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September 2015 Moms
pmercedes
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Who else is skeptical to post certain things because of the judgement on here ?
pmercedes
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This is what's wrong with America , I'm super open minded and it pains me that women can't have different opinions on here . If I don't like someone post , I just don't comment I keep it moving . It's like I never understand when people follow celebs on Instagram then talk stuff about them all over the comments . Unfollow them if you think they're dumb . My point is people are allowed to feel however they want , some things people say I admit sound dumb to me however , this is a place to let all that out and those that are feeling similar can have a platform to vent about it .
A lady posted on here about weed and specifically said that she wasn't posting to be judged just wanted answers and the "mommy police" we're all over that just like they're all over the gender disappointment posts .
That's what makes us unique we have different issues , didn't ways of dealing with things what have you .
On here to me one issue should be no better or worse than the next . If someone wants to cry about the fact their pinky toe is broken and feels worse than labor we don't need someone all offending fighting her on how it can't possibly be worse than labor .... Who cares she's expressing something on her on post . There are bound to be posts that we don't all agree on and that's okay . It's what makes the world go round .
A lady posted on here about weed and specifically said that she wasn't posting to be judged just wanted answers and the "mommy police" we're all over that just like they're all over the gender disappointment posts .
That's what makes us unique we have different issues , didn't ways of dealing with things what have you .
On here to me one issue should be no better or worse than the next . If someone wants to cry about the fact their pinky toe is broken and feels worse than labor we don't need someone all offending fighting her on how it can't possibly be worse than labor .... Who cares she's expressing something on her on post . There are bound to be posts that we don't all agree on and that's okay . It's what makes the world go round .
Re: Who else is skeptical to post certain things because of the judgement on here ?
Anyway, it sucks but the only way to avoid it is to avoid the "controversial" subjects. People can feel so strongly about things that they just blindly throw insults and judgement out. For the most part, I am pretty happy with this birth group, though.
As far as circumcision is concerned to each their own . Weather you decide to or not doesn't make any side worse than the other. The mommy police just crack me up . I don't know if you ever wanted real house wives of Atlanta but Kim has 6 kids and because people are always bashing her parenting she always puts hashtags on her pics on IG there to explain herself . Although funny its ashamed she has to do it to begin with @shelbydd
As if being pregnant we don't already get enough crap from the outside about each and every single decision we make. You'd think everyone would want to be supportive, even during a disagreement. Can we all agree that we get enough crap from friends/family/strangers in real life?
PS, every time I see you post @pmercedes I think that's hot bikini mama again! You go on with your bad self, gurl!!!
@shelbydd yes we do! I get far too much grief off my family! Not my little family id like to add, my mum and arse of a brother.
I got a load of verbal when I posted on the weed debate, one lady was determined to have a go, yes I bit back, as what was annoying me was that person seemed to be reading things in to my post that weren't actually there, or what I'd said. I was by no means saying weed is ok to smoke whilst pregnant, but it was taken way out of context and it got me vexed.
The circumcision post, that got way out of hand. Some really stupid ignorant and disrespectful posts.
I come on here as I love having a place to
go were I can relate to issues raised and get involved in the group and debates. I also have a good laugh, there are some funny ladies on here who's posts never fail to make me smile or lol.
Then there's the support part, wow, the ladies on here are amazing when it comes to supporting each other. I've been blown away at the replies I've seen on some posts were someone is worried or in pain etc. especially those early weeks when we were reading some very sad stories about losses, again overwhelming support for the lady who posted.
I think the good on here, by far out weighs the bad :-)
@chelseajeanene I think I know which post your talking about. *shakes head
Edited: forgot to add something.
I completely agree that the "eww" and "smelly" comments on the circumcision posts were inappropriate and crossed the line, I feel like the description of "mutilating" your baby were, too. Plenty of women had said they had planned to circumcise, so why use such inflammatory language? I found it offensive but I didn't chime in at first because I didn't feel like getting dragged in. I wish we could have more civil conversations. On that debate, how about?
Yes, we plan to circumcise. It's important to my husband and me.
No, we have decided not to circumcise. It's not for us after doing some research.
This accomplishes the same goal- you know where someone stands. You have a brief explanation of why, but no one is using inflammatory language to "win" the argument.
IMO, I tried to answer the weed post with semi decent facts and not be too judgy, but I agree some people are taking it way to personal...
As well as continuing to drag it out long after we agreed the horse has been thoroughly flogged.
My position is that forums like this should be entertaining, useful for bouncing ideas, and general support. It's not like we have to take a pregnancy test to join so you never know who you are talking to - I take everything I read with a grain of salt or sugar! Even if it is hard or scary reaching out to other pregnant women or moms in your daily life is essential.
While I love the idea that we can all behave like rational beings and share kind input, I think we should keep in mind WHO we are: extremely hormonal, increasingly pregnant ladies!
On a different note, one day I got SO emotionally hormonally sappy and began to cry. I started wailing to my husband.
Said through a runny nose, teary eyes, blubbering cry voice and wiping my snot on my sleeve, burying my head in his chest......"Some women are so crazy, they even attack, and are rude and condescending/obnoxious to other pregnant women. And they will be raising kids in that kind of environment and wounding their child! No sweet and precious child deserves this!"
Other times, I pop a bag of popcorn and PM other normals so we can talk about the trolls.
This board has become NIGHT AND DAY different than how it started. Trolls were in much higher concentration. Now, Troll Patrol reigns supreme! :-bd
An Internet troll is someone who baits people to have strong reactions, is hurtful, racist, demeaning, and downright awful to other people online in order to cause emotional stress and damage. A true bully who delights in breaking down someone else. No one in this board is an Internet troll. Stop being so sensitive.
I just DONT GET IT.
I'm late to this party
I saw the post on weed and I had nothing that would help the OP so I left it - other people (at least the ones I scrawled through) were doing their best to help her. But I didn't keep going back to see... now I'm wondering what I missed.
Re. circumcision - I voted. That was it. I live between 2 worlds at times it feels (Ireland and the US) and both countries handle it differently, so I really am not strongly one way or the other. My husband is. I also didn't realize that had gone down in a storm either...
I need to improve my reading skills
Anyway, I'm a believer in if you've got nothing nice to say, say nothing at all. ALSO, if you see a post title that will likely piss you off, why bother reading it? It's not going to help you at all and most likely only make your blood pressure rise. I think most (I can't say all, but I would say most - like 99.9%) of the women on here are here to try and help from experience or just to give a hug when needed.
There are lots of topics that will come up over the coming months, C-sections, vaccinations, co-sleeping, crib sleeping, pacis, breast or bottle and they can all have an emotive turning point. The thing is, as parents, as women, we choose to do the right thing in our situation and we can't sit in judgment of others when they don't do as we would, whether its cultural or just a person belief. As long as no-one is at risk what does it matter?
Three snaps in a circle.
And yes, I agree that a troll is not merely someone who disagrees. A troll can be someone who uses stupid sarcasm, that isn't even funny, to make condescending remarks that bait people into a reaction...then sits back and claims innocence in a stupid way like this: "What? I can't say something?"
Sorry for the run-on sentence.
Have I mentioned that this is another entertaining thread?
I gotta draw the line at talking about people's kids (that would be in reference to the troll). Not appropriate. Ever. I do appreciate everyone's (educated) comments though; it's nice to hear another perspective!