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FFFQ - Flame Free Friday Questions! No question too silly, ask 'em all!

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Its time for another round of FFFQ. Been wondering something but didn't want to ask cause you're afraid you'll sound like a total noob? Me too. But at least here, "Flame Free" is in the title. So if you can put your pride aside to ask, there's probably someone out there who knows or can at least offer insight.
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  • ElRubyElRuby member
    Will hemorrhoids go away on their own? I'm afraid to check....
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  • amabarneamabarne member
    @mellymar
    I wasn't shaved for my VBAC but they did shave where the incision was for my csection before that. PP are right, it isn't standard procedure to shave anymore. I trimmed up a little this time but did not perform any acrobatics that's for sure!

    Here's my question. Is it normal for babies to have nystagmus when they look far to the left or right? I know it isn't normal when they're looking straight.
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  • HoosOnFirstHoosOnFirst member
    ElRuby said:

    Will hemorrhoids go away on their own? I'm afraid to check....

    I dunno, my mine was so bad I could not sit. My doc prescribed topical hydrocortisone cream (stronger than Preparation H) and ... A suppository. It definitely has improved through! I'm also on Advil and such for the dull pain they cause. It's been 12 days and I still have it though, for your reference.
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  • krystleshelkrystleshel member
    So. Bottles...? I plan on BFing & I have a few hami-down bottles from a friend, but do I need to buy more? Like buy some different brands to try? I have my pump. & someone mentioned the LC giving them some bottles at the hospital.
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  • MrsCaliRNMrsCaliRN member
    I'm really looking forward to laboring as much as possible at home before heading to the hospital. Anyone do this as a FTM? If so, what made you ultimately decide to go in and how many cm dilated where you when they checked you? (I don't really want to hear from those who did this with their 2nd+ babies because things are so much different the next times around). Thanks!

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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
    krystleshel said:

    So. Bottles...? I plan on BFing & I have a few hami-down bottles from a friend, but do I need to buy more? Like buy some different brands to try? I have my pump. & someone mentioned the LC giving them some bottles at the hospital.

    See if your baby likes the ones you have first, I say. I only have two at the moment, and they actually have very similar nipples, but I figure if he doesn't like them I'll buy some later. I also plan on breastfeeding, but eventually he'll be bottle fed when I go back to work at 6 months. I don't want to wait too long to give a bottle either! His dad will like to feed him, besides just getting him used to it. I just read that if you end up bottle feeding exclusively for whatever reason you should have at least 10.
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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
    klkonwi said:

    Only shave cesareans. Your good. Hemorrhoids can go away but in most cases do not. They usually shrink if not irritated.
    It's a generalized answer because each persons body is so different.
    @mellymar @ElRuby

    Ah ha ha. Good answer!
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  • Sammy KSammy K member
    MrsCaliRN said:

    I'm really looking forward to laboring as much as possible at home before heading to the hospital. Anyone do this as a FTM? If so, what made you ultimately decide to go in and how many cm dilated where you when they checked you? (I don't really want to hear from those who did this with their 2nd+ babies because things are so much different the next times around). Thanks!

    You're going to get a wide range of answers since everyone is different but it seems most OB/MW use the 3 1 1 or 5 1 1 rule, which is contractions 3-5 min apart, 1 min long for an hour. I would add if you are at the upper end of your pain tolerance, just go in even if you don't meet 5 1 1. On the flip side, if contractions aren't intense, it might not be worth going in.

    With my first, our doula told us to go to the hospital since I was in a lot of pain but didn't meet the other criteria. As a FTM, I had no idea. I was fully dilated when I arrived. Not sure this really helps, just my experience.
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  • virginiaunicorn11virginiaunicorn11 member
    MrsCaliRN said:

    I'm really looking forward to laboring as much as possible at home before heading to the hospital. Anyone do this as a FTM? If so, what made you ultimately decide to go in and how many cm dilated where you when they checked you? (I don't really want to hear from those who did this with their 2nd+ babies because things are so much different the next times around). Thanks!

