Shower invitation question

fridaysdance

So, my baby shower is in about 2 weeks. Invitations were sent 3 weeks ago but the bulk of people have not rsvp'd. The company I work for in the same area has been having issues with mail not getting to clients so we're wondering if the invitations may not have made it. Would it be impolite to try to contact people to see if theu got them?

We need to figure out a final head count estimate next week. I wouldn't be worried but it was a large invite list and we would be terribly unprepared if the bulk of it shows up and we just estimated a little more than have called.

My mom isn't sure what to do because these ladies are usually really good about getting back to people.

Frogger5

I'd have your mom call a few of her/your closest friends, briefly explain the situation, and ask. I don't see any harm in that! If they all say they got them, then people are just jerks about rsvp-ing these days !

karaelaine1991

Frogger5 said:

I'd have your mom call a few of her/your closest friends, briefly explain the situation, and ask. I don't see any harm in that! If they all say they got them, then people are just jerks about rsvp-ing these days !

Ditto. We had to track down the response for a bunch of my sorority sisters for my MIL's shower. All of them were no (it was the same day as the formal for my friends who are still in college), but they were too lazy to pick up the phone and let MIL know. Love my friends, but clearly they need to brush up on their invitation etiquette! DH and I ran into the same issue with some of our friends when we got married. Unfortunately, it does seem to be a generational thing... apologies on behalf of those of us who are under 25!

MrsWiggleWaggle

RSVP in the day of Evites suck. I find that people tend to hold off to see if something better comes up which is super frustrating when you are planning event. Prepare yourself for a phone call marathon. I don't think it's that surprising for you to not have gotten responses from the bulk of your invitees

Edited to correct the auto correct from "Evites" to whites....awkward!

mommalombardi

Yes I have been one of those that have gotten invited and then forgotten to rsvp...lol its happened twice and both of them texted asking me very nicely and I didn't feel weird or like they were being rude..i was the one that felt bad! So go ahead call/ text and ask them

fridaysdance

Thanks ladies. I know one invitation came back a bit after we sent it for some reason we cannot figure out. We just got to wondering about the rest after problems with my work's mail.

Zeuskay01

I had the same issue as you. Most of my invitations arrived extremely late and some just never showed up. My sister ended up doing another invitation via fb and email. So the people that hadn't gotten them were able to RSVP through there. So maybe you could do that if your guests have Facebook? Hope it works out for you!

iheartpancake

I am having the same problem! It's like a twenty person difference for us of people who have not responded. Since my sister who is hosting knows none of the people that didn't respond, I'm sending out a message on Monday. I'm slightly irritated about it, to be honest.

Serenamarr

My mom had to go through and call the people that didn't rsvp by the date she printed on the invite because she is paying by the head for the shower and needed to give the restaurant a final count. Don't feel bad! They are the ones who are being rude, not you. Unless they didn't get the invite in which case even more reason to call and check- wouldn't want someone not to be able to make it because of a mail snafu.

fridaysdance

Thank you all again for the advice. I'm thinking a secondary fb message/invitation might be good because my mom doesn't know several of my friends or husband's relatives who were invited. We invited about 60 and have heard from maybe 20 in some form.

HoosOnFirst

My hosts used evite and some of the less tech-savvy guests couldn't figure it out, so she followed up with direct emails and phone calls. No harm!

rolson8947

We are in the same boat. We sent out almost 80 invites (knowing that all of them wouldn't come obviously) and we have to have a headcount turned in by Wednesday. I expect about half will come, but we don't want to not have enough food so my mom and grandmother who are hosting are going to text/call and ask some of the guests that they know probably plan on coming but just haven't rsvp'd. No harm I suppose

dasheydog

Just call them and let them know what's going on and that you need a head count

PhoenixFrances

I have found that people just do not RSVP anymore. Very frustrating and extremely rude!

fridaysdance

I sent those I did not have current phone numbers for Facebook messages. Most had just forgotten about the rsvp date. A few family memebers just ignored it and assumed we'd know they'd come even though they're a couple hours away and don't always come to things.