First flutter??

bombmom22

hey guys I'm 13 weeks and I think I just felt my first flutter! It was like a faint twitch in my pelvis! I've had stomach issues with gas my whole life so I know for a fact it wasn't that cause I know what it feels like! (Tmi) I know lol! But yay so excited!

adecembermom2015

Are you a FTM? Seems a bit early for baby but how exciting for you! Can't wait to feel mine!

SamiBearrr

I can't wait to feel my first flutter! Lately I've been using my Doppler just to listen to baby kicking and fluttering in there it'll suffice for now

MorganW24

Science says no you didn't. There are at least 5 other similar posts in the past week that have all had the same responses. I'm sure you feel something but it's not your baby. It could be your uterus growing or more likely gas. Even if gas is a normal issue for you, gas with an expanding uterus feels different. I know your excited to feel those first movements but at 13 weeks it's just not happening.

Praying41

I have been feeling a pulse in my lower abdomen for the last couple weeks when I lay down to go to sleep. I know it's obviously not baby but still cool to feel something there that's out of the ordinary.

yl1m32015

Yea we just went through this yesterday....it's not the baby yet.

JessicaBrown83

American pregnancy association says that quickening can be be felt as early as13-16 weeks

desidee77

I hate all these people that come on here saying science says no and lecture you about what you are feeling and then make you feel bad that it was just talked about yesterday. Let the damn woman be excited if she wants to think she felt it. It's pretty bad that all you want to do is log on and post to crush people's excitement. Just don't comment on it then! I know I'm being bitchy and I'm sorry. We are all super hormonal right now. I'm just tired of every time I log on here seeing so much negativity!

adecembermom2015

I don't think anyone was disrespectful. I've lurked on enough boards to know the response to movement at 13 weeks. She has every right to be excited to feel new things that are pregnancy related, but I think the posters are simply trying to offer input and educate her. Honestly I've learned so much from the women of this BMB.

desidee77

I didn't say disrespectful, I said negative. Big difference

adecembermom2015

Sometimes the truth is negative but her title did have question marks so it seems she wanted to know what people thought. I think the posters had good intentions. I know that I did.

BostonBaby1

desidee77 said:

I hate all these people that come on here saying science says no and lecture you about what you are feeling and then make you feel bad that it was just talked about yesterday. Let the damn woman be excited if she wants to think she felt it. It's pretty bad that all you want to do is log on and post to crush people's excitement. Just don't comment on it then! I know I'm being bitchy and I'm sorry. We are all super hormonal right now. I'm just tired of every time I log on here seeing so much negativity!

I would recommend that you read my post entitled "Life Is Not Fair." Why should members not comment because you don't believe in science? Nobody comes on here to "crush people's excitement." The reasoning behind saying we went through this yesterday is that if the OP used the search function, as is recommended by The Bump administrators, then she could have seen all the drama that a post like this can illicit and find the same comments that write here. That being said, NOBODY is saying the feelings she has are in no way related to pregnancy and that she should not feel excited... Just that it is highly highly unlikely that it is her baby (who is in there moving,) but it most likely to be either gas or her uterus stretching. It's still exciting, even if it is just stretching or her digestive system.

If you do not want to believe in Science, that absolutely fine with me. What is not okay with me is you telling other members of the BMB that they are "lecturing" her and "making her feel bad." If you don't like what you read each time you log on... Please remember that no one is making you log on. You say that you are feeling "bitchy" and "hormonal." Well, there are also posts on that where you can vent your frustrations without directing it at other members. You could also start your own post.

Hopefully you feel better soon and can be less frustrated on the boards.

kmac103

If y'all would use the search function you would know exactly how posts like this are going to get responded to..

katiemeowt

bombmom22 said:

hey guys I'm 13 weeks and I think I just felt my first flutter! It was like a faint twitch in my pelvis! I've had stomach issues with gas my whole life so I know for a fact it wasn't that cause I know what it feels like! (Tmi) I know lol! But yay so excited!

Hey girl, no matter what anyone else is saying, congratulations on another reminder that this is an exciting time Can't wait to feel a flutter (even just uterine stretching). Enjoy all the exciting parts!

yl1m32015

desidee77 said:

Yeah I'm done. Thanks for everything bump bitches. Peace out

adecembermom2015

Bump bitches?!?! Rolling. ) sounds a bit negative for someone who hates negativity?!

