Anyone Planning Another Baby Right Away (Irish Twins)?

PerkinsFam3

This is baby #3, and there's years between each kid (oldest son is 8, and little bro will be 4 before baby comes). I would love for our baby girl to have a brother or sister really close in age (I'd really love for her to have a sister), so if we decide to have another baby, we want to do it right away (as soon as possible). Is anyone else considering the same, or have advice from experience?

missrachelMrsO

We aren't going to actively prevent pregnancy. If it happens, it happens. We have kind of settled on 4 this being our first, so that number isn't set in stone. But we are thinking two close in age, a larger break, then two more.

JayKaygill

We are going to start trying right after this one. This is my first and I'll be 33 when I deliver this one so I want to start trying as soon as I can for baby #2! But, I'm a little worried about ppd. I had a history of anxiety and depression so I'm worried delivery might kick start something. Which I hear having another child right after is even harder on your body after giving birth to two babies so close. So that's my only big concern. I've been doing really well the last few years though, eating healthy and exercising seems to keep it all ease and I've been feeling great. It's the fear of it coming back that's the worst!

KERJF

this baby factory is closed to our own children haha Three was our max number and we are at that now.
But i still may carry again!

jmacd22

I was thinking about having kids back to back. This is my husbands first child and he's 39. I was so exhausted during my first trimester so I'm a little hesitant now to do it so I think I'm going to see how involved my husband is with this baby before I'm adamantly set on my decision.

caitlinwelch723

I don't plan on having another for a few more years, but my mom did that with my sister and I (unintentionally lol). We're only 13 months apart! We fought like cats and dogs growing up, but now we're extremely close, and each other's best friend

FinalyFound

My brother and I are Irish twins (11months apart) so I have experience in that sense. We're not very close even though we're close in age. We're just so different. Don't think that just because your children will be born within a 12 month time frame that they will automatically be the best of friends.

FinalyFound

@caitlinwelch723 I'm sorry to break it to you but you and your sister are not considered Irish twins. Irish twins are siblings born within the same calendar year or 12 months apart. you're close, but not quite.

excited2bmommy09

My SO wants to have another right away. I'll be a month shy of 29 when baby is born and he would like to have two kids by the time I'm 30. The thought of having an infant, getting pregnant right away and working full time makes me tired! So...he may have to wait till I'm 31 lol. 

missrachelMrsO I'm the oldest of four kids with my sister following me closely then a six year gap between her and my brother. My two brothers are close in age as well. It was always a good set up both growing up and even now that we are all adults.  

KYmama9286

My first two are 20 months apart and my second and third are 15 months apart and my 3rd pregnancy was really really rough on my body. My body was basically just really pissed that I had gotten pregnant at 5 months post partum (unintentionally, failed bc). I am all for having kids close together but I would not purposely try for Irish twins. I would give your body at least a few months to recover then start trying not to mention it can sometimes not even be an option depending on when you get your cycle back and if you plan on breastfeeding which can prolong it coming back even longer.

I also had a really hard recovery with #3 despite it being an almost identical labor and delivery as #2 which I bounced right back from- again, I think it was because my body was just not happy I hadnt given it a break. And I was/am young (had #1 at 23, #2 at 25, #3 at 26, I'll be either 28 or 29 for #4 depending on when baby comes) so technically my body should have had a pretty easy time bouncing back.

irenejean

We won't actively prevent pregnancy. I wouldn't say we're trying to have Irish twins, but I'm 33 and my husband is 45. He said no babies after he turns 50 and we want more than one, so we won't be waiting too long. My brother and I are nearly Irish twins, we're 12 months and 3 weeks apart. It was great growing up with him and we're still very close. 

MrsLisaT

I love to have 2 that close together but it took me 19 months to get my cycles back after dd so I'm pretty much expecting the same thing this time around.

blondieboots

I am pregnant with our fourth, and my youngest girl will be a year and a half when the new baby gets here ! It wasnt planned but we are happy about it! Our other 2 girls are 4 and 6 so they are close in age ,so I am happy our one year old will have someone her age to play and grow up with .not Irish twins but they will be very close in age, I am pregnant with our first boy!! :x

krmicmac

My husband Loves the idea of Irish Twins, especially since him and his sister are so close. I told him that it all depends on whether or not I get the birth I want for the first one. .... if I havethe safe vaginal delivery, then maybe. But if this winds up a C Section birth, then I'd rather wait a few years to properly recover and heal.

