I THINK I MISSED MY CHANCE THIS MONTH :(

AdriGold

So according to Pink Daily and TheBump.com, I am supposed to be ovulating today but since I was running late for work I didn't have sex with my husband. Even though we had sex 3 days ago, I don't think we caught the egg. My gut says I didn't but who knows? It's my 3rd month TTC my rainbow baby. I thought I got pregnant last month because I did it like the day before ovulation and every sign pointed towards pregnancy but no, AF came when she was supposed to. Do I still have a chance even if we only did it 3 days before ovulation? I feel like we missed it this month also...If anything, there's always a next month like they always say...What do you think?

rachrobertson

Idk what pink daily is, but most websites go based off of an average cycle assuming you ovulate half way through. So, you may, in fact not at all be ovulating today. Temping or OPK are more accurate for you specifically. Hopefully you didn't miss your window, or his boys can survive up to 7 days inside so there is still a chance.

AdriGold

Thanks for the reply! I actually do not temp or use OPKs so I don't know about that. I probably didn't ovulate today because I didn't have any signs at all but I did have that pain I get on one side of my belly button 3 days ago so hopefully it was that? I am not sure. I have to wait and see now. The drag!!

rachrobertson

Those 2 weeks between ovulation and AF vs. BFP are the worst!

MayBeSomeDay16

The only way to tell for sure if you ovulated is by temping, which i highly recommend. I started temping for my first time this month and its such an eye opener of when i thought i should O and when i actually did. I think there is a chance you still have could get your BFP but without temping/charting I can't give you any better advice.

MrsGargoyle

Unfortunately, ovulation predictors (including the one here on The Bump) operate on the fallacy that all women ovulate on CD14. Not only do all women not ovulate on CD14 (that is a numerical average of a population sample), most women do not ovulate on CD14, but somewhere between CD12 and CD16. That's a five day spread, too. In addition to this, there is the difference between the follicular phase of your cycle (CD1 which is the day AF shows as bright red bleeding or enough flow to use a pad/tampon to O) which is not a fixed length, but varies for any individual woman month to month, and the luteal phase (O to the day before AF shows) which is typically quite fixed in length for any individual woman. This means that while predicting O without BBT data is not possible to do accurately, predicting AFs arrival date given a known O date is quite possible.

I strongly recommend going to FertilityFriend.com and using their free tutorials on charting your BBTs and their free charting tools for data entry. They really have a great algorithm that will pinpoint your O date three days retrospect, and after several cycles accurately predict when your AF should arrive. You will also learn the typical follicular phase length you tend to have and how great a spread you generally see for your individual cycle. If you choose to use OPKs, this is great info, because you know when you should start using them during the cycle. Remember with OPKs, they only show you a LH surge preparatory to ovulation in 24-48 hours, but they do not guarantee that you ovulated. The only reliable methods to confirm ovulation are a sustained temperature bump that you would see charting BBTs, or an elevated progesterone level on a blood test. (Yes, there is always u/s the day or two after ovulation, but all they can say for sure is that something ruptured, but in practice it could either be a follicle or a cyst.)

Another thing to bear in mind is that there is more than one magic hour that you must have sex in, in order to conceive. 2+O, 1+O, O, and O-1 are all great target days, with good probability of having sperm meet egg. However sperm can survive and maintain viability for up to 5 days before ovulation. What slows us down is that all things being equal, if sperm meets egg, there is still only a 20% shot at the fertilized egg being viable in the earliest days and successfully implanting. Because of this, remember that barring not having sex in our fertile 'week', we generally tend not to actually miss our chance. Best of luck as you move forward.