Finding out gender

Akutterna

I know I still have a while, but my hubby is dead set on not wanting to know. I, on the other hand, NEED to know!! Has anyone been able to successfully keep this a secret from their significant other?

GhanimaAtreides

I'm in the opposite situation.

But if you want to find out and keep it a secret, rent a PO Box for 3 months or so, and shell out about $200 for the mail in blood test (finger-prick) Tell Me Pink Or Blue. It was accurate for us last time, but I didn't need to hide it from DH.

If you think about it, I'm guessing part of your reasoning is consumer-based, and if you're keeping it a secret, it means you still can't get a head start on purchases or painting the nursery. So what's the point?

mommaSimpkin

Lizzie5831 said:

But if you want to find out and keep it a secret, rent a PO Box for 3 months or so, and shell out about $200 for the mail in blood test (finger-prick) Tell Me Pink Or Blue. It was accurate for us last time, but I didn't need to hide it from DH.

This blood test "tell me pink or blue" I've heard of it a couple times. Is it always 200$ or do the rates vary??
Does it take a while to get the results? How accurate is it?
I'm 2 days shy of being 11 weeks. If it takes a while for the results, I'll just wait and see if gender is possible at the 20 week anatomy scan.
If it's not that accurate, I don't want to waste 200$ when I could spend it on nursery supplies.

But I am genuinely interested in this.

Monilee1017

We were in the same situation with our first, I wanted to know and DH didn't. We considered me finding out alone and not tellin him or anyone. After thinking about how I couldn't shop for anything and I knew I wouldn't "fight" as hard for names if I knew they won't be used I decided not to find out. We knew we were going to have more than one kid so we decided if I didn't like it we could do it my way for the next one. We didn't find out for our firstI two and we decided we would find out late in our pregnancy with this one. But now I'm getting cold feet. Luckily I have about 31 weeks to decided.

sherks11

I'm with you, I need to know!

A girl I work with didn't want to know but her husband did. So this is what they did with both of their kids.... Her husband found out (probably at their 20 week scan) and did not tell her. He bought all the things they would need for the baby (clothing, blankets, decor, etc), painted and decorated the nursery, basically got EVERYTHING ready without telling her. The door to the nursery was always kept closed and she had the restraint to never peak. The first time she walked into the nursery was when she came home from the hospital with the baby. She said it was like Christmas morning!

Doesn't this sound amazing!?!? It gave me chills when she told me. And I have to give mad props to her husband for pulling all of it off while not dropping a he or she anywhere!

GhanimaAtreides

@mommaSimpkin Yes! It was accurate and at most I think I waited 2 weeks for the results.

sherks11 said:

I'm with you, I need to know!

A girl I work with didn't want to know but her husband did. So this is what they did with both of their kids.... Her husband found out (probably at their 20 week scan) and did not tell her. He bought all the things they would need for the baby (clothing, blankets, decor, etc), painted and decorated the nursery, basically got EVERYTHING ready without telling her. The door to the nursery was always kept closed and she had the restraint to never peak. The first time she walked into the nursery was when she came home from the hospital with the baby. She said it was like Christmas morning!

Doesn't this sound amazing!?!? It gave me chills when she told me. And I have to give mad props to her husband for pulling all of it off while not dropping a he or she anywhere!

OMG, I would be pretty pissed. I like to make most all the decor/clothing decisions. Absolutely...could...not... I get the intention and that it's sweet and all, but to have virtually no input is kinda insane. If I'm going to be spending the night hours sleeping in a glider, I better darn well get to test it out first.

CaraBoonie

Ditto, I know some people like things done for them but I am WAY too type A to enjoy that!! We didn't even use a wedding planner or anything, my mom and I planned every last detail, I want to walk into the nursery and see it like it was in my head (or pinterest board haha) not a surprise

sherks11

I guess I should have mentioned... The wife is one of the most easy going people I have ever met and the husband is the artsy type so she trusted him to do it! And she absolutely loved it both times!!!

ChloeSmith

My very good friend didn't want to know with her second and hubby did. So at their gender scan, she looked away and he found out. Kept it a secret the ENTIRE time. He was amazing. When they went to the shops. She would choose a boy and girl outfit and walk out and he would pay and store it in the house some where. It worked out really well. But I would hate it if my husband knew and I didn't. I also NEED to know

ChloeSmith

And... With the nursery she chose boy and girl fabric, colours etc etc and gave them an envelope from gender scan, when she went into labour we went to collect everything and put it in the room. Let me tell u. I have never seen a cupboard fill up with so much pink stuff before.

myliitlefairygarden

I didn't find out with my last two but in the few years since i Have had a baby it seems like you have to find out if you want to buy ANY clothes. EVERYTHING is pink or blue. There is no longer any green or yellow. Kinda sad. My SO wants to know and since we had genetic testing we will be able to find out in about 7-10 days.