Can you keep a secret?

ACleanLife24

So we are all in the very very early stages and deciding who to tell when is a personal choice.  I am sure very few of us have let it outside the circle of DH and perhaps our bestie.  So...

What are your plans for telling who/when?

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside?

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans?

ACleanLife24

What are your plans for telling who/when?

DH, BFF and one teacher at my school know now.  I had to tell the teacher (she also is probably my closest friend here) as I had to go off of some autoimmune meds quite quickly and have been weak and light headed.  Also not sleeping well at all so I feel like I am in a different hemisphere sometimes or as I describe it "wearing a motorcycle helmet that is a little too tight".  I just wanted someone I spend 40+hours a week with to know in the worst case scenario.  (Turns out she suspected.. maybe the pea sized bladder gave me away)

The grandparents from the US and England will both be here together on July 17th so they are going to find out then (any cute ideas how please help!)

Everyone else will wait until after the first scan and we get back from our European road trip in August.

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside?

I SUCK AT IT.... luckily I have deflected some questions using my BFF who is due in Oct and having a wedding in July for my pinterest indulgences.

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans?

not yet..

CalebsHabibi

What are your plans for telling who/when?
I told DH immediately when I got home yesterday. After DH knew, I called my mom and dad over the phone (we live several hours away). Everyone else gets told in August. If it were up to me, I want to tell both of my sisters and my grandparents now; but DH has his foot set on what he calls "the three month rule. He hasn't even told his dad and I don't know when he will.

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside?
I'm not. I want to tell everyone! The only reason I'm holding it in is out of respect for DH.

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans?
Yesterday after I found out at work, I went into my manager's office. She was asking me about a chemical and I mentioned to her that it was hazardous to pregnant women. She said, "Are you pregnant?!"
No... I was just saying...

AliSummer

I woke up my partner to tell him when I got a positive at 6am on Saturday. He was a little groggy, but very happy. I called my mom and told her that afternoon.

We're not really planning on telling anyone else until around the end of the first trimester.

But - I'm excited and I wish I could tell everyone - my son, my sister, my BFF, etc. We might have a Labor Day party for our family and announce it then...

rsquaredr

This pregnancy was a shock so I just held up 3 tests to DH and said "you aren't gonna believe this..." we're both extremely happy and grateful.

It's hard to keep a secret. We told our parents early around 6 weeks last time and immediate family around 9 weeks. Friends at 14 and FB at 17. It's hard to keep it a secret because I'm nauseous and see my parents almost daily and last time I had zero symptoms. I refused to believe I was pregnant until I saw the HB at the NT scan!

We have DD's first bday party the beginning of August and I'm not sure if we want to announce then...I'm worried it'll steal her thunder but she won't know. We have vacation in august with 2 groups of friends so I'll have to spill it to them when they ask why I'm not drinking.

Rox2012

I want to tell our parents this week but hubby wants to wait until first US. It's my moms bday Saturday. She keeps asking when we are having another baby so I really want to tell her!

I have only told hubby and explained to our toddler that I have a baby in my belly.

I found out the Friday before fathers day and wanted to wait until Father's Day to tell him. Well I put the test in the bathroom drawer and walked away... Go back in a few min later to see a positive! I go in the living room with DH trying to hold it in but I burst out laughing!!! This always happens when I'm trying to not do something!

bagel37

Right now, it's just my dh and I little secret and I want to keep it that way for awhile.

We had stillborn twins in January, which makes me really nervous this time. I think we will wait until (at least) the first ultrasound to tell our immediate family and then 14 (or people start guessing) for our friends. I'm going to hold off as long as possible before making a public announcement. I'm just hoping that I don't show too soon and am forced to tell people because it would be too obvious.

chitownparent

I found out at almost the same time--the Wednesday before father's day.  I may be due the last week of Feb based on my ovulation date.  We've been trying for a while, and used Clomid.  I told DH immediately, then my sister, and waited 1 week to tell my mom.  I started having symptoms early.  That plus the Clomid are making me nervous for multiples.  

My younger sister had a stillbirth at 20 weeks last november, which was really hard on our whole family.  We've had 3 miscarriages as well, all at about 5 weeks--way before we told anyone.  It is a nerve wracking time.  

J234

I told my dentist and my OB... after two miscarriages, we are going to wait until 10 weeks at least to tell anyone else...  Although last time I started bloating and switched to some maternity pants at 9 weeks, lol.  

oohlivia

What are your plans for telling who/when? I've already told my DH, sister, and parents...waiting to tell everyone else until around 14 weeks...or until I start to show.

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside? It's so hard, but we lost twins a few months ago after announcing the pregnancy a few days before, so we're trying to keep it a secret until after a few ultrasounds.

