***FFFC-Confession Time! 3/27

MrsWiggleWaggle

time to spill. Something piss you off? Feeling guilty? Having a gross moment?

Mine: spent A whole day in my underwear and pajamas. Did NOTHING except eat... "

virginiaunicorn11

I squeezed my boobs a few weeks ago when I noticed they were leaking.  Now they are not leaking, and I can't get anything if I squeeze.  I am terrified I won't be able to breastfeed.  And I am also too embarrassed to tell DH or ask my doctor (since DH goes to my appointments).  It is the one thing I haven't shared with him in this pregnancy.  (Now my face is super red.)

FloGirl82

I've had deli meat sandwiches and full-caff Starbucks lattes multiple times this week, and I don't care. It was delicious and it's been a hectic week for me. 

Frogger5

amark11 said:

I squeezed my boobs a few weeks ago when I noticed they were leaking.  Now they are not leaking, and I can't get anything if I squeeze.  I am terrified I won't be able to breastfeed.  And I am also too embarrassed to tell DH or ask my doctor (since DH goes to my appointments).  It is the one thing I haven't shared with him in this pregnancy.  (Now my face is super red.)

I'm not a doctor but I'm SURE you squeezing them has nothing to do with the fact that they aren't producing anything at the moment. My boobs started leaking a long time ago (16 weeks?) and it has come and gone since. It's probably just a cycle. Maybe check kellymom.com or somewhere like that to see if they have some more info.

My confession . . . Hmm, I have several. I took off work Wednesday without leave for 4 hours, and yesterday for my GD screen and Dr appointment. It wasn't until 3:30 but I left at 12:45. I just have limited patience for being at work these days! Thank goodness it's Friday!

lovethatcolosun

I keep having the weirdest dreams. Two nights ago it was my own version of Sharknado (which I've never seen the original...I promise), now they have turned sexual. I just wonder what the hell my subconscious is up to. Thank God no one else has access to it's files.

KaLikeAWind

My sister bought us a pack n play that I have had sitting in the box it came in for... A while. Probably a month. I only took it out and assembled it yesterday (that's my first confession, as I feel I should've done it when I got it) because she txted me and asked me if it came with a sheet (that's my second confession, as if she hadn't asked me that, it would probably still be in the box). In my defense - I don't really have anywhere to put it, as the baby's room still has a bunch of other stuff in it, so a random pack n play all set up in there is pointless. Its currently now folded down and propped in the corner. At least I know it's not defective.

3rd confession - I have the stroller in the same situation. 2 weeks since delivery, and I haven't even opened the box yet. :-$

karaelaine1991

amark11 said:

I squeezed my boobs a few weeks ago when I noticed they were leaking.  Now they are not leaking, and I can't get anything if I squeeze.  I am terrified I won't be able to breastfeed.  And I am also too embarrassed to tell DH or ask my doctor (since DH goes to my appointments).  It is the one thing I haven't shared with him in this pregnancy.  (Now my face is super red.)

Yeah, I agree with @Frogger5, it's probably not because you squeezed. Ever since mine started leaking way back when I've been squeezing them a lot (I've heard you're not supposed to but it's like when you tell kids not to pick at scabs for me!). I'm now actually producing MORE. Not saying it's because I squeezed or that that's necessarily a good thing (because I honestly have no clue either way), but that squeezing doesn't necessarily mean a decrease in production. And I have also noticed it's cyclical, sometimes I produce more than others.

And that is officially my most embarrassing/awkward FFFC so far.

finchfeeder80

I have just eaten about half a bag of those Whopper Robin Eggs. It's only 10:30am. 

karaelaine1991

finchfeeder80 said:

I have just eaten about half a bag of those Whopper Robin Eggs. It's only 10:30am. 

I FORGOT ABOUT THOSE... I think I may need to take a trip to the grocery store.

laurendutch

amark11 said:

I squeezed my boobs a few weeks ago when I noticed they were leaking.  Now they are not leaking, and I can't get anything if I squeeze.  I am terrified I won't be able to breastfeed.  And I am also too embarrassed to tell DH or ask my doctor (since DH goes to my appointments).  It is the one thing I haven't shared with him in this pregnancy.  (Now my face is super red.)

I haven't leaked at all (but now that I said that I probably will be...and at Home Depot no doubt).

