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mrsericadenise

Thanks for those who replied.

JaqiDec04

There is absolutely no way I would use that babies name. Any more than if the child were alive, I would use the name.

Put yourself in the parents position, and then think about a different name.

Gingerella8

mrsericadenise said:

I love the meaning to Jaxon and everything about it and nothing else feels right an I don't want regrets if we let the family have a say in the matter.

It seems like you are also set in the name . I would say ask your cousin how she feels about it, but you said you don't want any regrets if family has a say. Sorry not much help , but it doesn't seem like there is any advice to be given since you both want the name so badly.

mrsericadenise

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xlipservicex

I wouldn't use it. I have a friend who had a still born daughter years ago and I couldn't even consider the name they gave their daughter.

Every time she hears that name she thinks of her child and how much she misses her. While she can't avoid it completely I wouldn't want to be the one causing that pain.

It wouldn't have even made the list.

gograce

You don't have to lose a child to feel empathy for your cousin.

If it were me, I wouldn't consider my cousin's baby's name because I would feel like I was disrespecting my cousin. You could always consider an alternate name, something that sounds similar or means a similar thing.
If you find that you absolutely cannot name your son something different, talk to her. Sit down with her for coffee or something. Explain to her that you really love the name, but you don't want to cause her anymore pain than she already has to experience.

If she says she'd prefer you not name your child the same as her late son, I feel that you should respect her wishes. I know it's not ideal, but it's respectful to her based on what she's lost.

She is your family, after all. I wouldn't want to cause a riff between my cousins and me if I could avoid it.
You want to think of the ramifications of your choice. Think how it may make her feel. How would it make you feel if the roles were reversed?

Good luck in picking a name for your baby boy, mama!

mrsericadenise

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