Why do other have to be rude ??

amwright33

@kwaldy good advice and well put.

Amstreagle

EllaStaxx said:

bluebelle17 said:

kmd91 said:

I wish people would stop saying "no one is being rude," because that's downright false. Sure, a lot of the time people are telling people what they don't want to hear in a polite way, and they get offended. I'm not saying that telling people anything other than what they want to hear is rude. However, people have been rude, without a shadow of a doubt. It's all about how you say something. I've personally seen several people cross that rude line, being condescending, "correcting" spelling that was actually correct because of the whole UK vs US spelling with the whole "I assume you mean..." as if the word were so butchered you couldn't tell what it meant, as part of a you're not showing conversation. People phrasing things in a way that they're clearly talking down to someone, like they're better than everyone else. And occasionally the even more fully rude comment, attacking other posters (while more rare, it does still happen).

Is that a majority of the people correcting others? No, not at all. And could it more extreme rudeness? Certainly. However to say no one here has been rude is just ridiculous.

Exactly this, worded a lot more eloquently than I could have managed. I had exactly the same experience with somebody 'correcting' my UK spelling of something. In a particular thread, two people who had been members for a while were literally posting gifs from Mean Girls as responses, bringing some of us to tears with their nastiness at an already emotional time. They both got banned from the bump - they too, had members sticking up for them saying they weren't being rude. It seems the members who have been here a while have a sort of gang mentality when it comes to slaughtering new members.

You let people on an Internet forum bring you to tears? That's something you need to look at. I've been on tb for almost 3 yrs and this board is NOTHING compared to the old days. You are crying at this?? I kind of feel bad for you.

I'm going to cry because I miss the old days. I'm feeling wistful.

wocha

Amstreagle said:

wocha said:

@BooBerry137
Karkikohl is right,did you think about the fact that i could been talking about other responses except yours on the "hating her husband" discussion ?
then you didnt had to respond right at me and saying in other words that i have to learn the dictionary

I mean it's not the worst advice.

Like i said .. Now im just gonna wait on some comments about my spelling
once again, im not from us or uk
And im happy about that, because on the community that im in of my country people arent have as rude as you guys

peachmuffins

I feel like the bullsh!t will work itself out. People who are truly rude and not just hormonal will make themselves unwelcome here... unless they are purposefully trolling... in which case... don't feed the trolls. 

People do need to read a few pages back or use the search function. I've seen 1000 new threads started on this board about spotting so far, there's a few new ones every day and they all ask the same thing. It might just be people new to message boards, which I understand, but in return they also need to understand that they need to learn some message board etiquette. Soon enough they'll be "oldies" too and be on here bitching about the newbies who post the same topic over and over and over. lol

There's really no need to say super nasty or snarky things to people though. Unless someone says something incredibly stupid "hey is it ok to light myself on fire when i'm pregnant?". 

If you feel like snarking it out, then be able to cope with the responses of people who may not appreciate it and don't get all defensive and silly when you're called on your snark. Don't dish it if you can't take it. 

JLW0504

@Amstreagle , you are cracking me up. I just love your responses. I will definitely enjoy these next 9 months with you around:)

@EllaStaxx , these girls would not have lasted an hour on O13...

Amstreagle

wocha said:

Amstreagle said:

wocha said:

@BooBerry137
Karkikohl is right,did you think about the fact that i could been talking about other responses except yours on the "hating her husband" discussion ?
then you didnt had to respond right at me and saying in other words that i have to learn the dictionary

I mean it's not the worst advice.

Like i said .. Now im just gonna wait on some comments about my spelling
once again, im not from us or uk
And im happy about that, because on the community that im in of my country people arent have as rude as you guys

The thing is you keep stirring the pot and bringing more stuff up so of course you are going to get responses.
It feels like you're hiding behind the language barrier excuse.

LSRoo

JLW0504 said:

@Amstreagle , you are cracking me up. I just love your responses. I will definitely enjoy these next 9 months with you around:)

@EllaStaxx , these girls would not have lasted an hour on O13...

I know! We would have 50 pages of gifs. These people are upset about 2 mean girls gifs. My mind is blown.

kwaldy

Alright, ladies. That's enough Internet for the day.

Amstreagle

kwaldy said:

Alright, ladies. That's enough Internet for the day.

wocha

Amstreagle said:

wocha said:

Amstreagle said:

wocha said:

@BooBerry137
Karkikohl is right,did you think about the fact that i could been talking about other responses except yours on the "hating her husband" discussion ?
then you didnt had to respond right at me and saying in other words that i have to learn the dictionary

I mean it's not the worst advice.

Like i said .. Now im just gonna wait on some comments about my spelling
once again, im not from us or uk
And im happy about that, because on the community that im in of my country people arent have as rude as you guys

The thing is you keep stirring the pot and bringing more stuff up so of course you are going to get responses.
It feels like you're hiding behind the language barrier excuse.

