Another annoyance

SharLovesAlex

I'm also annoyed by people telling me what I need to do with my baby. I really don't care how many kids you've raised. My MIL and her mom keep telling me I need to pump more milk to take out. All because I left the table at the restaurant to go outside to the car to feed my baby. Well maybe I prefer to feed him in private and also prefer not to give him a bottle. It just so happens I did bring a bottle also, which I pointed out, but he was fussy so he wanted to suckle and nurse, not drink from the bottle. It's getting really annoying. I'm finding it difficult to hold my tongue and I'm trying to keep myself from saying something unkind. Husband's grandmother is 93. As sweet as she is, she hasn't raised kids for over 50 years. What she knows is a little outdated. His mom never listens to me. I'm afraid to let her watch him because she's so overbearing and thinks she knows what's best for my son. We're going to a Dodger game for my husband's birthday and she's going to watch the baby. It freaks me out because she always covers him with loose blankets (covering his face) and tries to feed him everytime he cries because he "must be hungry". Ugh! And I feel bad because I like his mom a lot, she's just really getting on my nerves when it comes to my baby. Sorry, I just needed to vent for a bit.

sarimuraweh

Venting always helps some people can't help but offer advice. But there is a fine line between offering advice and pushing their opinion. Sometimes we just need to speak out mind regardless of who it is. Your baby is your baby!!

SharLovesAlex

sarimuraweh said:

Venting always helps some people can't help but offer advice. But there is a fine line between offering advice and pushing their opinion. Sometimes we just need to speak out mind regardless of who it is. Your baby is your baby!!

Thank you! I feel bad for being annoyed, but this is my first baby. I'm very concerned about what she thinks she knows even though she hasn't raised a baby since the 80's. She likes things her way, so she pushes and pushes until you give in. We went to the mall once and she kept insisting my baby was hungry, and I told her he wasn't and didn't need to be fed, he was just ready to go home and rest. I leave him with her for a few moments and I come back and she's feeding him! I just want to feel respected as his mother. She says I'm a good mom, yet she still doesn't respect me and my husband. She thinks she can show up when she wants without checking with us, and whenever I try to do something with thr baby (feed him, change his diaper or clothes) she's like right there with a hand in it (literally, she will put her hands in while I'm changing him, this is not a joke or exaggeration). I like her a lot and think she'd be a great grandmother if she would just STOP trying to be my son's MOTHER and let ME do that! It's so frustrating. I feel like this could ruin our relationship, when in fact it should make it stronger because it's awesome being a grandparent. I'm hoping to be able to talk to her without it feeling like an attack on her. Thanks for your reply, you're so right.