Team Green or...?

vvitchhazel

All right, ladies! How many of you are Team Green? And what made you decide to wait?

I've been going back and forth. For the past three weeks, I was certain I'd wait. But I woke up this morning and thought NOPE! I definitely want to find out! I've decided I just won't announce it. My partner is fine with whatever I decide, fortunately! What about you?

ChipMonster

I am team grey! (I don't particularly like green)

I love being surprised and I feel like it is one of life's greatest surprises. I loved having everyone try and guess what I was having and it was so fun to tell everyone "it's a boy" when he was born. Honestly, it bothered other people that I didn't know more than it bothered me.

I am excited to be team grey again. It's one of my favourite things about being pregnant!

vvitchhazel

I actually think I like Team Grey better too! Heh.. I was fantasizing about a white and grey nursery when I thought I was going to wait. But I'm still going to go with that same color scheme, because I love it!

mcrane8

Grey and green chevron to be exact, lol!  

boxers&bling

We are definitely going to find out. I am a HUGE planner and there is just no way we could wait until birth... We are both on the same page so I'm happy about it! My FIL is the only one that has a problem with it, he equivalates it to "opening your gifts before Christmas" lol but I don't care. I get that he wants to be surprised so we have decided we are going to wait and tell everyone the name until after the baby is here that way there is a little surprise for everyone and also so I don't have to hear everyone's opinion on our name choices... Bc I don't care what they have to say lol

mollyj931

This is our third team green pregnancy! We love the surprise of telling everyone at birth and we keep names a secret so everything is a surprise!!

For us it was a real money saver too. I knew I would be buying clothes if I knew the sex! I just bought a small amount of sleepers and needed items. From my experience and other friends at baby showers there was a lot more purchasing of needed items than of outfits. After the baby came we got tons of clothes!

It's a personal choice but one we like the surprise! I don't care what others do but it bothers me when people say they have to find out because they are "planners". Shockingly I did plan for my baby I just didn't buy gender specific colors of things.

vvitchhazel

The clothes thing is something my partner and I have discussed. We don't want gifts of clothes, so we thought that if we didn't announce the gender, people wouldn't be so apt to get us outfits for the LO. Would it be rude to include in the shower invite that we do not want clothes?

mollyj931

vvitchhazel said:

The clothes thing is something my partner and I have discussed. We don't want gifts of clothes, so we thought that if we didn't announce the gender, people wouldn't be so apt to get us outfits for the LO. Would it be rude to include in the shower invite that we do not want clothes?

Yes. You can't dictate what people buy you. You can hope you get gift receipts and return them. That is something I have learned with multiple children. Return whatever you want and don't feel bad.

Monilee1017

I was team green with both my boys, DH's choice. DH never asks for anything so I decided we would do what he wants. However we discussed it and this time we will be team green until the night before we go into the hospital for my c-section.

bananers

We're team finding out. I'm of the mindset that you'll be surprised no matter when you find out, and knowing the sex of the baby makes it feel more real for me.

Monilee1017

Oh, and we were because DH loves surprises.

RoxanneA

Well I have two and two right now and we found outl for all four.  Since this is the last I want to be team green and am very excited about it!  This is actually the first time I've had zero interest in finding out so hopefully it stays that way.  I want to have that amazing surprise at birth.

saraawlbr

I always wanted to be Team Green but, DH really wants to find out. Like a PP said, it'll still be a surprise whether we find out together at 20 weeks or 40 weeks so, I'm ok with it and actually getting excited to find out more about this little bean. 

nicoleann21

I can not wrap my mind around how you ladies do team green..?  I don't know how I'm going to make it to 20.  Most appealing part of genetic testing to me if you can find out sex at 12 week -- don't flame me this is mostly a joke, I wouldn't do testing just to that reason.  I want to buy a little purple or blue something so bad it's killing me!!!   

mollyj931

nicoleann21 said:

I can not wrap my mind around how you ladies do team green..?  I don't know how I'm going to make it to 20.  Most appealing part of genetic testing to me if you can find out sex at 12 week -- don't flame me this is mostly a joke, I wouldn't do testing just to that reason.  I want to buy a little purple or blue something so bad it's killing me!!!   

Ha! Honestly the buying is mostly the reason. I already have a shopping problem and this helps contain it. My children have so many clothes already that not buying during the 9 month period helps. Oh at least that's what I tell myself....

wlux

I was team green until my husband was stressing out about.

So, we didn't find out at the ultrasound. They wrote it down for us and we opened it in front of all our family and friends so everyone was surprised at once, even us.

It was great.

This time around we will find out at the ultrasound since we no longer live near family.

vidatorr

I was but decided just last night I'd like to find out because if peanuts a girl id love to buy her dresses and shoes on time to dress her up. Kinda silly I guess but my decision lol.

claireloSC

I really want to find out but my wife is on the fence. We'll see when we get closer. 

