Rude Comments

AmeliaBedelia1119 · April 2015

Is anyone else getting the "Wow! You're huge!" or "There have got to be twins in there!". I actually had someone say to me "She is going to be an 8 pound baby." Like I don't feel like a cow already, thanks for making me feel 10 times worse.

klkonwi · April 2015

No I haven't gotten the weight comments but a lady in the elevator the other day scolded me for wearing flip flops in the rain......... I looked at her and said if I could get my feet into tennis shoes I would..... And pointed at my belly..... Strangers are weird.

Katerina&Baby · April 2015

I have gotten three separate "are you sure it's not twins?" comments - it really takes the spring out of your step. Do people really not understand that what they are saying is "you look larger than how I think you should look and so the only acceptable excuse for your size is having two babies in there - so please let that be the case".

I've also had a few variations of "you look like you're ready to give birth any day now", followed by the awkward backtracking once I've explained that I actually have 7 more weeks to go.

KaLikeAWind · April 2015

I had someone half scold me for wearing a maternity tee shirt when it was like 40-45 degrees out, saying I should put on a hoodie or some kind of sleeves. I just gave them the 'dude, you're being stupid' look and said "are you kidding? After the winter its downright balmy! And besides! I'm a furnace right now!"

karaelaine1991 · April 2015

mellymar said:
I had someone half scold me for wearing a maternity tee shirt when it was like 40-45 degrees out, saying I should put on a hoodie or some kind of sleeves. I just gave them the 'dude, you're being stupid' look and said "are you kidding? After the winter its downright balmy! And besides! I'm a furnace right now!"

I had someone say this to me a few weeks ago! She was like, "It's too cold for you to be out without a shirt on!" I shrugged and said, "Not to me!"

mrs1374a · April 2015

In March I was in the mall with my toddler, someone said "Oh when are you due?" I said "June" and she said "Oh wow! Not until June??? You're huge!" Oh thanks...

AmeliaBedelia1119 · April 2015

People must not think anymore. Where has common sense gone?

esampson1983 · April 2015

AmeliaBedelia1119 said:
People must not think anymore. Where has common sense gone?

This statement stretches beyond pregnancy. Common sense has gone out the window. People just don't think anymore!

KarasTwin · April 2015

Conversation with a coworker in the break room at lunch yesterday:

Her: Anna looks like she's ready to go any day now.

Me: Ummmm, I hope not

Her: Why? Are you not ready for him? Aren't you uncomfortable?

Me: I'm not even 30 weeks till Saturday, he's not due till the end of June

Her: oh

a few minutes later she told me I was grumpy and hormonal.

Mommaswizz · April 2015

All of these make me crazy. In the elevator at my dr's office last week a random lady asked when i was due. I told her June and expected the usual litany of typical questions like "do you know what you're having" or "any name?" etc... Instead, she says "Natural?" as in will i be having this baby naturally? UMMmmm Hi i dont know you. the only thing you know about me is that im having a baby in june. I wanted so badly to fuck with her and tell her "NOPE WE CONCEIVED THIS ONE WITH A TURKEY BASTER" or "NOPE THESE BOOBS ARE SILICONE" some other off color answer that had nothing to do with how i plan to deliver my child.

For clarity: i didn't conceive my baby with a turkey baster and these boobs are natural lol

Katerina&Baby · April 2015

My cousin's wife had someone come up to her on the street and ask if her twins were "natural". She was all "hey random person - let's chat about my very personal struggle with conception and IVF treatments - because that's totally a normal topic of discussion with someone you don't know". Also, are they supposed to be any less special because they were conceived with IVF?

babybean9 · April 2015

I don't mind the "you look huge!" comments, but I had a patient tell me that I look so tired and worn out. She mentioned how girls suck all the beauty and life out of a mother and implied I must be having a girl. (We're team green)

I love my pregnant body, but my pregnant face looks like a zombie. I know I look like crap, and I don't need anybody reminding me.

People need to just shut uppppp.

jlpcdt2015 · April 2015

Last week I had a client ask when I was due. I told her June 1st and her replay was " oh honey I don't think you will make it to June your already so big" umm thanks lady

madelynnschmidt · April 2015

From my experience most people don't mean to come off rude, but sometimes it's so hard to remember that.

The other day a mom of one of my childhood friends came up to me and commented that I looked great but a little swollen (I was admitted for pre term labor just the week before and was given steroids so yes, I was extra swollen besides the fact that well, I'm pregnant). Then she proceeded to reach down uninvited and feel my ankles to see just how swollen they were! I didn't even know how to respond.

Knottie64157109 · April 2015

I get mean comments of a different kind from family. I'm a small person. Size 4 shoe, 5'1, my pre-preggo weight varies between 105-110 and I feel good at that weight as in no knee or back pain and lots of energy.

Every woman is blessed with a different body type and that should be celebrated! However, since gaining 30lbs during this pregnancy and now having knee issues, back issues etc I get comments like "now you look healthy", "you shouldn't lose any weight after baby, like how you looked before" "don't you feel better with meat on you now?"

