FFFC

dogsombrero

I didn't see one started, so let's hear em!

dogsombrero

I'm looking forward to visiting my family but dreading flying alone with my kid. I would live nothing more than to visit a beach alone.

I kind of hate DH for getting to be home alone for 9 days eating whatever he wants, sleeping in and watching whatever he wants on tv. Except that he'll be working and I won't. Ugh I'm a big ole meanie.

thegingeravenger

I'm a huge advocate for working as long as possible and not quitting working "just because it's harder" while pregnant. Do to some bullshit that's happened this week at my morning job, guessing who's writing her two weeks notice this weekend? This girl!

At the very least it'll make me feel better if I decide to tough it out and deal with it.

dogsombrero

thegingeravenger said:

I'm a huge advocate for working as long as possible and not quitting working "just because it's harder" while pregnant. Do to some bullshit that's happened this week at my morning job, guessing who's writing her two weeks notice this weekend? This girl! At the very least it'll make me feel better if I decide to tough it out and deal with it.

Sometimes just writing the letter can make you feel better even if you rip it up Sunday night. Ugh I'm sorry you are dealing with crap at work, didn't you say you were getting a lot of flak from one of the dudes at work?

VexyMommy

I feel incredibly ungrateful, but I am really annoyed about the gender reveal party my friend is throwing us on Sunday and just don't want to be a part of it.  We already know the sex, it's last minute as hell since the invites went out via fb last night, and I'm really just not feeling it.  It's being thrown by the friend who asked to attend the ultrasound and brought his bf along too.  An excerpt from the description of the event "Is it a girl, a boy or a Boy George come find out and celebrate with us."  The picture for the event is Boy George.  I'm just. . .  there is not enough head shaking on earth to adequately express my feelings on this topic. 

modanz1

VexyMommy said:

I feel incredibly ungrateful, but I am really annoyed about the gender reveal party my friend is throwing us on Sunday and just don't want to be a part of it.  We already know the sex, it's last minute as hell since the invites went out via fb last night, and I'm really just not feeling it.  It's being thrown by the friend who asked to attend the ultrasound and brought his bf along too.  An excerpt from the description of the event "Is it a girl, a boy or a Boy George come find out and celebrate with us."  The picture for the event is Boy George.  I'm just. . .  there is not enough head shaking on earth to adequately express my feelings on this topic. 

What in the holy hell?  So strange and I would feel the same way....This combined with them wanting to be at the ultrasound sounds like they want a baby of their own and are living through you! Good luck this weekend!

pink*sheep

VexyMommy said:

I feel incredibly ungrateful, but I am really annoyed about the gender reveal party my friend is throwing us on Sunday and just don't want to be a part of it.  We already know the sex, it's last minute as hell since the invites went out via fb last night, and I'm really just not feeling it.  It's being thrown by the friend who asked to attend the ultrasound and brought his bf along too.  An excerpt from the description of the event "Is it a girl, a boy or a Boy George come find out and celebrate with us."  The picture for the event is Boy George.  I'm just. . .  there is not enough head shaking on earth to adequately express my feelings on this topic. 

Cough cough...sounds like you're going to be sick Sunday...

thegingeravenger

dogsombrero said:

thegingeravenger said:

I'm a huge advocate for working as long as possible and not quitting working "just because it's harder" while pregnant. Do to some bullshit that's happened this week at my morning job, guessing who's writing her two weeks notice this weekend? This girl!

At the very least it'll make me feel better if I decide to tough it out and deal with it.

Sometimes just writing the letter can make you feel better even if you rip it up Sunday night. Ugh I'm sorry you are dealing with crap at work, didn't you say you were getting a lot of flak from one of the dudes at work?


Yeah. I was willing to ignore the coworker and just laugh off my main boss's comments. I'm not willing to deal with a supervisor laughing off my complaints of re-aggravating a pre-existing shoulder injury with "you're too young to have shoulder problems". Sorry, I'm very stabby about it since kudos to his crap I'm on day two of limited range of motion in my dominant arm.

And your husband may be working but that sounds like a staycation to me since you're taking LO!

VexyMommy

thegingeravenger said:

thegingeravenger said:

I'm a huge advocate for working as long as possible and not quitting working "just because it's harder" while pregnant. Do to some bullshit that's happened this week at my morning job, guessing who's writing her two weeks notice this weekend? This girl! At the very least it'll make me feel better if I decide to tough it out and deal with it.

