Shower registry

Maracs

It's four days before my shower and no one has gotten anything on my registry. I know I sound selfish but WHAT THE FUCK.

gotdiesel2007

There could be many reasons, they didn't scan your registry just bought from it, if they are like me they will buy on the way or well nobody is coming and they don't like you.

SnarkasaurusRex

You do sound extremely selfish and, honestly, a bit immature. A lot of people don't shop until day of anyway. Calm down, and focus on enjoying your shower.

MCH77

I never buy anything until the day before or day of. :-/

What is your family/friends like? Do they normally follow registries?

mrsnala

people dont buy until the day before, or more likely the day off. I am a planner and always buy gifts early, but most people usually by the night before or even stop on the way

ToAoShesha

Most people shop late and honestly they buy whatever they want. Very few actually order off your registry

lizzypoo96

I'm finding people don't like registries when it comes to babies. Which is frustrating, because it's like, but that what we NEED! But everyone gets all hung up on buying cute outfits and toys instead of the practical stuff. Definitely changes how I'll shop in the future

Maracs

I think that's why I'm getting frustrated because I'm getting anxious that I won't have all the things I need like bottles and the tub and those sorts of things. @lizzypoo96

Handree

I had my shower last weekend and only a few things were bought off the registry but we got a ton of onsies. Be prepared, people like to buy cute clothes. There are still a lot of necessities that we need to buy our selfs but I had planned on the happening and am fine with it.

mom3babies

Omg did you ever think that just maybe you would have to buy the stuff yourself for your baby??!! You sound selfish and like you expect everybody to buy your baby everything it needs!!

asherk

Maracs said:

I think that's why I'm getting frustrated because I'm getting anxious that I won't have all the things I need like bottles and the tub and those sorts of things. @lizzypoo96

So you go and buy those things. A shower is for people to get you things that they think you will need/want for your new baby, not an entitlement for you to get every little thing you want. People will spend their money on you how they want to; you don't really get to dictate that.

lindsaypkelly

Maybe just be happy that people are buying things for YOUR baby in the first place.

PCU215

Is this a real post? Are you trying to instigate an argument or are you genuinely worried that others will not provide you with what your baby needs?

alliebarry13

Oh no! That would suck so bad if you had to buy your baby stuff.

ashleytiff

I had my shower recently and just realized people would rather buy what they want for the baby. I ended up returning a bunch of it and getting what I needed. A few people bought stuff off the registry but didn't mark it off so I had 7 of the same bath gift baskets.

I don't remember how many items I registered for but only 6 things I had on there were purchased. Most of them from my mom.

lindsaypkelly

https://youtu.be/-JvtlB_NzI8

twindlej

My shower is on Saturday and nothing is bought off registry but Is expecting that. The only reason I created a registry was to get the discount when I bought the needed items. U should expect that your going to need to buy babies items yourself! There are only a few real necessities so get those first and but other things later. Babies really don't need much!

mers90

Did you register Cheap stuff or just the big stuff? My register has a couple of $5 items and most of them are between $15-$25, I registered the big stuff thinking that I'll be buying it myself (tub, for example) Most people won't give you anything too expensive so maybe if you don't have enough cheap stuff that could be the reason. Anyway, I always buy on my way there so I wouldn't be surprised if I'm not the only One.

rw3190

Yea I kinda understand where you're coming from
However several of my guests never got their invitations in the mail and the party is sat (I just found out while trying to get a head count).
So unfortunately I too have peeked at the registry and most of what I need is still on it.
Will have to spend the money. What can I say??? I mean....they are GIFTS

Maracs

By no means did I expect to get everything I need for my baby. It's my responsibility and I know that. I was simply just venting my frustrations and anxieties. And maybe I sound selfish but it's also really rude to make comments like did you lay down get knocked up and expect everything to be given to you. Because no that didn't happen we had to try for a very long time and use many different methods and I am prepared to provide for my child. I guess what I was trying to say is that I'm hoping we will receive some practical things too.

oneblessedmess

There's nothing to be frustrated or anxious over though. If you don't get everything you need you just have to buy it yourself. The end. Personally, when my husband and I were budgeting for baby we pretended we weren't having a shower. Everything we did get was just a bonus after that. Everything we didn't get, no worries, we planned for that anyway.

Anyway, like PPs said most people don't buy gifts until a day or two before the shower, if not the day of. My shower was a Sunday and I didn't see items being fulfilled until the Thursday before. We still got lots of stuff including some larger items like a travel system and pack n play which were a nice surprise.

ksinto

It is an anxious time but you should remember two things. 1. Your shower is not the only thing on people's plate; and 2. No one is responsible to get you anything. You should be grateful you have people in your life who have said they would like to come spend an afternoon with you.

Savanna111911

I am a planner but I know a lot of people are not so some people probably haven't even bought their gifts yet. I've also heard from friends that people don't use baby registries as much as wedding registries. Hey want to buy cute clothes and onesies.

