TTC After a Loss
CharrooH
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Introducing myself...trying after mc (sorry mc mentioned)
CharrooH
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Hello ladies, I'm married for 2 years next month and come from Scotland. Hubby and I had been ttc for 6 months when I had the wonderful news that we had succeeded in February 2015, we went for our 12 week scan on May 4 to be told our baby had no HB and died at 5/6 weeks. Classed as a mmc or silent mc, things I hadn't really read up much about and no one in my family had experienced, so both my hubby and I were gutted.
I was told of a follow up a week later just incase I had my dates wrong but I knew it wasn't. As the week progresses we grieved but come Saturday, we went out to cinema and I started having such severe pains, they became so intense I couldn't ignore them any longer and couldn't stay in the cinema theatre, hubby rushed me through to the hospital and before I got there I felt an almighty gush feeling, I thought initially that I had passed everything and naively went home. However the bleeding wouldn't stop, something I hadn't been warned about and so was told by hubby and family to go into hospital.
When we arrived the midwife was ready to assist and had sad I was losing a lot of blood, they would normally leave you be they said but we're concerned so before I was rushed in for a d&c she inspected my uterus and it was so uncomfortable, felt like someone tugging my insides out (sorry tmi) they removed the baby which I saw but as it was only 5/6 weeks I couldn't see much at all thankfully.
After my d&c the contraction pains (something else I was never pre-warned I'd experience) had gone.
The one thing that really upset me so much was I had to stay the night at the hospital in the maternity ward and hearing a baby crying in the background was so bittersweet.
This was my first pregnancy and although personally it was a traumatic experience just with all the blood loss, etc. it's surprised me to learn that ALOT of other women and friends have experienced this, I had no idea and just wanted to say you are all brave, I admire your strength through this most difficult and heart breaking time.
What has encouraged me though is experiences of ones who have gone on to have a healthy pregnancy and baby, it gives me hope. So 3 weeks after my d&c we are trying again to fall pregnant. I hope I haven't upset or offended anyone with this post, just wanted to say hello and hope if any others are trying that it happens soon and all goes well as I hope I fall pregnant soon too. Would be nice to chat to any who are trying too after a mc.
I was told of a follow up a week later just incase I had my dates wrong but I knew it wasn't. As the week progresses we grieved but come Saturday, we went out to cinema and I started having such severe pains, they became so intense I couldn't ignore them any longer and couldn't stay in the cinema theatre, hubby rushed me through to the hospital and before I got there I felt an almighty gush feeling, I thought initially that I had passed everything and naively went home. However the bleeding wouldn't stop, something I hadn't been warned about and so was told by hubby and family to go into hospital.
When we arrived the midwife was ready to assist and had sad I was losing a lot of blood, they would normally leave you be they said but we're concerned so before I was rushed in for a d&c she inspected my uterus and it was so uncomfortable, felt like someone tugging my insides out (sorry tmi) they removed the baby which I saw but as it was only 5/6 weeks I couldn't see much at all thankfully.
After my d&c the contraction pains (something else I was never pre-warned I'd experience) had gone.
The one thing that really upset me so much was I had to stay the night at the hospital in the maternity ward and hearing a baby crying in the background was so bittersweet.
This was my first pregnancy and although personally it was a traumatic experience just with all the blood loss, etc. it's surprised me to learn that ALOT of other women and friends have experienced this, I had no idea and just wanted to say you are all brave, I admire your strength through this most difficult and heart breaking time.
What has encouraged me though is experiences of ones who have gone on to have a healthy pregnancy and baby, it gives me hope. So 3 weeks after my d&c we are trying again to fall pregnant. I hope I haven't upset or offended anyone with this post, just wanted to say hello and hope if any others are trying that it happens soon and all goes well as I hope I fall pregnant soon too. Would be nice to chat to any who are trying too after a mc.
Re: Introducing myself...trying after mc (sorry mc mentioned)
Thanks again @rachrobertson
I saw that you are from Scotland. My husband is from Ireland. We live in Florida, though. I've been to Ireland twice and would love to go to Scotland.
BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
TTC#2 since May 2017
BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)
I haven't been reading my temp and checking when ovulating as I thought it would be messed up. I did however do some pregnancy tests just to see if my hcg levels would go down and I got a negative today so hoping I ovulate soon and just trying the 'ttc every other day' approach.
Hope we can keep in touch and encourage each other as we go along.
Good luck with TTC. I look forward to hearing good news from you.
BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
TTC#2 since May 2017
BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
All advice given based on lengthy personal experience.
I am not a doctor, I just have a working medical vocabulary.
Always available to answer questions about loss, infertility, and TRP.