Sometimes just writing the letter can make you feel better even if you rip it up Sunday night. Ugh I'm sorry you are dealing with crap at work, didn't you say you were getting a lot of flak from one of the dudes at work?

Yeah. I was willing to ignore the coworker and just laugh off my main boss's comments. I'm not willing to deal with a supervisor laughing off my complaints of re-aggravating a pre-existing shoulder injury with "you're too young to have shoulder problems". Sorry, I'm very stabby about it since kudos to his crap I'm on day two of limited range of motion in my dominant arm. And your husband may be working but that sounds like a staycation to me since you're taking LO!

Have you spoken with HR about the situation?  This sounds like very classic harassment and HR should either step in or you should have a complaint on record so when you file for unemployment you have a good chance of getting it until you find something new.

mamavbs

@VexyMommy I think I would feel the same way as you! I'm guessing he's a sweet friend... But that's extremely presumptuous :-/

thegingeravenger

VexyMommy said:

thegingeravenger said:

dogsombrero said:

thegingeravenger said:

I'm a huge advocate for working as long as possible and not quitting working "just because it's harder" while pregnant. Do to some bullshit that's happened this week at my morning job, guessing who's writing her two weeks notice this weekend? This girl!

At the very least it'll make me feel better if I decide to tough it out and deal with it.

Sometimes just writing the letter can make you feel better even if you rip it up Sunday night. Ugh I'm sorry you are dealing with crap at work, didn't you say you were getting a lot of flak from one of the dudes at work?

Yeah. I was willing to ignore the coworker and just laugh off my main boss's comments. I'm not willing to deal with a supervisor laughing off my complaints of re-aggravating a pre-existing shoulder injury with "you're too young to have shoulder problems". Sorry, I'm very stabby about it since kudos to his crap I'm on day two of limited range of motion in my dominant arm.

And your husband may be working but that sounds like a staycation to me since you're taking LO!

Have you spoken with HR about the situation?  This sounds like very classic harassment and HR should either step in or you should have a complaint on record so when you file for unemployment you have a good chance of getting it until you find something new.


I work two jobs already I'm not so concerned with unemployment. It sounds like my next official step if I chose to pursue it would be filing a grievance against this person. To me, that sounds like a great way to paint a target on my back.

DylansCandyBar

VexyMommy said:

I feel incredibly ungrateful, but I am really annoyed about the gender reveal party my friend is throwing us on Sunday and just don't want to be a part of it.  We already know the sex, it's last minute as hell since the invites went out via fb last night, and I'm really just not feeling it.  It's being thrown by the friend who asked to attend the ultrasound and brought his bf along too.  An excerpt from the description of the event "Is it a girl, a boy or a Boy George come find out and celebrate with us."  The picture for the event is Boy George.  I'm just. . .  there is not enough head shaking on earth to adequately express my feelings on this topic. 

Sweet fancy Moses.

kwaldy

FFFC: I've been picking fights with DH lately. Whoops. (But I feel they're justified. I won't get into it because this may turn into a rant and I know you don't want to hear that.)

Also, just almost peed my pants walking to the bathroom at work. Held it a little too long and it's not exactly a short walk to the bathroom lol

bellie1223

This is out of nowhere, but I really hate it when people don't use correct terminology for genitalia, I think calling it a fire hose or a cookie or whatever sounds ridiculous. 

dogsombrero

bellie1223 said:

This is out of nowhere, but I really hate it when people don't use correct terminology for genitalia, I think calling it a fire hose or a cookie or whatever sounds ridiculous. 

This reminds me of Elliott on Scrubs " calling her's "Bajingo"

modanz1

dogsombrero said:

bellie1223 said:

This is out of nowhere, but I really hate it when people don't use correct terminology for genitalia, I think calling it a fire hose or a cookie or whatever sounds ridiculous. 

This reminds me of Elliott on Scrubs " calling her's "Bajingo"

I still say bajingo sometimes for my own amusement.  I miss that show so much.

urby87

VexyMommy said:

I feel incredibly ungrateful, but I am really annoyed about the gender reveal party my friend is throwing us on Sunday and just don't want to be a part of it.  We already know the sex, it's last minute as hell since the invites went out via fb last night, and I'm really just not feeling it.  It's being thrown by the friend who asked to attend the ultrasound and brought his bf along too.  An excerpt from the description of the event "Is it a girl, a boy or a Boy George come find out and celebrate with us."  The picture for the event is Boy George.  I'm just. . .  there is not enough head shaking on earth to adequately express my feelings on this topic. 

