Not comfortable with breast feeding

jenn2132

So my sister and I were discussing breastfeeding the other day and she mentioned to me that she never really felt comfortable breastfeeding because to her breasts are a sexual body part so it always felt awkward. She also mentioned that she felt less uncomfortable nursing her daughter because she is a girl than her son. I've actually heard of women feeling this way before so it really wasn't surprising but for me breastfeeding my son was very natural. I think what peaked my interest in the conversation was the comfort level of breast feeding from boy to girl. I'm having my first daughter and I'm wondering if it will feel equally as natural to me, I suppose I just assume it will. Anyhow I guess this post isn't really posing a question just curious to get some feedback from the group, possibly from those that have breast fed a child of each sex and from those that personally don't care for it.

Bingj

That is really interesting. Breastfeeding has been very natural for me as well and I have two boys with the third boy on the way. I definitely had a hard time seeing my breasts as a "sexual" part of me. My husband knows that they are off limits during that time. So I almost have an opposite outlook from your sister. I've often wondered if the reason I see them more of a food source them sexual has do with the fact that I'm very small chested so I don't think I've ever seen them as a sexual body part for me. The psychology behind it all makes me very curious about other moms experiences.

savedbygrace1213

I will be a FTM and I have been worried that I just won't like beast feeding. I have never really thought about it being less comfortable to breastfeed a son or a daughter..
I have always been sensitive about having my boobs touched even by my husband and this makes me worried I will hate breast feeding. But I am hoping I am wrong and I will give it a good shot before I decide.

MamaOwl15

While breastfeeding was difficult for me and I never really enjoyed it, it wasn't because it felt unnatural or wrong. On the other hand, while breastfeeding, I feel weird about my husband's interest in my boobs. I don't know that I've ever thought of breasts as exclusively sexual, but multi-functional.

edavis926

I'my a ftm and plan to give breast feeding as much of a shot as I can. I have started getting increasingly uncomfortable with my SOs interest in them lately though. I think Because my brain has started associating them as a food source now. hopefully that goes back to normal after because he loves them!

I am super uncomfortable with the thought of breastfeeding in public. I think I'll be okay if I'm covered but we'll see. I don't really notice if anyone else does it just my personal comfort level.

babyynumbertwo2015

When your breastfeeding your boobs are about as sexual as your vagina is when the baby is coming out. I like what the poster said above, they are "multi-functional"!! To the ftm's, there is nothing like the bond with your child while you are nursing them. It'll be hard as hell in the beginning, but trust me that bond and the feeling you get while nursing is so very very much worth it all!!!

komorebi

I've nursed two babies, am totally fine with the fact that breasts are functional and sexual but id be lying if i said i didn't wonder if it would be less comfortable nursing my baby boy. I went to my boob guru (my mom) and she laughed at me. So i figure it will just fall into place and it's just one of those weird thoughts i have left over from my prebaby life.

LiveNLove44

I have only breast fed one, and it was my daughter, but I feel equally comfortable as I look forward to breastfeeding our son on the way. My breasts were functional and sexual, and I had no issue either way. I think it's fairly dependent on the individual with regard to the experience. I'm interested to read what others' experiences have been or what they are anticipating!

kaza512

I work in this field and I cannot tell you the many amazing theories of why breastfeeding is wrong.  I have heard what your sister says before with the added thought that breastfeeding a girl might make her gay (which just makes me sad to hear).  I have also heard partners say that they don't like breast feeding because mom's breasts are his (linking it to breasts being sexual) which makes me cringe. Finally I hear that "breastfeeding isn't natural" all the time, which makes me chuckle a little to myself.  I do appreciate people's honest discomfort with it, and tell them they have a choice in how they feed their children, but I want mom's to make an informed choice, not one off of urban myths and tall tales.  I think the fact that you find this a little intriguing and not something that just makes sense to you means that it won't make a difference whether you had a boy or girl.

jenn2132

Yes I'm just intrigued by everyone's differing opinions on the topic. I actually loved breastfeeding my son, I cried when I couldn't any longer but my son is the only experience I have to reflect on so naturally it does make me wonder if my experience this time with my daughter will be the same. I too like @edavis926 Feel a bit weird about my husband touching my breasts and I think it's because I'm already mentally viewing them as a food source.

twogirlsandagreen

I was never uncomfortable BF my daughters at all, nor do I think I will be with my son. It always bothered my husband to see me nursing because he loves my breasts (especially nipples) and view them as his pleasure toys. I cannot STAND for them to be touched during pregnancy or lactation because they are sensitive (not in a pleasurable way) for starters, but they are on reserve for my baby.

