Depression, anxiety, bed rest, & insomnia

justyh

have officially gone through week one of bed rest & just made it to 22 weeks.
I have been dealing with a lot of anxiety & depression since getting in bed rest, anxiety about suffering another loss, anxiety about money due to not working, depression about being alone all the time, & it doesn't help that I can't sleep for more than 3 hours at a time!!! It is 12:36 am & I am wide awake. Me and my bf are somewhat arguing (mainly because I am taking all these emotions out on him). I just feel so alone in this and alone in general. The few friends I talk to wouldn't understand what I'm going through and frankly I don't think they would care. I just feel like a failure as a mom already. Idk how to get myself out of this funk and I'm honestly not looking forward to the rest of this pregnancy.

kamio92

Hey Justyh

I know exactly where you are at. I've been on bedrest since week 16.

I'm feeling a little defeat because I was given even more bad news today. It can be so crushing and heavy especially when it is still to early for bub to come.

Honestly I don't know what got me through. I eventually reached a point I think when I realised that I had to leave all the worry and stress and doom and gloom behind.

I certainly didn't always succeed and staring at the cot in the corner of our bedroom makes me really anxious and drags me down. I'm 31 weeks at the moment but what if I never get to fill it...or aren't around to put her there.

Go easy on yourself. It's a lot of pressure and stress to deal with and being on bedrest really makes all if the worry and stress the focus coz there's almost nothing else to do.

I've been reading and watching TV shows to break it up and give myself a bit if space from it all.

I get the friends as well. It can be so lonely and isolating. If you ever need a shoulder or a friend or person to vent to feel free to message me on here.

Take care of yourself and stay strong.

PlainJane8350

I'm on bed rest, too! And my husband works out of town half of the week. I have a friend from college who tries to email me every day, but if either of you are ever bored email me!

Plainjane19792001@Gmail.com

I won't have very exciting stories since I'm on bed rest, too, but when my friend went on vacation I realized how much I enjoyed our emails.

purduepat2004

You are not alone, I'm on modified bedrest and have gone through all those emotions. It has been 5 1/2 weeks on bedrest, only 11 more weeks to go. You can do it! I wish I could say it is easy but that wouldn't be honest. Take advantage of all these amazing people that share their stories and offer advice. We are all pulling for each other! Thoughts and prayers for you!

IM me if you would like to talk more.

justyh

Thank you ladies! Definitely makes me feel not so alone, please message me so we can all keep each other company! I'm not the best at checking my messages but would definately love to connect with ladies in my situation.

thinkpink101

I'm sorry you are going through this. I was on modified bedrest at 20 weeks, then strict bedrest from 22 weeks until I delivered my twins at 33.5 weeks ( i.e I had to lie on my left hand side 24/7, wasn't allowed to sit up even to eat, I had to stay seated while showering, and be reclined in the car when going for appointments!), it was rough.

I was lucky in that I kept working full time from my bed so during the day I was very busy. I would recommend finding a few things to do to keep yourself occupied other than books/tv. Is there anyone you know that might need work done even just temporarily that you can do from your computer? If not maybe going through your photos and getting them organized, digital scrapbooking of some fun memories, going through magazines and cutting articles/recipes to keep, a letter writing campaign to military personnel... Things to make you feel accomplished while you can't do the things you normally would. I also did all our grocery shopping online, took over our budget/online bill pay etc.

Join a message board for people on bedrest, it helps to be able to commiserate! Bed rest sounds nice to busy, stressed people...until they experience it themselves.

We had a few small parties too, it was so nice to see my friends even if they were gathered around my living room bed, lol.

Hang in there, and keep busy, it helps take your mind off of things.