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans? I want to tell my 3-year-old so badly, but when I was pregnant before she spilled the beans to my mom before I wanted her to...so she's not finding out until the rest of the world knows too lol

Stormiewinter

So hard to keep a secret. But we will wait to tell family until after we see an us or hear the heartbeat. This is the worst part of pregnancy in my opinion all the waiting and not knowing is so hard. That being said I have to talk to somebody about it so in pretty thankful for a bmb!

meganmarie1087

It's really hard to keep a secret but right now my DH and 2 best girlfriends know. After a loss this past March, we are trying to wait to tell family.This will prove to be difficult as we are going on a trip with my family in 2 weeks! I am sure my Mom will raise a brow when I turn down a glass of wine but with our loss, I believe family will be more cautious with the questioning.

Kristin712

I always envisioned surprising DH with something cutesy, but I never expected to get KU so quickly and didn't have anything prepared! After taking 5 cheap tests, I ran out to the living room and shakingly said, "I think I'm pregnant.... We have to go buy another test!" He was surprised since I had had a BFN that morning but so excited and said, "Can I see??" (the tests). 

We are planning to tell my parents at 7 weeks as we are traveling to Italy with them at that time. I think it will be too hard to hide when I'm refusing all the wine and will likely be very fatigued (and possible morning sickness, ugh!). We will tell DH's parents immediately after our trip. With everyone else, we will be waiting until 12 weeks.

betheliz

What are your plans for telling who/when? I had trouble reading the cheap Wondfo tests at first, so I suspected for a few days before I went out to get a digital.  After seeing "Pregnant," I finally told my husband.  He was hemming and hawing about whether we should be buying a new house, and I said, "We'll probably want to have a bigger house by March."   We will try not to tell anyone until after the first tri.

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside?  Pretty well.  I suspect DH will give the secret away by being conspicuously protective of me.  Or that our parents will start to suspect something is up because our house search just gained a new sense of urgency.

aubreylv

The only person that knows about the new baby is DH.  We are going to tell my parents over 4th of July weekend.  I don't know when my husband wants to break the news to his parents but it will probably be soon.  Everyone knows that we want another baby so I don't think anyone will be really shocked to hear that we are.  I don't want to say anything to my friends and co-workers until closer to the end of the first trimester.  

When my husband and I first started talking about trying for a new baby I wanted to wait to try until August.  That was the plan until my husband got news that he was deploying overseas so we moved our plans up and started trying right away.  We tried one month and it happened.  I was so shocked because it took a while with the first baby.  I was a little upset that it happened right away because I really didn't want my kids to share a birthday month or even worse an exact birth date.  I've gotten over that now because it's done and we're pregnant. I guess it would be kind of cool for both of them to share a birthday.  

JenSimons61784

We are announcing to everyone at my DD fourth birthday party. We look at it as a gift for my daughter cause she's been asking for a baby brother or sister since Christmas.

sdemilio1231

I am wanting to shout it from the rooftops! Haha but I am controlling myself. So far only DH knows. I'm going home in two weeks and plan on having a shirt on my son that says something about being a big brother. I'm not going to say anything, I'm just going to wait and see how long it takes my parents to notice! I will probably end up telling everyone else around week 13. The hard part is going to be the second week in July when I go to my friends bachelorette party! I know they will all be suspicious of me not drinking a drop!

ACleanLife24

JenSimons61784 said:

We are announcing to everyone at my DD fourth birthday party. We look at it as a gift for my daughter cause she's been asking for a baby brother or sister since Christmas.

Are you going to give her a "big sister" shirt (or something better) to open in front of everyone and let her do the reveal

ACleanLife24

sdemilio1231 said:

I am wanting to shout it from the rooftops! Haha but I am controlling myself. So far only DH knows. I'm going home in two weeks and plan on having a shirt on my son that says something about being a big brother. I'm not going to say anything, I'm just going to wait and see how long it takes my parents to notice! I will probably end up telling everyone else around week 13. The hard part is going to be the second week in July when I go to my friends bachelorette party! I know they will all be suspicious of me not drinking a drop!

Confide in one person there and have them help you cover by buying your "drinks"

sdemilio1231

I wish I could! They all have huge mouths! I know the one person (no matter which I chose) would tell the rest as soon as we get home! They are all either single or just about to get married and don't have children so it's hard to talk to them about things. We are definitely at different places in our lives. Her Bach party is in NYC. I am dreading it, but will probably just get sprite or coke and tell them it's a rum and coke or vodka and sprite. I don't want to be the person who announces their pregnancy at someone else's bachelorette party and steals the spot light! If there was someone there I could confide in though that would be a great idea!