I also have a couple of friends who were wildly uncomfortable with the idea of nursing their babies and decided to not even try it (no judgement). It is so interesting how sexualized breasts are. I really don't get anything out of them being played with during foreplay or sex even when not pregnant. Men love them though. Just so strange.

Sballerina

Sometimes I can't help but think feelings of awkwardness about the dual purposes of breasts is in large part a modern phenomenon - let's say the last 100 years. I have not done research on the topic, but based on my general knowledge of history 200 or more years ago breastfeeding was not so much of an option as a necessity. Women probably came up with solutions for feeding babies if they were physically unable to nurse (goat, sheep, or cow milk, etc.), but they did not have access to the formulas we have now. Unless the family owned such an amimal, it may have been expensive or unfeasible to use animal milk. Add to that the hypersexualized culture we have now that can tend to focus on individual body parts rather than a whole person (or even merely the whole BODY), and poof! Challenges wrapping our heads around the fact boobs can simultaneously mean food for babies and pleasure for husband. I am not in any way saying it is weird to feel the dichotomy, just that modern factors likely make it more intense.
For my part before I got married, I much more easily understood breasts as baby feeders than as objects of pleasure.

hbrooks09

When I found out I was having a girl I thought about breastfeeding more and if it would be awkward and I think I talked myself into it being awkward! For some reason I thought it would be easier with a boy. But now I know I was just being irrational but I can totally see where those fears come from.

Imangan

I have to be honest here I am a FTM and in no way do I feel comfortable breast feeding - maybe it's my age at 35 I've always seen them as sexual and I can't get over or adjust that they would now be a food source.

When I see pictures of BF mums I feel strangely uncomfortable and cannot imagine how I could put my child there.

I know this is "wrong" I've read many articles and understand the benefits but for me it's just a no go.

I've had a breast reduction that went wrong so have had 3 surgeries on this area -maybe that has something to do with my hang ups.

Interesting post and I wish you all a happy feeding time whichever way you choose :-)

mrsdhouse89

@jenn2132 - I've had the same thoughts as you. I didn't mind breast feeding my son but have often wondered if it will be the same with a girl. I assume once it happens and she's here those feelings of doubt will disappear. My boobs are sensitive, just like @babycable stated has been a thought in my mind about if affecting me being successful this time around. I was able to block out those feelings with my son and really enjoyed the bond I had with him that I'm praying the same will happen with my daughter. Worst case scenario I will just pump so my babe will get her nutrients she needs.

MamaOwl15

I find it curious that our culture cannot seem to get over breasts as exclusively sexual when many parts of our bodies are multi-functional. Legs, for example. Our legs exist to transport us around. We use them to get places, maybe to run or dance or fight off an attacker. Yet legs are also a part that men find appealing on a woman, just as breasts appeal to them. Or necks, which exist to hold our heads up and allow us to turn them, yet our necks, when kissed or caressed can be an erogenous zone. Yet breasts are the one thing our culture has latched onto (no pun interned) as purely sexual despite having another intended purpose.

leah665

I can see where people are coming from, however I've never felt that breasts are only sexual. I think it's because I was the eldest of four children and saw my mom breastfeeding my siblings. For me it's always been a normal part of life.

Krysta6

This is definitely interesting! I don't personally have this concern, the concern over if it is a boy or girl kind of creeps me out to be honest with you. So if its a boy someone would feel okay because its the opposite sex but if its a girl its not okay? I find it totally acceptable that someone is just not comfortable breast feeding (hey I may end up hating it!), but to be comfortable feeding a boy this way over a girl seems a little perverse to me. This has nothing to do with sex or who you are sexually attracted to? I don't know I just kind of shudder at the idea of someone having this issue and would encourage them to have counseling (I'm not trying to be an ass it just raises red flags in my head).

