switching ob's.. What do you think?

WLJ2

I have been thinking about this since I made the appointment. I have moved since I had my son and the practice I had him with is not an option based on location. The new one was referred to me by a friend. However, when I made the appointment they told me I would not follow with one dr. I may see a different one every time I come in for an appointment. I think its this fact alone that makes me want to go elsewhere. How would you feel about that? 

rockinchic85

I had this issue with the first office I went to. My initial visit was with one doctor, then my second one w/ sonogram was with a different doctor who basically didn't read my chart and said my concerns were in my head. It was very disappointing b/c I am a high risk pregnancy. I am switching to a different office, I want someone who is going to see me as a person not a chart. Good luck !

WLJ2

Thanks! I'm glad I'm not the only one with that concern.

notsoswifty

I made the switch because I didn't like the attitude the dr had. You want to make sure you are with someone you are comfortable with and I wasn't comfortable with her. I'm on the heavy side and I felt like I was being judged already. And that was just when I talked to her about trying to get pregnant. She told me before I could think about it, I had to lose weight. She was very negative about anything I had to say. And she seemed like she would rather be somewhere else. I don't want a dr that seemed to be in too big of a hurry to leave the room. It's not my first pregnancy. Now that I'm pregnant, I'm seeing another doctor.

notsoswifty

Oh I forgot what the post really about. I posted too soon. I used to be military. My husband was in he army. My first two pregnancies were on a military base. There were 6-8 different drs in the maternity area. You could see just one de or you could see a different one each visit. In a way I liked that cause when you deliver it could have been with either of them so it was kind of nice getting to know them all.

Meg2016

I just switched today because the NP I seen for pregnancy confirmation and loveddd unfortunately won't be able to deliver bc she's a NP. So I'll see a MD on the 24th for my first real prenatal visit. I just want to really feel comfortable and like I kind of know the doctor especially bc it's my first so Your def not the only one!

ChipMonster

This exact same thing happened with my first. I was referred to a clinic and the secretary told me that there were 10 doctors and I could see a different one at each visit depending on who was available. I canceled my first appointment and went with a midwife instead. For something so personal in my life like giving birth, I couldn't deal with such an impersonal care.

jonesl12

I prefer a more in and out , low chit chat , no "heart to heart "doctor. I want the best Medical doctor not the best therapist, I want somebody who is extremely well educated that can save my life and the fetus if something were to happen. It's way more important than finding somebody that puts on a show when they walk in the room ( and many do as I have worked for 5 ob/gyns as a float ) .

jhenns00

It depends where you are, in the states it's common to see ALL the Drs in the practice bc you don't know who'll be on call when you deliver. If you want more one on one, switching to a smaller practice is probably a good idea.

daisy62103

I felt that way with my first two kids. I wanted to see the same dr every visit. Then I moved and saw the new practice with #3 and this one. They suggested I schedule my appts with all the different doctors so I can get to know each of them. I did and was really glad! You don't know who will end up delivering your baby so it's good to at least meet the other drs. I ended up liking some of the other drs more than the one I originally chose and ended up delivering with a midwife whom I'd never met, and now love. 

HimandMeplus3

It's never too late to switch. Do what makes you comfortable. Last time I switched at 35 weeks, and ended up delivering my son 2.5 weeks later! You have to do what you feel is right for baby and you.

winnie1122

I think the most important thing is feeling well cared for, whether by one doc or several. I went to a group practice with rotating docs with my first two pregnancies/losses and I left only because no one (except one NP that I never saw again) seemed to care much about me or the babes I lost. I had to beg for tests, deal with rude nurses who were not careful drawing blood (the bruises!!!!), and never knew who I was talking to and what for. But that had more to do with the atmosphere and staff of the practice than the number of doctors I saw! Just find people you are comfortable working with. Good luck!!

ChipMonster

jonesl12 said:

I prefer a more in and out , low chit chat , no "heart to heart "doctor. I want the best Medical doctor not the best therapist, I want somebody who is extremely well educated that can save my life and the fetus if something were to happen. It's way more important than finding somebody that puts on a show when they walk in the room ( and many do as I have worked for 5 ob/gyns as a float ) .

