@Serenamarr@karaelaine1991 I feel for you both! House guests that over stay their welcome are tough, especially when they're friends and you don't want to cause a rift between them. In October (before I found out I was pregnant) DH had a friend ask if he could stay with us for a short while while he looked for a place to stay. He had just accepted a job in the city, but his wife wasn't ready to make the move yet. Anyways, the guy is *still here!* He hasn't contributed any sort of amount to extra cost of bills or given us any sort of rent. The other day I asked when he was planning on leaving and he said 'well, how long are you willing to let me stay?' Sorry bro, but I want you out ASAP! It's been 7 months...my belly is basically a calendar...so ya, it's time to leave!
What angers me is when people speak before I hope they think. One of my regular patients who knows how far along I am in the pregnancy asked me "How's fatty?" And then was like that wasn't nice was it? Heck no it wasn't nice. I've only gained 9 pounds this whole time and I already feel so huge, I didn't need what body confidence I had left to be crushed. I almost started crying. People can be so rude.
Aaaah! Why do people think that they have right to an opinion about another persons body! I'm so sick of the body police! Especially people who are not even part of your inner circle! I'd tell him to pound sand...I guess it's good my job doesn't require bedside manner.
@upandbelow tell that guy to get the hell out!! You've got a baby coming!!! Have you given him a firm date? He sounds like a blood sucking parasite...willing to take whatever he can get.
Wow...I'm kind of angsty tonight! Didn't realize all that rage was in there!
I think I have a legit rant. I've mentioned before how I live in a small town, and there is really only one pediatricians office (its a kids clinic in a wing of the hospital). This office has 2 drs - Dr N and Dr F. Well, I find out Dr N is leaving (in June, even), but Dr F will be staying, and they will be adding another Dr onto staff later in the summer. So, briefly, Dr F will be a one-horse show. So I'm asking around about how people like Dr F. And everybody hates her. Everybody. They all *love* Dr N. But this other Dr has somehow earned the ire of every person I know with kids (which, admittedly, is not many people). One gal told me that she took her daughter to this Dr at 4 days old for a hematoma on her head *that was noted as being there at birth* and this lady called CPS on her. So basically, I'm going to have to work with this lady who I'm probably going to dislike and not trust, at least until the other Dr comes at some point later in the summer. Or, use a family practice doc, which is probably what I will do, but it would be nice to have an actual pediatrician to lean on during the early days.
I plan on giving this lady every benefit of the doubt, but still... This is not a very optimistic outlook, here.
I live in a small town so I feel ya. We have no pediatric practice here. We have to drive 45 mins to see a real Dr. Do you have a city near by? Maybe they will have a new better fabulous Dr. when baby melly gets here???
@mellymar I do not care for any of our 3 pediatricians and am going with a family practice doc that I go to. I'm totally comfortable with the decision. Really look into a family practice and whether the nurses are helpful in that practice. Most of them have a slew of their own kids and the docs are knowledgeable.
How do I know no one in the maternity pics besides @KarasTwin, and maybe a couple others. Oh and the due date twin thing. 90+ people have commented on it. Do we even have that many people who comment in here daily?? They jump on the cutie threads and that's it.
@frankengibbs I can't believe they didn't take you off work completely. You need to sit around and fatten up you need to come to my house and I'll give you my MILs plate. I still don't fix hers and it always makes me think of you lol. I recently found her hidden stash of canned chili. DH died, she's a big lady and it's killing her to not eat homemade food. We purposely made chili last night and she hasn't eaten any yet.
She deserves it too. She told me I didn't belong in her family because its shameful for people to know DH is 16 years older than I am and thus baby will ruin his life. All because I won't clean the microwave with bleach.
Lol your MIL and mine sound like they were cut from the same cloth. And who cares if he's older than you? As @karaelaine1991 said, if you are both adults, and it appears that you are, who gives a flying shit? She can just eat her canned chili and be quiet.
@frankengibbs I can't believe the mom of the kids you watch. It blows my mind that she wouldn't have given you a heads up about illness in her home. Maybe she was worried that you would choose to stay home today, which would be a totally valid decision IMO. But even if that were the case - what's she gonna do if you are unable to watch her kids because you've caught this bug? Makes no sense.
