*** 1st Tri Checkin - 06/08/15 ***

marnief

Welcome!

This is a weekly checkin for members in their 1st trimester. Congrats to everyone that has made it to this check-in! Feel free to post your updates here until your 14th week.

Please post below and include your EDD and how many beans you have. (And let me know if I have any info wrong!) How far along are you this week? Any appointments or other updates?

QOTW: What's the wackiest dream you've had since your BFP?

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December
@jamiejean22 - 12/24/15 - 1 bean - What's the app that lets you hear the baby's heartbeat? That sounds pretty cool!
@MrsBwIVF - 12/30/15 - 2 beans - Glad the fetuses (feti?) are looking so good - and even though it's hard not to have weekly U/Ses, you'll still get more than those of us carrying singletons!

January
@MummaWoods - EDD? - ? bean(s) -
@kbeck008 - 01/05/16 - 1 bean -
@TheNaijaGal - 01/07/16 - ? bean(s) -
@somewhereinafrica - 01/08/2016 - 1 bean - SO glad for your good news! Sorry that you had to go back on the injections, though...
@andimegie325 - 01/10/2016 - 1 bean - Congrats on the upcoming graduation to the regular OB. And isn't it nice to be done with progesterone?
@marnief - 01/12/16 - 1 bean
@emikat - 01/13/16 - 1 bean -
@lilbabe2016 - 01/13/16 - 1 bean -
@baby5395 - 01/26/16 - 1 bean - Welcome! Yay for seeing the heartbeat, isn’t that so amazing?

February
@shelly333 - 02/02/16 - ? bean(s) - Good luck at the US! And oh, yes, pregnancy brain is for sure a real thing. And then there's baby brain. I kind of think it doesn't stop until they're out of the house...!
@Roeni - 02/05/16 - ? bean(s) - Welcome! FX for a happy & healthy 9 months for you.

BABY5395

Good Morning!

It was so awesome to see the little heartbeat! MH and I are super excited. 

I usually don't remember dreams...so any dreams that I'm having are so vivid and they're all just weird. 

The latest included pro soccer player Kyle Beckerman (I went to HS with him) just running, and I was playing with legos with a very old friend that I haven't seen or talked to in years...odd dream lol. 

Roeni

QOTW: I have very wacky dreams when I am pregnant and this time they are more on the scary side...spiders and stuff.  I also had a dream my baby fell in the lake and everyone just froze instead of jumping in to save him! I woke up crying and unable to go back to sleep.  During my last pregnancy I had sweet dreams of my baby every single night though I even dreamed he had blue eyes and blonde hair, which I didn't think he'd be born with (I am brown/brown and my husband is blue/blonde), but he was!  I hope my dreams get better.

I had my first ultrasound today and there were 2 sacs.  I thought I might see that since my beta was so high, even higher than last pregnancy that started out as twins.  Not going to get too excited because last time I lost a twin at 8 weeks. Praying for 2 heartbeats next time though!!!

andimegie325

It was definitely nerve wracking at first to come off the progesterone. I spotted about 5 days after I stopped, which of courses caused a panicked call and an immediate appointment the next morning. We knew when we started IVF that I had a slightly arcuate(sp) uterus and the RE was totally not concerned... I guess in pregnancy it is WAY more pronounced, as in it is now shaped like a heart instead of a pear! He said it was still nothing to be concerned with, but since the fetus (I'm 9+2, so it's finally a fetus!!) is attached to the right hand lobe of the heart, the left side might shed a little, hence the spotting. Not exactly comforting, but he said the baby was right on target for measurement and had a HR of 167 I have my last official appointment with the RE on Wednesday and then the first OB is Friday, so we're moving right along!

QOTW: I've only had one miscarriage dream, which was awful, and I totally blame my husband for all the video games and shows he watches for giving me the zombie nightmares! I think I need to start watching Disney movies before bed so I can dream of those

shelly333

I have my 1st US tomorrow and i'm so excited!!!! I can't wait to see my baby/babies even though i know i wont see much at this time. 

I've been having lots of weird dreams as well. A lot of them have some pretty graphic sex in them. 

somewhereinafrica

Hello all!

Less eventfull few days! I have spent a lot of time in bed. No more bleeding! I have felt more anxious and have had very mild cramps but nothing constant or sharp. More of a dull ache.

Dreams have been very strong. I have had lovely ones and not so nice. Someone swapped my baby and the other that I have had twice is that I drop the baby and everyone then calls me names. I dunno but I am guessing there are some insecurities coming through!