Edited to correct spelling error.

lauraellenadr

It's so hard to keep secret! We TTC for 18 months and finally conceived via IVF. Obviously my DH found out immediately- we're both so relieved. But my mom and sister kind of figured it out because they knew my IVF schedule. I hope to keep it secret otherwise until 12 weeks.

ashcav

What are your plans for telling who/when? We told our parents and siblings this weekend. We're going to hold off on telling anyone else until the end of the first tri most likely. 

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside? It's hard! It's our first and I feel like I am hiding something huge.

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans? Well at work the other day, one of my coworkers/friends jokingly told me to get out of a chair and let someone else sit down, I almost blurted out nope, I'm pregnant so I'm sitting. But caught myself. 

lcarver43

What are your plans for telling who/when? My DH and I decided that when we hear the first heartbeat, we will tell our parents and siblings. I have already talked to three of my closest friends about it. I have PCOS and had trouble even getting to the faint BFP, so I knew I would need the emotional support of women who have gone through pregnancy and the emotional roller coaster it involves. Everyone else aside from the groups mentioned above will find out once I hit the second trimester.

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside? It's actually not too hard right now. I am only 11dpo and had a negative blood test today, so until I know for sure, the secret is not going anywhere.

jess9802

What are your plans for telling who/when? We have already told our parents and siblings. I've also told several friends and my assistant. 

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside? It's hard at times. I am on a committee that has monthly meetings between September and May, and each year in February or March I present a topic. We're having our planning meeting next week, and I'm not sure I want to share with them that I'm expecting a baby in late Feb/early March, but I also don't want to commit to giving a presentation late in the pregnancy or shortly after returning from maternity leave. 

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans? Nope. But I'm really excited to share the news!

KMKaiser07

What are your plans for telling who/when?
With our first we told right away and I had so much anxiety over it. So when we got pregnant in February I didn't want to tell anyone and when we miscarried I felt so alone and regretted not telling anyone. This time, I'm in the mindset that if I would tell a person I miscarried, I will tell them now so our baby can be celebrated.

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside?
Im not keeping it a secret from close family and friends which helps not spill the beans to the "Facebook world". Although it is hard seeing other talk of babies to not jump right in.

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans?
Not yet

ACleanLife24

KMKaiser07 said:

What are your plans for telling who/when? With our first we told right away and I had so much anxiety over it. So when we got pregnant in February I didn't want to tell anyone and when we miscarried I felt so alone and regretted not telling anyone. This time, I'm in the mindset that if I would tell a person I miscarried, I will tell them now so our baby can be celebrated. How are you doing holding such a big secret inside? Im not keeping it a secret from close family and friends which helps not spill the beans to the "Facebook world". Although it is hard seeing other talk of babies to not jump right in. Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans? Not yet

My BFF in England is due in October and I almost spilled it yesterday when we were talking about her maternity leave!  She knows we tried for over a year but that much research would make her suspicious.

I am also nervous as rugby season starts again this week. OBVIOUSLY I can't play but between that and not drinking its going to be a dead give away.  I am going to go to training on Thursday for light conditioning and non-contact work.  I made up some excuse about getting dizzy easily bc of changing in my medications (which is true they pulled me off a few!)

KMKaiser07

ACleanLife24 said:

KMKaiser07 said:

What are your plans for telling who/when?
With our first we told right away and I had so much anxiety over it. So when we got pregnant in February I didn't want to tell anyone and when we miscarried I felt so alone and regretted not telling anyone. This time, I'm in the mindset that if I would tell a person I miscarried, I will tell them now so our baby can be celebrated.

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside?
Im not keeping it a secret from close family and friends which helps not spill the beans to the "Facebook world". Although it is hard seeing other talk of babies to not jump right in.

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans?
Not yet

My BFF in England is due in October and I almost spilled it yesterday when we were talking about her maternity leave!  She knows we tried for over a year but that much research would make her suspicious.

I am also nervous as rugby season starts again this week. OBVIOUSLY I can't play but between that and not drinking its going to be a dead give away.  I am going to go to training on Thursday for light conditioning and non-contact work.  I made up some excuse about getting dizzy easily bc of changing in my medications (which is true they pulled me off a few!)

I can't imagine having things in your life that would be dead give aways.

KMKaiser07

Ugh mobile is screwing all my posts up!

It won't let post over half my post!

KMKaiser07

Ugh I'm done trying to finish my post!

ACleanLife24

For @kmkaiser07 bc I hate mobile also and it keeps randomly logging out and shit sometimes

KMKaiser07

One last attempt but trying on my computer! I  haven't had a drink since 2013 due to trying for our first, breastfeeding for 16 months and then trying for #2 while still BFing so I'm happy that won't be a give away.  I did tell my trainers today so they could keep an eye out that I don't over do it since I am still very nervous about another mc.