    Mine were 5 minutes apart for 2.5 hours when I went in, and I was having trouble timing their length. Looking back, I went way too early. The contractions were real but they weren't intense enough yet, and when I arrived, I was only 2 cm dilated.

    Looking back, I don't think I could have done anything different - just a rookie mistake. I was told when I arrived that I could go home until they became more intense...but they first did a NST and that showed strong/frequent enough contractions that they told me to stay. Knowing what I do now, I wish I'd stayed home another few hours. But hindsight is 20/20, so no regrets, just a lesson learned.
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  • esampson1983esampson1983 member
    mellymar said:

    I thought of my FFFQ on Wednesday and didn't want to revive last Friday's thread for it...
    There has been talk of ladies having their Virginia's shaved by the medical team while they are in the hospital. This example has been used for many ladies to continue the personal grooming. My question is - is it something that is *always* done regardless? As in, for you l&d nurses, do you end up shaving each patient that comes in? Or for you moms who have delivered already, did they just go ahead shave you? Or is it done as needed, where one patient gets it but another doesn't?

    I don't them to dry shave my lady bits, but I can't really work the trimmer anymore. :(
    But I would rather struggle for an hour to give myself a buzzcut than be dry shaved down there, which just sounds terrible.

    First world problems

    I was shaved at the hospital but I had a c/s. I think if I would have been able to deliver naturally they would not have shaved me.

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  • mvargas12mvargas12 member
    Pacifiers... Who is going to use them? Why or why not?

    I don't really like them and never planned on using them but I got a bunch at the shower and I'm now last minute questioning my decision. Would love to get other perspectives!
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  • dancegurl1118dancegurl1118 member
    @MrsCaliRN I planned on this too and was laboring for about an hour and a half and they were q3-4 but not crippling. Then I passed a baseball sized clot and started bleeding and had to go in. But was 4-5. I would've stayed home until I had a few that really brought me to my knees.
    TTC: 1/2014 BFP: 9/24 EDD: 6/8/2015 Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
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  • mvargas12mvargas12 member
    edited June 2015
    karaelaine1991 said:


    mvargas12 said:

    Pacifiers... Who is going to use them? Why or why not?

    I don't really like them and never planned on using them but I got a bunch at the shower and I'm now last minute questioning my decision. Would love to get other perspectives!


    However, I did read that an added benefit is that the use of pacifiers has been linked to a decreased risk of SIDS, which obviously is a pretty good thing! - @karaelaine1991
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    I read that too. It's playing a big part on why I'm revisiting the idea of pacifiers.

    Interesting that your LO is BF better after being introduced to the pacifier. You could be right about it being a coincidence but maybe it's related- like helping with her suction? Wonder if anyone else has had a similar experience

    ETA: quote boxes are hard. Made my own.
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  • ElRubyElRuby member
    mvargas12 said:

    karaelaine1991 said:


    mvargas12 said:

    Pacifiers... Who is going to use them? Why or why not?

    I don't really like them and never planned on using them but I got a bunch at the shower and I'm now last minute questioning my decision. Would love to get other perspectives!


    However, I did read that an added benefit is that the use of pacifiers has been linked to a decreased risk of SIDS, which obviously is a pretty good thing! - @karaelaine1991
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    I read that too. It's playing a big part on why I'm revisiting the idea of pacifiers.

    Interesting that your LO is BF better after being introduced to the pacifier. You could be right about it being a coincidence but maybe it's related- like helping with her suction? Wonder if anyone else has had a similar experience

    ETA: quote boxes are hard. Made my own.
    I hope LO takes a pacifier soon! DS loved his and it was great for soothing... This baby just wants to be on the breast all the time and I think a pacifier might help her soothe without me! Plus she has "pearls" which IMO is the nice of way of saying "teeth" because they are painful ( dr said they do go away though).
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  • hswan26hswan26 member
    virginiaunicorn11 said:

    MrsCaliRN said:

    I'm really looking forward to laboring as much as possible at home before heading to the hospital. Anyone do this as a FTM? If so, what made you ultimately decide to go in and how many cm dilated where you when they checked you? (I don't really want to hear from those who did this with their 2nd+ babies because things are so much different the next times around). Thanks!

