I'll be honest, with my first son, I was so scared of having sex. Not because I thought it would hurt the baby, but I knew so many people who spotted after sex and I didn't want to handle that in the first trimester.
Right now, I'm trying not to be a psycho, but I'm so uncomfortable with my son jumping on my stomach! He isn't awful about it, but he definitely accidentally, and sometimes purposefully, hits or plays on my stomach. I'm able to be patient with him so far, but, he is slow to understand since his speech/language delay is significant and that affects how much he understands.
Sex. Haha. I already had some spotting with out having sex. I think when I get my numbers back Monday I will feel better about it. Last pregnancy it was so bad that my OB told me to stop torturing my hubby and have sex. She even pulled in the ultra sound and did a free impromptu ultra sound to show me that my baby was fine and would be fine. He was just fine jumping all over the screen haha!
Another is just like any little product I use or food I eat. like was that cooked enough? or will this body scrub cause M/C? I'm a nut! Also somebody needs to make an app where you can like scan a product and it will point out any of the possibly un safe ingredients for pregnancy.
Sex. Haha. I already had some spotting with out having sex. I think when I get my numbers back Monday I will feel better about it. Last pregnancy it was so bad that my OB told me to stop torturing my hubby and have sex. She even pulled in the ultra sound and did a free impromptu ultra sound to show me that my baby was fine and would be fine. He was just fine jumping all over the screen haha!
Another is just like any little product I use or food I eat. like was that cooked enough? or will this body scrub cause M/C? I'm a nut! Also somebody needs to make an app where you can like scan a product and it will point out any of the possibly un safe ingredients for pregnancy.
You can use EWGs Skin deep app to see how chemical filled your products are if it makes you feel better.
First pregnancy and I'm definitely worried about what I eat! I love cheeses and now I have to worry if it was pasteurized or not. Caffeine, good fish bad fish; where if I do anything that's bad it will harm the baby.
I'm only worried about exercising and miscarrying. I worked out a lot when I was last pregnant and lost the baby, and yes I know one may not be the cause of the other but it still makes me anxious. I'm nervous that every little twinge (since I had at least one cyst) is either miscarrying or ectopic. On top of not having nausea yet. Yup, totally irrational fears, lol.
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
I'm only worried about exercising and miscarrying. I worked out a lot when I was last pregnant and lost the baby, and yes I know one may not be the cause of the other but it still makes me anxious. I'm nervous that every little twinge (since I had at least one cyst) is either miscarrying or ectopic. On top of not having nausea yet. Yup, totally irrational fears, lol.
^^This. Exactly this. I had started a more intensive workout program a week before I found out I was pregnant in November. Dr said it was fine. After some spotting, I was told by the ER doc not to run or workout intensely. I miscarried. At a follow up appointment, my regular doc said exercise would have made the miscarriage process easier (physically and emotionally). I got a fancy new running watch earlier this year for my birthday - and even ran a half marathon earlier this month before my bfp. I'm still afraid to workout with any level of intensity and have a repeat of November (even though I know the two are likely not correlated!).
Eeek! Scary workout stories, how often were you ladies working out? I have probably 2 more weeks left in my soccer leagues that I play twice a week, so 4 more games! Il be nervous for sure. Right now I think I'm just going to be thinking about everything that I eat, especially because I haven't been feeling well after eating, so hopefully this will start me out on a healthy track!
Eeek! Scary workout stories, how often were you ladies working out? I have probably 2 more weeks left in my soccer leagues that I play twice a week, so 4 more games! Il be nervous for sure. Right now I think I'm just going to be thinking about everything that I eat, especially because I haven't been feeling well after eating, so hopefully this will start me out on a healthy track!
About an hour a day of high intensity workouts
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
Eeek! Scary workout stories, how often were you ladies working out? I have probably 2 more weeks left in my soccer leagues that I play twice a week, so 4 more games! Il be nervous for sure. Right now I think I'm just going to be thinking about everything that I eat, especially because I haven't been feeling well after eating, so hopefully this will start me out on a healthy track!
An hour to an hour and a half of misery at to high intensity exercise about 5 days a week.
I have another I just realized....twins. Though it is highly unlikely for me to be pregnant with twins (despite the folklore in my family that it is my turn), I can't get it off my brain! For the record, I'm not interested in carrying twins, though should I be graced with that joy I would accept it humbly. I dont remember thinking about it this much with my son so I think it stems from the joke pregnancy pack a couple girls at work and I made and the first one to get pregnant had "gotten carried away" with her husband the first month off BC and is now 22 weeks pregnant with twin girls. So, that. That's another thing I fear.
