another hubby vent

mattandlora

Maybe it's the postpartum hormones talking here, but still...

DH, DS, and MIL went to church this morning while I stayed home with our 4-day-old. While they were gone, I got myself showered and looking nice, prepped an Easter basket, cleaned up breakfast, did dishes, picked up all of DS's toys, put away laundry, and got the house ready for guests (coming this afternoon). This included breaks for nursing and diaper changes. The only part of our main floor that I didn't clean was my husband's junk, to the tune of 2 laptops, a camera bag and all of its contents, random unidentifiable electronics equipment, and a week's worth of his mail (I already took care of mine). However, I DID manage to move all of his stuff from the kitchen counters to a common area so that the kitchen was ready to work on dinner prep, and his stuff would all be in one place and easier to put away.

Cue them getting home. DH walks in while I'm finishing the last of the dishes. He dumps all of their crap on the counters, let's DS run straight for the dog water, and then says "I TOLD you not to unplug my computers without asking me first!" That was it. No "How was your morning? Missed you at church. You look nice. The house looks nice. How was the baby? How are you feeling? Good to see you up and about." Nothing. Just his stupid computers.

Yeah, nice to see you too.

mattandlora

Update: I've been giving him the silent treatment while I cool off. He found me to say the house looks nice, and he wants to set some ground rules for when it's ok to move his computer. Still no apology for being a jerk. Or leaving his crap all over the house for me to clean up. I would be more understanding if it was his work computer and he was downloading something important. But no. He's on paternity leave. It was his personal computer, and all he's been looking at are 3D printing patterns. DEFINITELY worth making your emotional, postpartum wife upset on a holiday.

NeonNoon

Happy Easter I'm impressed you're doing all this so soon! Sorry about your H. MH is similar- he doesn't realize he's leaving crap around the house.

Guennie

Ugh. Man brain. They know how to do just the wrong thing at just the wrong time. I'm also impressed you got so much done. You rock. I hope your dinner was nice. Hugs.

springbeduk2

1. Holy cow how did you get so much done 4 days pp and while taking care of the baby?!!?? Please share those superpowers!

2. Argh. Men. Has he recognized(or accepted an explanations from you) why it was so wrong and rude to say that yet?

3. That "ground rules " conversation needs to include no computers on the kitchen counter. Or at least that anything left there is eligible to be unplugged and moved without notice.

mattandlora

I got so much done because I had an uneventfull delivery after an entire pregnancy of feeling like crap. I was mentally ready to do stuff again, and i physically felt "close enough" after 9 months of puking and misery.

In DH's defense about his crap everywhere, it's because his home office got turned into a toddler bedroom recently. We haven't had time to find new places for everything yet.

Still no excuse for his attitude. i'm over it now. Especially since I've seen how much he's taken over with the toddler. for example, right now, he's trying to get the kid in bed and I overheard something about biting and hitting. I'm on the couch with the newborn, thankful I'm NOT part of whatever DS is doing.