...a girl, a boy, or a Boy George?  I can't roll my eyes hard enough at that tagline.  Say it ain't so!

VexyMommy

urby87 said:

...a girl, a boy, or a Boy George?  I can't roll my eyes hard enough at that tagline.  Say it ain't so!

It is so!  I read that this morning when I woke up around 4 and actually shook bf awake to ask him if he knew our friend was going to write that.  Like I said, there is not enough head shaking possible for this.   

urby87

Okay, so I don't know if this is FFFC-worthy or not, but my parents are separated (fairly recently and somewhat amicably).  My dad had been seeing some lady on the side for a long time and he can't seem to keep his stories straight at this point.  There are a lot of other details that I'll leave out for the sake of brevity, but I'm annoyed that I felt the need to let him know the invitation to my in-laws' house for the reveal cake did not include a plus-one.

VexyMommy

urby87 said:

Okay, so I don't know if this is FFFC-worthy or not, but my parents are separated (fairly recently and somewhat amicably).  My dad had been seeing some lady on the side for a long time and he can't seem to keep his stories straight at this point.  There are a lot of other details that I'll leave out for the sake of brevity, but I'm annoyed that I felt the need to let him know the invitation to my in-laws' house for the reveal cake did not include a plus-one.

That is a difficult situation.  My mother felt the need to let me know my dad was not invited to the surprise baby shower she's throwing me.  lol.  There's a lot of weird stuff when your parents are separated.

urby87

VexyMommy said:

urby87 said:

Okay, so I don't know if this is FFFC-worthy or not, but my parents are separated (fairly recently and somewhat amicably).  My dad had been seeing some lady on the side for a long time and he can't seem to keep his stories straight at this point.  There are a lot of other details that I'll leave out for the sake of brevity, but I'm annoyed that I felt the need to let him know the invitation to my in-laws' house for the reveal cake did not include a plus-one.

That is a difficult situation.  My mother felt the need to let me know my dad was not invited to the surprise baby shower she's throwing me.  lol.  There's a lot of weird stuff when your parents are separated.

That's rough.  That seems to be the case for a lot of separated parents, though, so at least I can be glad mine still tolerate each other.

kbonel

DH and are are arguing about the fact that childcare will be: 1 day his Fam, 1 day my Fam, 1 day working from home and 2 days of either nanny share or day care after 14 weeks of maternity leave... He wants to have his mom watch a 14 week old and a 1.5 year old... She's 70. Sounds like disaster waiting to happen. Also 1.5 year old is first grandkid and I fear will take priority.

Edit for clarity: 1.5 yr old is SILs kid.

elbou

VexyMommy said:

urby87 said:

...a girl, a boy, or a Boy George?  I can't roll my eyes hard enough at that tagline.  Say it ain't so!

It is so!  I read that this morning when I woke up around 4 and actually shook bf awake to ask him if he knew our friend was going to write that.  Like I said, there is not enough head shaking possible for this.   

I didn't think I had a confession this week. Then I read this part of your post, VexyMommy, and now I do. I have no idea what a Boy George is?!

modanz1

This is Boy George.  He is an English singer/songwriter and as you can see, an interesting character.

oliarnmom1517

FFFC

I am starting to hate my real dads side of the family.. I know hate is a strong word but the more things go on the worst it's getting..


They have been calling me from blocked numbers asking me why I'm not including them in anything with my son..


First off my real dad abandoned my mom with my little brother (who was weeks old at the time) and I (I was almost 2)

None of his family has done ANYTHING to be part of my life except my sister Sarah, my brother Matthew, and my cousin Chelsea. That's it. They are mostly mad because I won't forgive my drunk of a real dad who is also the biggest drug addict I know.. Even at the age of 52.. But his family is furious because I'm not inviting them to anything or trying to contact them.. When I was on my Facebook my phone number was on there for Mary Kay purposes and they were on there because I was trying to do things with them.. They never sent me a text or called me once... Until now that I won't include them.. They don't even know I'm having a boy they just know I'm pregnant..


Am I in the wrong for not wanting people around me or my child that don't even know anything about me and never wanted anything to do with me before now??

Sorry for the rant/novel ladies it's just getting under my skin...


