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  • VexyMommyVexyMommy member
    edited June 2015
    I feel like crap.  My daughter has been away this week and my bf is going to pick her up today while I'm at work.  I'm kind of hoping no one is home until 8 or 9 o'clock so I can just relax and have the place to myself. 

    ETA:  I also think maybe I'm the one who makes people roll their eyes every time I post and that I'm trying too hard, but then I think (hope) that's just my low self esteem or maybe even my narcissism talking.
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  • Lsager424Lsager424 member
    I had my anatomy scan yesterday, and while it was awesome to see my little guy, and I was thrilled to know he was healthy, I still feel detached from the whole thing. 5 months in, and the pregnancy still doesn't feel real. Maybe it's because we tried so long with so much disappointment along the way?
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    Lsager424 said:
    I had my anatomy scan yesterday, and while it was awesome to see my little guy, and I was thrilled to know he was healthy, I still feel detached from the whole thing. 5 months in, and the pregnancy still doesn't feel real. Maybe it's because we tried so long with so much disappointment along the way?
    I felt that way with my first because I didn't want to get too attached after 2 years trying followed by 2 losses. Once I reached "viability" I felt a whole lot more excited. This time I'm busy with the 1 yo and occasionally forget it's twins. It's totally normal not to feel completely glittery happy butterflies excited. 
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  • HoneyBadgerDoesNotCareHoneyBadgerDoesNotCare member
    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:

    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    LSRoo said:

    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    I tell my 5 yo DD that the baby needs us all to sleep so the baby can grow...because its like Santa or the tooth fairy and it only happens when we're sleeping...just so I can take a nap ;)

    Am I insane or did you share that your daughter lives with your grandparents? Am I confusing you with someone else? Did you get custody back?
    My daughter does live with my grandparents, we are transitioning her into our house though, and since she broke her arm three weeks ago she's been here everyday with the exception of 3 or 4 days because of SOs work schedule. We are hoping to have all the court papers filed and signed by the end of the year. My grandma hasn't been acting like she'll protest it too much
    Feel free not to answer but just curious why you tried for another child when you don't have custody of the first?
    I didn't try for this one. Complete surprise. And it's not like I lost custody of my daughter; I signed over temporary guardianship to my grandparents because I was in an extremely abusive relationship and the only way I could see to get out of it was to join the navy, and that way he had to sign away his rights as well.
    Wait. I thought you said that you were bipolar and unstable and couldn't have custody of her?
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    HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:

    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:

    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    LSRoo said:

    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    I tell my 5 yo DD that the baby needs us all to sleep so the baby can grow...because its like Santa or the tooth fairy and it only happens when we're sleeping...just so I can take a nap ;)

    Am I insane or did you share that your daughter lives with your grandparents? Am I confusing you with someone else? Did you get custody back?
    My daughter does live with my grandparents, we are transitioning her into our house though, and since she broke her arm three weeks ago she's been here everyday with the exception of 3 or 4 days because of SOs work schedule. We are hoping to have all the court papers filed and signed by the end of the year. My grandma hasn't been acting like she'll protest it too much
    Feel free not to answer but just curious why you tried for another child when you don't have custody of the first?
    I didn't try for this one. Complete surprise. And it's not like I lost custody of my daughter; I signed over temporary guardianship to my grandparents because I was in an extremely abusive relationship and the only way I could see to get out of it was to join the navy, and that way he had to sign away his rights as well.
    Wait. I thought you said that you were bipolar and unstable and couldn't have custody of her?
    I have bipolar. But am by no means unstable. I would never have said that I'm unstable. Unless if I have said that (in a very old post) that I feel as if my grandmother is trying to make sure that I get post partum depression so she can say that I'm unstable in court? But I would never say that I am unstable.
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  • SamanthaAshley820SamanthaAshley820 member
    And I'm not sure why were questioning my entire life, or why you've told everyone but me that it's not them...if you're gonna try to be passive aggressive and call someone out...then just flat out call them out. I'm not sure what's up with the nasty nice going on right now, but if you don't like me or I annoy you, just say it. You aren't gonna hurt my feelings.
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  • LSRooLSRoo member
    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:

    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:

    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    LSRoo said:

    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    I tell my 5 yo DD that the baby needs us all to sleep so the baby can grow...because its like Santa or the tooth fairy and it only happens when we're sleeping...just so I can take a nap ;)

    Am I insane or did you share that your daughter lives with your grandparents? Am I confusing you with someone else? Did you get custody back?
    My daughter does live with my grandparents, we are transitioning her into our house though, and since she broke her arm three weeks ago she's been here everyday with the exception of 3 or 4 days because of SOs work schedule. We are hoping to have all the court papers filed and signed by the end of the year. My grandma hasn't been acting like she'll protest it too much
    Feel free not to answer but just curious why you tried for another child when you don't have custody of the first?
    I didn't try for this one. Complete surprise. And it's not like I lost custody of my daughter; I signed over temporary guardianship to my grandparents because I was in an extremely abusive relationship and the only way I could see to get out of it was to join the navy, and that way he had to sign away his rights as well.
    Wait. I thought you said that you were bipolar and unstable and couldn't have custody of her?
    I have bipolar. But am by no means unstable. I would never have said that I'm unstable. Unless if I have said that (in a very old post) that I feel as if my grandmother is trying to make sure that I get post partum depression so she can say that I'm unstable in court? But I would never say that I am unstable.
    The navy will take you with bipolar??

    My mind is blown.
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  • HoneyBadgerDoesNotCareHoneyBadgerDoesNotCare member
    I only question because of the catfish fiasco in j14.

    Pieces aren't making sense, and holes are popping up. Yes, I do think some things are uncalled for, and you used to be team unicorn but switched to the other team.
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  • FavoritemandmsFavoritemandms member
    dogsombrero said:
    Not to go O/T but I just realized I wrote "board" instead of bored and I've been quoted. Can I blame this on pregnancy brain?
    Or autocorrect. iPhone, you don't know me!!!
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  • dogsombrerodogsombrero member
    I was in M14 and we had the Voldemod and a catfish issue too.
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  • urby87urby87 member
    SamanthaAshley820 said:
    And I'm not sure why were questioning my entire life, or why you've told everyone but me that it's not them...if you're gonna try to be passive aggressive and call someone out...then just flat out call them out. I'm not sure what's up with the nasty nice going on right now, but if you don't like me or I annoy you, just say it. You aren't gonna hurt my feelings.
    I didn't get word that it wasn't me, either, if that's any consolation...
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  • mmk29mmk29 member
    Favoritemandms said:
    dogsombrero said:
    Not to go O/T but I just realized I wrote "board" instead of bored and I've been quoted. Can I blame this on pregnancy brain?
    Or autocorrect. iPhone, you don't know me!!!
    My iphone has started autocorrecting correctly spelled words into horrible spellings that sometimes aren't even close. WTF??
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  • HoneyBadgerDoesNotCareHoneyBadgerDoesNotCare member
    It's Samantha
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  • SamanthaAshley820SamanthaAshley820 member
    I was diagnosed with depression when I was 15 left counseling at 17 because of insurance changes, and I couldn't afford my $50 copay for each visit. I went to sign with the Navy when I was 20. Was diagnosed bipolar at 22 (last year). The Navy wouldn't have been concerned about my depression because I wasn't on medication for it. To be completely honest about it, I don't even remember if I told them about it. I was so desperate to get out of the current situation I was in that I would have said and done anything to get away without having to worry about mine or my daughters physical safety from my ex. 

    I was raped, beaten with a baseball bat (which I have missing teeth from), I tried to leave with my daughter in the middle of the night & he found us at a friends house, made me get in the car with him or else he would have called police for parental kidnapping and then held a knife against my throat threatening me that if I ever tried to leave like that again he would kill my daughter and me. 

    So I was on my best behavior and did whatever he wanted for a few months and made sure he was happy and satisfied before I brought up the military to him. We started dating in High School and I was in JROTC, and he knew the Military was always an interest of mine, he thought we'd be staying together and that he would get my pay checks...

