Oral after baby

aryastark5

How long after delivery is it safe to engage in oral sex or any kind of external stimulation?

mccall35

For real?

If this a legitimate concern, ask your doctor.

ElRuby

Wow. Just wow.

KonaCoffeeBean

Cannot. process. this.

kbbtah

Google says 6 weeks, but you should consult your OB.

aryastark5

Why is this so difficult to process? I delivered a while ago and am past the point of bleeding. My libido hasn't diminished and neither has my husband's.

kbbtah

Although you're not bleeding any longer, there is still a risk of infection due to healing that typically takes 6 weeks or more depending upon the circumstances of your delivery. Please consult your doctor for best recommendation.

ElRuby

@KonaCoffeeBean I think that means we are the a holes?

virginiaunicorn11

Genuine question: why didn't you just type this into Google? What did you expect internet strangers to say, leading you to believe it was better to ask here than to Google it?

Genuinely curious, not judging. Jealous your libido is working, I'm too uncomfortable to be the least bit interested in anything sexy right now.

rpazzaam

For me it was more of a comfortability thing. I had natural labor and my husband watched a baby protrude from out my canal, so it was a bit of adjusting for us both. The swelling went down a few weeks after, & we had sex at maybe 2 months pp, but I didn't do oral until about 4 months pp. It's all about how you feel really. Sensation may be a bit diff, esp if things are stretched out or if you had stitches, ect. But good luck. I'm happy you are back to feeling frisky again, that didn't happen for awhile for me.

aryastark5

I googled it, too. I figured that there might be women on The Bump who delivered before and have experienced this recently. I want to be cautious, so I'd like to hear from as many sources and people as possible.

aryastark5

I know it seems strange to ask about oral or any external stuff, but I know sex is a no go for 6 weeks--I'm not willing to risk causing damage internally (which is also why I am asking about this and checking multiple sources). I just read that we can start kegels as soon as we feel ready, and somehow, external stimulation seems like it would be less intrusive and less damaging.
Thank you, rpazzaam for another legitimate response. I appreciate your help and the sharing of your personal experience.

frankengibbs

Just an add on, but you may want to keep in mind that having an orgasm may cause your uterus to cramp, kick starting some more pain and bleeding. Just because your bleeding has stopped, doesn't mean that it is done entirely. I am 4wks PP and my bleeding stopped twice. Personally, I would hold off because of the infection risk, especially if you had stitching. So consult your OB, yada yada.

FWIW, @ElRuby @KonaCoffeeBean and @mcall35 are the furthest from being "A holes" and are known for giving good, honest answers on here. If I'm being honest, your question threw me a little too.

aryastark5

Thank you for your input. Much appreciated. As far as the other posters go, I saw no "honest answers" at all in what they said. I'm okay with having thrown people off, but people post on here to hear others' insights or advice. It would have been more helpful to have their judgement mixed with something useful like; "You're totally insane for thinking about oral--you could totally put yourself at risk for infection."
I think it is kind of a-holey to make first time parents feel they can't ask any kind of question on these forums that they want. I think there could be questions that are far more ridiculous than the one I posed.