@devyns2nd you MIL is a trip. Good grief. Some people just baffle me
ETA - you staying home to avoid illness is a totally valid decision, I mean. Not her keeping an illness a secret
Yeah, so update: After talking to DH and my mom, I told my boss this is going to be my last week. I'm so beyond done there. And I swear if I get sick, I'm going to loose it... I am just entirely confused as to why she wouldn't tell me that her child is sick with a fever. If you can't send him to daycare that way, what would make her think it's okay to have her pregnant CP show up with him like that with no warning? And and and if her BF is there to watch the sick child in the other room, why can't he get the other one ready for school? Why do I need to be there? Also, no one told me his symptoms so I don't know what to watch for and the other one was coughing so am I to assume it's allergies or that she just hasn't gotten a fever yet?! Ugh... [-(
I'm mad that I missed all the good stuff today because I had to drive back to the zoo (45 minute one way drive) to pick up my blood glucose monitor that I left on a bench!
At the beginning of the week my husband agreed to take DS to daycare tomorrow. Fast forward to right now when I confirm that this in fact happening... He has a big sigh, sits down, hands on face rub, real dramatic...and says he will. He will have to go to work and then come home, but he will do it. There is no way I can do it tomorrow with my morning meeting etc, etc, etc. Way to make your pregnant wife whose feet ache due to swelling and hips hurt forcing me to waddle feel EVEN WORSE. Ughhhhhhhhh love this thread!
I couldn't resist responding.. It just doesn't seem right to be asked for opinions and what to do and call people rude for responding to your request!
Where are all these posters on the threads where people need support - you can take the time to get mad at people but not to spend two seconds responding to serious issues - that is rude IMHO.
real complaint/rant my roommate and all my husband's friends that live in town (including our roomate) keep going out and having fun and drinking and such without inviting him, but they dont forget to send him snapchat pictures of how much fun they are having. its frustrating for him and for me because he is starting to/wanting to spite drink because of it and it just puts him in a down mood. honestly though, im not invited to anything either. but this just sucks. i just wanna kick our roomate out.
@JessHeppell since getting pregnant we have been receiving zero invites to go out........ Yes most of the time we would say no.... But were pregnant not dead. My husband says not to take it personal but it gets annoying to me. At least still make me feel like you want me there! Drinking related or even not.
Soooo much happened in our bumpie group yesterday!! I need to sift through these posts and respond while I'm waiting 45 minutes for my 5 min doc appt.
I'm right there with you! I check this thing multiple times a day but yesterday didn't get a chance too until later. seemed like I was gone for months with all the stuff going on lol
And my doc appt wait time was non-existent!!! I literally peed and came out of the bathroom with my sample and they were ready for me! Not complaining, but I still am not caught up!
@devyns2nd I can drive to a 'city' in an hour, that's always an option. I'd have to go there anyway if any of us needed any kinds of specialized care. What I'll probably do is what @klkonwi is - see a family practice doc instead. I'll use the peds lady when the ewok is a newborn and if its not a good vibe once we are out from under the cloud of 'brand spankin' new baby that I have no idea what I'm doing with' switch to a FP I met that I liked a lot.
To all the FTMs the major thing that stinks about having kids is that you will know be forced into dealing with idiot parents. We have an interesting neighbor who will always try to pawn off her kids to watch on other neighbors. Luckily, I'm on to her ways and really don't care if she thinks I'm a bitch when I say no! But she tried to pass a fast one on our new neighbor yesterday. It was almost comical and new Neighbor J had no idea what was going on...this is what happened.
J and I are sitting on her front porch watching our kids play. E comes up to play. Then E's Mom drives up in her car and states "Do you mind if E plays" to which J responds "Sure". (Remember how I'm on to her ways!!!) to which I add "Are you going somewhere?" And then I add "when will you be back". I told E's Mom that I couldn't watch E bc I didn't know if we will still be outside playing when she got back 45 minutes later!!!! J was nice and let her stay. But J was like "what the crap just happened"...um yeah! Welcome to the neighborhood!
The kicker was when E's Mom came home she came up to me and was like "Oh I thought you weren't going to still be out when I got back".
I'm still pissed about this! I almost want to give her a piece of mind but they are neighbors
Okay, I've got one, it miiiiight be better for me to wait for the FFFC, but I'm gonna risk it! The other day I read this blog: https://www.salon.com/2015/04/19/what_a_horrible_mother_moms_arrested_for_leaving_their_kids_in_the_car/ and I've decided that I'm actually kind of sad about what being a parent is going to be like this generation. The other day in my city a neighbour noticed a neighbourhood child riding his bike around the block without supervision and called children's services who came and picked the child up. I think that's ridiculous, the whole concept of helicopter parenting just makes me sad and frustrated and grrrr. GRRR I SAY!
Yep. Helicopter parenting. Enough said.
