My husband keeps wanting to touch my belly when we are laying in bed, and I'm not sure why, but it really bothers me! It makes me feel not like me. Thinking maybe I will feel differently when there is actually noticeably something in there?!?!
We haven't had sex since I found out I was pregnant 4 weeks ago. I've been vomiting, nauseous, tired, sore and have zero sex drive. My DH has no desire to have sex either! We've both said we're scared of mc even though we know it doesn't cause it. But hard to get in the mood when you're terrified! Like some of the ladies have already said, I'm hoping 2nd trimester is different!!
This is a helpful post in that it reminds us what we're feeling is normal. I'm not really into sex lately either, but I know it's really important to DH. It's how he feels connected to me. Right after our first was born, we were struggling, and we decided to institute "sexy night", to ensure at least one night of the week (if not more), we tried. Sometimes we were tired (baby up all night, etc), or I wasnt in the mood, etc, but it made all the diff to DH that we tried, even if all we ended up doing was cuddling. It saved our marriage. Seriously. We kept "sexy night" going even after our child started sleeping better and life evened out. Hopefully this time the pregnancy and aftermath will be easier in this regard. I never in a million years would have thought scheduled sex would hold any appeal, but it has def served a purpose for us through some difficult times.
Ok ladies, since we are being super honest, I'm going to add my opinion. I honestly don't remember having sex with my first pregnancy. I was also 17 & I had only had sex a couple times altogether before finding out I was pregnant. But this time around its been amazing. I was mad that I almost missed out on pregnancy sex. I was a little hesitant in the beginning, because I'm 39 & carrying twins, so I didn't want to do anything that might "risk" them, but also felt bad for my husband because I know he has a high sex drive & I don't want him to feel like I've totally forgot about him. So, instead of sex I would just go the oral route. Satisfied him without, any "risks" to my babies. Any one else thought of this, maybe?
Oral would be great if I wasn't so nauseous all the time or repulsed by any sex. If I can survive without, so can he. We talk about it and he understands. I was so nauseous after sex last time that I told him he will just have to wait. Plus I don't feel bad when I can't even keep my head above water. There's always the second and third trimester sex, and that is amazing.
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