While I respect your opinion, what you're saying isn't sitting that well with me. A doctor that goes in and out and doesn't take the time to talk to you, is not necessarily a more educated doctor. Being a great doctor means taking the time to talk and listen to a patient. Pregnancy is not a medical condition and there are a lot of emotional changes that happen that a great doctor should be able to help you deal with. While, yes, there is a small possibility that you or your baby's life will need to be saved should complications occur, but maybe the doctor that built a rapport with you would be more invested in your pregnancy should something happen.

If you prefer a no chit chat doctor, that's fine, but it's not fair to say it's because they'd be super educated and a better medical doctor.

MissMheMhe

There are 5 drs and 5 midwives in the practice I go to. Ivsaw my regular dr for my first visit. Each visit after will bevwith a different dr so I can meet them all since we don't know who will be on call when it's time to deliver. I don't mind at all.

jonesl12

ChipMonster said:

jonesl12 said:

I prefer a more in and out , low chit chat , no "heart to heart "doctor. I want the best Medical doctor not the best therapist, I want somebody who is extremely well educated that can save my life and the fetus if something were to happen. It's way more important than finding somebody that puts on a show when they walk in the room ( and many do as I have worked for 5 ob/gyns as a float ) .

While I respect your opinion, what you're saying isn't sitting that well with me. A doctor that goes in and out and doesn't take the time to talk to you, is not necessarily a more educated doctor. Being a great doctor means taking the time to talk and listen to a patient. Pregnancy is not a medical condition and there are a lot of emotional changes that happen that a great doctor should be able to help you deal with. While, yes, there is a small possibility that you or your baby's life will need to be saved should complications occur, but maybe the doctor that built a rapport with you would be more invested in your pregnancy should something happen.

If you prefer a no chit chat doctor, that's fine, but it's not fair to say it's because they'd be super educated and a better medical doctor.

My doc asks questions and gives me a chance to answer questions as well and I'm in and out within 15 min. It's straight forward with no sugar coating and nowhere did I say doctors who baby people and put on the show are less educated . I said I prefer a doctor who is extremely well educated. Some physicians don't electively continue to go to extra classes and seminars on the latest medical info and the old school approach isn't for me. That's why I chose who I did. It's all preference. He does awesome stitching and is the director of the ob/gyns in the network. That's what's important to me.

Edit:

Also pregnancy IS a medical condition. We are hosting a parasite for 9 months ! Many complications can arise during the birth and or through out the pregnancy . Maybe it's because I work in healthcare but I really see it as nothing more than a medical condition until after the fetus is delivered. If I need to talk about my feelings id see a therapist. In my experience most doctors will say that they are more like therapists vs doctors because they have to tip toe around sensitive people and spend extra valuable time they don't have just to discuss marital problems or how to control their spoiled children without medication while in an exam room. We refer to therapy all the time! That's why I absolutely don't waste the doctors time to discuss "emotional changes" . Just my opinion

monaclemere

WLJ2 said:

I have been thinking about this since I made the appointment. I have moved since I had my son and the practice I had him with is not an option based on location. The new one was referred to me by a friend. However, when I made the appointment they told me I would not follow with one dr. I may see a different one every time I come in for an appointment. I think its this fact alone that makes me want to go elsewhere. How would you feel about that? 

This is how my practice is, and I think it's pretty standard for a lot of practices. This way you get to know everyone, since there's no guarantee that your doctor will be on call when you deliver.

Mommyduclos

jonesl12 said:

ChipMonster said:

jonesl12 said:

I prefer a more in and out , low chit chat , no "heart to heart "doctor. I want the best Medical doctor not the best therapist, I want somebody who is extremely well educated that can save my life and the fetus if something were to happen. It's way more important than finding somebody that puts on a show when they walk in the room ( and many do as I have worked for 5 ob/gyns as a float ) .

While I respect your opinion, what you're saying isn't sitting that well with me. A doctor that goes in and out and doesn't take the time to talk to you, is not necessarily a more educated doctor. Being a great doctor means taking the time to talk and listen to a patient. Pregnancy is not a medical condition and there are a lot of emotional changes that happen that a great doctor should be able to help you deal with. While, yes, there is a small possibility that you or your baby's life will need to be saved should complications occur, but maybe the doctor that built a rapport with you would be more invested in your pregnancy should something happen.

If you prefer a no chit chat doctor, that's fine, but it's not fair to say it's because they'd be super educated and a better medical doctor.