I'm so late to the game on this one. Wish I had seen it Tuesday because I have a ton of gripes. And mostly with people. The ones in my life. A couple of weeks ago, my husband was diagnosed with liver damage. We were told possible liver failure. He's a non drinker, non smoker so this took us hugely by surprise. While he was recovering, we had a friend who wanted him to wire their house (he's an electrician) for free. And not only did they not ask, they just assumed. Called us up and said, hey, can he come and do our house? He's sick for crying out loud. People have been taking a lot from us the last few months and it's getting old. Our son spent time in the hospital after he was pushed off of the playground equipment (9 feet altogether) and hit his head off of the frozen ground. I had people texting me, asking if I could do this and this for them. So overall, my Tuesday/Thursday gripe is that I am sick of people.
Ugh. So look, just because I share my birth experiences and what I want this birth experience to be like based off of that doesn't mean I think everyone who'll be doing things differently is doing it wrong! I mean I even prefaced my story with an "I'm not flaming anyone" opening statement FFS.
I got a call from the bank this morning , someone wrote and cashed a check for 200$ I don't know who it could of been in the only one on my account. I have super swollen feet, I just want my feet and toes to be normal again!!!
@NotISaidtheCat it's totally okay to share your experience and disagree with people. It is the unpopular opinion thread though... So it's expected to get a little side eye
Ugh. So look, just because I share my birth experiences and what I want this birth experience to be like based off of that doesn't mean I think everyone who'll be doing things differently is doing it wrong! I mean I even prefaced my story with an "I'm not flaming anyone" opening statement FFS.
I don't think anyone had the intention of flaming you, just sharing their UO's. I think there was a good mix of us who were on both sides of the fence. I, myself, would like to avoid induction at all costs, but that's just me and also has a lot to do with wanting my IUGR diagnosis not to determine how I have this baby.
@NotISaidtheCat it's totally okay to share your experience and disagree with people. It is the unpopular opinion thread though... So it's expected to get a little side eye
I thought she was saying she is tired of hearing it in "real" life?? Not really that @NotISaidtheCat had offended her...? Didn't she say she didn't mind the story she was tired of everyone flaming her for her choice (like she knew you meant well)?
Just trying to clear that part up before we have a LED light situation happen.
I thought she was saying she is tired of hearing it in "real" life?? Not really that @NotISaidtheCat had offended her...? Didn't she say she didn't mind the story she was tired of everyone flaming her for her choice (like she knew you meant well)?
Just trying to clear that part up before we have a LED light situation happen.
Did I just see another thread dedicated to my baby is measuring big or am I having déjà vu? Maybe we should make a weekly thread dedicated to to estimated baby sizes....or just use the search function.
Did I just see another thread dedicated to my baby is measuring big or am I having déjà vu? Maybe we should make a weekly thread dedicated to to estimated baby sizes....or just use the search function.
Did I just see another thread dedicated to my baby is measuring big or am I having déjà vu? Maybe we should make a weekly thread dedicated to to estimated baby sizes....or just use the search function.
Sorry I'm cranky and suffering from insomnia. :-?
Yessssss ugggggh I can't even.
AND another thread about a mucus plug!!! Ugh!! Gross! Just stop it!!!
To clarify, we were on the topic of induction where some were saying they are choosing to induct and that may be an UO and I may have done off on a hormonal tangent on the topic of being judged/bombarded with "risks" of induction due to my need for induction due to complications. My bad. Happpppy Friday, ladies! And happy induction month to me! Ha
Here's my rant - I bought a small garbage bin to put next to the bed because I was using so many tissues at night, I just wanted to stick my hand over the side of the bed and drop the tissue. Into the bin. Yeah, like half my tissues have *still* ended up on the floor. Apparently I can't manage to 'nothin but net' even when it should be a sure thing. And now I have to bend over or get down on the floor and pick all those up. Bleh - bending over or climbing onto the floor sucks
Oh. My. Gosh. I'm so done with the size of my baby threads. I'm not GOD, an ultrasound tech, OR a doctor!
I've just stopped looking at them altogether. They annoy the crap out of me, too. Good gods, people, just look around the board for 3 minutes and you'll find a thread that someone else has posted about THE EXACT SAME DAMN THING you are asking about.
I know it's not Tues but whatever. I went to a nonprofit gala tonight. Dressed up and everything.
Then had 2 strangers remark how I look ready to pop any minute. Sigh. Yeah guys I have like a fair bit of time left but thanks. I know they meant it sweetly but I still was not in the mood to hear it!
It was also open bar and the good stuff too! I told my boss he better invite me again next year!
got told i "dont even look pregnant, just fat" by a customer the other day. like.. thanks? i noticed? better remind myself to push my stomach out so i look more pregnant for people.