I know someone who insisted on an extra ultrasound weeks before the 20th to find out the sex. Seems bananas to me.

danasphillips

nicoleann21 said:

I can not wrap my mind around how you ladies do team green..?  I don't know how I'm going to make it to 20.  Most appealing part of genetic testing to me if you can find out sex at 12 week -- don't flame me this is mostly a joke, I wouldn't do testing just to that reason.  I want to buy a little purple or blue something so bad it's killing me!!!   

I'm so excited to be team green this time! We found out with DS at 20 weeks and I wish I hadn't. I was so convinced he was a girl, so I was shocked and slightly disappointed that it was a boy, and then I just felt horribly guilty for feeling that way. But when they place your baby in your arms, you truly do not care at all. I know I'll love him or her the same regardless.

Mamabeagle

We are totally finding out. DH is all about surprising me, but hates surprises himself.

mimers07

We're going to be surprised. We didn't want to find out with DS but after learning that he was going to be born with gastroschisis (a rare birth defect in which the intestines protrude through a hole in the abdominal wall) we decided that that was one surprise too many and we found out the sex. We're praying that everything goes well with this pregnancy and we won't have any reason to find out early. I so badly want to have that moment in the delivery room where the doctor calls out, "it's a xxx!" I think that will be really special, especially after everything we went through with DS.

carmv01

We're finding out, but I would like to have a gender reveal party so it would at least be a surprise to us until then.

saraawlbr

carmv01 said:

We're finding out, but I would like to have a gender reveal party so it would at least be a surprise to us until then.

I've thought about doing this too and sharing that surprise with our closest friends and family. Especially since I'd prefer they weren't there for the birth :P 

NillaWafers

I will find out. I have zero girl things. If I were to keep having children and this one is a girl, I'd probably opt to find out at the birth. However, I'm a planner so I cannot do that with this one! I do tend to stick to greys, greens, and yellows with baby stuff (ie strollers, crib bedding) because I want to be able to reuse it if I ever do have a different sex. 

ChipMonster

My question to the parents that want to know: when you say you need to plan for baby's arrival by knowing the sex, what exactly do you have to plan?

I'm all for doing what you want, I just don't get that specific reasoning. Is it only about the clothes and paint for the room? Because regardless of whether you know the sex or not, there is equal planning to do.

mollyj931

ChipMonster said:

My question to the parents that want to know: when you say you need to plan for baby's arrival by knowing the sex, what exactly do you have to plan?

I'm all for doing what you want, I just don't get that specific reasoning. Is it only about the clothes and paint for the room? Because regardless of whether you know the sex or not, there is equal planning to do.

Yes! I actually wanted to find out more with the second so I could know if I needed to wash my daughters clothes but that's as much "planning" as I was going to do and we still didn't find out.

I have no issues with others finding out. Different strokes for different folks. I don't think one way is better than the other.
I just have more respect for those that say "I just want to know. I want a gender specific nursery, or I want to buy clothes or whatever." The "I have to plan" thing drives me nuts.

rsottile

At first I wanted to wait but because we already have our names and want to decorate the nursery one way for a girl and one way for a boy.

heawilliams

I would love to be team green, but this is DH's first and he wants to know - so we will find out when the time comes.

boxers&bling

You're right... Plan definitely wasn't the right word for me to use entirely. More so yes, I just want a gender specific nursery and clothes bought. With planning, I meant more by having the name chosen, have our decision about circumcision all ironed... Which I know all the team green parents will as well. I know there is just as much planning. I just want to make sure I've thought of every little detail specific to which sex will be coming. I definitely didn't mean that team green moms don't have to plan anything. Again, wasn't the right way to say that basically just want to have cute clothes picked out in either blue or pink. Definitely didn't mean to offend anyone or confuse anyone.

ChipMonster

boxers&bling said:

You're right... Plan definitely wasn't the right word for me to use entirely. More so yes, I just want a gender specific nursery and clothes bought. With planning, I meant more by having the name chosen, have our decision about circumcision all ironed... Which I know all the team green parents will as well. I know there is just as much planning. I just want to make sure I've thought of every little detail specific to which sex will be coming. I definitely didn't mean that team green moms don't have to plan anything. Again, wasn't the right way to say that basically just want to have cute clothes picked out in either blue or pink. Definitely didn't mean to offend anyone or confuse anyone.

My comment wasn't directed to you specifically, and I wasn't offended. I just hear a lot of people saying that they want to know because they need to plan.

mollyj931

ChipMonster said:

boxers&bling said:

You're right... Plan definitely wasn't the right word for me to use entirely. More so yes, I just want a gender specific nursery and clothes bought. With planning, I meant more by having the name chosen, have our decision about circumcision all ironed... Which I know all the team green parents will as well. I know there is just as much planning. I just want to make sure I've thought of every little detail specific to which sex will be coming. I definitely didn't mean that team green moms don't have to plan anything. Again, wasn't the right way to say that basically just want to have cute clothes picked out in either blue or pink. Definitely didn't mean to offend anyone or confuse anyone.

My comment wasn't directed to you specifically, and I wasn't offended. I just hear a lot of people saying that they want to know because they need to plan.

Ditto

babybluu

mollyj931 said:

For us it was a real money saver too. I knew I would be buying clothes if I knew the sex! I just bought a small amount of sleepers and needed items. From my experience and other friends at baby showers there was a lot more purchasing of needed items than of outfits. After the baby came we got tons of clothes!
. Shockingly I did plan for my baby I just didn't buy gender specific colors of things.

Okay... This right here is the only reason team green stresses me out. I really was considering doing it, but it's our first baby and I wanted cute "boy" or "girl" clothes to put on my baby at the hospital and stuff. I think it would be so fun though to not find out until birth, and that it might make labor the slightest bit easier. But again... First baby, so I don't have any gender specific items already. And then baby showers. Ughhhhh lol. Stresses me out. Maybe I would tell everyone not to buy gender neutral clothes at all because I don't any like 27473995 yellow outfits. I think I'm over thinking it. But I have time to decide

bananers

ChipMonster said:

boxers&bling said:

You're right... Plan definitely wasn't the right word for me to use entirely. More so yes, I just want a gender specific nursery and clothes bought. With planning, I meant more by having the name chosen, have our decision about circumcision all ironed... Which I know all the team green parents will as well. I know there is just as much planning. I just want to make sure I've thought of every little detail specific to which sex will be coming. I definitely didn't mean that team green moms don't have to plan anything. Again, wasn't the right way to say that basically just want to have cute clothes picked out in either blue or pink. Definitely didn't mean to offend anyone or confuse anyone.

My comment wasn't directed to you specifically, and I wasn't offended. I just hear a lot of people saying that they want to know because they need to plan.

I like to plan the name, nursery, house layout (if we have a girl, we'll be converting the guest room; if we have another boy we may consider having them share a room). If we have another boy, I'll dig out and wash all of DS's old clothes; if we have a girl, I'll keep a few gender neutral clothes of DS's but donate the rest and shop for a new wardrobe.

The first time around, I wanted to know so I could plan my registry. We registered for big items in gender-neural colors with future kids in mind. But we went boyish on all the smaller items. I am not a fan of most gender-neutral clothes since babies come out pretty androgynous looking as it is. Not knocking those who prefer gender-neutral clothes; it's just NMS.

mimers07

@babybluu you could buy two nb outfits to bring to the hospital, one for a boy and one for a girl, and return whichever one you don't use (this is what we're gonna do). There are also some precious white onesies if you're open to getting something gender neutral.

babybluu

@mimers07 yeah that's true. I thought about that after I posted. However, I just asked dh and he shot down the team green idea for me lol

adcc43

First time being on Team Green!! We found out for out first 2 and decided to keep this last one a surprise. I feel like I am able to wait this time because we have a girl and a boy already so the anxiety of knowing has lifted.

gmp450

I'm team find out, just because I am impatient! :!!

nicoleann21

ChipMonster said:

My question to the parents that want to know: when you say you need to plan for baby's arrival by knowing the sex, what exactly do you have to plan?

I'm all for doing what you want, I just don't get that specific reasoning. Is it only about the clothes and paint for the room? Because regardless of whether you know the sex or not, there is equal planning to do.

I will admit nothing, I need to plan nothing based on sex.  Keeping the nursery light green regardless and yes, I 'd love to buy some thing little and cute and blue or purple, but that's not really why I'm finding out.  I am incredible impatient and a whore for instant gratification so I just neeeeeeed to know, like yesterday!

daisy62103

We found out with our first two and let our third be a surprise. It was the best finding out at delivery, so I want to wait and be surprised again.

DjinnaG

I'm also of the opinion that it's a surprise whenever you find out.  There's so many other surprises going on at birth, why not spread them out over time?  But, I WANT gender-neutral stuff.  The idea of a kid getting  saddled with gender conforming expectations before it's even born bothers me.  We'll be getting the early blood chromosome test done, as I'm over 40, so we'll know really early.  But as much as I'd love to share the information, I've heard that people tend to buy gender specific things if they know the sex, and I'd rather find out if the kid is going to prefer frilly dresses, trucks, etc., on their own than saddle them with them long before day one.

mollyj931

mimers07 said:

@babybluu you could buy two nb outfits to bring to the hospital, one for a boy and one for a girl, and return whichever one you don't use (this is what we're gonna do). There are also some precious white onesies if you're open to getting something gender neutral.

This is what I did! Bought one of each which was exciting because it was the first boy and girl stuff I bought.

Most GN stuff I had were simple sleepers. I went to target the day after coming home from the hospital and loaded up on girl stuff with my first.