My MIL has terminal cancer. She's quite well at the moment but gradually getting worse, she lives alone and doing things like her dishes has become challenging.
She lives about 5 minutes from us, and our girls, 3 and 5 yrs, see her regularly, although I wouldn't say they are close to her.
We don't know what time-frame we're looking at, but obviously the end will come, and I'm starting to wonder how best to talk to the girls about it. They know about death, and that it means never seeing the person again, and we're Catholic so there's also the religious element.
So I'm not really too worried about talking about death itself, as much as how soon is too soon to let them know that Granny is dying, and how much we should let them see of her when she's very close to death and things perhaps get unpleasant. DH doesn't want her to live with us when she needs more care specifically because his Grandfather lived with them when he was dying, and he doesn't want the girls seeing that kind of thing up close day in and day out.
Has anyone gone through this and have thoughts on ways to approach it?