When should you start to worry?

missmarissa711

Okay ladies, I know that I might sound a little overboard with this but as a FTM, this is all new to me and I have to reach out. Last week was week 20 for me, and I was feeling the baby so much. I posted about it, and how I felt him on the outside too. He was moving around mostly in the morning and after dinner time. Now for the past 4 days I noticed I have not been feeling him at all. Am I reading too much into this? When do you call your doctor about something like this? Is it still to early to panic about not feeling him everyday? I am reading online that most women do not feel regular everyday movement until 24-27 weeks. Hoping for some feedback.

ChristyM87

Your baby might just have repositioned and be in a way so that you can't feel as easily. If you are not having an severe belly pain or cramping or bleeding I wouldn't worry. You shouldn't be expecting to feel regular movements at this point yet

Lindsaybhanks

I went through this a few days ago. I was feeling him every day and then one day nothing. I went 2 full days without feeling him. I have a doppler so I used that to calm my nerves and was able to pick up a faint heartbeat (it was 138 just very quiet). I went ahead and called a nurse and told them what was going on, she said it sounded like everything was fine and at 20 weeks the baby is still small and could have moved positions. I've been able to feel him again since yesterday! I'm convinced he was turned around or just being lazy!

Bottom line: baby is still pretty small, so you shouldn't worry about not feeling them everyday until about 24 weeks (from what I was told). That being said, if you're worried, it never hurts to call your OB and get checked out just to make sure and to help put your mind at ease!

KMBC2552

It is still pretty early to feel the baby on a regular basis. 

missmarissa711

Thanks ladies. Its like, in the back of my mind I know this. But then there is always that little part of me that worries so much.

Lindsaybhanks

I've heard the worrying never really goes away! So welcome to Motherhood! I'm a FTM too, and as someone who likes to be in control of situations, I'm also a worrier! I just have to remind myself that some things are out of my control, and when I get overwhelmed with worry, I pray. Of course that's not for everyone, but it is something that works for me. GL!!

missmarissa711

The amount of love and worry I feel for this baby is overwhelming. I never, ever, knew it was this poweful. I guess I better get used to it. Your right. I need to let go and understand I do not have control. It's just so scary sometimes.

roxxy84

Had the same last week but my OB told me not to worry until week 24. BUT she also told me a million times that I have to call her when I am worrying because my stress isnt good for the baby either.

CaliforniaDream87

Lindsaybhanks said:

Bottom line: baby is still pretty small, so you shouldn't worry about not feeling them everyday until about 24 weeks (from what I was told). That being said, if you're worried, it never hurts to call your OB and get checked out just to make sure and to help put your mind at ease!

This.

Lindsaybhanks

@Marissalynn0620 it's funny you talk about the overwhelming love because I just posted this to my FB page yesterday. I feel the exact same way- it's a totally overwhelming love!

alyciamrs

Just read today that babies sleep 12-14 hours a day and It's usually during the day bc they are lulled to sleep by mommy's movement.

missmarissa711

I appreciate all the reassurance ladies. I am always jumping to conclusions. One of my many character defects. My SO is the level headed one out of the two of us and thank god I have him or I would be a wreck. Still waiting for my little guy to move, but I promise no more worry posts for now!

lelesmom

Around 28 weeks is when I was told to start "counting kicks" when I was 29 weeks I went into L&D bc I hadn't felt baby for over 24 hours... Turns out she went to the back of my uterus to where even when she was kicking and punching I couldn't feel!!! Try to relax, drink some OJ, lie down and give him/her time

kelseyrayay

For me my munchkin is extremely active and he moves all the time at the same time I'm measuring about 2 weeks above my actual due date even tho they are keeping it the same. So that's probably why I felt movements at 17 weeks when I was actually 19! Babies sleep a lot and my obgyn told me they tend to be more active at night. Maybe he is moving while you are sleeping and you just don't know it