    Mine were 5 minutes apart for 2.5 hours when I went in, and I was having trouble timing their length. Looking back, I went way too early. The contractions were real but they weren't intense enough yet, and when I arrived, I was only 2 cm dilated.

    Looking back, I don't think I could have done anything different - just a rookie mistake. I was told when I arrived that I could go home until they became more intense...but they first did a NST and that showed strong/frequent enough contractions that they told me to stay. Knowing what I do now, I wish I'd stayed home another few hours. But hindsight is 20/20, so no regrets, just a lesson learned.
    My contractions never got closer than 6 minutes apart but they were long(around 2 minutes each) and extremely painful. When I got to the hospital I was 5 and dilated to 10 within 1.5 hours. If you think you're in labor call your doctor, they can tell a lot by how you sound on the phone and will tell you when to go in.
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  • HoosOnFirstHoosOnFirst member
    karaelaine1991 said:


    mvargas12 said:

    Pacifiers... Who is going to use them? Why or why not?

    I don't really like them and never planned on using them but I got a bunch at the shower and I'm now last minute questioning my decision. Would love to get other perspectives!

    We're using them. We were going to wait at least a month to introduce them, but when we introduced bottles, we figured why not? Both DH and I used pacifiers and neither of us had issues being weaned from them. The biggest argument against them that I've seen is that they can create bad habits that disrupt healthy breastfeeding. When we gave LO a pacifier we thought we were going to be pumping exclusively, so that seemed invalid for us. We've since tried breastfeeding again (can't believe all these changes happened within a week and a half!!) and she's actually latching better than she did before - not saying that this is because of the pacifier AT ALL, but that, in our case, the pacifier hasn't hurt her as far as breastfeeding goes. 

    Our decision to use pacifiers is as simple as the fact that they get her to stop crying and go to sleep faster. This makes us less tired and less stressed, which we feel is beneficial for her. However, I did read that an added benefit is that the use of pacifiers has been linked to a decreased risk of SIDS, which obviously is a pretty good thing!


    Thanks for raising and answering this question!! DH keeps asking why we can't use a pacifier and I could only say "because"... Too much info out there lol. It does sound right I was against it when I was going to be bf'ing but now I'm not so we may introduce the paci if things get rough.
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  • upandbelowupandbelow member
    Can babes move during a contraction or BH? I'm a FTM and lately I've been feeling what I *thought* were some pretty powerful BH - take my breath away powerful - but during them I can also feel LO moving. I'm having a hard time deciphering if what I'm feeling are actually BH or just her rolling around in there.
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  • ktjohnson87ktjohnson87 member
    edited June 2015
    We weren't going to use a pacifier with my son because of the issues with BFing but we ended up using one after a few nights of him keeping me up all night just wanting to suck on my boobs. It really helped him and me sleep. It did not interfere with his BFing at all. He was excellent at BFung right from the start, not sure it would have hendered it had he not been so great at it.
    With this baby we are going to play it by ear. If she seems to want to suck on something all night then we will definitely be giving her the pacifier.
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  • jessieR358jessieR358 member
    edited June 2015
    amabarne said:

    @mellymar
    I wasn't shaved for my VBAC but they did shave where the incision was for my csection before that. PP are right, it isn't standard procedure to shave anymore. I trimmed up a little this time but did not perform any acrobatics that's for sure!

    Here's my question. Is it normal for babies to have nystagmus when they look far to the left or right? I know it isn't normal when they're looking straight.