Ugh I'm highly annoyed that my mom has gotten all this stuff for herself for our baby. She made a nursery in her home! We have a one bedroom duplex and don't even get to have a baby room until we buy a house next December or so. She literally has more stuff for our baby then we do. And now it's getting really annoying I don't say much because we lost my stepdad a month before we found out about the baby so it's something to get her through the hard times but idk
Re: Tuesday Rants & Complaints
I feel for you both! House guests that over stay their welcome are tough, especially when they're friends and you don't want to cause a rift between them. In October (before I found out I was pregnant) DH had a friend ask if he could stay with us for a short while while he looked for a place to stay. He had just accepted a job in the city, but his wife wasn't ready to make the move yet. Anyways, the guy is *still here!* He hasn't contributed any sort of amount to extra cost of bills or given us any sort of rent. The other day I asked when he was planning on leaving and he said 'well, how long are you willing to let me stay?' Sorry bro, but I want you out ASAP! It's been 7 months...my belly is basically a calendar...so ya, it's time to leave!
@upandbelow tell that guy to get the hell out!! You've got a baby coming!!! Have you given him a firm date? He sounds like a blood sucking parasite...willing to take whatever he can get.
Wow...I'm kind of angsty tonight! Didn't realize all that rage was in there!
I am just entirely confused as to why she wouldn't tell me that her child is sick with a fever. If you can't send him to daycare that way, what would make her think it's okay to have her pregnant CP show up with him like that with no warning?
And and and if her BF is there to watch the sick child in the other room, why can't he get the other one ready for school? Why do I need to be there?
Also, no one told me his symptoms so I don't know what to watch for and the other one was coughing so am I to assume it's allergies or that she just hasn't gotten a fever yet?! Ugh... [-(
I couldn't resist responding.. It just doesn't seem right to be asked for opinions and what to do and call people rude for responding to your request!
Where are all these posters on the threads where people need support - you can take the time to get mad at people but not to spend two seconds responding to serious issues - that is rude IMHO.
NOTHING IS HELPING MY ACID REFLUX TONIGHT!
That is all..
honestly though, im not invited to anything either. but this just sucks. i just wanna kick our roomate out.
J and I are sitting on her front porch watching our kids play. E comes up to play. Then E's Mom drives up in her car and states "Do you mind if E plays" to which J responds "Sure". (Remember how I'm on to her ways!!!) to which I add "Are you going somewhere?" And then I add "when will you be back". I told E's Mom that I couldn't watch E bc I didn't know if we will still be outside playing when she got back 45 minutes later!!!! J was nice and let her stay. But J was like "what the crap just happened"...um yeah! Welcome to the neighborhood!
The kicker was when E's Mom came home she came up to me and was like "Oh I thought you weren't going to still be out when I got back".
I'm still pissed about this! I almost want to give her a piece of mind but they are neighbors
I'm so late to the game on this one. Wish I had seen it Tuesday because I have a ton of gripes. And mostly with people. The ones in my life.
A couple of weeks ago, my husband was diagnosed with liver damage. We were told possible liver failure. He's a non drinker, non smoker so this took us hugely by surprise. While he was recovering, we had a friend who wanted him to wire their house (he's an electrician) for free. And not only did they not ask, they just assumed. Called us up and said, hey, can he come and do our house? He's sick for crying out loud.
People have been taking a lot from us the last few months and it's getting old. Our son spent time in the hospital after he was pushed off of the playground equipment (9 feet altogether) and hit his head off of the frozen ground. I had people texting me, asking if I could do this and this for them.
So overall, my Tuesday/Thursday gripe is that I am sick of people.
I have super swollen feet, I just want my feet and toes to be normal again!!!
I, myself, would like to avoid induction at all costs, but that's just me and also has a lot to do with wanting my IUGR diagnosis not to determine how I have this baby. Also, this.
Just trying to clear that part up before we have a LED light situation happen.
Sorry I'm cranky and suffering from insomnia. :-?
AND another thread about a mucus plug!!! Ugh!! Gross! Just stop it!!!
To clarify, we were on the topic of induction where some were saying they are choosing to induct and that may be an UO and I may have done off on a hormonal tangent on the topic of being judged/bombarded with "risks" of induction due to my need for induction due to complications. My bad. Happpppy Friday, ladies! And happy induction month to me! Ha
Then had 2 strangers remark how I look ready to pop any minute. Sigh. Yeah guys I have like a fair bit of time left but thanks. I know they meant it sweetly but I still was not in the mood to hear it!
It was also open bar and the good stuff too! I told my boss he better invite me again next year!
I don't say much because we lost my stepdad a month before we found out about the baby so it's something to get her through the hard times but idk