Have you tried not putting the diaper on her? If you put her in panties and she doesn't like the feel of the mess then she should prompt you to go in the potty next time. there will be a few messes and trial and error. This is what we did for our DD and it worked quite well. Every child is different. to ensure she doesn't get stopped up again I would push fruit and raisins if not prunes a couple times a week!