Im a FTM to a perfect 5 month old (Thursday) baby boy who's the light of my life. But that's not the point of this post, lol.
I have ALWAYS gotten along with my fiances family (mother & grandmother). We've always had a great relationship, and I guess you could say we still do, BUT since my DS has been born everything they do drives me CRAAAAAZY. Literally everything. For example, I'm not the matererialstic type, but when it comes to my son, i want him to have have nice things (although, wouldn't consider baby clothing expensive). His mother can't seem to spend more than a dollar on her grandsons clothing. I'm all about stretching a dollar, sure. But I'm also not going to be thrilled when you bring over a 25cent onesie that you got from the Salvation Army. (Like I'm glad you're excited, but is he not worth more than that?) and that's every piece of clothing she's ever bought him.
That's just ONE thing she does...
His grandmother, (whom I was so close with before LO arrived) bless her heart, I know she means well but shut up, stop, do you see the look I'm giving you right now? Enough. Eveything she does, says, gives me anxiety through the roof. For example: although she's known for 6+ months now that baby is a HE, she called HIM "IT". "Aww look at IT" "IT'S laughing" "ITS hungry"
......it makes me cringe yall, & I have told her it bothers me over & over & over again, but does it stop? Nope.
Another things she does is constantly speaking on how she "never gets to see him" & "she's missing out". She seems him every two weeks, if not more, and that's not sufficient? My grandmother lives 5 hours away, has seen him 3 since he was born, one of those times being his actual birth, but YOURE the one missing out?
I could literally go on & on about things that bother me with them. But I'll spare you. Last thing I'm going to adress is their recent visit.
His moms got a couple screws loose, but nothing compared to my mom so I never thought anything of it. It never hit me how crazy she actually is until this past weekend.
They get here, M's asleep on my chest, and instead of waiting for him to wake up, MIL just walts' over and scoops him off me. Well, that's didn't blow over to well, and he FREAKED OUT. I mean huge crocodile tears, screaming crying. GIL sits there repeating herself saying "he doesn't know us, he doesn't like new people, he's not used to us, he doesn't know us..." And I'm just thinking I'm my head like "NO, that's not it. If someone I knew or not, snatched me out of my mamas arms while I was snoozin, and then proceeded to yell in my face, and cackle like hens then I would freak out too"
FYI, I was loving every second of it. Terrible of me, I know, but man, was it satisfying to snatch MY BABY back and him calm down right away.
Visit proceeded normally, you know, then asking me questions while they're torturing my child and then when I answer the talk over me and don't listen to a damn word I say, until I finally give up and shut my mouth. MIL says to me "you guys should go to a movie and you an drop him off to pops and my house" I simply responded with, "we don't really go to the movies" not a yes, or a no. Idk if it's just me, but I don't wanna leave my baby. I'm perfectly content at home on the weekends, with my family, living the mom and dad life. It's nothing against her, I just don't want to. Not right now at least. Anyways, visit continues, and she states again "you should really go out and drop him off with us and let us watch him" I didn't say anything this time, & I honestly don't remember what fiancé said, if anything. But she responds with "you know, if you keep pushing people away, then no ones going to be there when you need them" .....um what? I said nothing. She sat there for a while quietly, then all of a sudden stood up, and said "I'm leaving, bye" and left. I was just like woah.
I thought about it some and kinda felt bad for a second. (For some reason, since M's been born, I feel like I shouldn't step on people's toes, but then I remember, HEY, he's my baby, hate me if you want too.) and that's exactly how I felt, like I'm sorry if your feelings are hurt, but you'll get over it, if I did something to you personally, then I'd apologize. But I certainly won't apologize for anything that has to do with how, what, or where I do with my child. Maybe I'm wrong?
Feedback would be greatly appreciated, thoughts, questions, comments, anything. Thanks for taking the time to read my rant lol