I am six weeks and three days pregnant, and it was unexpected. I was not in a very serious relationship, but things happen. When I first told the father he was surprised; needed a few days to take everything in. He did, and our next conversation was very productive and positive.
He then got confused about how they calculate the weeks of pregnancy. I was exactly five weeks when I told him, but according to him "we only saw each other three weeks ago". I broke the weeks down for him and he then said he wasn't going to take any action until we had a paternity test done. So I found a prenatal one (just using blood samples), let him know and it's been radio silence ever since. He lives in a different state, so I rely mostly on my phone to get in touch with him. No takers though. I've given him updates about my health and the progression of the pregnancy so far. Thanks to read receipt, if I send him a message I know he reads it. He has a beautiful family that I wouldn't want this baby to miss out on.
Anyone faced something similar? This has me feeling a bit down.
Re: Daddy drama - anyone have some insight?
I've never experienced something similar so I don't have first hand advice to offer but I just wanted to say that I'm really sorry that your going through this.
I think it's great that you're sending him updates and keeping him informed despite the radio silence. Perhaps this could be beneficial to you later if you ever have to prove that you've done your best to keep the lines of communication open.
Stay strong and maybe reach out to family and friends to build or improve your support system. I'd also check out the single parents board. Maybe someone there can give you much better advice.
Maybe they would be happy to welcome a new baby and give him the encouragement he needs.
No matter what happens just know it's not your responsibility to make the father be there.
Have you asked him to come to any major appointments? Maybe ask if he wants to come to find out if it's a boy or girl. Or to talk to the doctors about the conception date? That might help
Also, honey his radio silence probably means that he doesnt want a part in this baby's life. There is a good chance that you stalking his "beautiful family" and forcing yourself into his life will only make things worse. Continue to send him updates, but dont be surprised if he doesn't respond. He may not be ready for this commitment or maybe he is afraid to lose his "beautiful family" over a fling's love child.
As long as your baby has a mother who loves it he/she will be ok even if this guy doesn't want a part in its life. Who knows, maybe you can find a man who wants a good relationship who is willing to be a father to your child down the road.
Please look into hiring a lawyer if you haven't already.