    It was a very tough and difficult time in my life, and I am still faced with issues and hurdles from that time. I ave over come a lot, and I'm not sure why this is such an issue now...but go ahead and ask away. I am an open book. Anything else you ladies would like to know? 
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  • LSRooLSRoo member
    urby87 said:


    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    And I'm not sure why were questioning my entire life, or why you've told everyone but me that it's not them...if you're gonna try to be passive aggressive and call someone out...then just flat out call them out. I'm not sure what's up with the nasty nice going on right now, but if you don't like me or I annoy you, just say it. You aren't gonna hurt my feelings.

    I didn't get word that it wasn't me, either, if that's any consolation...


    It's not you. Relax.
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    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    I was diagnosed with depression when I was 15 left counseling at 17 because of insurance changes, and I couldn't afford my $50 copay for each visit. I went to sign with the Navy when I was 20. Was diagnosed bipolar at 22 (last year). The Navy wouldn't have been concerned about my depression because I wasn't on medication for it. To be completely honest about it, I don't even remember if I told them about it. I was so desperate to get out of the current situation I was in that I would have said and done anything to get away without having to worry about mine or my daughters physical safety from my ex. 


    I was raped, beaten with a baseball bat (which I have missing teeth from), I tried to leave with my daughter in the middle of the night & he found us at a friends house, made me get in the car with him or else he would have called police for parental kidnapping and then held a knife against my throat threatening me that if I ever tried to leave like that again he would kill my daughter and me. 

    So I was on my best behavior and did whatever he wanted for a few months and made sure he was happy and satisfied before I brought up the military to him. We started dating in High School and I was in JROTC, and he knew the Military was always an interest of mine, he thought we'd be staying together and that he would get my pay checks...

    It was a very tough and difficult time in my life, and I am still faced with issues and hurdles from that time. I ave over come a lot, and I'm not sure why this is such an issue now...but go ahead and ask away. I am an open book. Anything else you ladies would like to know? 
    2+2 is not equaling four in your case.
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  • SamanthaAshley820SamanthaAshley820 member
    HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:
    I only question because of the catfish fiasco in j14. Pieces aren't making sense, and holes are popping up. Yes, I do think some things are uncalled for, and you used to be team unicorn but switched to the other team.

    Okay, well I apologize but I haven't lied about anything on here...yeah; there's holes because I have an extremely complicated set of circumstances...that I know nobody gives two fucks about and things that I feel are not the Internets business...Like would you all like to know that I have Genital Herpes as well? Would that fill in some of the gaps? Or that I used to attend Sexaholics Anonymous Meetings on Sunday Mornings? 

    And yeah, I was team unicorn for the first week I was on here MONTHS ago. My therapist and I were working on me being a nicer and more understanding person, and I walked into his office and said fuck it. I can't, because I thoroughly enjoy talking shit about people. 

    I was bullied all through elementary school and middle school because my family was too poor to buy me new clothes and one girl saw me wearing a shirt that her mother had donated the year before. After I got into high school I adopted a I don't give a flying fuck attitude and I've been carrying that ever since. I've been highly confrontational, opinionated, loud, ect. since then. And in high school I had friends, friends that are lifelong friends that are there for me no matter what. 

    I apologize that you don't like me, or that you think that I'm trying to fit in. But your stamp of approval isn't important to me, and frankly I don't care. 
    I gain nothing from lying to any of you...I will never meet any of you in person; I don't really care what you think of me. But I am not a liar. I wouldn't waste my own time like that.

     
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  • SamanthaAshley820SamanthaAshley820 member
    rbradshaw77 said:
    I was diagnosed with depression when I was 15 left counseling at 17 because of insurance changes, and I couldn't afford my $50 copay for each visit. I went to sign with the Navy when I was 20. Was diagnosed bipolar at 22 (last year). The Navy wouldn't have been concerned about my depression because I wasn't on medication for it. To be completely honest about it, I don't even remember if I told them about it. I was so desperate to get out of the current situation I was in that I would have said and done anything to get away without having to worry about mine or my daughters physical safety from my ex. 

    I was raped, beaten with a baseball bat (which I have missing teeth from), I tried to leave with my daughter in the middle of the night & he found us at a friends house, made me get in the car with him or else he would have called police for parental kidnapping and then held a knife against my throat threatening me that if I ever tried to leave like that again he would kill my daughter and me. 