I didn't leak with my first pregnancy and I was able to get enough milk for 1.5 kids...not quite for two. So, I don't think leakage has anything to do with being able to breast feed. But you can ask the breastfeeding board...they might know.

virginiaunicorn11

karaelaine1991 said:

amark11 said:

Ever since mine started leaking way back when I've been squeezing them a lot (I've heard you're not supposed to but it's like when you tell kids not to pick at scabs for me!). 

Right! I maybe squeezed more than I originally confessed. And I read somewhere that your body "only produces so much" which is why you shouldn't squeeze.  (I don't even know if that is true.  And rather than putting my Big Girl pants on and reading a book, I am hiding my head in the sand over broader fears about having trouble with BFing.) 

laurendutch said:

But you can ask the breastfeeding board...they might know.

Brilliant, thank you. I need to start reading that board in general, I am realizing. 

Thanks so much for your flame-free responses, ladies! 

laurendutch

I've just started to read some books to help prepare, one thing I hate is how breastfeeding is do or die. How you need to have this perfect birth if your child is going to breastfeed. It can be a little frustrating especially bc I will be having a RCS and be separated from baby for this first hour.

ElRuby

laurendutch said:

I've just started to read some books to help prepare, one thing I hate is how breastfeeding is do or die. How you need to have this perfect birth if your child is going to breastfeed. It can be a little frustrating especially bc I will be having a RCS and be separated from baby for this first hour.

When DS was born the on call Peds doctor tried to guilt me into giving formula immediately... I think it was important for him to note that baby ate so he could move on with his rounds (I know pessimistic view but....) ... The lactation people in the birthing prep class did warn about this and encouraged me to be assertive with my desire to nurse.... So it was probably about an hour before he fed.... And it took a long time to get then hang of it and he was perfectly healthy and happy (very sleepy! and not overly interested in food) .... You should be just fine! Connect with a lactation person in the hospital they can really guide and support you!

KaLikeAWind

laurendutch said:

amark11 said:

I squeezed my boobs a few weeks ago when I noticed they were leaking.  Now they are not leaking, and I can't get anything if I squeeze.  I am terrified I won't be able to breastfeed.  And I am also too embarrassed to tell DH or ask my doctor (since DH goes to my appointments).  It is the one thing I haven't shared with him in this pregnancy.  (Now my face is super red.)

I haven't leaked at all (but now that I said that I probably will be...and at Home Depot no doubt).

I didn't leak with my first pregnancy and I was able to get enough milk for 1.5 kids...not quite for two. So, I don't think leakage has anything to do with being able to breast feed. But you can ask the breastfeeding board...they might know.

I also haven't leaked at all. Or if I did, it was so minimal that I didn't know it. I've been keeping quiet about it, tho, cause I thought I was broken or something. Tho I did have a dream about bfing my baby last night and in my dream I was way proud of the amount that came out. Hopefully that's a good sign, lol. (Side note - also the first dream with an actual child in it. All the ones before and related to pregnancy have just been me preggers)

AmyCee

I had a huge fallout with my inlaws - HUGE - and I'm thinking of blocking them on Facebook so they can't see updates on DS or the new one when he comes...I'm also not letting my husband pay for their tickets to come over and meet the baby. I'm debating not allowing them to sleep in our home, but we are closing on a 5 bedroom home on Tuesday, and that will be tough to justify...

karaelaine1991

AmyCee said:

I had a huge fallout with my inlaws - HUGE - and I'm thinking of blocking them on Facebook so they can't see updates on DS or the new one when he comes...I'm also not letting my husband pay for their tickets to come over and meet the baby. I'm debating not allowing them to sleep in our home, but we are closing on a 5 bedroom home on Tuesday, and that will be tough to justify...

Sneaky alternative that might not blow up on your face like blocking them could if they find out: you can alter your privacy settings on albums and statuses so that certain people can't see them. You're still friends with them so feelings don't get hurt, but you can set it so they won't ever see any of your updates, even if they visit your page. I have done this with a woman who goes to my parents' church who used to seriously stalk my Facebook page and post completely random comments on EVERYTHING that I posted. I didn't want to block her because I didn't want to hurt her feelings or create an awkward situation for my parents (she's absolutely the kind of person who would confront them about it) and this strategy of hiding posts from her worked for me!

klkonwi

I unfriended my sister in law. (DH brothers wife) and I feel absolutely no guilt

KaLikeAWind

I un-friended every single one of DHs family and feel no guilt or regrets. Mostly cause my MIL would always criticize me and my life choices, and then bully the rest of the family into joining in (and bless DH's heart for having my back *every single time*). Now she's going to miss out on grandbaby updates, and there's no one but herself to blame.

