Thanks @McRad! It blows my mind that somehow the shape of my stomach is up for discussion now. I think I'm having one of those dumb hormonal emotional days as I can't stop crying. I even posted this article on Facebook and the most recent person to comment on my body texted me an apology. https://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5967360
Although some people are telling me not to take it personal and I want to tell them to go f themselves!
@Krysta6 I can understand a day of tears. I don't think it's the hormones, though-- it's the big ol jerks. They have genuinely hurt your feelings and I'd be having a day of tears, some Ben & Jerry's ice cream and a Netflix marathon if I was a having to endure the comments you have had said your way.
Cry away, my dear! Let those tears fall because you, sadly, have earned the right to cry them. What they have said is extremely personal and extremely hurtful. I don't understand how someone can rebuttal with "don't take it personal" or anything other than I'm sorry and it will not happen again.
"Pregnancy is a wondrous miracle that should be celebrated. The changes that a woman's body goes through are intense, both physically and emotionally. During the season of pregnancy, and in the months that follow, mothers should be treated with compassion, through actions and words. Pregnancy is NOT an invitation to remark on the size of a woman."
This. This is what others need to read, if anything, from that post. You deserve to be treated nicely. There is no excuse for what people have said to you. None.
I have a team green RANT that I want to know if everyone else is experiencing?
Since we are not finding out the sex of the baby that means that people are trying to guess. Their favorite way to guess is based on the shape of my body. Now I am 5'0" so I know that I am going to look larger than someone who is 5'5" or above, there just isn't a lot of room for baby to grow in my short tummy. But I have gone home in tears thinking about some of the things people say about my body! The most recent was that I'm having a boy because girls would be a cute basketball tummy and I'm clearly expanding outward! I was horrified! Its so hard to maintain a sliver of self esteem when people keep talking about how I don't have a basketball tummy. I want to be happy and healthy during this pregnancy and it feels like everywhere I turn someone is saying how I carry this baby isn't good enough. But is anyone else going through this? I don't know how I'm going to get through 4 more months and its only going to get worse!
I can't imagine why someone would feel the need to say their inconsiderate thoughts out loud. It's one of the reasons I am so grateful that I work with a bunch of men. Although I just told my machismo boss that I want to quit to get ready for the baby and then be a stay at home mom, oh man did he not understand. But I expect that attitude from someone like him. He obviously did not want to understand. It's the superior mommy attitude that I really cannot understand. It's hard being a mom in so many ways. Let's not be enemies. I'm sure your belly is perfect and your baby loves being in there!!
We are officially team green. We had the ultrasound today and didn't find out. The ultrasound tech didn't write it down either which means our doctor doesn't know either. I'm feeling good about it. Almost changed our minds last minute because my sister just found out what she is having. But we stayed the course and I'm so glad we did.
I'm not necessarily waiting till my baby is born but I'm due Oct. 29th and I still have a week or two to find out the sex, so anxious!!! I wanna buy all the baby clothes I see in the store lol! (Hoping for a girl) I have 5 little nephews, we need a little girl in our family ! Lol her name would be Katalina Grace But I'm not sure for a boy
@Krysta6 I've found that everyone thinks they're an expert when it comes to my pregnancy and the sex of our babies. People stare awkwardly, touch me, make bizarre comments. I have to let it roll off or I'll go crazy. I vent to a very good friend of mine, who talks me off the ledge and reminds me to be calm for my babies.
If that doesn't work, you can always find a snarky comeback like "I see you're having a boy too! Oh wait...you're not pregnant."
I'm getting my 20 week Ultrasound done on Wednesday and I don't want to know the gender of the baby. It's going to be a level two ultrasound, I have some risk factors and they want to get a really good look at the baby. How do we avoid not finding out? I'm so nervous that the surprise will be ruined for me.
@kayce49 That was the first thing we told them! Our tech didn't even look in the area because she said it wasn't medically necessary. Although it seems that some offices still want to look. So if your office looks, just tell them to tell you when to look away. Also, see if they won't write it in the file since I've read that some people find out later on during appointments because a nurse slips!
