Thinking about trying IVF again, how did you know it was time? — The Bump
Success after IF

Thinking about trying IVF again, how did you know it was time?

edited March 2015 in Success after IF
Intro...  My husband and I started trying to conceive on my 26th birthday.  We tried for almost a year and then got the news that my husband had MFI.  We were young and broke since we had just bought a home and started our own business (commission only) so we had to save up for the IVF ($25k total for the 3 cycle package our clinic offered).  We worked our buns off, made the money and after two rounds we finally got our positive pregnancy test 4 years after we first started trying!  Best 29th birthday gift ever!

Our son was born in November and he is everything we were hoping for and more!  Before I ever knew we would fight with infertility, I wanted 3-4 children but that obviously changed.  I'm thrilled that we have one child, and I'm so thankful that we were able to conceive and that we have a happy healthy child.  I just keep coming back to the idea of giving him a sibling...  My son just turned 4 months old, I know it's really early to start thinking about this again but I can't shake it.  I'm turning 30 next week, and I know I have some time but I also know it gets harder every year that goes by.  
Did any of you ladies try to go for #2 quickly after #1?  I'm thinking about trying again about the time that my son turns 1, which means I would be done breastfeeding and I think my body would be ready.  I really don't know though, I haven't called the clinic yet to find out what their suggestion would be on minimum amount of time in between.  The cost won't be as hard this time, but I am not looking forward to all the pain of the injections and the hope/possible disappointment.  I was just hoping to hear what your experiences have been like.  Thanks for the support!
TTC since April 2010 - Me: 26, Hypothyroidism, no other issues - DH: 28, Severe MFI - IVF w/ ICSI in our future, trying to come up with the $20,000 first - OOP sucks :-P - * SAIF Always Welcome * Anniversary

Re: Thinking about trying IVF again, how did you know it was time?

  • Welcome and congrats on your DS!

    We cycled back in February and I'm currently 7w. DD is just over two. J will still be two when this baby arrives. How did I know it was time?I'm 36 and the window is closing for me. We are unexplained, so we kept trying and hoping for the best.  We kept waiting to cycle again for a few reasons, first was just hoping it would happen (wishful thinking) and second because J is an avid breastfeeder. Weaning was horrible and it lasted all of 10 days until after the ER.

    We decided that if this cycle didn't work out, we would be happy with one. Good luck with your decision!

    TTC Since 3/2010
    Me-36, Unexplained Infertility, DH-35, all clear
    Clomid 50mg 12/2011 = BFN
    Clomid 100mg 1/2012 = BFN, with Cyst
    IVF #1 Lupron/Menopur/Gonal-f/HCG Trigger
    ER 4/19/12 = 11 retrieved, 6 fertilized,
    ET 4/22/12 = 2 transfered (day 3), remaining 3 weren't good enough to freeze
    Beta 5/3 = BFP, 87 Beta #2 5/7 560.9 Beta #3 5/9 1376.5 First u/s One Baby, 125bpm!
    Second u/s, 176bmp! Kicked over to the OB by the RE at 8w. Team Green!! 
    Baby girl J arrived two weeks early! Born into water, med-free. Hooray for Team Pink!

    TTC #2 - back to the RE, treatment started 12/2014. 

    image
  • CarrieB.CarrieB. member
    edited March 2015
    We had one frostie left from our original fresh cycle. I cycled when DD1 was 22 months. I BF her for 14 mos and then had a little time off. The kids are 2 1/2 years a part. I would not have wanted to space them any closer and if I hadn't been trying to get pg with the second before I turned 35, I probably would have spaced them further apart. Having a toddler and a newborn is really hard.
    IVF, acupuncture, meditation and a miracle. 

    image

     Our sweet Valentine's Day FET.

    image

  • Loading the player...
  • I'm following because I'm in the same boat. I'd love to give ds a sibling but it took us soooo long to even get him. I'm getting up there in age too so I don't have the luxury of waiting a couple of years. Ideally, I'd just like to enjoy ds for a while but I feel like the clock is ticking. 