APago

klkonwi said:

I unfriended my sister in law. (DH brothers wife) and I feel absolutely no guilt

Ugh! Wish I had the guts to do that! My DHs brothers wife drives me nuts and is so jealous about us having our first because she feels it'll take away from the attention her kids get!

mccall35

laurendutch said:

I've just started to read some books to help prepare, one thing I hate is how breastfeeding is do or die. How you need to have this perfect birth if your child is going to breastfeed. It can be a little frustrating especially bc I will be having a RCS and be separated from baby for this first hour.

I ended up with an unplanned csection with DS and wasn't able to bf for the first hour. I produced like a champ and BF him for 21 months. Don't let those books scare you, your body will do what it will do!

Serenamarr

I ate basically a whole pie between yesterday and today. Was eating slices at first then today just sat down with pretty much half a pie and went to town.

dancegurl1118

I farted in a patient's room yesterday night. I literally have no control over it anymore and it's terrifying. Thankfully it wasn't a deadly one but...wasn't roses either :-\"

HoosOnFirst

mellymar said:

laurendutch said:

amark11 said:

I squeezed my boobs a few weeks ago when I noticed they were leaking.  Now they are not leaking, and I can't get anything if I squeeze.  I am terrified I won't be able to breastfeed.  And I am also too embarrassed to tell DH or ask my doctor (since DH goes to my appointments).  It is the one thing I haven't shared with him in this pregnancy.  (Now my face is super red.)

I haven't leaked at all (but now that I said that I probably will be...and at Home Depot no doubt).

I didn't leak with my first pregnancy and I was able to get enough milk for 1.5 kids...not quite for two. So, I don't think leakage has anything to do with being able to breast feed. But you can ask the breastfeeding board...they might know.

I also haven't leaked at all. Or if I did, it was so minimal that I didn't know it. I've been keeping quiet about it, tho, cause I thought I was broken or something. Tho I did have a dream about bfing my baby last night and in my dream I was way proud of the amount that came out. Hopefully that's a good sign, lol. (Side note - also the first dream with an actual child in it. All the ones before and related to pregnancy have just been me preggers)

I'm relieved to hear someone else isn't leaking yet either! I swear everyone on here is I'm seeing my doc on Tuesday and am going to ask to quell my fears!

aj1327

I'm not leaking yet either!

klkonwi

Oh my gosh I just can't deal with these stupid uneducated medical posts. I mean I can handle some pretty mild things but oh my gosh tonight they are beyond ridiculous.

HoosOnFirst

klkonwi said:

Oh my gosh I just can't deal with these stupid uneducated medical posts. I mean I can handle some pretty mild things but oh my gosh tonight they are beyond ridiculous.

Yeah and apparently if we suggest "call your doc" we are meanies!

rrcameron21

I'm so sick of people telling me what I can and can't do because I'm pregnant. I've been really mean to people about it. I feel bad. But at the same time, I'm not disabled. Leave me alone.

klkonwi

@rrcameron21 yes. People tell me to "take it easy" at my job. Oh sure...... You just tell this 200-300 some lb lady to reposition herself with a complete dead leg epidural on board..... Rrrright. I'll just take it easy. It's not an option for most of us !!!

rrcameron21

@klkonwi This girl at work today told me she knows two women who lost babies from lifting too much weight. I feel like she was just trying to guilt trip me. I was carrying maybe 10 pounds!!

klkonwi

Hmmm coincidence she knows two people..... I highly doubt that..... I know it can be dangerous but....

devyns2nd

@klkonwi I feel ya. I've only been on a few times this week and I just don't even click on some unless it's the symptom board or something I know is a regular.

I'm personally wishing we had a this-n-that thread or something because the baby item threads are over running the board lately.

My FFFC is I can't stand my FIL he is so loved in our small town. Hes a preacher and what not but man he is too much sometimes. He announced in church that I "came along" and now my husband isn't naming his son from the bible. I picked ELISHA and DH picked CASH!! We haven't even announced the first name (my name from the bible) just the middle name. now I'm side eyed at the store and DH hasn't Said anything. Ugh I'm the bad guy for being mad at the preacher but I don't care. He's rude!

