I absolutely agree that the OP handled the situation appropriately and realized that this was probably not the best audience. I think that the main problem for the women that have had losses was that there was a post up on the same page about somebody who just lost yet another baby; some of us do not have the luxury of having a sex preference. Is this the fault of the OP? Absolutely not! But it does trigger a lot of feelings for those that have had losses. She clearly stated that she was going to start picking out cute boys names and her disappointment was gone.
My disappointment is in some of the following comments. We don't need to put abortion on the table here. Even if it was just said to make a point. Know your audience. Everybody here has 72 hours to review the threads prior to posting.
For those of you that feel that this is not the right place for you, please remember that you are free to leave.
Bye Felicia
It seems that the overwhelming majority of respondents support OP so I'm not sure that she misjudged her audience. There are only a handful of women who are angrily offended. Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but continuing to post stupid gifs just causes unnecessary drama.
My gif was not stupid, it was to gently encourage people to trim their quote trees. It makes it hard to follow the conversation when all the quoting copies over. I thought TB had gotten better about doing this automatically, but evidently not always.
It seems that the overwhelming majority of respondents support OP so I'm not sure that she misjudged her audience. There are only a handful of women who are angrily offended. Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but continuing to post stupid gifs just causes unnecessary drama.
I have not said a single word against the OP. If you go back and reread what I wrote you would see that. I said that I was glad that she had came around and congratulations on her healthy baby.
Boys are great! It's always nice for my son and husband to have that bond. I wanted a girl at first with my first but I'm so happy I had a little boy they are so much fun! He is only 9 months old right now and we have another baby on the way! I'm only 11 weeks and I actually want another boy!
It seems that the overwhelming majority of respondents support OP so I'm not sure that she misjudged her audience. There are only a handful of women who are angrily offended. Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but continuing to post stupid gifs just causes unnecessary drama.
I have not said a single word against the OP. If you go back and reread what I wrote you would see that. I said that I was glad that she had came around and congratulations on her healthy baby.
It seems that the overwhelming majority of respondents support OP so I'm not sure that she misjudged her audience. There are only a handful of women who are angrily offended. Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but continuing to post stupid gifs just causes unnecessary drama.
I have not said a single word against the OP. If you go back and reread what I wrote you would see that. I said that I was glad that she had came around and congratulations on her healthy baby.
It seems that the overwhelming majority of respondents support OP so I'm not sure that she misjudged her audience. There are only a handful of women who are angrily offended. Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but continuing to post stupid gifs just causes unnecessary drama.
I have not said a single word against the OP. If you go back and reread what I wrote you would see that. I said that I was glad that she had came around and congratulations on her healthy baby.
Why resort to name calling yourself?
Who did I call a name?
This is unnecessary drama.
If you are going to say I'm resorting to name calling then back it up. I would never call anyone a name. YOU, again, are causing unnecessary drama...
It seems that the overwhelming majority of respondents support OP so I'm not sure that she misjudged her audience. There are only a handful of women who are angrily offended. Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but continuing to post stupid gifs just causes unnecessary drama.
I have not said a single word against the OP. If you go back and reread what I wrote you would see that. I said that I was glad that she had came around and congratulations on her healthy baby.
Why resort to name calling yourself?
Who did I call a name?
This is unnecessary drama.
If you are going to say I'm resorting to name calling then back it up. I would never call anyone a name. YOU, again, are causing unnecessary drama...
The gifs are silly and are not even directed towards OP, and are trying to distract away from drama. The people causing drama are not the ones posting gifs.