No more ultrasounds until 12 weeks!! That's probably not helping the anxiousness as I was liking my weekly check ins

marnief

9 weeks today! And I've been awake since 4am (it's 5 now) after not falling asleep until midnight, sigh...Next app't is next week - US and Mat21 blood test.

QOTW: Count me in with the bizarre vivid dreams...last night I dreamed a friend was really proud of herself for staking 3 vampires in one go. And I never watched Buffy or Twillight or any of that, so I've no idea where that came from!

Roeni

@marnief what is the deal with waking up early?!?! I did this last pregnancy as well...today I woke up bright eyed and bushy tailed at 4:30!!!

Kelley421

7 weeks today! Ultrasound yesterday confirmed all 3 beans have heartbeats, all are measuring on track, with baby a & b one day ahead and baby c one day behind. They also found a small subchorionic hematoma so I am not allowed to do anything and just take it easy. I go back next week to follow up. Anyone have experience with SCH?

QOTW: I am dreaming more but I can't seem to remember any details. Last night was about work

Kelley421

@marnief @Roeni - I did was waking up that early with first pregnancy last year and this one! Bright eyes at 430, but it only lasted a couple weeks and now I sleep at least 10h per night.

@roeni congrats on twins!
@shelly333 good luck on your ultrasound!
@somewhereinafrica yay for no more bleeding! I hope I can say that soon too!

MrsBwIVF

I have such a boring update! No new appts until next week, very anxious for those appts though. Hopefully, our Monday appt goes well because we have an announcement photo thing set up for Tuesday and if our appt on Friday with the ob looks good, we'll start making the announcement rounds that weekends. That looks confusing when written!

Can NOT come soon enough! Very hard not to let it slip that we have two beans in there.
MIL called this morning to check in and I almost slipped up several times! I think she's a little confused why we aren't going to show them u/s pics this weekend at a party but will drive the 2 hours to visit next weekend to show them. Hopefully, both beans are still doing great!

New symptom, morning sickness. I've only had the pleasure of morning sickness twice but once was this weekend, while in the car, with DH driving 75 down the interstate. I was actually overly excited about it! Some small inconvenience of pregnancy gets me jacked because that means we've come so far!

QOTW: I don't remember any specific dreams but I know they are more vivid and realistic than normal.

MrsBwIVF

@Kelley421, I've had the luck of having 2 SCHs during this pregnancy. Mine were on the larger size so I was out on bed rest for several days after they were discovered and then had follow up u/s to check in on them. Once they started to absorb or remove themselves via clotting, they allowed me to come off of bed rest and have been on restrictions ever since. So no heavy lifting, pelvic rest, no exercise and I specifically requested no laundry.

Try not worry too much, most of the time they are completely harmless. I think over 80% of them don't affect pregnancies. Also, they are super common!

marnief

@Kelley421 I thought I added you to the checkin but I must have been dreaming! Promise you will be included in the list next week

shelly333

The ultra sound yesterday went amazingly! We have one teeny tiny perfect bean. So excited that we got to see the heartbeat!! 119 beats per minute. Today I am completely overwhelmed with emotion. Seeing our baby yesterday has left me in complete awe and somehow it made it seem so much more real. So there hasn't really been to much morning sickness, a few bouts of nausea here and there. Crying on the other hand...........i cry all the time now. Before i got pregnant and was doing fertility treatments I really wasn't a crier, now i hear a commercial on the radio and my eyes leak! @Kelley421 - WOW triplets?!?!?!?! Are you going to find out the sex of the babies? @MrsBwIVF - your family is going to be over the moon excited when you share your news!!! @Roeni - sending lots and lots of awesome baby vibes your way for you little twinkies

Roeni

@shelly333 Thank you! I am a crier now also. I get super emotional over everything even if it's something that is just super sweet and happy!

MrsBwIVF

I was a crier before any of this business started.
The other day, I cried while watching American Ninja Warrior when someone didn't make it all the way. It's ridiculous!

