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How do you answer when people ask "How did you tell your husband?"

LittleRocketLittleRocket member
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I've just started telling more people that I'm pregnant, so I'm s but green. I was taken off guard about this question. It was totally well-meaning. I wound up telling this person that we did ivf, so he knew. I really didn't mean to it want to, but I also didn't want to lie, so it just came out. Any suggestions if this happens again? What would you do? Thanks!
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Re: How do you answer when people ask "How did you tell your husband?"

  • Justone13Justone13 member
    I tested early with a hpt so I knew at 6dp5dt that something had worked. I had a card that I had been waiting to give him for a year and a half so I used that that night. Then we waited for the beta trying to stay positive and not get our hopes up at the same time.

    I would just tell people that you were so excited you told him immediately and blurted it out. :) If you don't want to share your ivf story that's what I would go with.
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  • gsanchogsancho member
    edited April 2015
    I never got this question, so maybe you won't have to answer it much...but even with doing IVF, I took a HPT right before our beta.  So i would tell people that story, although it's not exciting.  I got out of the bathroom and told him it worked - bam.

    ETA: I should clarify that the method of me telling him was not anything creative or exciting...we were obviously super excited it was positive and did a happy dance in the living room.


    Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
    IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
    IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
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  • grammianngrammiann member
    edited April 2015
    This was a long time ago, but my DH was on a Navy deployment and I sent him a "care package" with some rather obvious clues. :)  

    That doesn't really answer you, though.  Questions like this can be awkward, but most people really are well-meaning.  Maybe if it comes up again, you could reply with something like "Let's just say he was really excited!"

    Congrats ~ and God's blessings!

    grammiann
    Grammie to 2 precious girls

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  • AmCheriAmCheri member
    If you do not want to tell people that you went through IVF, I'd simply say that you and your husband found out together. Easy and truthful.
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  • sailorgalsailorgal member
    Most people know we were doing fertility treatments but still ask. I figure they are just creating converstion about our happy news. I still "told" my husband anyhow after testing myself and going for the betas. I wasn't creative because I was told the outcome was not looking promising. So we never really celebrated or did a happy dance so I just tell them I was boring about it and came right out and told him. I have an older child so sometimes I refocus to when I told him as that was more exciting.
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  • MiromiMMiromiM member
    I also took a hpt right before my beta. The line was so light that I had to call my DH over and ask him if he also saw it. That's the story I tell people when they ask and I don't want them to know the details. I also let them know we were trying since that's usually the next question. The line was there but he wouldn't believe I was pregnant until the nurse called me with the beta results.
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  • LittleRocketLittleRocket member
    Thanks, all!
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  • LittleRocketLittleRocket member
    Oh, and sorry for all of the crazy typos!
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  • JamieSwiJamieSwi member
    I've been trying for number 3 for so long, I haven't even thought of how I'd answer that question.
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