Sorry @BlueWaffleSpeshul I don't know how to trim the quotes! I tried to once and then it got all messed up! Haha
I am late to the party but first I really think this was blown way out of proportion. I think the OP expressed her concerns of having a boy well some people just feel they would be better prepared with one sex over another and I think she expressed how most important was the health of the baby. My first pregnancy I wanted a girl but I would have been just as happy with a boy second pregnancy I wanted another girl and had another girl this time I want a boy but will be thrilled with another girl honestly as much as I would love to have a boy I am nervous about be so used to little girls and how much different a boy would be. I think don't think there is anything wrong with say most important
I find it interesting that OP was simply trying to express feelings I'm sure many woman have, yet so many of those who responded completely made this whole thread about their own issues and disregarded the initial intent of why the OP put herself out there. When it was just originally posted me first thought was "here we go again" :-@ and just waited for the rather selfish replies to roll out. And they did. I'm fairly sure the OP didn't have these feelings to lessen anyone else's struggles with having a healthy pregnancy so why the need to even go there? The aggressive responses are the main reason I just avoid participating in a lot of potentially-heated threads. What's the point? I don't need the drama and neither did the OP. Maybe we all should stop taking other women's feelings so personal and just allow her to feel what she feels. Being judgmental is not a very attractive quality. Just saying.
exactly! Cheeps ladies not all posts are meant for you to take personally. I don't mean to be harsh but there is nothing wrong with a woman who has had an easy pregnancy to hope for a gender and be disappointed if she didn't get the sex she hoped for! Please don't forget that YOU ALL ARE Privileged. Unless you are ok with some annoying prat to stand beside you and remind you that someone somewhere is less fortunate than you and you should be thankful when you: buy your cute little crib sets, boppy pillows, breast pumps, disposable diapers, your maternity clothes, the house that you live in, the food you order at the restaurant. All these choices you have made and have been picky about since you have been pregnant. You know what most of the world doesn't have assisted fertility care, and luxuries that you have . When you buy your sugar free, gluten free , organic foods at the store does the teller give you a hard time because people in Ethiopia are starving?? What if someone sat there and said you have no right to be sad because so many people don't have the option to try to get pregnant, to have assistance and all these luxuries you live with. I'm sitting here reading all these women who are offended and I'm just thinking what hypocrites! The poor girl is upset of hopes that didn't turn out. Please Take your I couldn't conceive stories to the appropriate thread. You know what, if I don't get what I hope for I'll be upset, and I'll get over it and I'll love my baby. And so will she. And all she needs to hear from you guys is support. And if some idiot tells me to hope for a healthy baby all I'll say back to them is " no s---- Sherlock "
Hope this makes you feel better Hun
As far is this goes I am still trying to wrap my pregnant brain around what this is supposed to mean but I don't think it was very nice.
I find it interesting that OP was simply trying to express feelings I'm sure many woman have, yet so many of those who responded completely made this whole thread about their own issues and disregarded the initial intent of why the OP put herself out there.
When it was just originally posted me first thought was "here we go again" :-@ and just waited for the rather selfish replies to roll out. And they did. I'm fairly sure the OP didn't have these feelings to lessen anyone else's struggles with having a healthy pregnancy so why the need to even go there?
The aggressive responses are the main reason I just avoid participating in a lot of potentially-heated threads. What's the point? I don't need the drama and neither did the OP. Maybe we all should stop taking other women's feelings so personal and just allow her to feel what she feels. Being judgmental is not a very attractive quality. Just saying.
exactly! Cheeps ladies not all posts are meant for you to take personally. I don't mean to be harsh but there is nothing wrong with a woman who has had an easy pregnancy to hope for a gender and be disappointed if she didn't get the sex she hoped for! Please don't forget that YOU ALL ARE Privileged. Unless you are ok with some annoying prat to stand beside you and remind you that someone somewhere is less fortunate than you and you should be thankful when you: buy your cute little crib sets, boppy pillows, breast pumps, disposable diapers, your maternity clothes, the house that you live in, the food you order at the restaurant. All these choices you have made and have been picky about since you have been pregnant. You know what most of the world doesn't have assisted fertility care, and luxuries that you have . When you buy your sugar free, gluten free , organic foods at the store does the teller give you a hard time because people in Ethiopia are starving?? What if someone sat there and said you have no right to be sad because so many people don't have the option to try to get pregnant, to have assistance and all these luxuries you live with. I'm sitting here reading all these women who are offended and I'm just thinking what hypocrites! The poor girl is upset of hopes that didn't turn out. Please
Take your I couldn't conceive stories to the appropriate thread. You know what, if I don't get what I hope for I'll be upset, and I'll get over it and I'll love my baby. And so will she. And all she needs to hear from you guys is support. And if some idiot tells me to hope for a healthy baby all I'll say back to them is " no s---- Sherlock "
Hope this makes you feel better Hun
I love this. It applies perfectly to all of the judgy responses to women expressing any kind of disappointment about their pregnancy (I'm thinking here of the Christmas babies, too). I actually just commented to my husband that apparently no one is allowed to complain, ever, because there's always someone who has it worse.