    So I was on my best behavior and did whatever he wanted for a few months and made sure he was happy and satisfied before I brought up the military to him. We started dating in High School and I was in JROTC, and he knew the Military was always an interest of mine, he thought we'd be staying together and that he would get my pay checks...

    It was a very tough and difficult time in my life, and I am still faced with issues and hurdles from that time. I ave over come a lot, and I'm not sure why this is such an issue now...but go ahead and ask away. I am an open book. Anything else you ladies would like to know? 
    2+2 is not equaling four in your case.

    How do you figure? 
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  • rox7777rox7777 member
    SamanthaAshley820 said:


    rbradshaw77 said:

    SamanthaAshley820 said:

    I was diagnosed with depression when I was 15 left counseling at 17 because of insurance changes, and I couldn't afford my $50 copay for each visit. I went to sign with the Navy when I was 20. Was diagnosed bipolar at 22 (last year). The Navy wouldn't have been concerned about my depression because I wasn't on medication for it. To be completely honest about it, I don't even remember if I told them about it. I was so desperate to get out of the current situation I was in that I would have said and done anything to get away without having to worry about mine or my daughters physical safety from my ex. 


    I was raped, beaten with a baseball bat (which I have missing teeth from), I tried to leave with my daughter in the middle of the night & he found us at a friends house, made me get in the car with him or else he would have called police for parental kidnapping and then held a knife against my throat threatening me that if I ever tried to leave like that again he would kill my daughter and me. 

    So I was on my best behavior and did whatever he wanted for a few months and made sure he was happy and satisfied before I brought up the military to him. We started dating in High School and I was in JROTC, and he knew the Military was always an interest of mine, he thought we'd be staying together and that he would get my pay checks...

    It was a very tough and difficult time in my life, and I am still faced with issues and hurdles from that time. I ave over come a lot, and I'm not sure why this is such an issue now...but go ahead and ask away. I am an open book. Anything else you ladies would like to know? 
    2+2 is not equaling four in your case.


    How do you figure? 


    See above statement.

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  • SamanthaAshley820SamanthaAshley820 member
    rbradshaw77 said:
    I know quite a few dual military families and the only time you would sign over guardianship is in the case of dual deployment. HOWEVER, if you were single and just dating you would not have been able to join as per the rule stating that a single parent cannot join without either a) giving up custody or b) receiving consent from the other parent. Also, you never sign over custody in the case of dual military, you sign over temporary guardianship in the case of deployment and at the end of said deployment you regain your parental rights. If you were diagnosed as bipolar while under contract that means you were either honorably discharged or removed by some other means because I know for a fact bipolar disorder is a disqualifier. So either you lost custody because of your depression and inability to parent or your military obligation (which is highly unlikely). Either way by coming up with this story you lose a lot of respect from someone that is a military wife and knows the sacrifice that those who are military make.


    He was not military. So it wasn't dual anything. I was considered a single, never married mom. and they told me I could sign over temporary guardianship and get my guardianship back after I finished basic. I did what my Recruiter told me to do. I ended up not passing the physical requirements due to knee damage I had received in middle school. But at that point it was too late, I had signed the guardianship papers because my recruiter told me he wouldn't/couldn't take me to MEPS without me signing the court guardianship papers. I was actually told that I could sue my recruiter because he had ill advised me and I ended up in the "custody situation" that I am currently in. I am well aware of military sacrifices, I come from a family that has a lot of served time. Army, Marines and Navy. both my grandfathers, 2 uncles, and a cousin. I also have a lot of friends that are/were in the military because as I previously posted I was in JROTC throughout high school.
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    LSRoo said:
    HoneyBadgerDoesNotCare said:
    I only question because of the catfish fiasco in j14. Pieces aren't making sense, and holes are popping up. Yes, I do think some things are uncalled for, and you used to be team unicorn but switched to the other team.

    Okay, well I apologize but I haven't lied about anything on here...yeah; there's holes because I have an extremely complicated set of circumstances...that I know nobody gives two fucks about and things that I feel are not the Internets business...Like would you all like to know that I have Genital Herpes as well? Would that fill in some of the gaps? Or that I used to attend Sexaholics Anonymous Meetings on Sunday Mornings? 

