Going back to work

hwood10

So i was supposed to go back to work today and I couldn't. Every time I'd think about going in I'd start crying and have an anxiety attack. How are y'all handling going back to work? Any advice for getting past this?

teemo87

Iam not working but i know its hard because i feel bad when i left my baby home to have dinner out with my H for one or two hours. How i will feel if i leave him for six hours or more

mperez95

I went through the same thing, I just couldn't help feeling like no body could care for my baby the way I could but what helped me was the thought of finally leaving the house, I know it may sound a little selfish but I began to feel useless doing nothing all day for 3 months.. Plus disability wasn't paying much compared to my pay check.. That also motivated me, knowing I would be bringing in more income for my princess. Once you get the first day over with you'll be fine. It won't be easy, your baby will be on your mind the whole time but keeping yourself busy with your tasks will help you fly through the day and before you know it you'll be cuddling with your little one

Grapes13

Today is my 3rd day back. I cry in the way to work and get really down when I drop him off with the babysitter. But it does get easier once you are at work! I mean you still constantly think of them and miss them but it gets easier to be away. I am so looking forward to the weekend though. Best of luck, and I hope you find it easier at your next attempt to leave

nikist618

I'm with you hwood10. I have one more week of maternity leave and I also cry every time I think about going back to work. I'm hoping that all these moms are right once I'm back and in the swing of things I'll be ok but for now I definitely don't feel ok.

mebefitz87

I've been working full time for the past two weeks. It can be hard but if you have someone you know and trust watching the baby once you get to work and get busy you really do start to feel better. Good luck and keep trying, it gets easier.

moonlytmiko

I really want to go back to work but i cant… coz my baby doesnt want bottle feeding. She just wouldnt take it! Its pretty tough! And i also thought if i go to work will she be alright?will she be fed regularly? Will she be comfortable without me by her side?

Christinecosta191919

I have to go back in two weeks and I dread it. I start crying every time I think about it. I know exactly how you feel. I think a lot of it is hormones too. It's not easy but I think we also have to remind ourselves that were not the only ones who have to go back.......

midwestmom12

I had my first day back at work yesterday, and I must admit I was absolutely dreading it. HOWEVER, I was pleasantly surprised at how I wasn't a miserable wreck all day!! I think if you find a daycare provider whom you trust and love, the hardest part is actually making that first step out of the door. I'm only on day two so this could change, but so far it hasn't been too terrible. The smiles you get when picking up your LO kind of makes it worth it!!

Christinecosta191919

That gives some of us hope for sure! Glad you had an okay day!

2Swanns

I go back to work in a week and reality has set in today. My cousin, who will be caring for our daughter for the summer, moved in today and it made me realize that the day for me to go back is getting so close. 

I've basically had anxiety all day and I was talking to my husband about it this evening, just the two of us, and I'm a wreck. Sounds stupid, but did I cuddle her enough and look at her enough? Talk to her enough and do enough with her? It just makes me realize how fast the past 3 months have gone and I want the time back to do it again, knowing what I know now. I have to just move on and learn but I am so, so, so sad right now. I don't know how I'm going to do it...

Good luck to you all who have to do it. No matter if you want to go back or not, it will be hard...

Mpast001

Hi Moon,
I was having this issue too, my little boy wouldn't take the bottle at all! But I knew he could! Early on we had to supplement with formula and he fed from bottle easily while we were on the hospital. I began to exclusively breastfed by week 3 and have till now. What worked for us was 2 things
1) switching the bottle/nipple we we tried the Dr. Brown's wide neck bottles and he wouldn't drink at all eventually we tried regular Madela bottle bottle with the same type of slow flow nipple from the hospital.
2) try having someone else give baby the bottle. We started with me "leaving" aka hiding in he bedroom while hubby gave him the bottle when baby know there's a boob around he gets frustrated.

Hope that helps! Keeps us posted I go back back to work next week and this is one of the steps we've been taking to get baby ready for his baby sitter.

BrandiLynn83

I had to get back on anxiety meds. I took Xanax on top of the usual daily meds the first day. I'm on my third week back to work and I can see baby kind of enjoys being around the other kids. I always have one foot out the door at work though. Will start my own home daycare if need be.

catfred16

I had huge anxiety about going back to work. For 2-3 weeks before going back I would cry whenever I thought about it and before I went to bed. I'm in my first week back (part time thank goodness) and it's been tough but I know she's in good hands and I've had family help me out by picking/dropping her off at daycare. Maybe try to go back half days or just a few days the first week or so.

I cry on the drive to work and randomly throughout the day...I'm hoping it gets better/easier...everyone keeps telling me it will!!!