Introducing baby

jacobson

Hi everyone, I'm new to this board and this is my first time posting.
I need advice for when we bring baby number 3 home (getting induced shortly)
Baby number one my parents were out of the country and my in laws were the first to see him in hospital, they came both nights and were also at our house the day we brought baby home.
Baby number two I wanted my parents to be the first to come and meet her so they could have the experience of being the first to see her. Well then of course my In laws put on a guilt trip.
So with baby number three I would like it to be just us (my other two little ones) for the first little bit then whoever can come over after. My wish is to just have the 5 of us together so my daughter(3) and son (4.5) can have a little bit of time together as I think it's a special time. The only problem is my parents have them and would need to bring them home. So the part that gets confusing because I don't want anyone's feelings hurt (namely my in laws as my parents would totally understand my wish) do I ask my parents to sit out of the house for the first 15 minutes while my little ones get aquanted? Then tell them to come in and invite the in laws? It really shouldn't be this big of a deal but I want to be sure everyone feels included.
I appreciated your input and thoughts!

Kresla

I would be honest with both sets of parents and tell them your wishes. They should respect it. Perhaps you can have both sets go pick up food for everyone or go get a congratulatory drink while your children bond with their new sibling. Both sets should understand.

karaelaine1991

I agree with @Kresla. I really don't understand why some grandparents feel the need to argue with parents' wishes, especially when it's as little as asking for 15 minutes of alone time. I understand wanting to meet baby, but to me it sounds like they can't see past their own points of view - very selfish, in my opinion. Good luck, OP, your request sounds very reasonable to me. I hope no one gives you grief over it.

MJMum524

@jacobson sounds like a very reasonable request. Have your parents drop the kids off and they can drive around the block or better yet, pick up dinner and come back after your family has some time just the 5 of you.