I've been to nude beaches in Europe and breasts come in all shapes and sizes. I think the more you see real breasts the less sexual they become. I think American men especially get bombarded with perfect perky breast images and that is all they see, take them to a nude beach and let them see 70 year old breasts and they won't find those sexual! 

srahluvsgrizz

This is a really interesting conversation and something I've thought about a lot. I BF DD for a year, and I admit that before she was born I worried that it would be awkward or weird. As soon as she got here, it just felt natural. However, I wouldn't let DH touch them. They were way too sensitive, I was afraid of hosing him down, and I just couldn't see them as being sexy. As soon as I weaned her, it was a total flip in mindset. They were suddenly "mine" again, and I never once missed BF (besides when DD was fussy, and I remembered how easy I had it). I'm sure the same thing will happen the second time around, too, but for now I'll let hubby enjoy them since he's about to kiss them goodbye (so to speak).

danixbanani24

I'm a FTM and I wasn't breastfed by my mother and never really thought about it until I became pregnant.  Two out of three mommy friends of mine breastfed their little ones (one couldn't because of poor latch and other reasons).  My hospital where I'm delivering is a "breastfeeding only" initiative hospital.  My mom was bothered by that but it honestly doesn't bother me...who cares if I don't get a free canister of formula? lol

Anyway, because my hospital is a strong supporter of breastfeeding, I decided I will of course take the support/consultation and try to breastfeed but I won't necessarily be devastated if I can't/it doesn't work out as I sometimes see/hear about.  I'm having a boy but to be honest I wouldn't have felt weird about breastfeeding either sex.  It is natural!  It makes me laugh to think people who claim it is "unnatural" when for how many years before a bottle was invented did women breastfeed?  

I do, however, feel strange about whipping my boob out in front of whomever.  I'm just a very private/shy with my body type person...I don't even like to be naked in front of my mom!  (She then yells at me that she "wiped my ass for years".)  I'm not a breast feeding "shamer" though...if I see a woman or a friend breastfeeding in public/in front of me, it doesn't disgust me or insult me or whatever.  But, personally, I will be using nursing covers or a blanket to cover myself and my little one while breastfeeding.  And I won't be exclusively breastfeeding either since I have to return to work so a bottle will be introduced as well.  Anyway, that's my take on it.  I just don't feel comfortable showing OTHER people my boob and my baby breastfeeding.  There's also a lot of creeps in NYC...lol

amberrmariee20

My friend who recently had a baby said she couldn't breast feed because she felt awkward. I never even knew this way a thing !

komorebi

I think it's natural to question these things. For a ftm who hasn't grown up around bf it can seem very taboo. But getting those thoughts out and processing it all is a great step to getting over it.

My brother was bf for 3 years, my so for a year and they both had to get past their own cultural hang ups seeing me do it initially. The way breasts area presented in our culture has effectively brain washed many people. I don't think it's perverse to wonder if you might hold onto those reservations. But i know from experience that it isn't sexual at all and such a cool process.

babyynumbertwo2015

I guess i struggle with women choosing not to because it's "awkward". Breast milk is crucial to your baby's development. Of course formula is an alternative for women who can't produce or babies who won't latch, but formula will never be breastmilk. The antibodies that are passed from mother to baby are so incredibly important, and it's something formula will never be able to give your baby. As a mother, I don't understand how you couldn't look past the awkwardness if that's how you feel in order to give your baby the absolute best start to life. There is nothing worse then seeing you baby suffer with a cold or other illness that could have been prevented by breastfeeding!

Rikki_5

I think it's because society thinks our breasts are sexual, we grow as little girls thinking of our breasts as sexual.  If we grew up in a society where breasts were looked at as they should be - feeding devices for babies then possibly we wouldn't feel this way. If we could go topless at beaches like they do in Europe and let it all hang out for everyone to see everyone breastfeeding in public instead of being sequestered to some small area or having to use a nursing cover then it wouldn't be a big deal. I think it's changing though but slowly. Also, I asked my husband to taste my milk and he said it's gross.  I know I'm weird, but I asked him if he would take a sip of it when it comes in...lol.  He said it's gross and no way.  Men don't think of our breasts like that probably because they grow up thinking about boobs so much sexually.  I think breasts they can be both.  Also, I'm not really looking forward to breastfeeding and I'm hoping to only do it in the beginning and then switch to bottle feeding.  

VioletandRose

babyynumbertwo2015 said:

I guess i struggle with women choosing not to because it's "awkward". Breast milk is crucial to your baby's development. Of course formula is an alternative for women who can't produce or babies who won't latch, but formula will never be breastmilk. The antibodies that are passed from mother to baby are so incredibly important, and it's something formula will never be able to give your baby. As a mother, I don't understand how you couldn't look past the awkwardness if that's how you feel in order to give your baby the absolute best start to life. There is nothing worse then seeing you baby suffer with a cold or other illness that could have been prevented by breastfeeding!