No, no I don't feel good. Not.one.bit.

I want to say to them, your beautiful, stop projecting your insecurities on me. Lol

@madelynnschmidt I had to reread your post I was in shock someone would do that! I wouldn't know how to respond either except by picking my jaw up off the ground!

dirtymartini · April 2015

I've had, within TWO days of each other, separate people say: "You're 33 weeks? But you're so tiny!" to "You're only 33 weeks? Wow. You're so big."

It's like they need to say SOMETHING and whatever the hell comes out of their mouth comes out. I think I'm pretty much average looking for 33 weeks.

rklinge0 · April 2015

babybean9 said:
I don't mind the "you look huge!" comments, but I had a patient tell me that I look so tired and worn out. She mentioned how girls suck all the beauty and life out of a mother and implied I must be having a girl. (We're team green)

I love my pregnant body, but my pregnant face looks like a zombie. I know I look like crap, and I don't need anybody reminding me.

People need to just shut uppppp.

I get the you look tired comment too. But mine are from my students. I even had the little Japanese girl who knows very little English tell me that today. Its hard work growing a human so I let it slide and in reality I am always exhausted.

rodriyessi94 · April 2015

32 weeks in two days and I still get the "omg , you don't even look pregnant" are you sure there's a baby in there...

PhoenixFrances · April 2015

Normally I have people telling me I'm small for how many weeks I am but the other day I experienced the complete opposite. Here is the actual conversation:
Idiot: Hey Frances you look like your ready to pop!
Me: Excuse me?
Idiot: You look like your ready to pop!
Me: Well that's not very nice is it!?
Idiot: I didn't mean it in a bad way.
Me: How did you mean it in a good way?
Idiot: I just meant I'm happy for you and your upcoming baby.
Me: Maybe next time you should think about what you say BEFORE you say it.
(Idiot runs off with tail between his legs)

ewiley63 · April 2015

I had a male co-worker who I'm not that close with tell me I'm in such a bad mood every morning, he doesn't even want to talk to me...well good I don't want to talk to you either since I can't have very much coffee and I'm GROWING A PERSON!

btm013 · April 2015

I get comments DAILY! Two people told me today I dropped, another two told me I wouldn't make it to my due date (june 4th), one person asked me if I was carrying twins, another person asked what my doctor thinks about my size and yesterday when I told someone my due date was June 4th they replied loudly "GOOD GOD!!!" This all happens at work. I'm about to lose my shit. Oh and my personal fav was someone asked me if I had stretch marks. WTF.

47923ang · April 2015

dirtymartini said:
I've had, within TWO days of each other, separate people say: "You're 33 weeks? But you're so tiny!" to "You're only 33 weeks? Wow. You're so big."

It's like they need to say SOMETHING and whatever the hell comes out of their mouth comes out. I think I'm pretty much average looking for 33 weeks.

I get these comments too! Sometimes I don't know if some of my outfits enhance my new 35 pounds of belly (and boobs) and others minimize it, or if people just need to say something.

Westypet · April 2015

My husband's sister demanded to know if I was like "all the pregnant women in movies" and if I had an "insatiable sex drive"...

I responded that hormones are crazy things and have different effects on different women. Some women are nauseated by the extra hormones, some have higher drives, some have lower drives, some break out in acne, and some sprout extra hair.

I had no idea what to say, except to give her a non-answer answer. I was floored.

ksimo6 · April 2015

Just today "wow! He's really taking up some real estate, isn't he?!" Yes. My body is sectioned off into plots and my child is now taking up 4 of them. Thanks for commenting.

PhoenixFrances · April 2015

btm013 said:
I get comments DAILY! Two people told me today I dropped, another two told me I wouldn't make it to my due date (june 4th), one person asked me if I was carrying twins, another person asked what my doctor thinks about my size and yesterday when I told someone my due date was June 4th they replied loudly "GOOD GOD!!!" This all happens at work. I'm about to lose my shit. Oh and my personal fav was someone asked me if I had stretch marks. WTF.

Ughh annoying!!! I had someone ask if my belly button popped "yet".!!!

lizh62288 · April 2015

Before my family went out to dinner to this place with a bunch of burgers with crazy ingredients ( we normally all order a different one to try the different kinds) my older (by like 26 years older) decided to say " we all know someone here can eat way more than the rest of us so maybe we should cut hers into 6ths and not 4ths so she thinks she has more food" talking about me. I could have seriously lost it on her but kept my cool throughout dinner. After dinner, when I got home I sent her a message letting her know who rude that was when Since I'm already feeling insecure about my body and she had the nerve to say she didn't have time for my pregnant drama. Such a bitch I swear lol

47923ang · April 2015

Oh, I also get people who are so surprised I can still tie my shoes and paint my toenails. When I prove them wrong, they still comment with something like, "yeah, but you can't SEE your feet."

