Who have you told about ttc?

mattiep16

I've told my best friend and one person at work and that's it. My bf thinks I'm crazy for not telling my family but I honestly feel like it's easier on me to not have to answer questions and I also know my mom would obsess over it and probably be more upset about set backs than me! Just wondering if I'm the only one with this big secret LOL!

rspalding001

Most people I know are aware we are trying to get pregnant again. Everyone is pretty respectful and does nto ask too many questions, especially since we went through a couple losses already. I guess they figure we will let them know if there is any news fit to print  

FemShep

We haven't told anyone. Our immediate family knows about our miscarriage and may draw their own conclusions, but otherwise, this is something I consideer very private and don't want to share until we have news.

suziq1978

We haven't told anyone.  I just don't feel like it's their business to know.

BulgariHeart

We haven't told nor do we plan on telling anyone. There's absolutely no need for anyone to know we will be having lots of unprotected sex. 

I feel the same towards telling we're pregnant before 12 weeks and towards sharing names. I just really want most of our baby-related events to be ours. 

KLake42

I told everyone.  Close friends and family were brought into the loop in personal conversations, and I then put my stuff way out there on social media (and just filtered out distant acquaintances and work people).  

I just wanted as much support as I could get.  I guess I didn't feel as private about it as @BulgariHeart and others because, for me, TTC doesn't involve sex (my wife's sperm count is just really, really low).  For me, it's all about ordering sperm on the internet and getting real close and personal with my doctor's speculum.  There's no Barry White playing in the background!

I've really appreciated hearing from my gay friends about how they've managed to build families.  But more than that, it was really heartwarming to get an overwhelming OCEAN of support from everyone.

It also feels good to know that a lot of folks are holding us in their prayers and warm thoughts.  Most everyone has been good, too, to find ways of saying "I'm not going to ask you how things are going step by step, but I care about you and I have so much confidence that this is meant for you."  

GK2009

I started out being very private about the situation, but now pretty much my whole family knows.  My husband ended up telling his family too... I guess in moments of frustration we just couldn't hold it in.  We don't really talk about it, but the cat is out of the bag.  I also told a few people at work and I'm not really sure why... they told me I was on a list of future maternity leaves (as a joke) and when I didn't really laugh about it, I told some people (I actually regret this a lot-- I wish I never said anything, but I guess it's not a big deal).  I just don't want people to look at me and feel like they can't talk about their pregnancies... I am always happy for other people when they have good news.  I just happen to work at a company where it seems EVERYONE is getting pregnant.  I was hoping I would catch whatever is in the water

MissusMeagan

I'm sort of with @BulgariHeart in that we are choosing to be very private about TTC and not really telling anyone. I love my family but just don't trust them to be reasonable about the process and their expectations. In addition, as an already nervous, anxious person, I know myself well enough to know that I don't need the added pressure of texts, emails, and phone calls fishing around for info about where we are.

When things do happen, I'm also hoping to wait as long as we possibly can to tell for similar reasons, along with not learning the gender, sharing name selections, etc. Everybody will know soon enough, and DH and I love the idea of keeping things between just the two of us for as long as we can!

FemShep

Just wanted to let you know @KLake42 that your wife's sperm count made me laugh out loud.

Stuuuaaart

I haven't told anyone. We did the same thing with our first. I feel like it adds pressure and I don't like that feeling.