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TeenShouldHaveBeenMom

I miscarried my baby over a year and a half ago. In fact if he had been carried to term his 1st birthday would have been this week. I was 18 years old and in no way ready to be having a baby, but I had every intention of keeping him anyway. When did you (if you did) stop thinking about what they would have been like? Am I being stupid that I love this person who wasn't even real for more than a few weeks? That would have completely "ruined" all my plans? It's not like I spend all day every day on it, but the past week has been pretty awful.

ivfmommy1228

I'm so sorry. I pray that you continue to heal over time. I don't really have that much advice for you, as I only lost my babies a little over a week ago. My guess would be that it never completely goes away and milestones (like birthdays) will always remind you. But, I can already tell that time allows me to go longer periods of time without having a breakdown. I hope you continue to heal and one day we both have our rainbow babies when the time is right.

TeenShouldHaveBeenMom

I'm so sorry for your loss, and thank you for your kindness. I hope you're right, and I wish you the best of luck.