I love this. It applies perfectly to all of the judgy responses to women expressing any kind of disappointment about their pregnancy (I'm thinking here of the Christmas babies, too). I actually just commented to my husband that apparently no one is allowed to complain, ever, because there's always someone who has it worse.
I'm glad someone here got the gist of my rant. I'm sorry I didn't put it as eloquently as this. But I was so annoyed by all the responses , so I jabbed back the only way I could. This is exactly why I was upset. When I first saw the OP post and a few other women posting , I actually felt relief. I myself really hope for a girl, and admit I will be upset if she isn't a girl. Of course I'll still love my baby in the end. But it bugged me when people tried to tell me that I should be grateful for a healthy baby ( as if I wasn't aware or hoping to have one ). What person wouldn't want a healthy baby? It's almost an insult when you hear it. And then when I read all the judgemental comments it kind of threw me over the edge. And for those that didn't understand my rant , not able to share your disappointment because there is always someone less fortunate than you is stifling.
I find it interesting that OP was simply trying to express feelings I'm sure many woman have, yet so many of those who responded completely made this whole thread about their own issues and disregarded the initial intent of why the OP put herself out there. When it was just originally posted me first thought was "here we go again" :-@ and just waited for the rather selfish replies to roll out. And they did. I'm fairly sure the OP didn't have these feelings to lessen anyone else's struggles with having a healthy pregnancy so why the need to even go there? The aggressive responses are the main reason I just avoid participating in a lot of potentially-heated threads. What's the point? I don't need the drama and neither did the OP. Maybe we all should stop taking other women's feelings so personal and just allow her to feel what she feels. Being judgmental is not a very attractive quality. Just saying.
Wouldn't this post be considered "participating"? Lol
If you actually read my post you would see it states I avoid participating in MOST of these such things. Most doesn't mean all. Your comment only proved my point and was unnecessary and depending on the tone you were going for somewhat catty. I've suffered a late-term loss before and I wasn't offended by the OP because this thread isn't about me and I don't need to bring all my drama into it, be selfish, and make it all about myself and my issues.
Yikes, no need to get so defensive. There is a lot of irony in both of your posts and I just couldn't help but notice. I'll just leave it at that Good day!
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It seems that the overwhelming majority of respondents support OP so I'm not sure that she misjudged her audience. There are only a handful of women who are angrily offended. Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but continuing to post stupid gifs just causes unnecessary drama.
Baby Girl 12.9.15
MC 4.7.14 @ 21 W - Turners Syndrome
I luff gifs too!!
It seems that the overwhelming majority of respondents support OP so I'm not sure that she misjudged her audience. There are only a handful of women who are angrily offended. Yes, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but continuing to post stupid gifs just causes unnecessary drama.
I have not said a single word against the OP. If you go back and reread what I wrote you would see that. I said that I was glad that she had came around and congratulations on her healthy baby.Why resort to name calling yourself?
Why resort to name calling yourself?
Who did I call a name?
This is unnecessary drama.
If you are going to say I'm resorting to name calling then back it up. I would never call anyone a name. YOU, again, are causing unnecessary drama...
The gifs are silly and are not even directed towards OP, and are trying to distract away from drama. The people causing drama are not the ones posting gifs.
Sorry @BlueWaffleSpeshul I don't know how to trim the quotes! I tried to once and then it got all messed up! Haha
There is a lot of irony in both of your posts and I just couldn't help but notice.
I'll just leave it at that
Good day!