    And yeah, I was team unicorn for the first week I was on here MONTHS ago. My therapist and I were working on me being a nicer and more understanding person, and I walked into his office and said fuck it. I can't, because I thoroughly enjoy talking shit about people. 

    I was bullied all through elementary school and middle school because my family was too poor to buy me new clothes and one girl saw me wearing a shirt that her mother had donated the year before. After I got into high school I adopted a I don't give a flying fuck attitude and I've been carrying that ever since. I've been highly confrontational, opinionated, loud, ect. since then. And in high school I had friends, friends that are lifelong friends that are there for me no matter what. 

    I apologize that you don't like me, or that you think that I'm trying to fit in. But your stamp of approval isn't important to me, and frankly I don't care. 
    I gain nothing from lying to any of you...I will never meet any of you in person; I don't really care what you think of me. But I am not a liar. I wouldn't waste my own time like that.

     
    ------------------------------------------------------------ I definitely could have done without you telling us you have genital herpes.

    You seem to want to know everything so there's no holes, or missing pieces...I also had HPV that (thankfully) cleared itself up. 
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  • SamanthaAshley820SamanthaAshley820 member
    rbradshaw77 said:
    Hm. I wore goodwill clothes until I graduated high school and I was 5'8" and 90lbs. Guess what? I was tormented throughout middle school and high school. They even started a "I hate RC Cola" club because my initials were RCC. There's plenty of us that have had plenty of life struggles. Should I mention the boy I dated abused me for 3 years and stabbed me with a fork in the stomach (a scar I still carry). Everyone has fucked up points in life, but guess what, that doesn't mean we get to use that as excuse to be liars and/or poor excuses for adults.

    But I'm not lying? and I'm not sure why you think I'm lying...but too each his own. 
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    gumby22c said:


    He was not military. So it wasn't dual anything. I was considered a single, never married mom. and they told me I could sign over temporary guardianship and get my guardianship back after I finished basic. I did what my Recruiter told me to do. I ended up not passing the physical requirements due to knee damage I had received in middle school. But at that point it was too late, I had signed the guardianship papers because my recruiter told me he wouldn't/couldn't take me to MEPS without me signing the court guardianship papers. I was actually told that I could sue my recruiter because he had ill advised me and I ended up in the "custody situation" that I am currently in. I am well aware of military sacrifices, I come from a family that has a lot of served time. Army, Marines and Navy. both my grandfathers, 2 uncles, and a cousin. I also have a lot of friends that are/were in the military because as I previously posted I was in JROTC throughout high school.
    So you weren't actually in the Navy then? If you didn't pass the physical requirements and get in, I wouldn't count that as being IN the military. You TRIED to be in the military. Big difference there, unless I'm just misunderstanding.

    if you read what I said before is I went to go join, never that I joined...I never claimed to be IN the military. 
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    edited June 2015
    SamanthaAshley820 said:


    gumby22c said:




    He was not military. So it wasn't dual anything. I was considered a single, never married mom. and they told me I could sign over temporary guardianship and get my guardianship back after I finished basic. I did what my Recruiter told me to do. I ended up not passing the physical requirements due to knee damage I had received in middle school. But at that point it was too late, I had signed the guardianship papers because my recruiter told me he wouldn't/couldn't take me to MEPS without me signing the court guardianship papers. I was actually told that I could sue my recruiter because he had ill advised me and I ended up in the "custody situation" that I am currently in. I am well aware of military sacrifices, I come from a family that has a lot of served time. Army, Marines and Navy. both my grandfathers, 2 uncles, and a cousin. I also have a lot of friends that are/were in the military because as I previously posted I was in JROTC throughout high school.
    So you weren't actually in the Navy then? If you didn't pass the physical requirements and get in, I wouldn't count that as being IN the military. You TRIED to be in the military. Big difference there, unless I'm just misunderstanding.





    if you read what I said before is I went to go join, never that I joined...I never claimed to be IN the military. 

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    Ok the wording leads one to assume you actually served in the Navy. That was not super clear until your last post.
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