Katerina&Baby · April 2015

lizh62288 said:
Before my family went out to dinner to this place with a bunch of burgers with crazy ingredients ( we normally all order a different one to try the different kinds) my older (by like 26 years older) decided to say " we all know someone here can eat way more than the rest of us so maybe we should cut hers into 6ths and not 4ths so she thinks she has more food" talking about me. I could have seriously lost it on her but kept my cool throughout dinner. After dinner, when I got home I sent her a message letting her know who rude that was when Since I'm already feeling insecure about my body and she had the nerve to say she didn't have time for my pregnant drama. Such a bitch I swear lol

I really love when people try to flip it around and say that you're overreacting when you call them out for being rude. I actually had someone who works in my office get all huffy and say "well don't get offended!" when I bristled at her "you must be having twins" comment (I had said "no" with a bit of attitude). Is it really so hard to just say "sorry"?!

heidiiwa · April 2015

I get comments daily at work too. 31 weeks and I work in a nursing home. Every day multiple people (residents, staff, etc) ask when I am due and then act surprised at the answer or make an annoying comment about how I "won't make it that long". So rude! If my doctor isn't worried why should you be? I feel just fine until you remind me I don't look like you think I'm supposed to. I haven't had any signs of preterm labor or preeclampsia. It freaks me out when random strangers say that I've "dropped" because that would mean baby is on his way soon and it's much too early. Why don't they understand how rough it would be on me and the baby if I did give birth soon? It's like they are wishing a medical emergency on me, but they are just laughing about it!
I think it's worse in the older generation, 70s, 80s, 90s. My grandma is very vocal that I've gained too much weight. Worst of all the residents with dementia forget that they asked me the same thing and had the same exaggeratedly surprised reaction yesterday! People need to mind their own business:(

AlyLynn07 · April 2015

I love the weekly comments (from coworkers who have had kids and should understand) about how my belly is really getting bigger! Really, Captain obvious? I can't tell by my overstretched skin and back pain. And what did you think would happen? I'm definitely not getting any smaller at this point! This is the time for baby to start packing on the pounds, too, so back off

fishback23 · April 2015

btm013 said:
I get comments DAILY! Two people told me today I dropped, another two told me I wouldn't make it to my due date (june 4th), one person asked me if I was carrying twins, another person asked what my doctor thinks about my size and yesterday when I told someone my due date was June 4th they replied loudly "GOOD GOD!!!" This all happens at work. I'm about to lose my shit. Oh and my personal fav was someone asked me if I had stretch marks. WTF.

OMG. Almost everrrrry day I work!!!

MJMum524 · April 2015

Yes! So friggin' annoying. My mom even said today "wow, the baby is getting big in there". I said "yes mom, did you expect the baby to get smaller?" She said "no, I'm just glad you have a healthy baby in there". God forbid it's not a healthy baby but not sure how the size of my belly can tell this...

JessHeppell · April 2015

so far i havent gotten anything too bad yet, got a pretty typical one from my dad who was always one to point out weight and size, says he was just concerned and just didnt know how to go about it. and i saw him the other day while i was at work cause he was visiting my mom and the first thing he says to me is "hey Jess, how big has your belly gotten?" and it made me roll my eyes. my mom caught me leaning back earlier that day trying to label something so my stomach was sticking out past my boobs for once and she totally made a comment about it.

rrcameron21 · April 2015

I was talking to my dad and he asked me how everything was going and I said everything is pretty much the same and he said "besides getting fat!!" I wanted to punch him.

I just don't want to talk to people about my body anymore.

KiwiMumof3 · April 2015

I get it every single day at work and I want to punch people! People seem to think being pregnant means you're public property. I don't comment on strangers weight so why they think it's ok I don't know?! I grow big, healthy babies

lkr004 · April 2015

My husband says that I have a 'resting bitchface' and that's why strangers are too scared to comment or talk to me at all. Judging by what you ladies are going through, I'm not sad about that. These comments are horrible and I'm sorry that yall go through it.

LaurenS119 · April 2015

Yes, all of this, yes. I also get comments from a set of clients at work about how bad and painful labor will be. My LO's foot is jammed up in my rib and hurting the nerve damage area at my left rib under my boob.so I'll be sitting in a meeting and my baby's kick will literally make me groan. Then they say just you wait, it gets worse and then go on to say how if this hurts just wait until labor. Like they know, one's a man (with kids so hid wife went through it) and the other is a woman who has never been pregnant. Ugh! As if I'm not aware labor will hurt!

BabyHarris15 · April 2015

I have a church member who comments on all of my fb posts and pics about my pregnancy. She keeps insisting there are twins growing inside of me! Um.... no lady. Clearly the sonogram pics you're commenting on clearly shows ONE baby!

RondaRassat · April 2015

i get the "you must be ready to pop any day now" comments. im like nope, i got -----------weeks left. then i get the "ohhhh" with a deep stare directed at my belly.