Announcement reaction.

Barley26

Our neighbors found out via our FB announcement after numerous failed attempts to tell them face to face.

They reacted by deleting us from all social media and completely avoiding/ignoring us when we pass by in the yard.

I am so hurt, and quite frankly a little disgusted, that people that mean so much to me would be so selfish about the happiest news we'll ever have. I'm beside myself.

Just need to vent a little, put that somewhere others might understand. As pregnant women/couples we might not have the time to tell everyone we want the way we planned. And now that it's becoming apparent relying on public announcements is a good blanket solution.

I wish people would not try to ruin this time in our lives with bad attitudes.

Mommyduclos

Wow! I mean I could see a best friend or family being a little hurt by not being told individually but even then not THAT hurt. They are being ridiculous. Unless there is more than meets the eye...

Barley26

I wish there were.. It'd make this easier to stomach.

Sovvy

is it possible they're suffering from a loss or infertility and haven't shared that with you?

SullyN

je&moeder said:

is it possible they're suffering from a loss or infertility and haven't shared that with you?

This is the only reason I had thought of too.

ChipMonster

While I think that there reaction is completely uncalled for and incredibly rude and hurtful, this is why I choose not to do an announcement on social media until much, much later. Last pregnancy, I was waiting to tell one of my best friends in person but we were both so busy and I didn't tell her until I was 5 months pregnant, over the phone. I can't imagine remembering to tell everyone right at 12 weeks... Especially when I really want to try and tell my close friends in person.

I am saying that for me and am not trying to knock you for announcing on social media so soon. I don't think that their reaction is in any way your fault and I don't want it to come off as meaning that. Some people rely on social media to keep up with many close friends and relatives so I completely understand why they use it that way.

I hope that your neighbours come around and apologize for their insensitive and selfish reaction to your news. Like PP said, maybe they are suffering through issues themselves...

willashbaby

Wow they've got their own issues if that was the reaction. I would let that one go.

rubber ducky07

Ha, wow. Good riddance. You don't need people that immature/petty in your life!

catnipskma

Wow, I'm sorry!! I can't relate to this exact situation, but have had many similar unexpected reactions in my life. I know deeply how it can effect you especially when it is someone you really care about. But, it is a gentle reminder that we cannot control others reactions, decisions or thoughts... No matter how much you try to please or be courteous, or do everything in your power to make things good for everybody...there will ALWAYS be some that comes out of nowhere and will make you second guess yourself for something that happened.
Don't waste one more minute worrying about it girl. You have beautiful, happy news, and it is possible that yes they are struggling with something you don't know about... But it is not a reason to act childish and shut you out. They obviously can't deal with things as adults, so maybe this is to your benefit?
But if your anything like me, your going to wonder why till you go crazy... If that's the case, make a sincere effort to confront and ask in person, but be prepared for whichever way it may go. But at least you tried. Good luck and I'm sorry.

Barley26

They are in their 50's with their only child in college. Based on our years of friendship I can only guess they are either upset we didn't tell them ourselves OR they are upset we are not married.

I don't want to assume too much, because after all there could be something I don't know about. All I know is, to delete both of us from all social media and be as cold as they have been.. Whatever I've done must have been big.

SparklesC

That is very immature of them, but if you truly want to stay friends, maybe you should stop by and try to talk things through. 

Barley26

Thank you all so much for your kind words. I don't think being hormonal during this time is making it any easier on me, lol.

fragglemom

Are you sure they didn't drop you before the announcement? It usually takes me a little while to discover I've been deleted. Given that you had a hard time contacting them to announce in person maybe it's a possibility that they were already avoiding you? You might want to get some face time. It could have nothing to do with your pregnancy. I hope it gets better for you. It sucks to not feel comfortable with your neighbors.

Blueyedsky

Stupid heads. You're sure you dog didn't eat a bush or something?

Seems a little silly to freak out like that. Maybe bring then cookies and ask what in the world roughed them up?

arose3eb

That is so brutal, I'm so sorry this happened to you! Social media is such an outlet for turd-like behavior sometimes (all the time.) I would let some cool-down time lapse before you try to make sense of it. Who knows what's going on in their lives to make them react so strongly. I don't know if the baby being born to unmarried parents would be something to make them react like that, especially if you're already living together, but I don't know them.  Just focus on yourself and your growing family, and there will definitely be a time to talk to them in the future but I don't think right now is the best time because of how raw it is. Good luck and congrats on the baby!