Facebook Group?

vlambert

Hi everyone! I just got my bfp yesterday and I'm due end of January/beginning of February with my second baby!

I was wondering if anyone has started a secret fb group for February 2016 babies, and if not, if anyone would be interested if I started one. I would make it secret, which means no one can see your posts or even see that you're in the group.

Let me know if there's interest and I'll create one. Either way, in excited to be on this journey with you all!

mrs3615

This is a great idea but regardless of privacy settings I think I'd feel better after I'm in my second tri!

txbrideinblue

Facebook groups really kill boards.  It's best not to do them until later on also because of privacy issues like mrs3615 said above.  There are ALL KINDS of trolly crazies out there.

vlambert

I was part of a FB group for my Jan 15 baby and LOVED it. I made same great friends and we're all still part of the group and sharing what is going on with our babes.

I've definitely Italy also been a part of some groups that weren't so successful, so I understand.

I also understand being concerned about privacy issues, but I've done this before and know that if the group is set to "secret" nobody but members can even see it exists. You can't even search for it.

But if there's no interest, no big deal.

Sprinkles07

I'll be joining the Facebook group whenever it happens. My April 2013 board is amazing. Still. As for crazy trolls meh. Not too worried. I don't have to friend people in the group if I'm not comfortable and I've got my personal privacy settings under control.

pai314

Definitely interested in a fb secret group!

MrsJG3

I would do it. I miss the Dec 13 ladies and wish I would have joined their FB group.

bookqueen

I think it's a bit early for a Facebook group. We don't really know each other yet and what potential creepers are here. No offense, lol

bookqueen

I say go for it after the first tri though, since we may unfortunately (but hopefully not) lose some people.

AggieKim

My November 2011 girls and I are still together. We started out pretty large and after a while we had a "rose ceremony." Basically anyone who accosted stayed in the group. This weeded out the girls who originally joined but weren't participating or interested in participating anymore. Then we became strictly closed. If you left, you left. Few exceptions to that rule. We did have an issue that due to sharing info, one girl took it upon herself to call CPS on another (for the record, the caller was way out of line and no harm of a child occurred). We also had problems with some of the more well off moms helping those who were poorer and then one who received money spent it on stuff not to help her family and that caused a huge problem. Don't give money to your friend on here with expectations. Then one of the girls who gave money judged everyone who didn't or couldn't buy organic bananas and stuff and that caused a huge falling out.

My point is that even after we get closer, your privacy and everything is still precious.

strlitemiss

Way too early for a Facebook group imo.

bnh630

I would join the Facebook group

oceanangel0502

I would join a fb group, but later down te road once we all get to know each other more. My march14 board made a fb group but not until our lo were born and we are very close. I def think it's way to soon

KadzoKimbia

All on board for a Facebook group later! I joined the December 15 group before mc and that stunk having to get out of it etc. I would hate to do that again or have anyone else have to. Waiting till 2nd tri makes sense to me.

MrsJG3

After reading AggieKim's post I think waiting is best. Def would like to weed out any weirdos first.

cassey910

Definitely in for a FB group later on down the road. My O13 FB group has been great! We started ours after LO's were born.

geojam224

I agree with the other ladies. I'm all for a FB group after I've gotten to know everyone. Maybe once babies are here? My anniversary board has a FB group that I love, but it's just us that stuck around after the weddings. It was nice cuz we really know each other well, it's not just the random people that swing by once a month to say something then disappear again.

Natachamommy2eight

I'm game

PumpkinTi

I'm game down the road, once I'm in my 2nd tri and have told family, friends, etc. - I don't trust FB's "secret" settings - there have been times in the past where everything on FB has been public to everyone for periods of time...

tumblefluff

I'm interested after we get to know the group a little better.  Sometimes keeping up with the FB group and here is a little challenging though.

strlitemiss

Ohplusalso most of the month hasn't even gotten BFPs so it's pretty silly.

Jmsmith102

Would love to join but agree with a lot of the ladies above I'd like to wait a little longer until I'm further along.

totmeares

I'd love to join in once we are in the safe zone.

csh96

I've love to be part of it whenever the timing makes sense.

BlueWaffleSpeshul

PumpkinTi said:

I'm game down the road, once I'm in my 2nd tri and have told family, friends, etc. - I don't trust FB's "secret" settings - there have been times in the past where everything on FB has been public to everyone for periods of time...