    Edit: did a little more research. I was taught a couple beats were ok if they are looking far to the left or right however some reading says otherwise. However, I would bring it up with the pediatrician If it were my child.
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  • SarahBaby87SarahBaby87 member
    Can your membranes be swept at only 1 cm? Or do they need more room to ... get their finger in there? Sounds awful now that I wrote it out.

    Also, I know we're told to lay down and rest to help contractions, but I find that I get more contractions when laying down rather than moving around. Anyone else with the same experience?
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  • jesscmvjesscmv member
    Went to my 4 week PP check and got back on birth control. Once I left I forgot to ask how many days until the birth control is effective without back up method? I think I remeber 7 days, but was unsure for after pregnancy. I am taking the combination pill.
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  • rklinge0rklinge0 member
    @karaelaine1991 probably tmi but I actually made my dh smell my amniotic fluid to make sure it wasn't pee or anything else before heading to the hospital.
    @krystleshel I was told by the lc to use dr.browns. my l/o uses those and the medela slow flow nipples. But I agree don't buy a bunch of them until you see what l/o will take. We have several she won't take.
    For those who delivered how long did it take for the cord stump to fall off? She is 17 days old and its still there.
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  • dancegurl1118dancegurl1118 member
    @rklinge0 LOs fell off at 9 days. It was hanging by 8 but I was too nervous to touch it. She's been wearing full onesies, not the shirt ones, so that probably aided it in moving along.
    TTC: 1/2014 BFP: 9/24 EDD: 6/8/2015 Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
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  • Sammy KSammy K member
    @rklinge0 DS took 15 days. If it looks red or inflamed, I would call your pediatrician's nurse line. If it looks ok, I'd give it a day or two and then call.
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    rklinge0 said:

    @karaelaine1991 probably tmi but I actually made my dh smell my amniotic fluid to make sure it wasn't pee or anything else before heading to the hospital.
    @krystleshel I was told by the lc to use dr.browns. my l/o uses those and the medela slow flow nipples. But I agree don't buy a bunch of them until you see what l/o will take. We have several she won't take.
    For those who delivered how long did it take for the cord stump to fall off? She is 17 days old and its still there.

    LO is currently 11 days old and hers is still here! Our pediatrician said she's seen them stay for as long as a month.
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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
    SarahBaby87 said:
    Can your membranes be swept at only 1 cm? Or do they need more room to ... get their finger in there? Sounds awful now that I wrote it out. Also, I know we're told to lay down and rest to help contractions, but I find that I get more contractions when laying down rather than moving around. Anyone else with the same experience?
    At our childbirth prep class, the nurse said if you're having contractions while moving around, lay down and rest. If you're having them while resting, get up and move around. So, do the opposite. If it doesn't make a difference what you're activity level is, that's when obviously it might be the real thing. Oh man, I'm getting so excited for it to finally be the real thing. But whennnnnn?
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  • teather5teather5 member
    ktjohnson87 said:

    We weren't going to use a pacifier with my son because of the issues with BFing but we ended up using one after a few nights of him keeping me up all night just wanting to suck on my boobs. It really helped him and me sleep. It did not interfere with his BFing at all. He was excellent at BFung right from the start, not sure it would have hendered it had he not been so great at it.
    With this baby we are going to play it by ear. If she seems to want to suck on something all night then we will definitely be giving her the pacifier.

    We are three weeks in and have tried a pacifier twice at night when all baby wanted to do was be attached to me. Each time it fell out he would cry and it made me think he was hungry again... My question- how do you know if they're still hungry or just want to suck? I will feed him for over an hour sometimes and he will root & suck his hands after I try to lay him down. I get worried he's not getting enough from me (we had weight loss issues with our little one). Maybe he's cluster feeding? I'm at a loss. And exhausted. Any advice appreciated.
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  • mjschenkmjschenk member
    Wow @SarahBaby87 yes they swept mine yesterday at a 1 cm not gonna lie it hurt. I also find contractions are worse when laying down I think find what works best for you to help with them.
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