Hi all, FTM here (this may even be my first post, lol!) I'm 26 weeks along now and one of those OCD planner type of gals. At my 20 week appointment I brought up formula versus breast with my OB and her immediate response was why would you strive for anything other then the gold standard.
This honestly infuriated me. I have had nothing but a back and forth experience with her. BACKSTORY: I was referred to another OB in her office (office of 4) whom I absolutely LOVE, but is incredibly popular. She was my general for checkups and since becoming pregnant I have been unable to see her due to her schedule being very full, my 28 week will be the FIRST time I see her. The office has a policy that you must meet with all 4 so that you know whoever might be delivering your baby- totally fine, and I would rather know who is down in my lady parts at least a little bit before I'm laying in a hospital bed ready to push.
Anyways- I go back for my 28 week checkup and was going to dare touch the topic again ESPECIALLY since I am finally meeting with the doctor that is my favorite in the practice. I'm pretty strong on my guns that I want to exclusively FF, and DH is completely on board with me and supports whatever decision I make. We both were FF and have turned out A-O-K in my book.
I'm not the type to be a total biotch to someone, and know that whomever delivers my little girl will ensure a safe delivery for both of us which is top on my list. I just don't want to deal with the backlash of "why strive for anything but the gold standard" grrrrr just makes me start to fume thinking about it.
This seems like more of a rant over an advice request. Has anyone run into this problem, does anybody have tips or suggestions? I'm just a bit overwhelmed.
Thank you all in advance for helping this little lady's crazy head get level.
Re: Discussion with Doctor?
Formula feeding vs. breastfeeding is a very personal choice. But whatever you choose to do, if you have such strong feelings about one vs. the other, don't let others influence your decision.
There are benefits for breastfeeding, but FF babies turn out just fine too. I pumped my mile for the first 3 weeks and gave that to him at daytime and formula at night. Breastfeeding was extremely painful for me and after 3 days in the hospital with LO losing weight, I just wanted to make sure he was ok. He is a month old now and only doing formula now since I can't produce what he needs.
Since you are the OCD planner type (I am too...) be prepared that not all formula is equal. You may have to try a few different ones out before you find one that is right for your baby. That is what my LO is going thru now. Which, quite frankly is a little bit frustrating, but all part of the process.
I would still discuss your plans with your favorite doctor. She's entitled to her opinion as well, but its good for the doc to know what your plans are too. In the end, your baby, your decision. Don't feel bad about whatever you choose. Its a personal decision and people shouldn't judge.
Thank you all for your input it means a lot. I was able to speak with the other doctor in the practice and she told me I need to do what is best and never ever feel cornered to make a decision.
Rachel- thanks so much for the heads up on having to bounce around between formulas. I'm anticipating having to do that and have had quite a few mommy friends suggest starting with similac since within their own company they have multiple formulas.
DH and I were both formula fed babies- he is an engineer and I work in a law firm...so I'm pretty sure we both turned out AOK on the brains!
31 weeks now- cannot wait to meet this little girl!