Marchmellow2

LOL! Geez why so dramatic!

dp1320

The thing is if people just hung out for 2.5 seconds before posting they would know what kind of responses are coming ... you're walking into a pretty established community at this point saying hey! I felt the prune in my uterus move! Yay!... would you walk up to a group of strangers on the street and tell them? What kind of response do you think you would get?

adecembermom2015

Laughing so hard my stomach hurts....or was that my baby moving?

No disrespect, just fun and games.

cristinapage72

kmac103

PSA: I'm not calling y'all bitches!!! It's just the gif is funny lol

adecembermom2015

@kmac103 we are the bumpin' bitches!!! Woo! Embracing the NN.

BostonBaby1

desidee77 said:

Yeah I'm done. Thanks for everything bump bitches. Peace out

* Credit for the gif used in this goes to Nik... But since she's not here, I'm going to post it in her place.

Marchmellow2

I do feel kind of bad for OP. She didn't mean harm. She was just excited and wondering if it was really the baby moving. I know she should've searched other posts but maybe she did and thought she was different since she is 13 weeks. I'm just saying. This did not have to escalate the way it did... ( @desidee77 )

OP, whatever you felt, you have every right to be excited about it! Congrats! It's all exciting! Soon we will all be huge and feeling our babies way too much..complaining about lack of sleep! Milk these early feelings...it's exciting no matter what

MrsBwIVF

It gets really aggravating when people are having a valid, non rude discussion and someone busts into it to basically start drama. So to desidee77 I say...

BostonBaby1

* DELETED* and not a DD because I quoted it later on in the thread.

Just cannot.

Fuzzy228

desidee77 said:

Yeah I'm done. Thanks for everything bump bitches. Peace out

kcas123

I'm going to post on here what I posted yesterday on another board (not that it bothers me that you posted this OP!! Don't get that idea from me saying that!!) but we are all just excited. There is a baby in there! And we are also reading and seeing everywhere that "the baby is moving like crazy" so it's hard to think that it's not the baby!! I know how you feel because I cannot wait to REALLY feel the baby move It will come before we all know it!

bombmom22

Im gonna be bluntly honest because personally I think these threads are as full of drama as facebook so I'm actually deactivating my page tomorrow but I would like to give my supporters a chance to see me say thank you for the generous comments..to the rest of you I don't really give a fuck what you think..excuse my language but I didn't ask you to respond if your tired of seeing the same post then don't open it. We are all here for support and I'll have you know that my best friend did feel her baby at 13 and a half weeks and I was at the doctors and my doc said it is very likely that it is my baby because he/she is measuring big so I would like to remind you that not every ones pregnancy is the same and just because you flutter is gas does not mean that mine is. Thank you. Good luck to all. Oh and there is lots of "science" that is found to be wrong everyday.

bombmom22

And by the way apparently your search function doesn't work that well cause I actually did use it. Sometimes I feel like yalls comments to the other moms are more negative then all the miscarriage threads.

MorganW24

bombmom22 said:

Im gonna be bluntly honest because personally I think these threads are as full of drama as facebook so I'm actually deactivating my page tomorrow but I would like to give my supporters a chance to see me say thank you for the generous comments..to the rest of you I don't really give a fuck what you think..excuse my language but I didn't ask you to respond if your tired of seeing the same post then don't open it. We are all here for support and I'll have you know that my best friend did feel her baby at 13 and a half weeks and I was at the doctors and my doc said it is very likely that it is my baby because he/she is measuring big so I would like to remind you that not every ones pregnancy is the same and just because you flutter is gas does not mean that mine is. Thank you. Good luck to all. Oh and there is lots of "science" that is found to be wrong everyday.

Qfp

erikaalzet

JessicaBrown83 said:

American pregnancy association says that quickening can be be felt as early as13-16 weeks

• Isn't this science?

• But really, OP. I have no idea what you felt, and none of us do as we did not feel it. I am excited for your excitement. Revel in the excitement. 

• This is also my Steve Urkel moment! (I recognize some won't get the reference.) Can't we all just get along? 