My doc asks questions and gives me a chance to answer questions as well and I'm in and out within 15 min. It's straight forward with no sugar coating and nowhere did I say doctors who baby people and put on the show are less educated . I said I prefer a doctor who is extremely well educated. Some physicians don't electively continue to go to extra classes and seminars on the latest medical info and the old school approach isn't for me. That's why I chose who I did. It's all preference. He does awesome stitching and is the director of the ob/gyns in the network. That's what's important to me.

Edit:

Also pregnancy IS a medical condition. We are hosting a parasite for 9 months ! Many complications can arise during the birth and or through out the pregnancy . Maybe it's because I work in healthcare but I really see it as nothing more than a medical condition until after the fetus is delivered. If I need to talk about my feelings id see a therapist. In my experience most doctors will say that they are more like therapists vs doctors because they have to tip toe around sensitive people and spend extra valuable time they don't have just to discuss marital problems or how to control their spoiled children without medication while in an exam room. We refer to therapy all the time! That's why I absolutely don't waste the doctors time to discuss "emotional changes" . Just my opinion

We are absolutely NOT "hosting a parasite" as the biological definition of a parasite includes the parameter that the parasite must be of a different species than the host. And I'm pretty sure we're all growing human babies.

jonesl12

It is what it is. I can't wait till it actually starts to look like a fetus then I'm pretty sure I'll think differently.

I'm hoping if it's not a human it's nothing like the movie Alien.

carlyhammond

I'm having the same problem. Alothough I have been to my current doctor, I realize I HATE the office - their protocols and the staff I just do not like it. I love my doctor so I don't want to leave because I really like her - she has the in and out attitude but she's not rude about it she'll sit and answers questions but she's quick with the exam (thank God). I have this weird fear of men Obgyns and sadly with my current office I have to see ALL doctors in the practice bc I have to meet them at least once (on call thing) and I don't want a male.
So I'm thinking of making a switch to my sisters doctor who is female and she's the only doctor and she will deliver your baby. Which makes me feel better. I just need to make the switch. :-/

carlyhammond

jonesl12 said:

ChipMonster said:

jonesl12 said:

I prefer a more in and out , low chit chat , no "heart to heart "doctor. I want the best Medical doctor not the best therapist, I want somebody who is extremely well educated that can save my life and the fetus if something were to happen. It's way more important than finding somebody that puts on a show when they walk in the room ( and many do as I have worked for 5 ob/gyns as a float ) .

While I respect your opinion, what you're saying isn't sitting that well with me. A doctor that goes in and out and doesn't take the time to talk to you, is not necessarily a more educated doctor. Being a great doctor means taking the time to talk and listen to a patient. Pregnancy is not a medical condition and there are a lot of emotional changes that happen that a great doctor should be able to help you deal with. While, yes, there is a small possibility that you or your baby's life will need to be saved should complications occur, but maybe the doctor that built a rapport with you would be more invested in your pregnancy should something happen.

If you prefer a no chit chat doctor, that's fine, but it's not fair to say it's because they'd be super educated and a better medical doctor.

My doc asks questions and gives me a chance to answer questions as well and I'm in and out within 15 min. It's straight forward with no sugar coating and nowhere did I say doctors who baby people and put on the show are less educated . I said I prefer a doctor who is extremely well educated. Some physicians don't electively continue to go to extra classes and seminars on the latest medical info and the old school approach isn't for me. That's why I chose who I did. It's all preference. He does awesome stitching and is the director of the ob/gyns in the network. That's what's important to me.

Edit:

Also pregnancy IS a medical condition. We are hosting a parasite for 9 months ! Many complications can arise during the birth and or through out the pregnancy . Maybe it's because I work in healthcare but I really see it as nothing more than a medical condition until after the fetus is delivered. If I need to talk about my feelings id see a therapist. In my experience most doctors will say that they are more like therapists vs doctors because they have to tip toe around sensitive people and spend extra valuable time they don't have just to discuss marital problems or how to control their spoiled children without medication while in an exam room. We refer to therapy all the time! That's why I absolutely don't waste the doctors time to discuss "emotional changes" . Just my opinion

My opinion - the medical feild has CLEARLY hardened your emotions. I respect your opinion, not sure I like how you executed it. I try to not respond but this bothers me a little.
I understand my baby is feeding and getting nutrients from me but I would never refer to it as a "parasite" and also the fact you called it a "fetus" instead of your baby bothers me too. But that's none of my business, it's also just my opinion.