Edit for spelling

MadBloom

I took a job 1 day a week from 2-8 just so DH is forced to do bedtime at least one night a week. #noshame

dogsombrero

oorl11052015 said:

FFFC I am starting to hate my real dads side of the family.. I know hate is a strong word but the more things go on the worst it's getting.. They have been calling me from blocked numbers asking me why I'm not including them in anything with my son.. First off my real dad abandoned my mom with my little brother (who was weeks old at the time) and I (I was almost 2) None of his family has done ANYTHING to be part of my life except my sister Sarah, my brother Matthew, and my cousin Chelsea. That's it. They are mostly mad because I won't forgive my drunk of a real dad who is also the biggest drug addict I know.. Even at the age of 52.. But his family is furious because I'm not inviting them to anything or trying to contact them.. When I was on my Facebook my phone number was on there for Mary Kay purposes and they were on there because I was trying to do things with them.. They never sent me a text or called me once... Until now that I won't include them.. They don't even know I'm having a boy they just know I'm pregnant.. Am I in the wrong for not wanting people around me or my child that don't even know anything about me and never wanted anything to do with me before now?? Sorry for the rant/novel ladies it's just getting under my skin... Edit for spelling

You are not wrong, they sound toxic. My bio father is a recovering addict and I cut off contact for several years until he got himself together. Family tried to guilt me etc. but I had to do what was right for myself at the time.

KeHill08

modanz1 said:

This is Boy George.  He is an English singer/songwriter and as you can see, an interesting character.

I had no idea who he was either, and now that I'm seeing it... ohhhh myyyy! That to me is pretty messed up to say, especially when inviting people to a gender reveal party that you don't really seem to want in the first place. Wow... I'm just sorry!

sarahsnowball

modanz1 said:

This is Boy George.  He is an English singer/songwriter and as you can see, an interesting character.

Just wanted to add, he was a huge gay icon in the 80's (which is when this pic is from).
He's middle aged now and still performs, although his style has been toned down a lot.

oliarnmom1517

dogsombrero said:

oorl11052015 said:

FFFC

I am starting to hate my real dads side of the family.. I know hate is a strong word but the more things go on the worst it's getting..


They have been calling me from blocked numbers asking me why I'm not including them in anything with my son..


First off my real dad abandoned my mom with my little brother (who was weeks old at the time) and I (I was almost 2)

None of his family has done ANYTHING to be part of my life except my sister Sarah, my brother Matthew, and my cousin Chelsea. That's it. They are mostly mad because I won't forgive my drunk of a real dad who is also the biggest drug addict I know.. Even at the age of 52.. But his family is furious because I'm not inviting them to anything or trying to contact them.. When I was on my Facebook my phone number was on there for Mary Kay purposes and they were on there because I was trying to do things with them.. They never sent me a text or called me once... Until now that I won't include them.. They don't even know I'm having a boy they just know I'm pregnant..


Am I in the wrong for not wanting people around me or my child that don't even know anything about me and never wanted anything to do with me before now??

Sorry for the rant/novel ladies it's just getting under my skin...


Edit for spelling

You are not wrong, they sound toxic. My bio father is a recovering addict and I cut off contact for several years until he got himself together. Family tried to guilt me etc. but I had to do what was right for myself at the time.




That's what I'm hoping he will do and if he does start to change and show me that he's turning over a new leaf in life then I will start to include him but until that point I don't want that around my son..

MargaretC5

I am going to start my FFFC with a PSA, beets can turn your pee bright red.

I went to the bathroom yesterday and when I stood up I saw the bowl was bright red. I freaked out! I had no idea where I was bleeding from. I went to talk to a coworker/friend to ask them if they think I should go to the ER (yep I was totally freaking out). She was not sure but told me my mouth was bright red earlier in the day, which reminded me I had a beet salad for lunch and Google confirmed beets can turn your pee red.

And auto correct wants to turn beet to beer.

MargaretC5

VexyMommy said:

I feel incredibly ungrateful, but I am really annoyed about the gender reveal party my friend is throwing us on Sunday and just don't want to be a part of it.  We already know the sex, it's last minute as hell since the invites went out via fb last night, and I'm really just not feeling it.  It's being thrown by the friend who asked to attend the ultrasound and brought his bf along too.  An excerpt from the description of the event "Is it a girl, a boy or a Boy George come find out and celebrate with us."  The picture for the event is Boy George.  I'm just. . .  there is not enough head shaking on earth to adequately express my feelings on this topic. 

If you do not come suddenly come down with a cold, please do share the details of how this party goes. If that tag line is that bad, I cannot imagine how bad the rest of the party is going to be.

