husband thinks I'm fat

brielle61093

So I told my husband (joking around) I think I'm starting to show... I know I'm not I'm only six weeks. And he looked at me like your not showing your just getting fat. So I asked him, do I look like I'm just getting fat or does it look like baby weight? And he thought I was just getting fat! I've only gained two pounds and I read that was normal. Anyone else feeling down about their weight?!

mrshollybaker

Maybe he didn't chose the best words, but I think most of us look like we are getting fat! I'm so bloated right now it's rediculous. Emotions are out of control right now as well, so don't hold him to things you find offensive, and try not to set him up with "do I look fat?" Questions. Soon you are going to look nice and pregnant and adorable. Guys just don't think like we do and forget how personally we take everything.

yl1m32015

Yeaaaa I would not have appreciated that. My DH knows better than to comment on my weight. I've told him, unless you're worried about my health, or that I'm getting so big you have to wipe me, keep your trap shut.

brielle61093

I was pretty upset, but now I wonder, am I getting fat? Or is this really baby weight? Have any of you started to gain weight?

brielle61093

He does stress me out! But so does my job, I would love to go part time and be able to relax and enjoy the pregnancy

watsonipresume2015

When i was at work yesterday a lady asked me if I knew the sex of the baby or not (she saw my sea band mama bands and asked what they were for and I told her they were for morning sickness) and when I told her I was only 7 weeks she told me I looked like I was 5 or 6 months. It was a terrible feeling and I was obsessed with my weight the rest of the night

enigmaanjel

Same here. I have gained one pound and look like i have gained 10 and bf hasn't touched me but once in al.ost 3 weeks

brielle61093

Why are men so turned off by weight? I mean its baby weight for goodness sakes! It's not like we are getting fat to get fat! Yes I eat more now but I'm hungry, the growth of the baby is taking all my carbs, I make toast with smoothie in morning, usually eat oatmeal bar two hours later eat yogurt and some fruit for lunch then some kind of carb for snack and then usual dinner, in not eating much more than I did before, in just always hungry now. I blame baby.

313Meg

That's really a stupid thing to say. I hope he regrets saying that. If my h would ever say anything like that to me, he would have his ass handed to him. And let's be honest, he looks more pregnant than I will at 20 weeks.

susiaustin

I look like I'm 6 months and I'm only almost 9 weeks, but I've had surgeries and what not. I'm trying to not ask the question

tewinkle27

I'm so glad my bf denies that I'm getting fat (probably just being nice) or else I would probably lose it

redfallon

A lot of it's going to be bloat, too.

candicek15

I don't think I've gained much but the bloating makes me look like I'm 4 months... My hubby would never make a rude comment but I sometimes joke about it myself. I can't wait until I am actually showing and then I can let it all hang out! lol

Marchmellow2

I would've probably punched my hubby too if he said that to me... Was he just being funny?

Some men actually like it bigger! I got one of those types. He wants me to be healthy but he doesn't mind extra ass and boobies. I feel like I'm 5 months pg already. And even tho hubs doesn't mind I get very emotional everyday when I can't find clothes to wear.

ashleyann1210

I am 6 weeks 3 days and am dying for maternity pants already! I am so nauseous all the time and my stomach is very sensitive, so the band of my jeans touching my stomach makes it worse. I seriously wish I could wear loose fitting yoga pants and a hoodie all day! My husband felt my belly and I said, "can you feel the bump? That's our baby!" And he said "that's Nutella". Truth - the only things I feel like eating now are peanut butter and Nutella sandwiches, and plain cereal with berries, so I guess that's fair!

rmj28

My husband literally weighs twice what he did when we started dating.. I would've shoved that in his face if he said a word to me. I'm very, very self conscious about my body and always have been.. Especially now.being so bloated.. I would've lost my grip!

chiboo9

I would've nut punched him and then celebrate with a bowl of ice cream.

rmj28

chiboo9 said:

I would've nut punched him and then celebrate with a bowl of ice cream.

Omg. I love you.

slongo87

I have only gained 1 pound... but my stomach looks so big and bloated! i couldn't button my pants AT ALL today!

Melissadmag

I've already put on about 3 and a half pounds. I can tell, but I doubt anyone else can. I don't think other people pay that much attention, especially when they see you on a daily basis. At least that's what I'm hoping since I'm not allowed to be fat at my job lol 

Praying41

That's a really douche thing to say!
But everyone's comments are cracking me up. Nice to laugh for a change n forget how sick I feel. Thank you!

Ken122014

One of my students asked me if there's "a baby in that belly" :-q

merci81

I'm so bloated. I work out almost every day, like I did before Mr. Baby but my stomach seem to be getting bigger

GalLaura

My dh and I were married 3 years ago. All these memories keeping popping up on facebook. I was getting sad thinking man I was in good shape. He tells me he likes my body better now. I think he's nuts! Lol.

Yesterday at the doctor office I weighed myself and was 6 pounds heavier !! Wtf?!?! All my clothes still fit so but sure what's going on.

BostonBaby1

Seriously? Seriously? My husband would never! First of all, he knows better than that. Maybe because we are older first-time parents? Maybe a little because we lost a baby last cycle and he would rather me gain weight and still be pregnant then have another loss? Secondly, I would literally have his balls surgically removed. He knows this, so he would never dare to make such a comment.

DH has actually been enjoying the changes in my body. Anytime he catches sight of my breast he just keeps repeating "pregnancy boobies :-) " which is even funnier because he is not the village idiot. Lol.

I hope that for any of you whose SOs are you getting a hassle over a couple of pounds really give it to them good! You wouldn't be gaining weight if they didn't make you pregnant!

KLombardi1

I have to say I don't understand all the DH hating. You ask him straight up whether you look preggo or fat, and he gives you a straight answer. We all look fat right now! I hope all of you who are freaking out about it can see that you're supposed to be changing, and you are still beautiful even when it's frustrating!

Knottie88988989

It's so funny, because I so badly want a cute bump, yet it seems there is an awkward stage before getting there where I'm just bloated and gaining weight in all the wrong places. All I want is an obvious pregnant belly!

julielovesandrew

Ladies, don't get down on your bodies, you are not getting fat you are getting ready to support another life! You are beautiful and amazing! I know that my hubby is afraid to try any funny business bc of how sensitive the pregnancy is this early on, but I'm sure your men are more attracted to you then ever! (If not then they don't deserve you)

BostonBaby1

@KLombardi1 she did not ask her DH if she looked like she was Prego or fat. If you reread what she posted. What she asked him was if it looked like it was baby weight or if she was just getting fat. The difference is subtle between "looking prego" and "baby weight," but for the majority of women both on this board and in real life, 2 pounds is hardly going to be a big change.

I understand your point that we are all getting a little bit fatter if we have put on weight at this point in our pregnancies. It's not DH hating. It's loving ourselves and trying to have men that support us. I certainly hope that if her DH think she looks fat after putting on 2 pounds, that he changes his attitude for her emotional well-being.

And just for the record, I am madly in love with my DH. There is no part of me that hates him! However, if he told me that I looked fat if I gained 2 pounds, I would be bullshit with him. I would never hate him, but that would be unacceptable to me because I expect him to love me like I love him. I'm not talking about enabling somebody to the point where there bedridden or their health is at issue... Just a little support for being in a situation that they were just as complicit in creating as we were.

I don't mean to sound adversarial and I hope that you have a great day!

bombmom22

I haven't gained any weight so far but I am 9 weeks and none of my jeans fit im so bloated! I started getting "fat" at about 7 weeks.