I completely agree with this. I find it interesting that others feel awkward about it, but can respect it. However, I completely understand if it doesn't fit your lifestyle, if you don't have the time to dedicate to it, etc, but in terms of feeling awkward...that's not an excuse to me. If that's the case, I feel like it's something you have to take steps to "get over" in order to provide for your child. I'm a pretty modest person and wouldn't be comfortable whipping out my boobs in front of anyone except my fiancee, but they make covers for that reason. My brother and I were both breastfed, so I always knew why my breasts were there, and that sexual reasons were subsidiary. I am not even close to being one of those crunchy, organic moms, but I really pray that I don't have any problems breastfeeding, because I'd be devastated if I couldn't provide for my child in that way.

Kristyhana

I read above from someone that the breasts are off limits to DH when breastfeeding. Like the feeding function takes over from the sexual function. Am I alone in thinking they can be both sexual and nurturing at the same time? I'll go so far to say that I think it's hot when DH plays and sucks on my boobies when I'm lactating. Am I just a weirdo?

JaqiDec04

Kristyhana said:

I read above from someone that the breasts are off limits to DH when breastfeeding. Like the feeding function takes over from the sexual function. Am I alone in thinking they can be both sexual and nurturing at the same time? I'll go so far to say that I think it's hot when DH plays and sucks on my boobies when I'm lactating. Am I just a weirdo?

For me, if DH touched them, even a bit, they dripped like crazy, even right after feeding. Sex was a wet, sticky, messy ordeal until I stopped BFing. So I wasn't crazy about him touching them, and for the first 4 months or so, we usually had sex with my bra on. Eventually, I got over it. LOL.

I breastfed my daughter for 16 months, she would never take a bottle. After you guys brought up this thread, I asked DH how he'd feel about me doing it with our son for so long, and he just kind of stared at me like I was nuts, and said "What difference does it make that he's a boy?" I laughed. I guess I thought he might see it differently. Like I was being a "helicopter mom" or babying him.

But we both agreed that we were done with the BFing at 12 months, and wished DD would have been. So that is our goal. We'll see. DS will be a fall/winter baby, I might go through the winter just for the antibodies.

przemosbabe

I'm worried too for the same reasons your sister said. I'm gonna try though and I'll pump if worse comes to worse.

Kristyhana

JaqiDec04 said:

Kristyhana said:

I read above from someone that the breasts are off limits to DH when breastfeeding. Like the feeding function takes over from the sexual function. Am I alone in thinking they can be both sexual and nurturing at the same time? I'll go so far to say that I think it's hot when DH plays and sucks on my boobies when I'm lactating. Am I just a weirdo?

For me, if DH touched them, even a bit, they dripped like crazy, even right after feeding. Sex was a wet, sticky, messy ordeal until I stopped BFing. So I wasn't crazy about him touching them, and for the first 4 months or so, we usually had sex with my bra on. Eventually, I got over it. LOL.

I breastfed my daughter for 16 months, she would never take a bottle. After you guys brought up this thread, I asked DH how he'd feel about me doing it with our son for so long, and he just kind of stared at me like I was nuts, and said "What difference does it make that he's a boy?" I laughed. I guess I thought he might see it differently. Like I was being a "helicopter mom" or babying him.

But we both agreed that we were done with the BFing at 12 months, and wished DD would have been. So that is our goal. We'll see. DS will be a fall/winter baby, I might go through the winter just for the antibodies.

I never made so much milk that I dripped or leaked. My daughter had to work for it lol. I guess it would be different if that were the case.

midge519

Kristyhana said:

I read above from someone that the breasts are off limits to DH when breastfeeding. Like the feeding function takes over from the sexual function. Am I alone in thinking they can be both sexual and nurturing at the same time? I'll go so far to say that I think it's hot when DH plays and sucks on my boobies when I'm lactating. Am I just a weirdo?

I don't think you're a weirdo at all. I started to be able to get a drop or two out at about 12 weeks (weird but I could smell it so I was curious as to if I could express any) but didn't say anything to my SO. One day after sex he told me he tasted something sweet but didn't want to freak me out. I told him I could get some out but not much. I found it sexy that he was comfortable enough to bring it up to me and that he enjoyed it!! I'm sure when we start having sex after the baby I will find it sexy for him to do it then too!

komorebi

It scared my guy at first but he got over it. And by the time i finally let him near me he would take what he could get. I don't usually leak but i have sprayed him on accident when i was expressing near him. He was so happy about my supply since i was struggling he didn't even freak at all. And he's such a wuss about the female body. We don't fart in front of each others or use the restroom and he has never looked when i pushed the baby out.