AnnamariauDoris

VexyMommy said:

I feel incredibly ungrateful, but I am really annoyed about the gender reveal party my friend is throwing us on Sunday and just don't want to be a part of it.  We already know the sex, it's last minute as hell since the invites went out via fb last night, and I'm really just not feeling it.  It's being thrown by the friend who asked to attend the ultrasound and brought his bf along too.  An excerpt from the description of the event "Is it a girl, a boy or a Boy George come find out and celebrate with us."  The picture for the event is Boy George.  I'm just. . .  there is not enough head shaking on earth to adequately express my feelings on this topic. 

You might be lucky also. Gay people actually like good food and drinks. Might as well enjoy that at least.
My fffc.....i have a horible sometimes unberable pain in my right back side from my shoulder to my right butt cheeck. Ii feel like I have a big rock there. And now on my lower back side I have huge red painfull pimples. My face started to fill with acnee again and my back also. It should be that time of the month. Or at least around that time. I still have the monthly pain and acnee like before pregnancy.....i just feel so ugh....

KeHill08

My FFFC... I am beyond happy that DH has told me that he will deal with his mom from now on and that I shouldn't bother to try anymore! I've tried to get along with her and to include her in the pregnancy and just our life in general but it seems to be a lost cause. She doesn't listen to what I have to say, she doesn't respect what I have to say or any of my wishes (is asking to not be hugged constantly because I'm not a touchy person really that much to ask?... among others), and somehow makes absolutely positively everything about herself. Last night DH and I were talking and he said understands I'm sick of trying and that he gets that she doesn't listen to me or respect what I say and she listens to him and he doesn't care if she gets pissy and offended at something he says (although she is far less likely to when it's coming from him)... so yay! I'm soooo glad I don't have to deal with her! Well very little anymore! Ohh happy day!

Falchas

The fact that there are people who don't know who Boy George is, is making me feel so, so, so very old.  So my confession is that I am sitting here throwing myself an "I feel old" pity party.

thegingeravenger

FFCF- My favorite pandora station is Boy George Radio. I've been listening to it all day for some reason

Peony1982

Falchas said:

The fact that there are people who don't know who Boy George is, is making me feel so, so, so very old.  So my confession is that I am sitting here throwing myself an "I feel old" pity party.

You beat me to it. It's like the time a few years ago I had an intern who said to me...."oh, I love that new song from that NEW group NKOTB. Have you heard of them?" So old.

SamanthaAshley820

Peony1982 said:

Falchas said:

The fact that there are people who don't know who Boy George is, is making me feel so, so, so very old.  So my confession is that I am sitting here throwing myself an "I feel old" pity party.

You beat me to it. It's like the time a few years ago I had an intern who said to me...."oh, I love that new song from that NEW group NKOTB. Have you heard of them?" So old.

I'm 23 and I know who boy George is, but I grew up on classic rock and (some) 80s music! Lol up until I was about 10 years old other than the backstreet boys my favorite band was the Steve Miller band. and if I heard anyone call NKOTB new, I would cry literal tears!

I guess my FFFC should be music related now...I've seen backstreet boys live 4 times, I keep stalking the internet for new tour dates and I ordered their movie online yesterday. Lol

QueenWaldorf2

All this talk about music makes me miss TRL.

jscasher

There is a younger girl on my Facebook, maybe 15 or so, (coworkers daughter) who took one of those "who is your celebrity boyfriend" tests. She got Gerard Way from My Chemical Romance. Her post said "idk who he is but he's cute!"

Now I wasn't a huge fan of the band growing up, but it was huge around my junior high years. So I told her, oh he's the lead singer of this band, and she said "nope, still don't know who they are!"

I'm only 25, but apparently old enough for a generation gap in music now

kmkrushi

jscasher said:

There is a younger girl on my Facebook, maybe 15 or so, (coworkers daughter) who took one of those "who is your celebrity boyfriend" tests. She got Gerard Way from My Chemical Romance. Her post said "idk who he is but he's cute!"

Now I wasn't a huge fan of the band growing up, but it was huge around my junior high years. So I told her, oh he's the lead singer of this band, and she said "nope, still don't know who they are!"

I'm only 25, but apparently old enough for a generation gap in music now

I love My Chemical Romance! I was shocked when I found out a friend's 13 year old daughter is actually obsessed with them... and it's not because of her parents. I have no idea how she heard of them!