I missed your announcement. Congrats! I love seeing the ladies from TTGP when lurking the BMBs.

HBirdie

I love my first BMB's FB group to death. They are amazing women. We rally together and buy flowers when someone has a loss in their family, we do craft exchanges and gift exchanges, we tell each other stuff we've never told anyone else, we talk every single day, we meet in person, we're planning our commune... they're awesome.

That being said, we started the last week of our birth month. Most people already had their babies by then. We knew who was unstable (aka who not to include), and we had all been talking for almost a year. So I'm with the others who say let's wait. Obviously you can start one, but if you do, you'll find there's a pretty big divide between the board and the FB group. Once you join a FB group you tend to migrate off TB, IME. The FB group that started at the beginning of our pregnancies has people in it I don't even remember a little bit, and I was super active in my BMB. It's weird.

mrs3615

HBirdie said:

I love my first BMB's FB group to death. They are amazing women. We rally together and buy flowers when someone has a loss in their family, we do craft exchanges and gift exchanges, we tell each other stuff we've never told anyone else, we talk every single day, we meet in person, we're planning our commune... they're awesome.

That being said, we started the last week of our birth month. Most people already had their babies by then. We knew who was unstable (aka who not to include), and we had all been talking for almost a year. So I'm with the others who say let's wait. Obviously you can start one, but if you do, you'll find there's a pretty big divide between the board and the FB group. Once you join a FB group you tend to migrate off TB, IME. The FB group that started at the beginning of our pregnancies has people in it I don't even remember a little bit, and I was super active in my BMB. It's weird.

all the feels  

bookqueen

HBirdie said:

I love my first BMB's FB group to death. They are amazing women. We rally together and buy flowers when someone has a loss in their family, we do craft exchanges and gift exchanges, we tell each other stuff we've never told anyone else, we talk every single day, we meet in person, we're planning our commune... they're awesome.

That being said, we started the last week of our birth month. Most people already had their babies by then. We knew who was unstable (aka who not to include), and we had all been talking for almost a year. So I'm with the others who say let's wait. Obviously you can start one, but if you do, you'll find there's a pretty big divide between the board and the FB group. Once you join a FB group you tend to migrate off TB, IME. The FB group that started at the beginning of our pregnancies has people in it I don't even remember a little bit, and I was super active in my BMB. It's weird.

Exactly all of this! My BMB had a major split with some going to the dark side and other part to yuku. Now the group I'm in is super close. Get togethers, gifts, etc.

snarky14jd

I LOVE My April 13 group! Im on board when you ladies are ready!

froggy994

I'm in, and I think the sooner the better. Facebook is so much easier for me to manage. I'm still in my Nov. 12 group. The group was secret, and we closed it soon after everyone was past the first trimester. It was awesome because we experienced the whole pregnancy, newborns, and now toddlers together.

moomee

I'm interested but will probably wait. After having a miscarriage in April, I'm still hesitant.

LittleLotero

I'd be in, but it would have to be totally private.

Twindling

Sprinkles07 said:

I'll be joining the Facebook group whenever it happens. My April 2013 board is amazing. Still. As for crazy trolls meh. Not too worried. I don't have to friend people in the group if I'm not comfortable and I've got my personal privacy settings under control.

I'm curious who you are. I'm an a13'er too

CuriousKiddosMama

Won't be joining, but don't let that stop you. On my last bmb a lady had her Identity stolen by another on the board. So I won't be doing this, gift exchanges, or any of that fun stuff. Not willing to take those chances, sorry.

rachelariel88

When it's time to start one, I'll probably join. But i do see that it could take away from the bmb

FreshBakedBrownies

I would join now. For me Facebook is easier. I think the bump is so prone to random lurkers with snarky mean comments! How do you plan to get it started?

kayjay44

I'd prefer to wait. We didn't even start our June 14 FB group until after babies were born. Just wait until you see what kind of crazy comes out here...

ashcody2

I would definitely be interested in a FB group but probably when we are into our 2nd trimesters - I was in one for the Jan. '13 mamas for awhile but had difficulty BF so I left but am more hopeful this time around

nikki_rose7

I would love to join a Facebook group. Definitly count me in!!!

PrairieGirl45

I would be in! Facebook is easier IMO as well

minivanmafia

I am on the fence with this since reading everyone's comments and agree that it would probably be best (at least for me now) to wait until we know each other a little bit better.