gerbies

Breast feeding was an awful experience for me. My son was 10 weeks early and though the hospital pushed it on me, it never really happened. My milk never fully came in and he was too small to really figure it out. I pumped for 7 weeks providing what I could, so he received the essential antibodies during his 2 first months of life. I found pumping easier to do, but incredibly humiliating. Just sitting there with this machine on you like a cow. I was relieved my milk didn't come in fully, so I didn't have to deal with the pushiness of the hospital or from some overly zealous BF proponents. What I find strange is when women continue breast feeding beyond when a child can ask for it themselves. Seems odd! With this one, I am not sure what I will do. I dread the idea of breast feeding, but it does offer something beneficial. At most, I will breast feed for 3 months, which is how long I have off from work...

DeeGreer

I'm excited to try breastfeeding. I'm at FTM so I understand there may be issues and I know it will be hard, but my mom and boyfriend are very encouraging. As far as feeling awkward, it's never crossed my mind. I agree our breasts are multi-functional...food and "fun-buttons" lol!! But I'm also with the "free the nipple" campaign.

komorebi

gerbies said:

Breast feeding was an awful experience for me. My son was 10 weeks early and though the hospital pushed it on me, it never really happened. My milk never fully came in and he was too small to really figure it out. I pumped for 7 weeks providing what I could, so he received the essential antibodies during his 2 first months of life. I found pumping easier to do, but incredibly humiliating. Just sitting there with this machine on you like a cow. I was relieved my milk didn't come in fully, so I didn't have to deal with the pushiness of the hospital or from some overly zealous BF proponents.

What I find strange is when women continue breast feeding beyond when a child can ask for it themselves. Seems odd!

With this one, I am not sure what I will do. I dread the idea of breast feeding, but it does offer something beneficial. At most, I will breast feed for 3 months, which is how long I have off from work...

Sorry for your experience. Did they ever offer you donor milk? It's strictly screened for preemies. My silly had a similar experience but formula would have killed my nephew as he was a micro preemie.

However extended breastfeeding is not strange. All of these arbitrary cutoffs are not based in science just societal norms. I nursed my second dd for almost three years. She asked for it.she talked very well, she had teeth, but she was still my baby. And she even remembers it and tells me about it. It was such a struggle to nurse her in the beginning I feel blessed to have been able to do it that long.

DeeGreer

@komorebi kudos mama! 3 years is incredible! It's definitely societal norms that dictate most people's opinions on breastfeeding. In Georgia there are no laws that keep a place from kicking you out for breastfeeding in public...but there are no laws that say you can't do it either. I don't understand the people who call the cops or get a manager of a place for a woman breastfeeding. And then try to equate it to "well pooping is natural but we don't do that in front of people"

alys3021

Just personally so uncomfortable bf.. why, no idea.. just how i feel.. plus due to a previous augmentation, they are super sensitive and hurt either way always have to wear a sports bra now that I'm pregnant to avoid anything rubbing up against them, cant imagine anything near them. MAYBE I'll try to pump but I'm pretty sure it will hurt like heck.. idk

gerbies

komorebi said:

Breast feeding was an awful experience for me. My son was 10 weeks early and though the hospital pushed it on me, it never really happened. My milk never fully came in and he was too small to really figure it out. I pumped for 7 weeks providing what I could, so he received the essential antibodies during his 2 first months of life. I found pumping easier to do, but incredibly humiliating. Just sitting there with this machine on you like a cow. I was relieved my milk didn't come in fully, so I didn't have to deal with the pushiness of the hospital or from some overly zealous BF proponents. What I find strange is when women continue breast feeding beyond when a child can ask for it themselves. Seems odd! With this one, I am not sure what I will do. I dread the idea of breast feeding, but it does offer something beneficial. At most, I will breast feed for 3 months, which is how long I have off from work...

Sorry for your experience. Did they ever offer you donor milk? It's strictly screened for preemies. My silly had a similar experience but formula would have killed my nephew as he was a micro preemie. However extended breastfeeding is not strange. All of these arbitrary cutoffs are not based in science just societal norms. I nursed my second dd for almost three years. She asked for it.she talked very well, she had teeth, but she was still my baby. And she even remembers it and tells me about it. It was such a struggle to nurse her in the beginning I feel blessed to have been able to do it that long.

