Single Mums!

ErinLily44

I had my first child when I was 16. Yes, it unfortunately was a mistake but I wouldn't change it for the world! My second is due in October and I thought that I should be happy even if it wasn't planned once again. There is so much stigma around young, single mums but who cares! I'm proud that I've managed to have kids on my own and I want everyone who's a single mum to share there story if you want. You can be any age but I want to prove that being a single mum is okay!

agorman3

I am 29 and this is my first pregnancy. It was very unplanned...but I know she will be such a blessing! Single moms rock!

ErinLily44

Its the best thing that ever happened to me!

adcoxmt

I'm 24 (will be 25 a month before my son is here!) and am terrified about being a single mom, but I know it will be amazing and worth it. The father plans to play a very active role (how active depends on if he moves back to this state or not, though) so that helps, but I will still be solo-parenting for the most part. I keep telling myself it will be worth it whenever I get down or bitter about being alone.

ErinLily44

Thanks you guys for putting your stories up! Glad to know there are more single mums around

ErinLily44

Hello single mums!

Hope you're all hanging in there! Just wanted to know who's having a girl or boy and when?

fletcherj1

I had my 1st child shortly after turning 18 his father died and now I am having my 2nd in October. Yes being a single mom is not the most popular situation and comes with ups and downs. Being a single parent is rewarding in its own right.

kaitlynrojas

I just turned 20, I'm due October 18th. And her dad left us in March and told me he wants nothing to do with our little girl. It hurts a lot.

adcoxmt

ErinLily44 said:

Hello single mums!

Hope you're all hanging in there! Just wanted to know who's having a girl or boy and when?

I'm having a little boy, due October 3rd! He will be my first!

ErinLily44

kaitlynrojas said: I just turned 20, I'm due October 18th. And her dad left us in March and told me he wants nothing to do with our little girl. It hurts a lot.

When I had my first kid my boyfriend left straight away but now he sees him on the weekend and pays child support. When I got pregnant with my second (different guy) I thought he'd be okay as we'd been together for a year but he walked out on me and doesn't want anything to do with his daughter. I found it so hard as I loved him so much but it's not meant to be. I'm coping much better this time around and I'm so excited

ErinLily44

Is anyone else sooooooooooo bored of being criticised and judged for being a young single mum? Or any single mum. I was in the supermarket the other day and the cashier kept giving me these weird looks. As she scanned my 'buy one get one free' food packs she said "must be hard" and gave me such a fake smile. I think it was unnecessarily rude! Even when I told my best friend I was pregnant (first child) she was like "I didn't think you'd become a slut."

Its like people seem to think I'm an alien or something. I'm like so what! I'm young, I'm single and I'm a mother. Get over it!

(Just realised how angry and rude that sounded so I'm really sorry but todays been a bad day and I'm not good at controlling myself)

adcoxmt

No, don't worry, I completely understand. I live in a TINY, southern town, so I've taken to wearing my sapphire birthstone ring on my left hand so it at least gives the impression that I'm engaged. Which is kind of pathetic but w/ slight swelling in this heat, the ring doesn't fit on my right hand currently anyways, haha! But yes! It's ridiculous how many pointed or scathing looks and remarks you get just for being single and STEPPING UP. I'm sorry that I took my birth control 100% PERFECTLY and miraculously got pregnant. I was lazy or sleeping around with 25 dudes (just one, same one for two years now), so I'm not sure how it makes me a "bad" person for taking on the challenging task of single momhood. Single parents have it tough and often work TWICE as hard as "regular" parents, so they really ought to be commended! 

And don't worry, my best friend who is a few weeks ahead of me has received looks and comments too, despite her big, shiny, wedding rings. Some people just suck 

ErinLily44

Yeah! You're so right! My friend thinks I'm a slut for getting pregnant at 16 but I had only ever had sex once and I got pregnant! She had like had sex five times!

Thanks for being so understanding

rockinrobyn24

FTM and my boyfriend & I were together up until recently. We broke up after I discovered he's been lying to me about a lot of things for awhile. We were together for 3 yrs and experienced 2 miscarriages prior to this pregnancy. When we found out we were expecting we were excited but scared bc of the miscarriages. It's been the hardest thing I've had to deal with in a long time. I never imagined doing this alone. He says he is going to be involved every step of the way but I'm not holding my breath bc I honestly don't know what he says is the truth or not. Thankfully I have an amazing family that is excited to help but it's not the same. I know that it will be his loss and my baby girl will be well taken care of and loved with or without him.

ErinLily44

Your so brave for carrying on and I wish more people were like this!

ErinLily44

Hi Single mums, hope your all well

Do any of you think you'll ever get married?

J1D

ErinLily44 said:

kaitlynrojas said: I just turned 20, I'm due October 18th. And her dad left us in March and told me he wants nothing to do with our little girl. It hurts a lot.

When I had my first kid my boyfriend left straight away but now he sees him on the weekend and pays child support. When I got pregnant with my second (different guy) I thought he'd be okay as we'd been together for a year but he walked out on me and doesn't want anything to do with his daughter. I found it so hard as I loved him so much but it's not meant to be. I'm coping much better this time around and I'm so excited

In regards to your asking if you should get back together with your ex. You said it best yourself "it's not meant to be."