    Me & DH (33), 3 Furbabies, TTC since October 2011
    Day 3 #’s (Dec 2012) FSH 9, AMH .77, LH 2.4, E2 31, AFC 9 

    DX: Me-DOR + No Tubes, DH-Fine

    Ectopic 2007; lost tube/2nd tube removed Dec 2011 (hydro)

    April 2012=IVF#1- EPP Antag+ICSI, 2R,0F (BFN), Now dx’d with DOR.

    June-July 2012=IVF#2- MDL+ICSI&AH, 8R,4M,3F (BFP 9dp3dt) Beta#1 at 11dp3dt=36, Beta#2 at 15dp3dt=156, Beta#3 at 19dp3dt=671, dx'd with SCH, no growth-m/c at 7wks/Lap Dec 2012 to remove small fibroid.

    Feb 2013=IVF#3-MDL, 2/1=baseline, started 10 units mdl, AFC-7, 2/3 start gonal f, self cxld cycle b/c of low e2.

    April 2013=IVF#3.5-(with new RE)AG/ANT Conv + ICSI. 4/10-4/23 bcp's, 4/20-4/27 lupron, 4/28-ganirelix until end of stimming, 5/2-600 gonal f, 5/4-add 1/2 vial menopur, 5/13-ER (9R,1M,1F), 5/17-ET, 1 beautiful 8 cell (please be my sticky baby!!!!) 5/28-BFFN.

    Oct 2013=IVF#4-LLP+ICSI &AH, 10/14 (6R, 2M, 2F), 10/17-ET, 1 seven cell & a six cell, BFP at 9dp3dt, 1st beta=56, 2nd beta=52, CP.

    Jan 2014=IVF #5-LLP, Cxld after 6 days of stims due to fast response and lead follicle. 

    March 2014=IVF 5.5-LLP, Lupron 3/10, BL 3/18, 11 days of stims, Trigger 3/29, ER 3/31. 7R, 2M, 2F. ET 4/3. Txfd one 5 cell & one 9 cell. BFP on hpt from 7dp3dt & on. Praise be to God. Beta #1 at 11dp3dt=106, #2 at 13dp3dt=239. First u/s 4/28, measuring on track & heartbeat seen. 5/5-2nd u/s, measuring on track with strong heartbeat. 5/12- 3rd u/s & released from RE. Grow baby grow, we love you! Baby G&T is a BOY! Born 12/2014 via c/s! 8lbs, 8oz & 21 inches.


     *******Ticker Warning**********

     


    Lilypie First Birthday tickers

     


    "God's Delay is not God's Denial"
  • mnj05mnj05 member
    We had to do IVF all over again the second time since we didn't have any embryos freeze the first time. We had to save but are able to so quickly with DH's side work. We wanted our kids 2-3 years apart, assuming we could give H a sibling. We started saving just after H turned one and did our IVF in August, FET in October. I'm due July 3 which means my boys will be 2 years, 4 months apart.

    I just turned 29 so age hasn't been a huge factor for me. We are still deciding on a third baby and of course won't make that decision for a couple of years, but we know we will want to transfer one of our frosties when this second one is two or shortly after. For us, the decision was made based on how close in age we wanted our kids. We knew it wasn't a given but we made reasonable time limits so to speak.

     imagePhotobucket

    TTC #1 since 3/2011
    DX: anovulatory and severe MFI
    DH is a testicular cancer survivor
    IVF#1 w/ICSI lupron, gonal f, ovidrel
    ER 6/15/12 6R 6M 6F! ET 6/20/12
    Beta #1: 154 Beta #2: 509 Beta #3: 7326
    Baby Boy born 3/1/2013
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

    TTC#2: 6/2014 all testing came back normal

    IVF#2 (#1 for LO#2) 9/2014 - 17R 10M 10F 4 blasts frozen on day 6.