@ACleanLife24

AuntBB22

What are your plans for telling who/when? DH knew immediately, bc he was literally in the bathroom when I took the first test. (TMI?) He was so excited. He believed it before I did. I have one friend at the lab I told. (where I work). We're spending this coming weekend at the lake with DH's parents.  His mother will definitely be offering me wine. She will suspect anyways when I turn it down, so we decided to tell his parents this weekend. As for my parents.. they're divorced and I don't communicate a lot with my dad outside of texting. So it may be another week or two before I let him know. I have to tell my mom in person. Maybe this weekend if I can make the hour trip to see her. I'll probably tell my BFF in two weeks. She's spending that weekend with me while our husbands go camping. She's due in Sept, so I know she'll be super excited. We'll probably tell our grandparents and family around mid July. The world will know after our first apt. Probably the first or second week of August.

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside? HORRIBLE. I know my supervisor is going to catch me on this website at work. lol. I can't stay away tho!

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans? Not yet.. 

KristieA

What are your plans for telling who/when? I told DH this evening. We called both sets of parents to let them know. I also spoke to my best friend who thinks I am a bit crazy.

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside? Day 1 and I might burst.

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans? Not yet though last weekend DH coworker asked me straight out if I was pregnant because I wasn't drinking at his birthday. We are having an Independence Day party and I am sure when I don't drink there, he will be even more suspcious.

CalebsHabibi

KristieA said:

What are your plans for telling who/when? I told DH this evening. We called both sets of parents to let them know. I also spoke to my best friend who thinks I am a bit crazy.

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside? Day 1 and I might burst.

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans? Not yet though last weekend DH coworker asked me straight out if I was pregnant because I wasn't drinking at his birthday. We are having an Independence Day party and I am sure when I don't drink there, he will be even more suspcious.

Find a way to fake it! Maybe drink coke and tell people it's rum and coke? Sprite with"out" vodka? Margarita mix without the tequila. If your a beer drinker, tell people you're watching your carbs and switched to vodka and soda water.

Lisa6083

What are your plans for telling who/when?

We had ivf Sunday before last. I told several coworkers I was having it done, mostly immediate supervisors, because I am being careful not to lift anything or do anything strenuous.we found out today that it was positive, and are only telling immediate family till august.

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside?
Just found out, but I'm already bursting. Only told mom, sister, and brother. My husband will call his people tonight.

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans?
I had planned on if it was positive, surprising my husband somehow. But, he walked in while I was still on the phone with the nurse, and I was a sobbing mess, so I had to tell him.

KristieA

CalebsHabibi said:

KristieA said:

What are your plans for telling who/when? I told DH this evening. We called both sets of parents to let them know. I also spoke to my best friend who thinks I am a bit crazy.

How are you doing holding such a big secret inside? Day 1 and I might burst.

Have you anything to amuse us about nearly spilling the beans? Not yet though last weekend DH coworker asked me straight out if I was pregnant because I wasn't drinking at his birthday. We are having an Independence Day party and I am sure when I don't drink there, he will be even more suspcious.

Find a way to fake it! Maybe drink coke and tell people it's rum and coke? Sprite with"out" vodka? Margarita mix without the tequila. If your a beer drinker, tell people you're watching your carbs and switched to vodka and soda water.

That's a great idea. I can also tell him as I did the last time that since I just had surgery I'm not supposed to be drinking. I wonder how long I can use that excuse for?

It will be easier to fake drinks at the bar but at our house the options are beer, wine, or strawberry lemonades (with fizzy lemonade).

onnada

Am finding it a little easier to keep quiet as we had a mc in feb and i cannot wait to tell everyone in August - parents know and i told DH by printing a wine labels and sticking iy over the existing label

KristieA

In that I love the wine bottle idea!

KJKNAJ

Other than DH, two girlfriends know. We won't tell our families until after a good anatomy scan. That's when everything started to go wrong for me last time- my mother will be a wreck with worry if I tell her any sooner. I want to be able to go to them all with good news that everything is ok. The rest of the world will find out when the baby is born.

ACleanLife24

So tonight I will be going to my 4th quiz night at a pub in a row where I wont be drinking with my BFF who is 5 months along.  I cant fake drink as we send our DH's up on alternate rounds.  On the way I am going to stop by her house to try on sample dresses for her wedding next summer.  Here is hoping I can get away with blaming the bloat and my swollen limbs on the hottest day of the year. My intuition is that she is going to call me on it... much like I did to her when she turned down two chances to play rugby together last Feb!  The upside is the dress has a forgiving cut for someone who will be 4 months post-post-partum

 

KristieA

I found myself telling the woman at the knitting store today. Apparently this singing to be harder than I thought!