The more i stear up the pot the more fun im getting
You "old" members just cant stand it that the "new" one is stearing the pot

Ok @Amstreagle i have to admit i laughed very much about your little girl picture.
Thats maybe the only thing we must agree on

BeachTeach26

wv

wocha said:

Amstreagle said:

wocha said:

Amstreagle said:

wocha said:

@BooBerry137
Karkikohl is right,did you think about the fact that i could been talking about other responses except yours on the "hating her husband" discussion ?
then you didnt had to respond right at me and saying in other words that i have to learn the dictionary

I mean it's not the worst advice.

Like i said .. Now im just gonna wait on some comments about my spelling
once again, im not from us or uk
And im happy about that, because on the community that im in of my country people arent have as rude as you guys

The thing is you keep stirring the pot and bringing more stuff up so of course you are going to get responses.
It feels like you're hiding behind the language barrier excuse.

The more i stear up the pot the more fun im getting
You "old" members just cant stand it that the "new" one is stearing the pot

Ok @Amstreagle i have to admit i laughed very much about your little girl picture.
Thats maybe the only thing we must agree on

What does "stearing" mean?

LSRoo

@wocha and please tell us OLD moms why we care about you STEARING a pot??

wocha

BeachTeach26 said:

wv

wocha said:

Amstreagle said:

wocha said:

Amstreagle said:

wocha said:

@BooBerry137
Karkikohl is right,did you think about the fact that i could been talking about other responses except yours on the "hating her husband" discussion ?
then you didnt had to respond right at me and saying in other words that i have to learn the dictionary

I mean it's not the worst advice.

Like i said .. Now im just gonna wait on some comments about my spelling
once again, im not from us or uk
And im happy about that, because on the community that im in of my country people arent have as rude as you guys

The thing is you keep stirring the pot and bringing more stuff up so of course you are going to get responses.
It feels like you're hiding behind the language barrier excuse.

The more i stear up the pot the more fun im getting
You "old" members just cant stand it that the "new" one is stearing the pot

Ok @Amstreagle i have to admit i laughed very much about your little girl picture.
Thats maybe the only thing we must agree on

What does "stearing" mean?

Ooeeh ha ha ha ha
I might just going to have to hide again behind the language barriere excuse

BeachTeach26

wocha said:

BeachTeach26 said:

wv

wocha said:

Amstreagle said:

wocha said:

Amstreagle said:

wocha said:

@BooBerry137
Karkikohl is right,did you think about the fact that i could been talking about other responses except yours on the "hating her husband" discussion ?
then you didnt had to respond right at me and saying in other words that i have to learn the dictionary

I mean it's not the worst advice.

Like i said .. Now im just gonna wait on some comments about my spelling
once again, im not from us or uk
And im happy about that, because on the community that im in of my country people arent have as rude as you guys

The thing is you keep stirring the pot and bringing more stuff up so of course you are going to get responses.
It feels like you're hiding behind the language barrier excuse.

The more i stear up the pot the more fun im getting
You "old" members just cant stand it that the "new" one is stearing the pot

Ok @Amstreagle i have to admit i laughed very much about your little girl picture.
Thats maybe the only thing we must agree on

What does "stearing" mean?

Ooeeh ha ha ha ha
I might just going to have to hide again behind the language barriere excuse

Ok Troll. Adios.

wocha

EllaStaxx said:

@wocha and please tell us OLD moms why we care about you STEARING a pot??

Im not the one how started about the STIRRING
it was your rude as friend
With her "not" rude (again) comment on the girl that can get her baby pregnant if she has sex
You guys are just disgutting rude
I might trow up so i might have to leave you rude "old moms" anyway
( like i never said by the way )

LSRoo

wocha said:

EllaStaxx said:

@wocha and please tell us OLD moms why we care about you STEARING a pot??

Im not the one how started about the STIRRING
it was your rude as friend
With her "not" rude (again) comment on the girl that can get her baby pregnant if she has sex
You guys are just disgutting rude
I might trow up so i might have to leave you rude "old moms" anyway
( like i never said by the way )

Are you sure you aren't an old mom? It looks like a toddler stole your phone and typed that last post. Not good. Spell check is your friend.

BooBerry137

wocha said:

EllaStaxx said:

wocha said:

EllaStaxx said:

@wocha and please tell us OLD moms why we care about you STEARING a pot??

Im not the one how started about the STIRRING
it was your rude as friend
With her "not" rude (again) comment on the girl that can get her baby pregnant if she has sex
You guys are just disgutting rude
I might trow up so i might have to leave you rude "old moms" anyway
( like i never said by the way )

Are you sure you aren't an old mom? It looks like a toddler stole your phone and typed that last post. Not good. Spell check is your friend.

Once again, im not from the is or uk
You did understand me right ! Or are you that stupid

Just a little friendly advice, you really might want to slow your roll. 

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tmandato1234

I was talking about the responses to the multiple posts about there symptoms. One person who I will not call out was being very rude telling people that they should post these discussions every day. People also are rude to others when it comes to early ultra sounds.

srotureau

WhyDidMufasaHaveToDie said:

@wocha calm your tits

This. Love.