I moved into a new house this weekend (yay!) I found out I was pregnant Friday night and kind of became useless in the move. I've been so afraid to lift anything remotely heavy/use any strong cleaning products. Also I've become hyper aware of how much my 3 year actually jumps on/presses on/hits me in my stomach. It's totally putting me on edge!
I moved into a new house this weekend (yay!) I found out I was pregnant Friday night and kind of became useless in the move. I've been so afraid to lift anything remotely heavy/use any strong cleaning products. Also I've become hyper aware of how much my 3 year actually jumps on/presses on/hits me in my stomach. It's totally putting me on edge!
Don't lift anything! Right before I got pregnant we did some spring cleaning and I slipped a disc in my spine. I don't think that's irrational my biggest fear is my back won't heal and this pregnancy will be miserable
I am so scared of my pregnancy going away. I am always trying to "check in " with my body - some moments I don't "feel pregnant" and I get so scared - other moments I am crying over the littlest things. 2.5 weeks until I see my doctor and I cannot wait. So nerve wracking!
I don't feel pregnant yet. I don't think I will till either the nausea kicks in or until our first appointment. I go for my first blood draw this morning. FX
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
I had a mc may 3rd so I can't stop peeing on sticks! The second line is definitely there but faint as I'm 3w4dish so I just have a hard time believing it. I'm waiting to call my dr till Monday after af would be due and I am brave enough to take a digital. (I want the least sensitive test to be positive, then I'll believe it)
I'm scared of it all. I had a mc at 16 weeks in December and I questioned everything I did. Now I'm scared to clean, exercise, have sex, eat... Everything. I just need to get to my appt on Monday so I can feel somewhat better. I'll still be afraid until the little nugget is actually in my arms. Good luck everyone! It's nice to have this community.
Everytime I pee I'm scared to death I will be bleeding. And also having sex.
Yes this exactly. I have had bleeding issues I all my pregnancies. This is my 6th pregnancy. Also I am RH negative so if I start bleeding I have to get a shot usually in the ER. The thought of being in the ER with all three kids freaks me out. I really just want to calm down and enjoy this as it will be my last. Hopefully once I see a heartbeat I will feel better.
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OMG. I'm coming up with more irrational fears as I read these lol. Mine was also that every time I use the bathroom I'll meet AF again. But it's not an overwhelming fear. However, I recently started a weight loss journey (like a month ago, if that). I only have like 30 lbs to lose, and for the most part, I've just been eating healthier and actually exercising and the lbs have been shedding naturally. All my friends are like STOP THE WEIGHT LOSS NOW. So fine. But that can't possibly mean I have to go back to eating pizza and take out every day and I'm not allowed to exercise? I just paid for 3 months of Jazzercise!!
OMG. I'm coming up with more irrational fears as I read these lol. Mine was also that every time I use the bathroom I'll meet AF again. But it's not an overwhelming fear. However, I recently started a weight loss journey (like a month ago, if that). I only have like 30 lbs to lose, and for the most part, I've just been eating healthier and actually exercising and the lbs have been shedding naturally. All my friends are like STOP THE WEIGHT LOSS NOW. So fine. But that can't possibly mean I have to go back to eating pizza and take out every day and I'm not allowed to exercise? I just paid for 3 months of Jazzercise!!
Keep up with the healthy diet, the key will be to find a balance of calories since you don't want to continue to lose (Awesome that you already started it would be much harder to deal with craving etc) And if you have gotten into an exercise routine it is fine to continue! Congrats on a new healthy lifestyle!!
I'm just so scared to celebrate. I've read enough (and been on the TTGP board long enough) to know just how common MC is. DH told me last night he doesn't feel we've really allowed ourselves to be really happy yet, and I know exactly what he means. I just want to fast forward to my first U/S and appointment in 2.5 weeks and find out how baby's doing. I think that will help allay some of my fears.
I don't really feel pregnant either, other than my belly blows up like a balloon every afternoon/evening. I've definitely got a blump. I'd actually welcome a little breast soreness or nausea (please only a little!)
Oh, and I had an Xray of my foot today. I'd read things to see if it was okay ahead of time, then told the nurse, who told one Xray tech who told the other, who all said "It's the patient's decision." I told them I was comfortable with it, as long as I could have one of those lead apron things. I got all situated, then, just as she went to hit the Xray button, or whatever, the tech says "It's the patient's decision. Normally we'd say no, but it is your decision." I just kind of nodded and then it was done. Met with the doc (my foot is healing well, yay!) then DH drove me to work. I cried in the car because I was afraid I'd made a terrible mistake.
