I'm fat (rant)

breannabread

32 weeks with twins right now and this morning my grandmother decided to tell me that I should cut down on my eating because I'm getting fat... I'm not exactly tiny but I'm not huge either besides the bump of course and have been on track with weight gain the whole pregnancy. Has anyone else had an issue with people not having a filter on what they say? Super frustrated.

emmiemae08

Throughout this pregnancy the only comments I've gotten are negative ones about my weight (from my midwives as well). I was 130 lbs prepregnancy and I'm now 165 at 32.5 weeks. I know I've gained a lot, but I only eat when hungry and I eat so much more healthy than before. After all of the negative comments, I broke down at walmart yesterday when the cashier said I looked small for this far along. I thanked her and took off.

People need to mind their own business. We will gain weight differently, and with twins you have even more excuse to gain a little bit more. If you are right on course then try not to worry. Hugs.

Wering

My mother in law was polite enough to point out that "all of my body fat must be shifting from my stomach to my back" during my first pregnancy. Gee, thanks. I now have a complex regarding back fat, BTW.

Don't listen to what anyone else is saying. If your doctor/midwife is not concerned, you shouldn't be either.

mrswiebe09

Uhg that is so frustrating! No one gains the same, there is no one size fits all pregnancy.
What is it about pregnant women that makes people word vomit the stupidest stuff?!

babyyyy3

A Filipino lady on the elevator (one I never met before) told me I was huge and that I must be having twins because no one due in 7 weeks is as fat as I am. She's a size -0 to begin with. I took my fat butt off the elevator and let her know she was rude and shouldn't ever speak to any woman like that again.

puccagirl77

Yes. I got a pile-on at work yesterday. After a meeting like 5 people felt the need to tell me how huge I looked, that I looked like I was about to pop, etc. Luckily I was in a good mood and just batted my eyelashes and said "I don't know what your talking about." and "the baby is the size of a pineapple!" Just ignore the feedback. Unless your doctor is concerned, you don't need to be concerned. I am sure it is well-meaning just like my coworkers.

prpl11butterfly

Had a birthday gathering for my brother on Monday night. My moms best friend was there and said she thinks its triplets. She was joking and says twins all the time but lately its starting to bother me more. My grandmother also said I looked like I was walking backwards. Again, all in good humor but I still found it hurtful. Since these are prominent people in my life, I hear it more. A random person would not hurt the same way. I do intend on mentioning it to my mom so that she can casually address it. I am a big girl, and would say something but I feel much to emotional lately.

mjones0721

I started showing alot earlier with this pregnancy than my first which prompted my whole family to comment that I must be having twins constantly (I'm not) and other things like that. I'm also carrying the baby a lot different than DS which made my grandma think I was having a girl, until the day she comes out with "idk hun your ass is getting awfully wide so maybe you are having a boy" lol thanks grandma that makes me feel so much better. Trouble is she was right, I am having a boy lol

pabeybaby

My mom said to me once "Hey Fatso" while eating a box of junior mints. (The little chocolate candies)... I was like look who's talking. She's on the heavy side herself. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black!

Robin910

At my baby shower last week my BIL whom I hadn't seen in a month or two said, "wow you got fat!" And I said yes, there's a baby in there. He follows up by saying, "you know what comes next don't ya? Stretch marks!" was speechless. He is only 12 but still, he should know way better than to say that to somebody AND I'm sure he hears those comments from someone else (MIL) because how does a 12 yr old boy know about stretch marks?!

Same baby shower and my mom had everyone play the game about guessing how many inches around my belly bump is (I didn't know ahead of time this was going to be a game). After she measures me she said "wow, you look bigger than that!" I started to cry in front of everyone. It was super embarrassing.

thesportsgal

People are serious dip shits. The only thing they should be saying to you are "wow you look beautiful today" and "can I get you something to eat?"

I'm on the opposite side of this - everyone saying "you're too small to be having twins". I'm trying my ass off to have two big, healthy babies and those comments do not help.

So it sucks both ways . And I'm sure you are doing just fine - remember, people think pregnant ladies are fair game for stupid comments and unfortunately, that doesn't seem to ever change.

jentatu

People are ridiculous. A couple weeks ago some random guy with a big ol' pot belly comes up to me and says "wow you're fatter than I am". Definitely makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside - NOT!

eknapp02

I have been high risk the entire pregnancy due to liver problems and waiting on a liver transplant before hand but everything has been perfect. Better than I could have ever asked for. And baby was in the 61 percentile and measuring a tad big! Idk why but I am still extremely small. I have always had a very fast metabolism and just been in shape. I still had a 4 pack of abs 5 months pregnant. My husband and I always joke that our child will come out with muscles. I am built like a 12 year old boy. Just skinny and ripped and I honestly eat junk and don't work out. But everyone always asks if everything is okay with the baby and if he is growing right. Yes. He is. He is fine. He is great. It's so frustrating for people to act like something is wrong with my child already just because I am small. I see three doctors and get an ultrasound twice a month. He is perfect. Worry about yourself.

reyannasimpson

People always have something to say when I tell them how far along I am. My DH say I should ask the dr. about my legs because they're fat and that's where all my weight going to.

Ignore the comments! Im always being told im having twins, i wont make it to my due date, im huge, etc. So tired of it and PLZ don't touch the belly or ask!