KaLikeAWind

klkonwi said:

Oh my gosh I just can't deal with these stupid uneducated medical posts. I mean I can handle some pretty mild things but oh my gosh tonight they are beyond ridiculous.

I just got back from work. I'm running my way down the threads now. This bodes ill.

Maybe we should rotate between us being the 'mean' person? Every day a different person can just go super 'flame on' to all the stupid things?

ETA - I don't mean the normal being called meanies for normal tone referrals to drs. I mean someone gets to go full on antagonist on this. (I'm mostly joking about this whole appointed meanie thing. Mostly)

virginiaunicorn11

My UO was that the weight thread didn't have to be body bashing if you didn't let it be. I know that is truly an UO among many of you, and I'm sorry if my actions on there only brought you negativity.

However, I agree now: The Ugly thread is nothing but negative. Whoever said How can other people respect you if you don't respect yourself, hit the nail on the head. If your sense of self worth is so wrapped up in your appearance, it is my inclination to believe what you're telling me - you are offering your body as your indication of self-worth (something I do not respect), and even you believe that indicator is substandard.

AmyCee

rrcameron21 said:

I'm so sick of people telling me what I can and can't do because I'm pregnant. I've been really mean to people about it. I feel bad. But at the same time, I'm not disabled. Leave me alone.

I'm struggling this pregnancy and try to take it easy. Then DH comes and needs help as does my mom and so I try and end up crampy and uncomfortable- then they both say, you need to be taking it easy. Um, I'm trying people!!!!!

ElRuby

mellymar said:

klkonwi said:

Oh my gosh I just can't deal with these stupid uneducated medical posts. I mean I can handle some pretty mild things but oh my gosh tonight they are beyond ridiculous.

I just got back from work. I'm running my way down the threads now. This bodes ill.

Maybe we should rotate between us being the 'mean' person? Every day a different person can just go super 'flame on' to all the stupid things?

ETA - I don't mean the normal being called meanies for normal tone referrals to drs. I mean someone gets to go full on antagonist on this. (I'm mostly joking about this whole appointed meanie thing. Mostly)

Are you suggesting cattiness? I believe we may be told our babies are very unlucky to be born to such miserable women

katyertl

My mom left for a vacation in Florida last week and she's gonna be gone for 10 days total while I have to house sit to take care of her dog, feed the horse and house stuff. 10 days is way too long to not be in my own bed or in my own routine. I want to go home! My husband has been at our house all along to take care of our fur babies and he's working 60 hr work weeks anyways it wouldn't make sense to come stay with me since our house is a mile from his work. She comes back Tuesday thank god but still I'm annoyed that she thought it would be completely fine of me to do this for 10 days. My husband reminded me it will be worth it for the free babysitting she's going to do for us. But I'm still hormonal and annoyed. Trying not to be tho

KaLikeAWind

ElRuby said:

mellymar said:

klkonwi said:

Oh my gosh I just can't deal with these stupid uneducated medical posts. I mean I can handle some pretty mild things but oh my gosh tonight they are beyond ridiculous.

I just got back from work. I'm running my way down the threads now. This bodes ill.

Maybe we should rotate between us being the 'mean' person? Every day a different person can just go super 'flame on' to all the stupid things?

ETA - I don't mean the normal being called meanies for normal tone referrals to drs. I mean someone gets to go full on antagonist on this. (I'm mostly joking about this whole appointed meanie thing. Mostly)

Are you suggesting cattiness? I believe we may be told our babies are very unlucky to be born to such miserable women

Sigh.... Not really. But its fun to dream.
8->

esampson1983

Here's my FFC: I had a rough day Thursday so rather than eating my sautéed kale and brown rice for dinner, I totally ate a giant piece of leftover baby shower cake. And by ate, I mean demolished...

Anjelyk2

I was irrationally annoyed at the two posters who added congratulatory comments on the birth announcement board. The instructions are simple and pretty clear ... it even has colours!

MamaBish

Hi ladies, just thought I would chime in on the breast feeding worries. I had not seen much change in my breasts at all and had experienced absolutely no leaking. But after the delivery, they have swollen up like balloons and leak constantly.

I don't think what your breasts do prior to delivery are any indication of how they will be after. Just hoping I calm any fears.

virginiaunicorn11

@MamaBish thank you for the reassuring info. I continue thinking of you every day, and seeing you on this thread and "hearing" your words makes my day. Big hugs