Kanne0729

8-|  ...that's all I have to say about this, I have The Walking Dead to catch up on.

gumby22c

I love how the sensitive Sally's are the ones keeping this going. You had to know this thread was going to blow up when you made it right?

tmandato1234

I didn't think people were going to become offensive of what I wrote. I voiced my opinion. Others took it to the extreme. The negative about blogs is everyone can interpret a text how ever they want. My opinion was, to just tell people that is wrong to be rude because someone else is concern. From experience of loss, the coming and going of symptoms can make people's mind go crazy. That doesn't mean thy still don't have the right to ask questions. They just need the reassurance of others that's all. If you have a negative output on what they write then don't voice your opinion about it because if it was the other way around you would only want positive feedback. Nothing else. I'm sorry everyone for positing that post. People took this as I was talking about the bloating. Which wasn't the case. I was talking in general about all posts.

elisnyd16

The nastiness! Oy vey. Was so excited to download the app and see what great advice moms all over the world would have! Didn't realize it would be so ugly. :-/ disappointing. No point in checking the community boards anymore

kwaldy

@elisnyd16 my thoughts exactly. The app is wonderful... but this stuff..?

tmandato1234

Again, I'm sorry. I didn't think it was going to blow out of proportion the way it did.

jessicapfaltzgraff

I believe I just added un-needed stress to my pregnancy by reading only 2 pages of this thread. I'm not taking sides here but can we all just get along?!

Camille0786

This blog is all pregnant women with raging hormones.... Do I need to say more ?! LOL!

jessicapfaltzgraff

Camille0786 said:

This blog is all pregnant women with raging hormones.... Do I need to say more ?! LOL!

Okay, you're right there! Haha

tmandato1234

Any way I can deleted this lol

peachmuffins

Maybe we'll all love each other by the second trimester? 

leslie523

Oh I saw this post and the number or responses and knew it would be entertaining.

Mostly because this post has already happened before. Just FYI

FTM and just saying I really enjoy the bump and the drama that some ppl interpret. I think a little lighthearted snark as people say really helps difuse the tension and obsession of the first tri. I'm just bummed I've actually had to work all week and can't watch this play out live. Can't wait until the 2nd tri to hopefully weed out people who just can't take it. I really think yes everyone interprets things differently and perceives things in their own reality, but I think that healthy individuals know when they don't belong somewhere because of that vibe. In high school you're not friends with the girls who you thought were mean, you didn't hang with them or talk to them. Same thing with the bump, it's a group. If you perceive it as mean and unhelpful, than find one you do think is helpful, there are others. I think some people go over the line yes, but I think many go there after their called bitches or old mom's and I can't say I blame them. Poke the bear and don't expect anything less than it coming after you. Just like any convo it's gonna go back and forth and I'm sure everyone on here is hoping for the last word.

I find this community helpful and so I will stay and continue to comment. This is my choice. I encourage everyone to make theirs.

jessilee15

Something is wrong with me that I love posts like this. I want popcorn. It's like watching the guy hit the propeller as the titanic goes down. And I'm quietly rooting for the "mean" ones because I agree with their opinions about 99% of the time, and then I don't feel compelled to correct people on the Internet. I try not to be snarky unless I feel like most people will think it's entertaining (I.e NEVER about a loss or threatened loss)

Camille0786

After reading another post it seems like more people need to start having sex again also if you can't take the heat, you can't get out of the kitchen because the bun is already in the oven

abbs112815

Some people are just stuck up and cruel good luck to you!

KnR1115

You are exactly right! Unfortunately there are people on here like Ponto31 who know everything. They have nothing positive to say and judge everyone. It's a shame. This is my first as well and I don't even look at the community anymore on this site. There are definitely more positive people on here than negative. However, not only are the negative ones rude, they have no life so they are always on here looking to attack! How horrible their life must be to be so nasty in such a happy time!
Good luck to you and I wish you a healthy happy pregnancy!!!

Tiff1st

DRAMA!!!!!!!!!! >:/

AnnamariauDoris

Omg. I knew this will be a long post. Bit at some point some ladies just went to the fence and kept jumping back and forth....Whoohoo. I've seen some pretty nasty comments and some actually usefull. I try to search the threads (i have a 4 y old but new to the bump so it took a while to figure it out) to see if anyone else asked that question before so i can go there and not repost. I am new here, but in just 1 week seen 6 different spotting threads, maybe 10 about bloating or showing and i got bored going back 10 pages to find the interesting ones about family issues, announcing partys and methods. I actually like it here but i just can't remember every interesting posts title to search it. Sorry but....some of the girls are just being actually helpfull but maybe like sarcasm a little to much. which sometimes can be funnn.

missemmawoodhouse

KnR1115 said:

You are exactly right! Unfortunately there are people on here like Ponto31 who know everything. They have nothing positive to say and judge everyone. It's a shame. This is my first as well and I don't even look at the community anymore on this site. There are definitely more positive people on here than negative. However, not only are the negative ones rude, they have no life so they are always on here looking to attack! How horrible their life must be to be so nasty in such a happy time!
Good luck to you and I wish you a healthy happy pregnancy!!!

Well, this is a super nice call out. How is this post in anyway kind to Pontot?

mchmadre

This is a fun conversation. Rude people are usually that way because they are not happy when they look in the mirror or other people are always rude to them so they take it out on other people.