Kelley421

@shelly333 congrats on your healthy bean!
I was going team green but with three I feel like I need to know to be prepared! I'm still feeling pretty overwhelmed!
@marnief thanks!
@MrsBwIVF glad to hear these schs are common. Since I've been lazing around not lifting a finger the spotting has slowed significantly. Hopefully it's smaller at my check next Thursday.

andimegie325

I certainly cried my eyes out today! I had my last Re appointment and I got to hear, HEAR The heart beat and the baby even wiggled its arms and legs around for me on the ultrasound! I was sad that my husband couldn't be there with me to share in this first, but I am definitely crying tears of joy today

MrsBwIVF

Need some support and an Internet slap across the face.
We were all set in our dates, appts and announcement schedule. Well we were planning to have our announcement on a baseball scoreboard but didn't send in the paperwork too early due to jinx worry (Damn IF brain) and found out the day we needed is full.
Long story short, we had to move days, thus needing to over our last fertility appt from Monday to tomorrow! We literally moved the appt and within minutes, both DH and I got sick with worry, actually sick and running to the toilet. Now I am panicking that we jinxed it all and something will br wrong with our beans. I'm also terrified to be released from the specialists care.
I know it's illogical but it's totally thrown me off. So, please, some Internet rudeness to tell me I'm overreacting and everything will be fine.

somewhereinafrica

Hello ladies!

I'm bleeding again!
Ah I just feel totally numb I hate it! I'm so scared I don't know what to think!

I'm trying to remain calm but I am just so afraid!

I was laughing before bed and felt a sharpish pain in my left side and I know baby on the other side. But this pain was almost like in my overt area.

I am replaying everything trying to figure out why. I don't know what to do.

The doc said I might bleed more but I was feeling like it was done now ... There are no other words than scared

marnief

@MrsBwIVF - deep breaths! Look in the mirror and say out loud, "Today I am pregnant, and that is amazing." (Yes, that's what my profile pic says.) you are doing the very best you can for your munchkins. Talk to them, tell them how much you love them. Realize that very little is in your control - you eat and avoid the proper things, you take your prenatals, you try to get enough sleep and calcium and iron and whatever. But at some point, everything about pregnancy and parenthood is done on faith. My first pregnancy, I POAS'd twice a week until I was released to my regular OB/gyn at 12 weeks. After DD was born, once we moved her out of the bassinet and into her crib in her nursery, I checked on her if she looked too still on the video monitor. But eventually I said to myself that I couldn't keep doing that or I'd make myself crazy. Yes, there are worst-case scenarios, and they can and do happen. But they're not common, first of all. And second of all, if heaven forbid something bad is going to happen, it is NOT YOUR FAULT and it certainly isn't because you switched the date of your doctor's app't so they you could announce your news creatively. Try to live in the joy as much as you can. Today you are pregnant, and that is amazing. 

@somewhereinafrica - big hugs to you! A lot of what I said above holds for you, too. Especially since the doctor said there might be more bleeding, take some deep breaths and try to relax if you possibly can (I know that's so hard!). Do not "replay everything trying to figure out why" - that won't help or change anything. And there probably isn't a "why," anyway! Call the doc if you haven't already, get off your feet, and focus on sending love to your little bean. Like I said above: Yes, there are worst-case scenarios, and they can and do happen. But they're not common, first of all. And second of all, if heaven forbid something bad is going to happen, it is NOT YOUR FAULT. Today you are pregnant, and that is amazing. Take it one day at a time. Hopefully you can get in to see the doc very soon and have a nice reassuring US. Sending heaps of T&P your way.

somewhereinafrica

@marnief
Your very wise! This morning I feel a lot better! And claimed myself down. I used to laugh at the IVF boards before at how crazy the women sounded. Man it changes you inside, I went into this so level headed but all this loss of control has really taken a toll on me. I don't think i realized just how much!


Not going to the doctor as I live 7 hrs away. I am going to fly down in 2 w and 2 days for my 12w scan unless the bleeding gets worse.

My neighbor came over today and rearranged my room so I don't have to bend down and gave me a stern talking to in Swahili to relax!

My husband drove to a friend who lives an hour away and has a fetal Doppler that we can borrow. I heard the heart beat myself after 40 mins of searching for it!

You are right I am pregnant and it's a miracle. I will love this one a beautiful pregnancy of mine and that's all I can control! So I am a bleeder... Hey in know my baby is still in there heart beating away! So there is still so much to be happy about

At 1230 last night I just wanted Someone to scream at - It's not fair! I don't deserve this- I love this baby already!

This afternoon I have spent the last hour just thinking about how happy I am to be pregnant right now, that rest is my one big job for this baby and that it's a privilege to be carrying it!

MrsBwIVF

@marnief IS very wise!
Thanks so much for your calming and thought straightening reply yesterday! We had an amazing appt today! So amazing that I made it it's own post.