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Knottie16743552

So, we've decided we're actively TTC (#1 together, #4 in all). DH and I are excited and looking forward to this journey. Except we're running into one teeny tiny huge issue: DH all the sudden can't ummm... get it up. It started the first time I told him the OPK was positive and we should BD. He was totally onboard, well, most of him was.

He's had this issue before in general and I know this added pressure won't help. Anyone else run into this? Any suggestions?

I apologize if this was already mentioned but I can't figure out the search option on my phone.

hooligans4

My husband suffers ED from his anxiety meds. But it is also from his anxiety/stress. He is worse when he is having a bad week.
First I would keep all details to yourself. If you get a positive OPK just initiate sex. Don't tell him. But you have to initiate all month so he doesn't think this is out of the ordinary.
If it becomes a real problem for him have him speak to his doctor about getting a script for cialis or Viagra.

My husband finds strange "home remidies" and will try them but I'm sure they are just a placebo effect. I don't think chocolate milk really cures ED. But it's mostly in his head so if chocolate milk helps him then go for it !!!

Knottie16743552

Thank you! It helps feeling like I'm not alone. Great advice about keeping things to myself.

I forgot to mention he's a T1D so this is an on going issue. He is going to call his dr about renewing his prescription today.

bookworm40

Hi and welcome, my DH also has this from stress and anxiety. When we first started TTC I realized the less information I told him the better, if he knew I was ovulating than he just would freeze.  He did eventually get a script for Cialis and it did help but he never wanted to take it because he felt like it was not the way he should have to do this.  I finally convinced him that it's fine to take the cialis it doesn't make him any less of a man.  You know that sometimes men need their ego stroked and well in this situation I was just fine with that.  Good luck! 

emsmama15

My hubby also has had this problem - I call it performance anxiety because it literally only happens when I'm ovulating!  The problem is that I do a trigger shot so he knows it's "go time."  I've had a lot of success with giving him a range - sometimes he does better if we have sex in the morning, for instance.  So, I just say "Ok, we have to have sex in the next 12 hours, you pick."  I think that helps him feel less pressure too.  We were also going to get a script for Cialis, but then we moved to IUI.  We still have sex the day/night of trigger and he has been doing okay with that.  Maybe knowing the IUI is happening also relieves the pressure?  Good luck.  It's such a sensitive thing for guys.  I'm always worried I'll say something wrong - and I'm pretty sure I have.