I was not offered donor milk, perhaps because I pumped enough to keep up with his needs for 6-7 weeks (they eat so little as a preemie in the beginning). For me, I would never BF that long. I think it's very strange when I see a speaking toddler/preschooler who goes up to their mother and ask to feed. At that point, it seems more out of habit vs. for food/sustenance. Even considering my thoughts on breast feeding, everyone has the freedom to do what they want. I cannot imagine people calling the police...unless it was a big kid. I wouldn't do it, but I can understand why people woukd be uncomfortable seeing a four year-old going under his mom's shirt in a restaurant.

komorebi

It still provides health benefits. She only nursed maybe twice a day or when she was a little under the weather. I don't think it's for everyone, but my goals of nursing never aligned with 3 years by far. Once it was happening it seemed normal. Even my SO was surprised by how whatever it was.

@DeeGreer you know, i don't even know the laws in florida, but I've never been harassed. I've been told I'm intimidating and was never the kind of person to get pushed around, which is funny because I'm actually an introvert. I'm better online. Lol. I need to check out the laws. Id definitely never stand by and watch a mother be harassed.

HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare

VioletandRose said:

babyynumbertwo2015 said:

I guess i struggle with women choosing not to because it's "awkward". Breast milk is crucial to your baby's development. Of course formula is an alternative for women who can't produce or babies who won't latch, but formula will never be breastmilk. The antibodies that are passed from mother to baby are so incredibly important, and it's something formula will never be able to give your baby. As a mother, I don't understand how you couldn't look past the awkwardness if that's how you feel in order to give your baby the absolute best start to life. There is nothing worse then seeing you baby suffer with a cold or other illness that could have been prevented by breastfeeding!

I completely agree with this. I find it interesting that others feel awkward about it, but can respect it. However, I completely understand if it doesn't fit your lifestyle, if you don't have the time to dedicate to it, etc, but in terms of feeling awkward...that's not an excuse to me. If that's the case, I feel like it's something you have to take steps to "get over" in order to provide for your child. I'm a pretty modest person and wouldn't be comfortable whipping out my boobs in front of anyone except my fiancee, but they make covers for that reason. My brother and I were both breastfed, so I always knew why my breasts were there, and that sexual reasons were subsidiary. I am not even close to being one of those crunchy, organic moms, but I really pray that I don't have any problems breastfeeding, because I'd be devastated if I couldn't provide for my child in that way.


This really pisses me off. You shouldn't have to have a "valid excuse" to not BF. I didn't BF my DD simply because I had no interest in doing so and wanted to leave my breasts as sexual things for me and my husband. Not choosing or BF or any reason is a Peter toy valid reason.

And to say your baby will get sick and you have to watch them suffer because you chose not to BF, not cool.

Quit shaming FF moms for choosing that because they don't have an acceptable "excuse" to provide to you.

woowoojellybean

Growing up I watched my mom breastfeed my brother and sisters. I was 11 when my sister was born and my other sister and brother followed shortly after. my mom would openly breastfeed around me so I grew up for it to be natural. And I experienced her feeding both sexes without a problem.

I'm now pregnant with my second boy. I bf my 1st for about 9 months. I was heart broken when I stopped but school and work got in the way. I was only 19 when I had him and in the beginning it was awkward for everyone. Not too many people in either of our families breastfed their children. But I stuck through it and it was definitely worth the experience. The ups and the downs of it. For my first pregnancy it was definitely an adjustment for me to think of my breast as sexual and food. But this time around I don't have any problems. I can enjoy them now sexually and I know when the time comes to feed the baby my husband and I will easily adjust to them being food source. During breastfeeding my boobs are almost always off limits

I will admit before we found out the sex I worried about breastfeeding a girl and if it would be different. But I know it was just those thoughts that pop up. I don't think I would have a problem either way because when it comes to baby it's not sexual, its natural. It's what we were intended to do with our babies no matter the sex

karlimeliss

I feel thankful that I was raised in a breastfeeding family. I can remember being a kid and seeing my aunts nursing my little cousins. Because of this I never ever thought about not breast feeding. I nursed my son for 2 years. I'm sure it was hard, but like I said since I had much family support and never even thought of not doing it I just did it!
I have a close friend who is a nurse in the maternity ward. She doesn't have children of her own yet, but is a miracle worker when it comes to helping new mommies with nursing. While in the hospital she would take my boob and shove it into my sons mouth at the right moment. It took my a few days to figure out how far in the nipple should be (it kills otherwise). She has been putting boobs in baby's mouths for so long now she does not see them as sexual at all anymore!