CMDD

@bombmom22 then does not equal than.    8-D thats a wide eyed face for ya

(edited to add woah face and add the poster's sn)

nik6499

bombmom22 said:

And by the way apparently your search function doesn't work that well cause I actually did use it. Sometimes I feel like yalls comments to the other moms are more negative then all the miscarriage threads.

I'm avoiding all the teenage drama I here but this is the most uncalled for rude and negative comment I have ever seen. And we are the bitches? Miscarriage threads are a part of this community and those women deserve our support and gratitude for their strength in sharing their story and the real women of this community take the time to respond to these threads with love and support despite our fear of the situation. Most of us whom have experienced multiple losses still walk into these posts because it's the right thing to do. So don't even act as if these are blemishes or negative parts of this board that deserve the same contempt you show for all of our posts. You want to be excited about gas bubbles, flutters, bloat or bumps whatever your choice, but don't you dare make light of the sheer pain and heartache that goes with loss.

I may be a bitch, but at least I have the capacity for empathy.

MrsBwIVF

Preach @nik6499 !

adecembermom2015

I meant zero disrespect to OP. I even said how exciting it was! I was simply sharing my piece of knowledge learned from the BMB. Kumbayah.

kmac103

I don't think that any of us consider loss posts as duplicates. A loss is extremely emotional and deserves it's own thread so that we, as a community, can show the woman that is suffering that she is not alone in her devastating time.

That being said, 20 posts about spotting and cramping or 20 posts about a baby bump that does not yet exist in nature are erroneous and clutter up the forum for everyone else.

This ultimately makes some threads that would be full of good conversation migrate deeper into the depths of our forum leaving people who are actually here to enjoy the boards stuck seeing dozens of repeat posts.

I just want to point out that the majority of women on these boards are continually posting supportive and informative comments. Cursing and calling names is incredibly unnecessary and it certainly won't get you the attention you crave so much.. It will just make people realize that you are a person that needs to be ignored.

amw2133

bombmom22 said:

And by the way apparently your search function doesn't work that well cause I actually did use it. Sometimes I feel like yalls comments to the other moms are more negative then all the miscarriage threads.

I get that your upset but that is just uncalled for. Miscarriages are heart breaking and everyone who's has had one deserves all the love and support that they can receive. The fact that you can actually think that shows what type of person you really are. Maybe you should do some internal soul searching instead of bashing other people because you didn't get the response that you want on a PUBLIC forum.

bombmom22

No no @nik6499 I should have elaborated that comment because that's not how I meant it I was talking about if you think back to when people were posting and complaining about how negative it was to get on and see all of the miscarriage threads. I would never make fun of someone's loss but to me it all seems like bullying. I understand people have different opinions but sometimes it's just more polite to keep it to yourself. If someone wants to post that they felt Thor prune move then laugh at it and keep scrolling you don't have to shut them down. Like I said my doctor said it was possible and I got very excited yes. But It was very negative to see people posting things like they laughed so hard that their stomach hurt or was that the baby moving? And that science said it's impossible because no it doesn't it just depends on who's science project your looking at.

bombmom22

No that comment came out wrong I have a family history of miscarriages I was not intentionally making it a target.

Marchmellow2

bombmom22 said:

No no @nik6499 I should have elaborated that comment because that's not how I meant it I was talking about if you think back to when people were posting and complaining about how negative it was to get on and see all of the miscarriage threads. I would never make fun of someone's loss but to me it all seems like bullying. I understand people have different opinions but sometimes it's just more polite to keep it to yourself. If someone wants to post that they felt Thor prune move then laugh at it and keep scrolling you don't have to shut them down. Like I said my doctor said it was possible and I got very excited yes. But It was very negative to see people posting things like they laughed so hard that their stomach hurt or was that the baby moving? And that science said it's impossible because no it doesn't it just depends on who's science project your looking at.

I'm glad you elaborated! That would've gone downhill really fast! I get that what those people said affected you. But now that you took a couple minutes to breathe, it's not that serious, right? Not serious enough to call it quits and delete your TB account... The majority of people on this post were excited for you. The others are just tired of seeing the same stuff over and over so I wouldn't take what they say too personally. I don't think the laughing comments were directed at you btw.