Like others said, ultimately it's your responsibility to buy bottles, tubs, and whatever else you need. When working on a budget, my husband and I made the assumption we would have to buy everything, especially the larger items. We already feel extremely fortunate because someone has bought our pack n play and my sister has hinted that she and her husband may buy our travel system. But we certainly don't feel entitled to those things? We put them on the registry to help get the cash back and/or completion discount, and knowing that some of our close family members may want to buy larger items.

Try not to worry too much about the gifts and just enjoy your shower and be grateful for the gifts that you do receive. You may also get some gift cards etc that you can use to buy your necessities.

bookworm7495

Wow. I thought the mean comments were over at this point. It's understandable to check the registry. This is what showers are for. Take back stuff you don't need and use it for the things you do.

SBbabyonboard

I made a registry for my baby shower as well but I'm not thinking too many people will use it as my family is usually the 'personal' type and will want to make it more of a suprise. I have been so greatful already as I had saved up to go buy my crib and stroller ect (didn't want to put expensive things on my registery as I think that's just too much to expect from your loved ones) but too my suprise my FIL actually ordered a crib and had it sent here to suprise me! and my MIL sent me a picture of a beautiful stroller she bought me!! I was so touched because I just didn't think or expect anyone to spend that much money!! But now I can use my savings for all the other things I don't get at my baby shower. It's good to have back up cash for the things you don't get because it's not realistic to think you'll get all necessities from your baby shower. People like to get clothes and gift baskets ect. But anything you get from friends and loved ones is such a great help! Can't wait to see what I get and then go buy the rest myself!! It's getting so close!!!! So excited!!!!

PCU215

I don't want to bust your chops anymore but let's be honest. Don't you think your original post came off as a little rude? I mean, you may just mean to be venting but when your last sentence is "WHAT THE FUCK?" You are going to seem a little on the mean side. I didn't put anything on my registry that I would need ASAP or couldn't just go and purchase on the fly. Just remember, gifts are not an entitlement. Be happy for what you receive and save up for the rest.

Maracs

It's not a money issue I have all of out big stuff the nursery is finished strollers, swings, car seat, etc.

chanielle14

I found at my shower I got things from my registry but they weren't checked off. That could be a possibility too.

itsrandiyo

Also, think about when you have gone to a baby shower before you were pregnant, did you buy them bottles or un-fun things like that? Probably not, you probably picked out cute stuff and gave it to them. Don't be worried though, you'll get everything you need somehow  

Knottie99627423

I say just take back the things that you don't want or need and get what you do need. I put on my registry that it was more of a guidebook for things I would like to have. I figure, I don't really know what I'll need until babe arrives and I'm not very particular about which specific brand I get.

And side note, I drop the f bomb a lot and probably took less offense to your post than some.

mom3babies

I didn't take offense to her saying fuck. I say that everyday. Nobody cares about that. The point is she's pissed cause nobody has bought her the things she wants for her baby instead of buying them on her own.

bethanylynn456

The nice thing about registries is that you usually get a discount on the things that haven't been purchased, so hopefully that will help you if you have to buy it yourself : )

zmombie

Wow!! Yea that car video sums it up!
You gonna cry when someone brings you a different bag of diapers then the most expensive one you requested?

eheinick

Keep calm. Its a shower. Whatever happens happens. I registered for everything but I dont expect anything. I am honestly happy just to see my friends and family having a good day. Which includes a mimosa bar! Im more concerned people have fun than gifts. Its a celebration ... try to enjoy it! And yes anxiety over stuff is normal but honestly little one will survive with the basics. ♡ Keep calm and just enjoy this time! EVERYONE! And stop with the arguing ... we're all just trying to do our best. Support! Just keep thinking ... ten fingers ten toes ... ten fingers ten toes ... ♡ It always works out.

mom3babies

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SnarkasaurusRex

eheinick said:

Keep calm. Its a shower. Whatever happens happens. I registered for everything but I dont expect anything. I am honestly happy just to see my friends and family having a good day. Which includes a mimosa bar! Im more concerned people have fun than gifts. Its a celebration ... try to enjoy it! And yes anxiety over stuff is normal but honestly little one will survive with the basics. ♡ Keep calm and just enjoy this time! EVERYONE! And stop with the arguing ... we're all just trying to do our best. Support! Just keep thinking ... ten fingers ten toes ... ten fingers ten toes ... ♡ It always works out.

Sometimes 'support' means that you get called out when you sound like a spoiled 5 year old and need a reality check.

Lots of women don't get to have showers and have to purchase everything themselves. Those of you that get them need to be grateful for each and every gift you receive, regardless of whether or not it is exactly what you want, because someone took the time, effort, and money to get something for YOU and YOUR CHILD. It's not an obligation to receive gifts for having a baby, and it's really irritating to see so many people on here complaining about not getting exactly what they want.

zmombie

^ exactly! No one is entitled to a baby shower, just because you got pregnant doesn't mean that your family and friends have to buy you anything! And throwing a fit cause they didn't buy you what you wanted is absolutely ridiculous! I will not support that.