Googled xrays & pregnancy as soon as I got to work and found an article from the Mayo clinic that said diagnostic xrays are fine, as long as they're not of your abdomen, and even with those the risk is low. I feel better, but damn this is stressful. I'm glad I got the xray, since I needed to know if I could start wearing a normal shoe, and eventually get back to some exercise, and DRIVING (I did get the OK to transition out of the boot, BTW and the ok to drive, too.) But I wish the tech had just kept her mouth shut. I know it's her job, and they're just protecting themselves, etc., but it really had me second-guessing everything and freaking out.
I'm afraid this is going to sound crazy, but I'm afraid to bend over! My friend who is 8 mo pregnant advised me to rest constantly with my feet up and 0 bending because she had some light bleeding early on. I know this is extreme, but I can't get the worry out of my head now...not a way to try to stress less. Lol. +Everything everyone else has said. I'm a ball of worries.
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I just remembered one of my most ridiculously irrational fears. Are you ready? My first pregnancy I had plucked an odd dark hair off my belly and not long after we lost the baby. I literally thought to myself maybe if I had just left that alone... So then of course with ds when I inevitably got some dark hairs I didn't touch them. And I won't this time either. Even though I know it's 100% ridiculous.
I'm afraid this is going to sound crazy, but I'm afraid to bend over! My friend who is 8 mo pregnant advised me to rest constantly with my feet up and 0 bending because she had some light bleeding early on. I know this is extreme, but I can't get the worry out of my head now...not a way to try to stress less. Lol. +Everything everyone else has said. I'm a ball of worries.
Touch your toes while you still can!!! Lol!
Not trying to make light of your fears but I just want to reassure you that you most likely don't need to worry about this one. Spotting can happen for any number of reasons. I have a hard time believing that bending over caused her to bleed but was probably a coincidence. I bend over all the time. The only issue it causes me is flaring up my nausea... No joke I could hurl my guts into the dryer when I'm folding laundry. :-&
Andplusalso... I'm afraid of losing control of my morning sickness in the shower. I had a really vivid dream before I had my mc that I threw up while I was taking a shower and it wouldn't rinse down the drain so I was stuck standing ankle deep in vomit. (this is how I know it was a dream... Way too much vomit to be real) I did throw up once in the shower after that dream but it was more dry heaving and a small amount of stomach bile. Still terrifies me.
I have to admit that my first pregnancy I was a little superstitious about the don't raise your hands above your head or your baby will be breach thing. If I raised my hands up, I'd raise them again to maybe flip the kid. FWIW, he was NOT breach.
I have to admit that my first pregnancy I was a little superstitious about the don't raise your hands above your head or your baby will be breach thing. If I raised my hands up, I'd raise them again to maybe flip the kid. FWIW, he was NOT breach.
What?!! I've never heard that!
Benjamin born on - 4/5/12 BFP 12/31/14, EDD 9/08/14 ~ Natural M/C 2/21/14 at 11.5 weeks BFP 5/24/15 - EDD 2/4/16
I have to admit that my first pregnancy I was a little superstitious about the don't raise your hands above your head or your baby will be breach thing. If I raised my hands up, I'd raise them again to maybe flip the kid. FWIW, he was NOT breach.
What?!! I've never heard that!
Seriously old wives tale. But every time I changed the filter for my air conditioner in my house, I'd think of it lol. But Asher was always head down. to the point that I started worrying if there was something wrong with him because he was ALWAYS head down.
I have horribly vivid nightmares about people breaking into our home or trying to take my children when in public. This is to the point that my husband and I have had to talk serious escape plans and how we would handle an intruder because my mind gets so fixated on it.
Well I wasn't scared of sex until I started reading this thread haha can it really cause spotting?
He can bump your cervix and cause some irritation. It can cause spotting even if you aren't Ku. But that's why they ask if you've had sex recently if you call your doctor because of spotting.
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I have probably 2 more weeks left in my soccer leagues that I play twice a week, so 4 more games! Il be nervous for sure.
Right now I think I'm just going to be thinking about everything that I eat, especially because I haven't been feeling well after eating, so hopefully this will start me out on a healthy track!
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Not trying to make light of your fears but I just want to reassure you that you most likely don't need to worry about this one. Spotting can happen for any number of reasons. I have a hard time believing that bending over caused her to bleed but was probably a coincidence. I bend over all the time. The only issue it causes me is flaring up my nausea... No joke I could hurl my guts into the dryer when I'm folding laundry. :-&
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