    FET #1 10/15/14 - Beta #1: 216  Beta #2: 823


    Baby Boy born 7/10/2015


  • Welcome and congrats on your son! I just had a son in September. I am in the same boat about already thinking about a second, and we just made an appointment for an IVF consult for June 10 to get the process started for #2. I am hoping to cycle in August or September when my son would be about a year old. I have always wanted 2 and would like them close together.
    ~~ All Welcome~~
    ME: 32, SER aggregates on eggs, anovulatory
    DH:  33, 2% morphology
    TTC #1 
    2 clomid cycles, 3 hybrid clomid/bravelle IUI's = 4 BFN/1 [email protected] 5.5 weeks
    IUI #6 -Follitism IUI cycle converted to IVF and back to IUI-4 mature, 3 maybe mature = BFP!!   DS Born 9/2014
    TTC#2 
    IVF #1 9/15 Antagonist- 19 R 1F (Frozen day 1 @ 2PN stage) Diagnosed with SER aggregates in 13/19 eggs after failed fertilization
    IVF #2 11/15 Antagonist w/ICSI  (Higher stims & Letrosole added last minute on stim day 7)- 39R, 24M (20/24 SER free), 15F (14/15 SER free & all frozen @ 2PN stage) 
    FET#1 Cultured all 16- 2pn embryos to day 5- transferred 1 good hatching blast and 1 early blast on 1/28- None to freeze - beta 2/5

  • You are still young, your eggs are probably good (did you get a decent amount of eggs and fert rates?). I wouldn't feel too rushed. My clinic makes you wait a full 3 months after weaning to cycle again. Just remember, there is a decent chance of twins with IVF...you could end up with 3 kids under 2 years old! I think I would wait until the baby is 12-18 months old. I got my positive test finally around my 32nd birthday and our diagnosis was abnormal sperm morphology as well.

    Wedding Fall 2007 Off OCP's since 9/08-started with BBT charts Saw Ob/gyn May 2009 Blood work normal except single copy of MTHFR Clomid 50mg May 2009 Clomid 50mg + IUI June 2009 Femara 5mg + IUI July 2009 Normal HSG July 2009 Femara 5mg + ovidrel+IUI August 2009 Femara 5mg +ovidrel + IUI September 2009 November 2009-normal lap December 2009-met with RE December/January-Injectible med cycle with IUI-Abnormal sperm morpology found-only 0-1% normal All Head defects. Jan/Feb 2010 1st IVF with ICSI-5 week chemical pregnancy :( Feb 2010-male infertility doc says DH's anatomy and blood work are normal so nothing he can do. :( FET July 2010-BFP! Twin m/c @ 5.5 wks :( Dec/Jan 2011 IVF #2 Only 4 eggs retrieved-Ganirelix dose messed up BFFN Feb/March 2011 IVF #3 ER 3/9 9 eggs, 7 fertilized, ET 3/14, No frosties. BFN IVF #4 ER 8/22 9R,7F ET 8/25-3 embies, 1 frostie! Beta 9/2= 54, 9/6=274, 9/8=625, 9/12=2953, 9/16 greater than 10,000. B/G TWINS born April 2012 @ 36wks & 1 day! July 2014-going back for the frozen embryo! ET 7/28, heartbeat seen at 6wks1day with SCH. Miscarriage confirmed at 6wks4days





  • How did I know when I was ready?  When I was getting more sleep! ;) 


    I would have wanted my kids 3+ years apart, but also was concerned about the time for TTC#2 (and my age).  Although I was EBF, AF arrived 5mos pp and we was NTNP from then on (BFN as mostly expected).  When DD was 16 mos she stopped BFing and we had our FET consult; FET was when DD was 19 mos old.  I expected we'd have to do a few cycles (since TTC#1 was 7 yrs, 100+ cycles), but are "luck changed" and DS was born (when DD was 2yrs 4mos).


    FX for you!!!

    Unexplained IF/RPL

    TTC#1 2003 BFNs, 2004-2009 imageimageimageimageimage 5 angels above

    2010 IVF-PGS-FET#1, DD b. Aug-2011 image

    TTC#2 2012 BFNs, 2013 FET#2, DS b. Nov-2013 image

    TTC#3 2015 BFNs, FET#3 image (my 6th and last angel above)

    Journey Complete.

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker

    FatPony
  • I didn't do IVF but we went back to the RE to do IUI when my first child was 8.5 months old. We had to wait until At least 6 months post partum and 30 days post weaning. I love having my kids 17 months apart.
    I really think a lot depends on the temperament of your first child. If I had had DS first then my Kids wouldn't be so close together. He was a high maintenance baby and didn't STTN until He was 11 months.


    TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!!  Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui) 
    #1 born December 2011
    TTC#2 - Beta #1 [email protected] Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo
    #2 born May 2013
    TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
    #3 born August 2015 
    #4!!!!!!! due June 2017 
  • Thank you so much for the replies ladies! I am new to all of this and was expecting to get an email or something notifying me that I had a comment but never got anything so I checked back today and saw all of this so I really appreciate it! Your thoughts on timeframe of weaning (DS is 5 moths and still BFing) and how much time it can take to work, plus the thoughts of twins, getting sleep at night, really everything is good to think about.

    Thank you, it's amazing talking to you ladies vs all my Mommy friends who didn't have IF problems, you ladies know that we can't just hope for the best. We have to work for it and think things through, consider worst case scenario, etc. Having "friends" to talk to who know what this is all about is so helpful and encouraging.

    I really hope we can do this again, and I really hope it works again but regardless I'm SO thankful for my DS! I know you all know what that feels like! We worked our asses off, went through hell and back and we got what we were hoping for, thank goodness!!!
    TTC since April 2010 - Me: 26, Hypothyroidism, no other issues - DH: 28, Severe MFI - IVF w/ ICSI in our future, trying to come up with the $20,000 first - OOP sucks :-P - * SAIF Always Welcome * Anniversary
    auntjessy
  • edited May 2015
    Meanwhile, I just looked at my siggy, it's a little outdated since I'm 30 now haha! Anyone know how I can update it? I forget!
    TTC since April 2010 - Me: 26, Hypothyroidism, no other issues - DH: 28, Severe MFI - IVF w/ ICSI in our future, trying to come up with the $20,000 first - OOP sucks :-P - * SAIF Always Welcome * Anniversary
  • Congrats!

    My husband and I knew within weeks of holding our little one that we wanted to try again. We were lucky and had success after one cycle (male factor infertility) and ended up with an additional six embryos to be frozen.

    Our daughter was ten weeks old when we headed back to the fertility specialist. I had already had my first period and my breasts had already stopped producing (baby never latched and pumping was not effective to stimulate production) so the doctor felt it was good to move forward. I will begin hormones after a saline ultrasound and my next period. If all goes according to plan, baby will be four months when the new embryo is transferred.
    auntjessy
  • Congrats! My twins are 15 months and I'm scheduled for an FET Aug 7th. Do what feels right for you and your family. Having gone through newborn twins, having one while another one is a year old or more seems like a breeze. ;)
    m/c my Angel Baby in 2000
    IUIs with clomid from 2009-2011   Feb 2011 - Tubal surgery (repair)  Jan 2012 - Tubal surgery (remove)  
    8/13 IVF#1.  Lupron/Follistim protocol - b/g twins born April 1 at 34 +1.  Luckiest woman in the world.
    8/15 FET #1 - transferred 1 thawed embryo - Pregnant with Baby C, it's a girl!  Due April 2016. Pregnancy Ticker  

     Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD.  Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans for hope and a future"   Jer 29:11
    "All things work together for good to them that love God, who are the called according to His purpose"  Rom 8:28
    "I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of salvation unto all who believe"  Rom 1:16
  • PS - the chance of twins is *mostly* how many embryos you put back. We put in two, got two. Transferring one at a time this time. ;)
    m/c my Angel Baby in 2000
    IUIs with clomid from 2009-2011   Feb 2011 - Tubal surgery (repair)  Jan 2012 - Tubal surgery (remove)  
    8/13 IVF#1.  Lupron/Follistim protocol - b/g twins born April 1 at 34 +1.  Luckiest woman in the world.
    8/15 FET #1 - transferred 1 thawed embryo - Pregnant with Baby C, it's a girl!  Due April 2016. Pregnancy Ticker  

     Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    "For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD.  Plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans for hope and a future"   Jer 29:11
    "All things work together for good to them that love God, who are the called according to His purpose"  Rom 8:28
    "I am not ashamed of the gospel of Christ, for it is the power of salvation unto all who believe"  Rom 1:16
Sign In or Register to comment.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards