Husband's new co-worker

sjra1028

To start off... I'm not jealous, just curious. Lol
My husband just got a new co-worker. He said she acts weird around him. Yesterday, he was talking with the guys there about how I'm always right in a fight and he doesn't need Google bc he has me... Etc. Well she joined in and started saying, "Well if I was your wife...." and rambled off a list. He said it was really awkward. Now she wants to give him her dog... Very random. And she gave him her number. It's just odd, I guess.
I'm not worried about him cheating. He's got two ladies to come home to now. Lol

lvrunningirlie

Just sounds to me like he needs to set some boundaries with her. If she's crossing lines enough to make him uncomfortable (and she really is) then have him set some rules since she seems to be having trouble understanding what's appropriate and what's not. 

sjra1028

It's just such a strange thing. I couldn't imagine comparing myself to someone's wife like that.

CaliforniaDream87

If he feels uncomfortable then he needs to tell her. You said "gave" him her number as in he took it? Hmm. I agree with the PP. He needs to set boundaries here.

Also (not trying to be snarky, promise),it must bother/worry you to some end as you came to post about it.

walterjena

I would throat punch her....and I'm not the jealous type....I'm the know your role and respect your boundaries type....lol but that's just me!

mrsb30

I agree with him setting the boundaries. Was the number for work purposes? At my job I have all of my coworkers numbers, so I guess that part doesn't seem odd to me.

Miz_Liz

I agree with @mrsb30 that it depends on WHY she gave him her number. If it was for work purposes (e.g. to call her if he ever needed his shift covered, etc.) then no big deal. Did he show interest in taking her dog? Maybe that is why she gave him her number (if you want the dog, give me a call)? If it is not either of those things, then I guess the next question would be - did your DH take her number and if so, did he keep it/put it in his phone? Obviously he is telling you about all of this, so I doubt he plans to cheat (unless he is really dumb and wants to warn you in advance). Jealous type or not, I just think girls who can't respect when a man is married are hoes. I guess you would need to get some additional information on everything to really decide next steps, but I do think it warrants a conversation with him on the fact that you trust him and appreciate how honest he is being, but as your DH it is also his job to nip it in the butt and set boundaries with her so she isn't expecting anything. Good luck!

sushilove15

Whether you think he would cheat or not is not the issue here because you said you trust him. The coworker is a snake. That bitch needs to back off! If your hubby can't get her to understand this then you might send her the message via phone or if you go to his office for a lunch date with him or whatever. But that's just me, I'm territorial!

sjra1028

She gave him her number for the dog. So I get that. Supposedly she's attractive bc the other guys are hitting on her. She's the only woman in that department. He purposely brought pictures of our lil girl to "prove a point" that he's taken and excitedly expecting a new baby. He's obviously bothered enough to have to "prove it" and of course show off his lil girl! Lol I don't really want the dog, but apparently she's just going to put it to sleep bc she doesn't have time for it. And I definitely trust my husband. I just don't want some chick thinking it's fair game just bc I'm pregnant. She's made comments to him about it. I wish he just wouldn't talk to her, but he has to bc of work. Ugh

mrsb30

sjra1028 said:

She gave him her number for the dog. So I get that. Supposedly she's attractive bc the other guys are hitting on her. She's the only woman in that department. He purposely brought pictures of our lil girl to "prove a point" that he's taken and excitedly expecting a new baby. He's obviously bothered enough to have to "prove it" and of course show off his lil girl! Lol I don't really want the dog, but apparently she's just going to put it to sleep bc she doesn't have time for it. And I definitely trust my husband. I just don't want some chick thinking it's fair game just bc I'm pregnant. She's made comments to him about it. I wish he just wouldn't talk to her, but he has to bc of work. Ugh

I honestly think the fact that your husband is aware of it and talking openly about it to you is a good thing.

chshannon

I second the throat punch her comment that's what I would do. Seriously it's good he told you about it but still she needs to step back and leave him alone.

sjra1028

I totally agree!

walterjena

I completely respect and admire that your husband is this open in communication. That's the most important part of this whole thing. She can take the dog to a no kill shelter and keep it moving. She probably sees him as a challenge because he's NOT hitting on her like the others. She needs to have a seat.

Seh114

The secretary at munDH's job was flirting with him a lot and he thought it was funny. He would come home and tell me how pathetic it was. I met her at the company Christmas party and for whatever reason the flirting stopped after that. Maybe you should drop by to see him at work. I think sometimes putting a face to the person helps.

kcollins78

I'm a big believer in people treat people the way they treat animals. Any woman that is willing to put her dog to sleep because she doesn't have time for it is a selfish asshat. Keep an eye on that one. She's telling you who she is. Loudly.

ammc07

There was a girl that was at DH's job site that goes around guy to guy and pretty much throws her self at them. One day I had to drop him off because he was going out with the guys after work and they didn't want to take two cars. She saw me drop him off and she ran over and hugged him so I could see. DH shoved her away and told her not to do that again. I honestly just laughed as I drove away because I trust him and I've heard the stories from all the guys how something is wrong with this chick. I told DH not to be on the office or anything alone with her because I could see her accusing him (or any of the guys for that matter) of something. That was a few months ago and he's at a different job site now but he heard the other day she got fired because she did this to a some big wig out there and he fired her.

sjra1028

@ammc07 I would've gone nuts! I just don't understand women like that!

candicejeff2013

Hmmmm. Sounds shady. There was obviously some dialogue between the two that made her comfortable passing her number to him....
As long as he sets boundaries from here on out! But.... I don't trust anyone 100%

fionalouise007

Your husband sounds like he's a decent man from what you've said.. Talking to you about it and being so honest etc.
If he's trustworthy and gives you no reason to worry about his actions I wouldn't let it bother you. I'd take it as a compliment if anything (you have an attractive husband!) and just laugh it off. She can flirt all she likes, if she's not going to get anywhere then there's no point worrying.

kedbach

I don't know if I'm more angry about her being a skank hoe or the fact that she's contemplating putting her poor dog to sleep because she "doesn't have time for it"... she sounds like a psycho bitch, just saying.

sjra1028

@kedbach Yes! Lol I told my husband I'd rather take the dog and give him a good life rather than her just put him to sleep. We talked about it last night and he said he thinks he got the message across to her. He said he just knew I'd love to take the dog bc he's a dachshund and my family used to raise them.

kedbach

@sjra1028 they're such sweet dogs!

jenandbrett

Sounds like your husband is a keeper, she's nuts. If you do take the dog, he needs to make it crystal clear that the dog is for you and how much you will love it, etc. overboard. I'm a bit afraid if you take the dog she's going to be pestering him even more for updates on the dog, texting him about it, maybe even wanting to come visit it, etc. she sounds like trouble to me.

sjra1028

@jenandbrett I didn't even think about that!!!!! Crap...

hitcj4687

My boyfriend was working with a girl who came up to him and said "I know you have a girlfriend and a baby on the way... But I think you're really hot and we should hook up." To which he reported her for sexual harassment and the next day she tried pulling him into a back room and she was fired. Haha.

sjra1028

@hitcj4687 the nerve of these skanks! Pardon my language. Lol. Some women think it's okay and that guys are out looking for something just bc their SO is pregnant. If anything, it's made my husband more loyal!

KristinaD217

There was this bitch that tried to do that to my husband years ago, he told her to back off and she did not. So, I had a lovely chat with her. I'm not a dainty girl, I can either be the scariest thing on earth or the sweetest. She got the scary side that day. Backed off after that. I agree with these other posters, face to face is really the best.

MooreNMoore

My hubbie is a sweet heart too and has a problem saying no to these women who like to cross the respect line often.  Despite his problem saying, "no" it is his responsibility.  That's a tough one but he has to do it and there's no shame in you asking him to do just that.  There's also NO possibility that this woman doesn't realize she's crossing the line either she's just taking advantage of your husband's kindness...soooooooo many women have done that to my husband and this is where I step in and make sure they know I see what they're doing.  God speed:)

prpl11butterfly

My husband works in retail and has changed company's and stores many times in our history. I ALWAYS made it a point to stop by for a visit before we were married just to make sure my existence was known. Our relationship was almost destroyed by a "lesbian" (who is now married to a man). He thought no harm as she is gay, I was not falling for her b.s. He has been with the same place for 4 years now, clearly taken (wedding ring and wedding pics on desk) and a works with a friend of mine so I am not as concerned. It isn't that I don't trust him. He's just a nice guy who could end up in the wrong situation because of it (giving rides home to the hourly's at night type of thing).

brianamauga

It's great that you're comfortable in your marriage, but from the sounds of it, it doesn't seem like his new co worker seems to care that he's married. If your husband senses the awkward vibe, he should trust his instinct. Maybe it's just me, but her saying "if I was your wife..." sounds like she's asking for trouble. Just be careful. Even if when you don't have to worry about your husband, you do have to worry about other women, especially when they find your husband attractive. I've been there before. It's dangerous, painful and can break up families.