@kayce49 my DH told the tech in the very beginning of the ultrasound that we didn't want to know. He was very good about saying "danger zone" when he was getting close or having to measure something near the area. Even though I probably would have had no clue what I was looking at unless it was extremely obvious, it was helpful to have that warning so DH and I could look away. We still were able to see plenty of baby moving around in there without the surprise being spoiled
Also, I agree with @Krysta6 about asking for it not to be written in the file. It's just easier overall when no one knows.
We had our scan yesterday and didn't look away when the tech warned us because we both just figure if the baby clearly shows us then that's fine. I couldn't tell what was going on down there. Not even a clear absence of a penis, hahaha. So secret isn't spoiled and we will hopefully find out come late October
Green all the way and I am so annoyed at people asking even when baby is born I plan on leaving out the sex. First person to come change a diaper can have the pleasure of announcing the sex lmao
Hey ladies! I'm due 10/13 with baby #2. My oldest will be 10 when this little bean arrives and we are standing strong on not finding out.
My gut says boy (plus I think I accidentally caught a little sneak peek at our ultrasound before turning away real quick!), but I will be ecstatic with either! I'm just thankful we have a healthy little bean!
FTM here on team green. My husband and I want to be surprised. Had our anatomy scan recently and tech didn't give it away and the sex won't be written in the US report so no one can ruin the surprise!
Yes for team green! We're waiting to find out. My anatomy scan is coming up and my husband doesn't even want to look at the screen for fear that we'll accidentally see the sex of the baby. Do other people just look away?
@Krysta6 try not to let it bother you. i'm 5 ft. 3 in. and people keep asking if i'm having twins because i do look rather large. short girls rock and don't let anyone tell you, or make you think differently!
Yes for team green! We're waiting to find out. My anatomy scan is coming up and my husband doesn't even want to look at the screen for fear that we'll accidentally see the sex of the baby. Do other people just look away?
I told the lady I did not want her to look between the legs at all and she told me she has to by law. To be sure the baby has genitals ..... I was like wait what?? She was a big ole bitch about it too!
FTM here. My husband and I want to be surprised. Had our anatomy scan recently and tech told us when to look away. Met with my doctor afterwards and she explained the sex isn't written in the file so no one can ruin the surprise. All my doctor and nurses know is that baby has normal anatomy. They seem just as excited about a surprise as we are!
Boy names are certainly harder! We are waiting until birth to find out with our twins. This is our first pregnancy and there are so few surprises in life. Glad to hear others are also waiting!
Team Green!! Made it through the anatomy scan with out caving. Even if I did want to know my little monster was going to play nice. We are expecting the little one to make his/her appearance aound 10/19. It is our first and we ate extremely excited.
I decided to not find out until birth either! Hubby found out so he could prepare. We decided by 12 weeks on names so we could have them set. For a boy we are doing Phury Von. And for a girl Lilith Rose. Excited to see baby, who is due 10/22!
I have a team green RANT that I want to know if everyone else is experiencing?
Since we are not finding out the sex of the baby that means that people are trying to guess. Their favorite way to guess is based on the shape of my body. Now I am 5'0" so I know that I am going to look larger than someone who is 5'5" or above, there just isn't a lot of room for baby to grow in my short tummy. But I have gone home in tears thinking about some of the things people say about my body! The most recent was that I'm having a boy because girls would be a cute basketball tummy and I'm clearly expanding outward! I was horrified! Its so hard to maintain a sliver of self esteem when people keep talking about how I don't have a basketball tummy. I want to be happy and healthy during this pregnancy and it feels like everywhere I turn someone is saying how I carry this baby isn't good enough. But is anyone else going through this? I don't know how I'm going to get through 4 more months and its only going to get worse!
I have a team green RANT that I want to know if everyone else is experiencing?