sabward

I'm 37 and my SO is 43. I never expected to get pregnant again after my divorce and I was content with my 13 year old daughter being an only child. Even tho this is a complete surprise to both of us, we have talked about trying to have another one right away so that this baby will have someone to be close to. This baby will have 5 half-siblings, but they are 21,17,16,13, and 9, so huge age difference! My concerns are that this has been a rough pregnancy and I'm
only 15 weeks so far! Also, financially and physically, I am worried about having two babies under 2! When I was married to my daughters dad, we tried for years to have a second child but couldn't- I always wanted a big family but didn't think I'd be staying over at 37! I'm thinking we will not actively try, but not avoid it either??

6kidscount

After my fourth which was dh first we tried right away for another. I ended up having a early miscarriage then had our rainbow baby almost exactly a year after. 4 and 5 were 21 months apart and 5 and 6 were 23 months apart. I'm pregnant with number 7 for me and 4th for dh and they will be over 2 years apart. I couldn't imagine now having them closer its hard enough when there already walking but to have to carry around 2 and the amount of diapers omg lol

Elizabeth043086

My first 2 were 17 months apart and although I love how close they are NOW, it was HARD when they were little.  I wouldn't change things because I would still want my Henry, but I'd NEVER WANT them that close looking back.  There will be 2 1/2 years between my 2nd and 3rd and things are going to be easier I know.  For instance it was HARD being pregnant the first time around because my first couldn't even walk, so I was carrying this fat 25 lb baby everywhere.  Also, I felt more guilty weaning the first time around and ds 2 is having an easier time weaning than number 1 did.  Anyway, for me I don't want mine any closer than 2 1/2 years apart.

lcarp203

We won't be preventing. I will be 32 when baby is born and this is our first. We want at least one more. I have a history of miscarriage (multiple), and PCOS so it takes me a while to conceive. We don't want to prolong it intentionally as nature will do everything in its power to prolong it as it is! If they end up close in age, so be it!

LoveLee85

My sister and I are Irish twins!!! 12 months apart!! We fought like MAD until college age. Always shared friends, toys, clothes, shoes, friends birthday parties, high school parties....we could NOT escape each other. It was crazy annoying. LOL We are best friends now, just took college separating us.

My mom always wanted twins, so we were her 'Twins'! She dressed us alike, hair alike!! LOL I was the younger and was always taller, making us the exact same height, until HS when I passed her and kept going. :-)

I will not be popping out Irish Twins!!! I really really want to enjoy this baby/toddler and would love a 2-4 year gap between kids. I just don't think I could physically enjoy my baby/toddler if I turned around and got pregnant. LOL

eah325

I will not be shooting for Irish twins! I am striving for 3-4 years apart, so I can afford their college tuition someday! I can't imagine two in college at the same time.

ashorkey

FTM and we want our kids to be close in age too. Not sure if I want full on Irish twins or not but If it happens it happens.

JenLovesDesign

FTM, but I'll be 40 when I deliver (actually turning 40 next week). My guess is that we won't be actively preventing. However we could stop if my husband doesn't want to try for a boy. Otherwise I'll get an iud back in ASAP. In the past 11 years, I've had my period for 8 months when we were trying for a baby and I'm done with it already.

Nessy430

It does sound fun, but because of my career just starting we'll probably want to wait a few years in between

bouncypigeon

Sounds very brave! I would want at least a year before getting pregnant again to replenish my body and let it repair nutritionally.

thinkpink101

We had one boy, then twin boys 18 months later, so we had three under 19 months. I felt like we missed out on a lot with them, because we were always outnumbered, even on weekends. They are not close at all despite being close in age. The twins and their older brother fight so much that we have them in counseling. My oldest has said from an early age that we ruined his life by having his brothers Having kids close in age is definitely not a guarantee that they will get along, or even like each other. I believe any age gap can work... or not, it all depends on the personalities of the kids. That said, a bit more of a gap between the kids will at least allow you to enjoy each one.

bethhart66

I am working on Irish triplets right now.  I don't recommend it.  DS is 14mo and expected to be 19mo when the twins are born.  I feel very tired and beaten down a lot.  I feel like DS suffers from my morning sickness (15w3d and no let up yet) as well as my lack of energy.  I wouldn't change this double blessing for the world and am really looking forward to seeing the relationships between the 3 develop.