (we use condoms) and we can have all the blissful, baby-free sex we want!

SummerOH

We aren't sure. We both always wanted 4 total and this will be our second, my third (DD is from a previous relationship). The more I think about things like vacations, school activities, clothes, cars, college, weddings, etc - we may be done after this one. I'm only 33 (almost) and MH is 31, so we have time to think about it. Heck, most of my friends aren't even considering their firsts until 34-35!

MarleneG88

trea0025 said:

Just going to throw it out there, pregnancy is probably not the best time to make a permanent decision about this. If you made the decision before the pregnancy that's one thing, but deciding not to have more children because pregnancy sucks is a short-sighted decision with long-term consequences.

This is my second pregnancy. We always said we wanted 3. With my first pregnancy I was so sick the whole nine months that I said I would never do it again. Then I met my beautiful little boy, and I knew I would do it all again in a heartbeat for him. So here I am again, in agony and hating every minute of pregnancy. Can't imagine going through this a third time. But I'm not going to make any permanent decisions until well after this pregnancy (hell) is over.

Just my two cents! Congrats to everyone.

Yea I definitely agree. I will never make a permanent decision, cuz who knows how I'll feel 5 or ten years from now! As of right now, I'm done. But life takes us in many directions and constantly changes