Since we are not finding out the sex of the baby that means that people are trying to guess. Their favorite way to guess is based on the shape of my body. Now I am 5'0" so I know that I am going to look larger than someone who is 5'5" or above, there just isn't a lot of room for baby to grow in my short tummy. But I have gone home in tears thinking about some of the things people say about my body! The most recent was that I'm having a boy because girls would be a cute basketball tummy and I'm clearly expanding outward! I was horrified! Its so hard to maintain a sliver of self esteem when people keep talking about how I don't have a basketball tummy. I want to be happy and healthy during this pregnancy and it feels like everywhere I turn someone is saying how I carry this baby isn't good enough. But is anyone else going through this? I don't know how I'm going to get through 4 more months and its only going to get worse!
I do this all the time when I See ultrasounds. I learned about the skull theroy last pregnancy and now when I see a good profile shot I just know. In 2 years I have a 90% success rate. All my friends post on my wall. It is not to be rude or ruin your day. It is just fun.
Team green here! We went green with our first and loved the surprise!! I was way more tempted this time to find out (just so I know whether or not to start selling her old clothes!) but we decided we still want the surprise.
When my first was born and put on my tummy by the midwife, I remember thinking just how perfect she was. It was a long time (I'd say at least a minute) before DH and I realized we didn't know her sex. It's like that was the last thing in the world that mattered when I finally had my beautiful baby in my arms. I said to him "well? What is it?" and the midwife said, "oh, you don't know?" and she gently lifted up my baby's leg to show my husband. I'll never forget the sound of him telling me we had a girl. Our daughter.
Due October 5th with baby #2. We didn't find out with our first either and were so excited to have a healthy baby boy!! We have our girl name, but still working on a boy name.
I just saw another thread about coming home outfits and thought I would share what my sister in law got us for our first born - check out twotara.com. It's reversible little outfits perfect for Team Green! I loved that I could just wash up the one outfit and was set for the hospital!
At our scan baby wasn't showing the goods so we didn't find out. We planned to have a private scan and find out later but the longer we wait the more I think a surprise would be nice! We've decided on team green!
Hi Everyone! So glad to see there are so many Team Green members - while it is an exciting surprise, it can be hard not knowing (ie: buying baby items).
Baby F., the first child for my husband and I, is due 10-20-15. For fun we have been doing the old wives tales for gender prediction and, to date, it is 50/50! Deep down, we think it's a boy!
Hope everyone is having smooth and enjoyable pregnancies
We have a lot in common. We have a girl and a boy and are due on 1 OCT as well. We decided to wait and I'm so happy we did. The bigger my stomach gets the easier I find it to wait and I love hearing people try to guess the sex. I guess we'll find out soon enough!
I have to say not knowing the gender is killing me lol!! But I know it will be worth it! I had morning sickness from week 7-14. Just like with my son, I crave a lot of the same things as I did with my son, but I don't seem as hungry, and I want more sweets than I did with him.... Hoping for another boy. My cravings: I hate yogurt... Never eat yogurt, it is an awful thing to me and yet I have been eating it now for breakfast a lot! So good to me right now!?
Seafood, sushi Peaches Yogurt Chocolate Cake! Pizza Cheese Pepsi/coke... Don't usually drink dark pops but can't seem to stop with this pregnancy Cinnamon/chai Garlic Spicy Bananas, anything banana Orange juice
Waiting to find out was my idea (definitely not my husband's), and isn't that popular...why do people call me "brave"? Haven't women been Team Green for millenia? Anyway, I'm excited for the suprise, and figure enough gender norming will happen after the baby is born...no need to get a 9 month jump on it!
I'm due 10/2 and we're think about the following names: Alexander Amir Nicholas JP Isabel Ann Caroline Jean ...all middle names are family names which is going to make it hard to decide!
Glad there are there's out there who don't want to know the sex if their baby until he/she arrives!
This is baby #3 and our 3rd time on Team Green!!! So far intuition was right with both our girls so I am curious to see if my intuition is right the 3rd time! As for names, ugh. I just don't know.
With my first we were team green (I'm a big team green advocate) and I really had no idea if he was going to be a boy or girl and had no real desire to find out before my son was delivered.
For some reason from the moment we found out I was pregnant though we referred to him as "he" and we were right! We also had a boy name immediately and struggled to pick out a girl name.
With this pregnancy we have been referring to the baby as "her" from almost the beginning. This time around we picked out our girl name immediately and are struggling with a boy name. Because of how different everything has been with this pregnancy vs. my first I have convinced myself this baby is a girl.
I'm getting a little concerned though that if this baby is a boy - I will have a feeling of disappointment since I've convinced myself it's a girl. I will be thrilled no matter what and really just want a healthy baby but I feel like a horrible mom to even have thoughts like this.
Re: TEAM GREEN
Although some people are telling me not to take it personal and I want to tell them to go f themselves!
Cry away, my dear! Let those tears fall because you, sadly, have earned the right to cry them. What they have said is extremely personal and extremely hurtful. I don't understand how someone can rebuttal with "don't take it personal" or anything other than I'm sorry and it will not happen again.
"Pregnancy is a wondrous miracle that should be celebrated. The changes that a woman's body goes through are intense, both physically and emotionally. During the season of pregnancy, and in the months that follow, mothers should be treated with compassion, through actions and words. Pregnancy is NOT an invitation to remark on the size of a woman."
This. This is what others need to read, if anything, from that post.
You deserve to be treated nicely. There is no excuse for what people have said to you. None.
Find out. Everyone around me thinks I'm crazy!
If that doesn't work, you can always find a snarky comeback like "I see you're having a boy too! Oh wait...you're not pregnant."
Ultrasound done on Wednesday and I don't want to know the gender of the baby. It's going to be a level two ultrasound, I have some risk factors and they want to get a really good look at the baby.
How do we avoid not finding out?
I'm so nervous that the surprise will be ruined for me.
I couldn't tell what was going on down there. Not even a clear absence of a penis, hahaha. So secret isn't spoiled and we will hopefully find out come late October
My gut says boy (plus I think I accidentally caught a little sneak peek at our ultrasound before turning away real quick!), but I will be ecstatic with either! I'm just thankful we have a healthy little bean!
I told the lady I did not want her to look between the legs at all and she told me she has to by law. To be sure the baby has genitals ..... I was like wait what?? She was a big ole bitch about it too!
I do this all the time when I See ultrasounds. I learned about the skull theroy last pregnancy and now when I see a good profile shot I just know. In 2 years I have a 90% success rate. All my friends post on my wall. It is not to be rude or ruin your day. It is just fun.
DH is still on the fence.
Baby F., the first child for my husband and I, is due 10-20-15. For fun we have been doing the old wives tales for gender prediction and, to date, it is 50/50! Deep down, we think it's a boy!
Hope everyone is having smooth and enjoyable pregnancies
My cravings:
I hate yogurt... Never eat yogurt, it is an awful thing to me and yet I have been eating it now for breakfast a lot! So good to me right now!?
Seafood, sushi
Peaches
Yogurt
Chocolate
Cake!
Pizza
Cheese
Pepsi/coke... Don't usually drink dark pops but can't seem to stop with this pregnancy
Cinnamon/chai
Garlic
Spicy
Bananas, anything banana
Orange juice
I'm due 10/2 and we're think about the following names:
Alexander Amir
Nicholas JP
Isabel Ann
Caroline Jean
...all middle names are family names which is going to make it hard to decide!
Glad there are there's out there who don't want to know the sex if their baby until he/she arrives!
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With my first we were team green (I'm a big team green advocate) and I really had no idea if he was going to be a boy or girl and had no real desire to find out before my son was delivered.
For some reason from the moment we found out I was pregnant though we referred to him as "he" and we were right! We also had a boy name immediately and struggled to pick out a girl name.
With this pregnancy we have been referring to the baby as "her" from almost the beginning. This time around we picked out our girl name immediately and are struggling with a boy name. Because of how different everything has been with this pregnancy vs. my first I have convinced myself this baby is a girl.
I'm getting a little concerned though that if this baby is a boy - I will have a feeling of disappointment since I've convinced myself it's a girl. I will be thrilled no matter what and really just want a healthy baby but I feel like a horrible mom to even have thoughts like this.
Anyone else have similar thoughts?